Do something nice: 
Six tips for good deeds that take 
less than five minutes.
“Do good, feel good” 
is one of the great truths of 
happiness — but you may 
be thinking, “Sure, good 
deeds would make me 
happy, but I barely have 
time to get through the 
essentials of my day. 
I don’t have time to do 
any good deeds!”
WRONG. 
Here are some ways that you can help other people— 
and make yourself feel great, at the same time— 
in under five minutes.
1. Be friendly. I’ve decided that 
there are five degrees of social 
interactions with strangers: 
hostile, rude, neutral, polite, and 
friendly. I find it very difficult to 
be downright friendly to 
strangers, but I always find 
myself energized and cheered by 
a friendly interaction. It only 
takes an extra minute to 
exchange a few pleasant words, 
but it makes a real difference.
My sister, who is a TV-writer in Hollywood, once told me, “’Yes’ 
comes right away; ‘No’ never comes.” I’ve found this precept to 
be widely true. In many circumstances, we find it hard to say 
“no” — partly because it will hurt someone’s feelings, partly 
because it closes a possibility that could otherwise remain open. 
But waiting to hear “no” saps people’s energy by keeping them 
hoping for an answer they aren’t going to get. If someone is 
waiting for your “No,” put them out of their misery.
4. Sign up on the national organ-donor registry. This takes 
no time at all, and the consequences could be HUGE! Tell 
your family that you signed up, too. Remember, the one 
minute that someone takes, right now, to sign up on the 
registry might save YOUR life six months from now. 
And vice versa.
It can feel generous, 
friendly, and fun-loving 
to urge people to take 
another piece of cake, 
to drink another glass of 
wine, or to make an 
extra purchase, or to 
urge them to give 
themselves a break by 
skipping the gym, 
skipping class, or 
quitting smoking next 
week instead of today. 
But when you see 
people truly trying to 
resist temptation, 
encourage them to stick 
to their resolutions. 
5. Lead them not into temptation.
6. Do 
someone 
else’s 
chore. 
Don’t you sometimes wish that someone would do one of your little jobs? 
If nothing else, to show an awareness of the fact that you faithfully do it, 
day after day? Emptying the diaper pail or starting the office coffee-pot, 
even though it’s not “your” job, helps people feel appreciated and cared for.
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Learn more tips for a happier life at 
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Do Something Nice: Six Tips for Good Deeds That Take Less Than Five Minutes

  • 1.
    Do something nice: Six tips for good deeds that take less than five minutes.
  • 2.
    “Do good, feelgood” is one of the great truths of happiness — but you may be thinking, “Sure, good deeds would make me happy, but I barely have time to get through the essentials of my day. I don’t have time to do any good deeds!”
  • 3.
    WRONG. Here aresome ways that you can help other people— and make yourself feel great, at the same time— in under five minutes.
  • 4.
    1. Be friendly.I’ve decided that there are five degrees of social interactions with strangers: hostile, rude, neutral, polite, and friendly. I find it very difficult to be downright friendly to strangers, but I always find myself energized and cheered by a friendly interaction. It only takes an extra minute to exchange a few pleasant words, but it makes a real difference.
  • 6.
    My sister, whois a TV-writer in Hollywood, once told me, “’Yes’ comes right away; ‘No’ never comes.” I’ve found this precept to be widely true. In many circumstances, we find it hard to say “no” — partly because it will hurt someone’s feelings, partly because it closes a possibility that could otherwise remain open. But waiting to hear “no” saps people’s energy by keeping them hoping for an answer they aren’t going to get. If someone is waiting for your “No,” put them out of their misery.
  • 7.
    4. Sign upon the national organ-donor registry. This takes no time at all, and the consequences could be HUGE! Tell your family that you signed up, too. Remember, the one minute that someone takes, right now, to sign up on the registry might save YOUR life six months from now. And vice versa.
  • 8.
    It can feelgenerous, friendly, and fun-loving to urge people to take another piece of cake, to drink another glass of wine, or to make an extra purchase, or to urge them to give themselves a break by skipping the gym, skipping class, or quitting smoking next week instead of today. But when you see people truly trying to resist temptation, encourage them to stick to their resolutions. 5. Lead them not into temptation.
  • 9.
    6. Do someone else’s chore. Don’t you sometimes wish that someone would do one of your little jobs? If nothing else, to show an awareness of the fact that you faithfully do it, day after day? Emptying the diaper pail or starting the office coffee-pot, even though it’s not “your” job, helps people feel appreciated and cared for.
  • 10.
    10 Learn moretips for a happier life at GretchenRubin.com