This document discusses how legalizing same-sex marriage may negatively impact society by changing the definition of marriage. It argues that defining marriage only as a union between a man and woman directs appropriate social behavior, while making it more inclusive could decrease marriage rates and increase out-of-wedlock births. It also claims that legalizing same-sex marriage may reduce the importance placed on monogamy and financial obligations between spouses. Overall, the document contends that redefining marriage could undermine the traditional family structure and the social and financial benefits it provides.

1. Same-Sex Marriage: How Will it Affect Our
Society?
All social ills will always exist, the only question is in what quantity. Divorce rates can go up or down,
marriage rates can go up or down, out-of-wedlock childbirths can go up or down. Just because they
already exist to a certain degree does not mean they cannot get worse.Changing the definition of
marriage can have effects upon these social ills, for better or worse. Allowing for gay marriage
changes the definition so that it loses meaning, and will have a negative impact upon society. As for
how, normative definitions are agreed upon societal rules and expectations specifying appropriate
and inappropriate ways to behave. In other words, definitions affect behavior by directing people
how to act. It used to be that a family was a married couple and children, and other styles of families
were considered deviant at worst, or alternative at best. With acceptance of single parent families
and unmarried cohabitating couples with children as families, the definition has changed, and the
effect upon behavior has as well. People who don't meet the 1950s style nuclear family don't feel
compelled by the social rules and expectations to conform to that normative definition anymore. So
for example, if you are a co-habiting couple, you don't need to be married to be considered a family,
as you already are one. By making the definition more inclusive, it has lost its ability to affect
people's behavior as it really means nothing because a family can be anything."Although many
people think of themselves as individuals, the strong tendency of people to conform to group
patterns and expectations is consistently documented in laboratory experiments, social surveys, and
observations of mass behavior." Professor H. Wesley Perkins, A Brief Summary of Social Norms
Theory and the Approach to Promoting HealthBy redefining marriage we will only make this situation
worse. Marriage will lose its normative definition completely as a required part of having a family.
Marriage will no longer be the building block of a family, but simply a confirmation of a relationship,
or a commitment ceremony, and little more. It's not that divorce rates will go up, but marriage rates
will go down. There just won't be a point anymore because it won't be what people are supposed to
do anymoreThe danger comes from the change in the definition of what a marriage is in general.
Our cultural belief is that if you want to start a family, you need to get married, but by creating the
legal fiction of a "gay marriage" you are saying that having a family is not what marriage is about, but
simply two people who want to be together, being together. The danger is that people just won't get
married anymore when they start having kids, they won't see it as the required step. So they don't
have the legally enforcement monogamy or the property rights that come with marriage. This is
indeed what we see in countries with these legal fictions: people often wait until they have their
second child before getting married. Their divorce rates haven't gone up because people aren't
getting married in the first place.Marriage is a contract, and an extremely important one at that. One
of the important agreements the couple makes upon entering the marriage is that they will be
monogamous. The state has an important interest in encouraging people to be monogamous. It
ensures that the fatherhood of the children will be more certain, so that fathers will stick around and
help raise the children. Also men are not out fathering other children with other women that will
become a burden on society. This interest simply does not exist among gay couples.The property

2. rights of women in particular are what this is about, and creating the fiction of gay marriage will hurt
women the most in this area. Women are the stay at home partner far more often then men, and as
such they don't accumulate assets, experience, or promotions, so that upon a separation--without
the marriage contract--they would be left with nothing to show for their years of work. Sending
people the message that marriage is not the step you take when having children, but is just two
adults wanting to be together, will have the harmful effect that people will not get married when they
start having kids, like they do in Sweden and Denmark. Their generous nanny-state programs pay
for raising out-of-wedlock children there, we don't have that kind of money here."Look at all the
divorces, saving marriage is not a good reason to deny gay marriage."The central issue has to do
with enforced monogamy. The father knows the children are likely his, and he's not out fathering
other children of which the state will have to help take care. I'm sure you might say that people still
cheat on their spouse, so there's no point. That is not true. If a crime prevention program lowers
crime, then it is successful. If state enforced monogamy contracts (marriage) lead to more
monogamy then it is successful. It is enforced by a financial penalty upon divorce. What point is
there to enforcing monogamy among gay couples?As for the rise in single parent families and
divorce occurring without gay marriage, yes, that's true, there are other factors that contribute. This
is not a vacuum, and gay marriage would be one among many factors. Do you then wish to enact
policies that would worsen the economy in the midst of a recession? I hope not, and saying that
marriage is not in a good state is no excuse for worsening it."Outlawing gay marriage is the same as
outlawing interracial marriage--it's based on hatred and bigotry."Comparing gay marriage to
interracial marriage is misleading at best. Interracial marriage still accomplishes all the goals of the
state in providing for children and for the child-raiser and so on. It does not change the definition of a
marriage or the purpose of marriage. Interracial marriage bans were based on racism, gay marriage
bans are not based on hatred of homosexuals, but on not changing the definition of a societal
norm.Looking at the actual arguments made in the Loving v. Virginia interracial marriage case, the
arguments were mostly based on eugenics, "improving" the races and "keeping the white race pure."
In the appellate brief to the Supreme Court written by the Attorney General of Virginia Robert Y.
Button, he states that: "there is authority for the conclusion that the crossing of the primary races
leads gradually to retrogression and to eventual extinction of the resultant type unless it is fortified by
reunion with the parent stock.""The results of racial intermarriage have been exceedingly variable.
Sometimes it has produced a better race. This is the case when the crossing has been between
different but closely allied stocks...It is an unquestionable fact that the yellow, as well as the negroid
peoples possess many desirable qualities in which the whites are deficient. From this it has been
argued that it would be advantageous if all races were blended into a universal type embodying the
excellencies of each. But scientific breeders have long ago demonstrated that the most desirable
results are secured by specializing types rather than by merging them.""the intermixtures which have
been beneficial to the progress of mankind have been between nearly related peoples and that the
results of a mixture of widely divergent stock serve to warn against the miscegenation of distinct
races.""where two such races are in contact the inferior qualities are not bred out, but may be
emphasized in the progeny, a principle widely expressed in modern eugenic literature. "The only
social concern it raises about divorce is that interracial marriages will have a higher divorce rate

3. since their racist families will make life hell for them. But this was an afterthought. No one today is
arguing that gay marriage will cause harm to the purity of any race or that any specific harm will
result from individual gay marriages. It is the broader social harm of redefining marriage that is the
concern, and the negative consequences that this will bring.