1) The document discusses emotional fuel, which refers to the people who invest in, refresh, and refuel you spiritually and emotionally. 2) It identifies different types of refueling relationships like heroes, models, mentors, accountability partners, mentees, and inner circle friends. 3) The key message is that people need to be intentional about selecting their inner circle and refueling relationships, rather than letting them happen by default, in order to choose people who will truly invest in them and help replenish their emotional fuel.

1. Habitudes: Emotional Fuel
Presented by: Todd Lee Mayfield

2. ROLES WE LIVE
Example
2. Child of God-Quiet Time-7 hrs, Church-3 hrs, Bible
Reading-5 hrs
3. Family/Friend-Call home-2 hrs, call to old friends, 2
hrs
4. Student-Class-8hrs, HW-7hrs
5. MP-27 hrs
6. Intern participant
7. Driven—4hrs
8. Self—Sharpen the saw/axe—49 hrs sleep, exercise
4hrs, reading 4 hrs, hangout with…4 hrs

3. ROLES WE LIVE
Total up these hours. If they exceed 168 hours
then you’ll need to make adjustments.
Take the activities from the roles, and plug them
into a calendar.
This might look like…

5. EMOTIONAL FUEL
Anyone ever ran out of gas?
I did for the first time recently.
I was so frustrated!

6. EMOTIONAL FUEL
Cars run on fuel.
People run on emotional fuel.
Some people’s tank or smaller, or larger.
Maybe you are running on empty, ¼, ½, or
full.
People who run out of fuel quickly try to
siphon it off others.

7. EMOTIONAL FUEL

8. EMOTIONAL FUEL
Ways we run low on Emotional
Fuel
Iceberg, Starving Baker, Oversized Gift
EQUALS lack of leading yourself, lack of
feeding yourself, and sabotaging yourself.
Emotional Fuel is your cadre of people
who invest, refresh, and refuel you
spiritually and emotionally.

9. EMOTIONAL FUEL
Ways we run low on
Emotional Fuel
Iceberg, Starving Baker, Oversized Gift
EQUALS lack of leading yourself, lack of
feeding yourself, and sabotaging yourself.
Emotional Fuel is your cadre of people
who invest, refresh, and refuel you
spiritually and emotionally.

10. EMOTIONAL FUEL
What are refueling
relationshps?
Heroes-people we admire and look up
to. (Abe Lincoln, Brett Favre)
Models-different from heroes. People
who are doing what we do.
Mentors-Connect to a diversity of
people. People that can coach you in
different areas and speak into your
life. People you actually interact with.

11. EMOTIONAL FUEL
What are refueling
relationshps?
DON’T THINK YOU CAN SURVIVE
WITH JUST DEAD MENTORS AND
READING OF BOOKS.
They won’t be emotionally refueling
enough…because they don’t know
YOU.

12. EMOTIONAL FUEL
APs—peer followers, similiar place you
are. Hold you accountable to
commitments you’ve made.
Some of you have chosen people you
don’t feel safe with. You may have
chosen the wrong person.
Mentees—speaking into their lives, further
along than they are.
Inner circle—may overlap. The people
your closest to. Colleagues. Spouse,
family.

13. EMOTIONAL FUEL
If we give much thought to the person we
choose as our spouse…shouldn’t we give
much thought and examination into
selecting our Inner Circle?

14. EMOTIONAL FUEL
Be proactive. Don’t just let relationships
happen. Give lots of thought to select
friends. Be intentional.
I’ve noticed many interns are attracted at
the beginning of the year to people that
share their same weaknesses. That’s fine,
but did you do that by default or did you
really think about who you are friends
with?

15. EMOTIONAL FUEL
Be proactive. Don’t just let relationships
happen. Give lots of thought to select
friends. Be intentional.
I’ve noticed many interns are attracted at
the beginning of the year to people that
share their same weaknesses. That’s not
wrong, but did you do that by default or did
you really think about who you are friends
with?

16. EMOTIONAL FUEL
Do your friends refresh you? It’s a
mix of relaxing and feeling
encouraged walking away from your
time with them.