Family harmony

FAMILY
• One or more persons related by
blood, adoption or marriage,
living and cooking together
as a single housekeeping unit,
exclusive of household servants.”
• Oxford English dictionary defines family as
“a group of persons consisting of the parents and
their children, whether actually living together or
not.”

Family as a basic unit of interaction
The family is a natural laboratory and learning
ground
1.To understand the harmony in relationship
with human beings and
2.To practice it in terms of its fulfillment,
evaluation and ensuring mutual happiness
before we extend this to every unit in the
society and then to nature

Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust ( Vishwas ) ---------------> Foundation Value
2- Respect ( Samman )
3- Affection (Sneha )
4- Care (Mamta)
5- Guidance (Vatsalya)
6- Reverence (Shraddha)
7- Glory (Gaurav)
8- Gratitude (Kritagyata)
9- Love (Prem) ------------------> Complete Value
All the feelings are already within you- understanding only
makes you aware and once you are aware of it there is
continuity of these feelings and you are able to fulfill them

1.Trust
Trust or vishwas is the foundational value in
relationship.
to be assured that each human being inherently
wants oneself and the other to be happy and
prosperous, to have this clarity
Absence of Trust
= lack of assurance that the other intends my
happiness
= Doubt, Fear, Opposition

2. Respect
• Respect means individuality.
• The sense of individuality is prime object.
• This is the first basic step towards respect
(sammana).
• Once we realized that we are individual then
only we can see our self different from others.
• In other words, respect means right
evaluation, to be evaluated as I am.

3. Affection
• Affection is the feeling of being related to
the other.
• Affection comes when I recognize that we
both want to make each other happy and both
of us are similar

4. Care
• The feeling of care is the feeling to nurture
and protect the body of our relative.
• Or in other words a state of mind in which one
is troubled; worry, anxiety, or concern is called
care

5. Guidance
• The feeling of ensuring right understanding
and feelings in the other (my relative) is
called guidance.
• We understand the need of self (‘I’) for right
understanding and feelings.

6. Reverence
• The feeling of acceptance of excellence in
the other is called reverence.
• When we see that the other has achieved this
excellence- which means to understand and to
live in harmony at all the levels of living
ensuring continuity of happiness, we have a
feeling of reverence for him/her.

7. Glory
• Glory is the feeling for someone who has
made efforts for excellence.

8. Gratitude:
• Gratitude is the feeling of acceptance for
those who have made efforts for my
excellence.
• Gratitude is an emotion that occurs after
people receive help, depending on how they
interpret the situation.

9. Love
• Love is the emotion of strong affection and
personal attachment.
• In other words, love is a feeling of warm
personal attachment or deep affection, as for
a parent, child, or friend.
• This feeling or value is also called the
complete value since this is the feeling of
relatedness to all human beings.

Harmony in the Family
• Relationship is – between the self (I) and the
other self (I)
• There are feelings, or expectation of feelings,
in relationship – of one self (I) for the other
self (I)
• These feelings can be recognized – they are
definite
• Their fulfilment and evaluation leads to
mutual happiness

Set of proposals to verify Harmony in
the Family:
1. Relationship IS and it exists between the Self (‘I’) and
the other Self (‘I’): In a family, we do not create
relationships.
relationships that are already there
we need to recognize and understand them.
2. The Self (‘I’) has feelings in a relationship. These
feelings are between (‘I’) and (‘I’):
The body is only a means to express our relationship.
For example, in a mother and a child, it is the Self of the
mother and the Self of the child who feel
connected. Their bodies are incapable
of understanding or having feelings.

• 3. These feelings in the (‘I’) are definite.
i.e. they can be identified with
definiteness: The feelings in a relationship
between “I” and “I” such as Trust, Respect,
Affection etc., can be identified with clarity..
• 4. Recognizing and Fulfilling these feelings
lead to Mutual Happiness in a relationship:
Once we recognize the values essential for any
relationship, we start working and behaving
according to these feelings.

About the Other
• The other broke a glass
• The other did not come on
time
• The other makes mistakes
intentionally
• The other is bad
About Myself
• The glass broke by accident
• I tried really hard to reach
on time
• I make mistakes by accident
• I am good

DIFFERENTIATION=DISRESPECT
DIFFERENTIATIO
N
BODY
GENDER
AGE
RACE
PHYSICAL
STRENGTH
PHYSICAL
FACILITY
WEALTH
POST
BELIEF

On the basis of body
(i) Sex/gender: male or female is an attribute of the body, and
not an attribute at the level of ‘I
In many countries, people prefer a male child to a female child
(ii). Race: For example, we differentiate on the basis of skin
colour – white, brown, black etc. or Aryan race, Mongolian race
etc. or on the basis of caste.
(iii). Age: We have notions such as ‘one must respect elders’.
There is no such notion as respect youngsters
(iv) Physical strength: If someone is stronger, we again treat
him/her differently. This is again at the level of the body.
Again here, we don’t do the evaluation on the
basis of ‘I’, but on the basis of the body

On the basis of physical facilities
(i) Wealth: What we term as a “rich person” gets
idolized .
(ii) Post: We try to respect on the basis of a person’s
position. The post is wrongly evaluated as the mark
of a person’s excellence
This way, we are over-evaluating physical
facilities first, which are just meant to fulfil the
needs of the body, and then on this basis, we
are wrongly identifying our relationship.

On the basis of beliefs
(i). ‘Isms’: ‘Ism’ means any belief in terms of a ‘thought-
system’ that we have, or that we have adopted. There are
also many modern ‘isms’ such as capitalism, socialism,
communism,
(ii) Sects: People of one sect only consider those with a
similar belief system to be their ‘own’ and worthy of
respect. Following a particular tradition,
all beliefs, as we have seen are at the level of desires,
thoughts and expectations (selections) in ‘I’. There is no
definiteness at this level, and hence, this becomes a
cause for differentiation.

• Evaluation on the basis of Body, Physical
Facilities or Beliefs (preconditioning) turns out
to be differentiation
• therefore disrespect Differentiation like this
has led to resentments and protests.
• Example: Generation Gap, Black vs White,
Powerful vs Opressed, Rich-Poor, Communism-
Capatilism, Hindu-Muslim

EX.
• Joint family = happy family?
• Small family = happy family?
• Samajhdaar family = happy family

harmony in nature
Ans: The aggregate of all the mutually interacting units – big or
small, sentient or insentient together can be called nature.
These units are infinite in number
and we could easily observe that
there exists a dynamic balance, self
regulation among all these units.
This self regulation is harmony or
balance in nature.
The law of nature has a unique
cause and effect system which must
be understood in order to be in
harmony with the natural law of
things.

harmony in nature (CONT.)
Natural harmony is necessary for the
following reasons:
1. Natural harmony is necessary to solve the
problem of global warming and depletion of
non-renewable natural resource can be
avoided.
2. Natural harmony with trees cure all
problems like – reduction of wind velocity,
energy savings, doing companion planting,
reduction of building heat.
3. It is possible to achieve natural harmony
in the establishment, maintenance and
management of educational institution like
schools, colleges and universities.
4. One can understand the depths of
harmony ,reflecting upon the natural order.

Q. What are the four orders in nature? Describe
their activities and natural characteristics?
Combination of all that is in solid, liquid or gas
state, or the aggregate of all the mutually
interacting units – big or small, sentient or
insentient together can be called nature.
We can categorize all these units into four distinct
orders.
1. Material order (padarthawastha)
2. Pranic order or Plant order (pranawastha)
3. Animal order (jeevawastha)
4. Human order (gyanawastha)

We can see this in the following diagram
Basic Activity
Recognizing, fulfillment
Recognizing, fulfillment
(Recognizing, fulfillment in body
+ (assuming, recognizing,
fulfillment) in ‘I’
Recognizing, fulfillment in body
+ (knowing, assuming,
recognizing, fulfillment) in ‘I’
Order Things Natural Characteristic
Material
order
Soil,
water,
metals,
etc
Composition / decomposition
Pranic
order
Plants
and
trees
Composition / decomposition
+ nurture / worsen
Animal
order
Animal
s and
birds
Composition / decomposition,
nurture / worsen) in body +
(non
cruelty, cruelty) in ‘I’
Human
order
Human
beings
(Composition / decomposition,
nurture / worsen) in body +
(perseverance, bravery,
generosity) in ‘I’

There is a mutual interdependency and co-
existence we can see here.

Relationship between Material-plant-
animal level

What do you mean by ‘innateness’? What
is the innateness in the four orders?
Innateness (dharana):
• Innateness means qualities which are innate
to the unit.
• Each unit in existence exhibits an innateness,
an intrinsic quality that cannot be separated
from it.
• We refer this principle as innateness also
called dharna of that unit. This is intrinsic to
the unit.

What is the svabhava (natural characteristic) of a
unit? Elaborate on the svabhava of a human order.
• When we look at the different orders in nature, we find
that each order has a certain value.
• In a fundamental way, this is the ‘usefulness’ or
‘participation’ of the order in existence. This ‘value’ or
‘participation’ is also referred to as “natural
characteristic”.
• The ‘characteristic’ the order displays in ‘natural to
itself’. This is the same as the value of the entity, or its
participation also called ‘svabhava’.
• Svabhava literally means "own-being" or "own-
becoming". It is the intrinsic nature, essential nature or
essence of beings

Svabhava (natural characteristic)
CONTD.
• Animals, the human body also belongs to the plant/ bio
order and hence has the same svabhava or value/natural
characteristic as the pranic order. It either nurtures or
worsens other pranic units.
• As in the example above, when I digest the vegetable, I
absorb the plant and it worsens, while my body is
nurtured
Human beings are not living as per this natural
characteristic; even though we have a svabhava, we are not
living according to this. This is basic reason for the
contradiction and conflict that we see in human being. This
is what leads to a state of unhappiness

The svabhava/ value of the self (‘I’) in human beings is
perseverance (dhirata), bravery (virata) and generosity
(udarata)
1. Perseverance (dhirata): Being assured that the all
encompassing solution is to understand and live in harmony at
all levels of existence, living with this commitment
2. Bravery (virata): Being assured that the all encompassing
solution is to understand and live in harmony at all levels and I
am ready to help the other to have the right understanding.
3.Generosity (udarata): Being assured that the all
encompassing solution is to understand and live in harmony at
all the four levels and I am ready to invest myself, my body
and wealth to help the other have the right understanding.

Svabhava (natural characteristic) at 4 levels

QUIZZZ
1. Relations created in family by
a. Blood
b. adoption
c. Marriage
d. ALL OF THE ABOVE
2. single housekeeping unit is
a) Self
b) Society
c) Family
d) None of the above

3. ………….is a group of persons consisting of the parents and
their children, whether actually living together or not.”
a) Self
b) Society
c) Family
4. who is not the part of family
a) Children
b) Parents
c) Grand parents
d) Household servant

5. ………..is a natural laboratory and learning ground
a) Self
b) Society
c) Family
6………. as a basic unit of interaction
a) Self
b) Society
c) Family

7. Which is not related to harmony in family
a) Relationship is – between the self (I) and the other self
(I)
b) There are feelings, or expectation of feelings, in
relationship – of one self (I) for the other self (I)
c) Their fulfilment and evaluation leads to mutual
happiness
d) Create harmony with nature
8. Which is not related to the Feelings in relationship
a) Professionalism c) Affection
b) Care d)Respect

9. It is not a basis of differentiation
a) Body
b) Beliefs
c) Equality
d) Physical facilities
10.……………….to be assured that each human being
inherently wants oneself and the other to be
happy
a) Body
b) Trust
c) Dishonesty
d) Physical facilities

11. Absence of Trust not resulted
a) Doubt
b) Fear
c) Harmony
d) Opposition
12. Not an example of body differentiation
a) Wealth
b) Age
c) Race
d) gender

13. ………….is the foundational value in relationship
a) Respect
b) Trust
c) Care
d) Affection
14. …………….means right evaluation, to be evaluated
as I am
a) Respect
b) Trust
c) Care
d) Affection

15. ……….is the feeling of being related to the other
a) Respect
b) Trust
c) Care
d) Affection
16. The feeling of ………….is the feeling to nurture
and protect the body of our relative
a) Care
b) Reverence
c) Guidance
d) Gratitude

17. The feeling of ensuring right understanding and
feelings in the other (my relative)
a) Care
b) Reverence
c) Guidance
d) Gratitude
18. The feeling of acceptance of excellence in the
other is called
a) Care
b) Reverence
c) Guidance
d) Gratitude

19. …… is the feeling for someone who has made
efforts for excellence
a) Glory
b) Love
c) Guidance
d) Gratitude
20. ……….. is an emotion that occurs after people
receive help
a) Glory
b) Love
c) Guidance
d) Gratitude

21. ……… is the emotion of strong affection and
personal attachment
a) Glory
b) Love
c) Guidance
d) Gratitude
22. ……means any belief in terms of a ‘thought-
system’ that we have, or that we have adopted
a) ISMs
b) Sects

23. belief system to be their ‘own’ and worthy of
respect. Following a particular tradition
a) ISMs
b) Sects
24. ………… means qualities which are innate to
the unit
a) svabhava (natural characteristic)
b) Innateness
c) Guidance

25. means "own-being" or "own-becoming". It is the
intrinsic nature, essential nature or essence of beings
b) Innateness
c) Guidance
26. , this is the ‘usefulness’ or ‘participation’ of the order
in existence
b) Innateness
c) Guidance

27. The svabhava/ value of the self (‘I’) in human
beings includes
a) perseverance (dhirata)
b) bravery (virata)
c) generosity (udarata)
d) All of the above
28.Being assured that the all encompassing solution
is to understand and live in harmony at all levels of
existence, living with this commitment
b) bravery (virata)

29. I am ready to invest myself, my body and
wealth to help the other have the right
understanding
b) bravery (virata)
30. and I am ready to help the other to have the
right understanding.
b) bravery (virata)

i. Material order’s
Innateness
ii. Pranic order’s
Innateness
iii. Animal order’s
Innateness,
iv. Human order’s
Innateness
a)Existence + growth
b)Existence
c) (Existence +
growth) in body
+will to live with
happiness in ‘I’
d) (Existence +
growth) in body
+will to live in ‘I’,
MATCH THE FOLLOWINGS
Order - Innateness

i. Material order
ii. Pranic order
iii. Animal order
iv. Human order
a)Animals and Birds
b)Soil, water, metals,
etc.
c)Human beings
d)Plants and trees

Order - Natural Characteristic
i. Material order
ii. Pranic order
iii. Animal order
iv. Human order
a) (Composition / decomposition ,
nurture / worsen) in body + (
noncruelty , cruelty) in ‘I’
b) (Composition / decomposition,
nurture / worsen) in body
+(perseverance, bravery,
generosity) in ‘I’
c) Composition / decomposition
d) Composition / decomposition
+nurture / worsen

Animal order ,Space, Plant order,
Temporary, Material order, Human order
1. Material units are ______ in nature.
2. Co-existence is when Nature is submerged in
_______.
3. The first order of nature is ______.
4. The second order of nature is _____.
5. The third order of nature is __________.
6. The fourth order of nature is ______.

1. In a family, we do not create relationships.
relationships that are already there
2. The body is only a means to express our
relationship
3. feelings in a relationship between “I” and “I”
such as Trust, Respect, Affection
4. Relationship not related to mutual happiness
5. Physical facilities are provides mutual
prosperity
True/false

Fill it Transformation, resentments ,values, differentiation,
preconditioning
1. We needs to recognize the ………essential for any
relationship
2. Evaluation on the basis of Body, Physical Facilities or
Beliefs turns out to be………………………
3. Animal consciousness needs to……………into human
consciousness
4. disrespect Differentiation like this has led to…………….
5. Beliefs is our …………………..

Case study of family harmony
A Agrawal family lives in chowk bajar, Mathura. There are 5 Member in this family with
a sevant – Ramu. 3 generations of family are living together.
Name of family Members are
1. Mr. Devi Prasad – Grand father
2. Mohit – Father
3. Kavita – Mother, a housewife
4. Samyak – 18 year old and son of Mohit And Kavita
5. Jivika – 16 years Daughter of Mohit And Kavita
The family is famous for cloth merchant –they have 60 years old Agrawal cloth center
at holigate ,Mathura .this is one of the reputated family of city. it was open by the
grand father of mohit . Now days mohit and his father runs there shop with 2
employees.
Mohit and kavita are spouse. Marrige has20 years . There is so much
misunderstanding in couple . Mohits and kavita are argue daily. Mohit said you have
no work, you give no time to children's, you cant teach well to children's. Kavita said
you cant buy a car, a new house, you depends on your father , you have no time for
family.

This is medium class family . Children's are studies in English
medium school –Kahana mahan school . Childerns are busy in
mobile phones ,they never listen the advises of grand father ,
They said grand father “ dada you know nothing , it is waste to
go temple, no need to follow indian culture , they never listen
their Grand father. There is a negativity in attitude of children
Mohit is a hardworking , honest ,Kind hearted person and
helps the poors, and ready for help of society he is a member
of NGO, which promotes girls education
Samyak and kavita are siblings they helps each other Samayak
helps here sister in study .there is good bonding between
them
Samayak does not like his house servant he said him Older
than Dianasore , a beggar, lower caste, black person.
But the family enjoys the festivals together

Case study -2
The existence of humans on earth only from 1 millions year ago , but the age of
earth Lakhs million . And before human there are many animals, birds, dianasore
was lived .we are not the single owner of the earth we are only here as a tenant
not as a owner
Earth is consists of Land, soil, Water, sun, metals, atmosphere, wind etc. without
it there is no existence of any things- means no vegetables , no animals , and no
humans . It is the fundamental of life on earth . These things are composed and
decomposed continuously . These materials are fundamental for the existence of
plant, animals, and humans also, we get all these things free of cost.
Soil, sun, water, wind is require for plants , trees by them trees are create food
and made there survival,. These things are taken by animals and human as a
foods .it is a part of Bio diversity. Only Earth is living planent due to his plants and
vegetation.
The animals comes on earth before the human , the biological classification of
animals belong to the kingdom called Animalia. They are multi-cellular living
organisms. Animals are locomotive (i.e., ability to move around), heterotrophic
(i.e., consume organic material as a source of food), and reproduce sexually The
study of animals is called Zoology.animals are depends on plants directly and
indirecly

Now we discussed about human beings. If you born as a human, you
got the most expensive gift of nature. Human is most strongest,
intelligent, powerful animal of world, who is capable for thinking and
makes new inventions and makes new technologies for simplify his life.
Human is fully depends on animals and plant for food, because human
can not produce food himself . Human develops many Technologies ,
which have many advantage and disadvantage also .
Pollution , environmental change , increase ozone depletion is also
emerges as a big challenge for human as well as animals life. The soil ,
sound ,water ,air pollutions are very common .it also create the danger
on earths existence . Many war weapons like nuclear bombs are also
developed, we needs to concentrate these issues . If we make delayed
its result is so dangerous .
We needs to use technology for human welfare and technologies
should be environmental friendly , because human directly related
with earth .we can live together. We have coexistence with all natures
and animals . We are rational ,and can have decision making power so
it is our responsibility to create harmony with each and every unit of
entire world

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