1) Survivors of suicide often struggle to understand why their loved one died by suicide and search for answers to explain the tragedy. However, every suicide involves some element of mystery as suicidal thoughts and behaviors can be complex and contradictory. 2) While factors like depression, addiction, and other mental illnesses may have contributed and provide some understanding, suicide ultimately stems from unbearable inner pain that the deceased believed could only be relieved by death. 3) Accepting some aspects of the suicide as unknowable and focusing on the relationship with the deceased rather than searching endlessly for causes may provide survivors with greater peace of mind and understanding.