Redefining marriage brings about social change. A small part of this change is positive, but it also brings about a lot of negative social outcomes too. In this lecture, we look at how, in a marriage redefined culture, it becomes ever harder for heterosexuals to understand that marriage is primarily about giving their biological children the best possible start in life. Thus more heterosexuals won't marry in order to protect their children and more will divorce. This being so then more children will suffer and future society goes even more into decay.

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2.  Any culture that went the way of neglecting the
heterosexual marital norm quickly declined BECAUSE
the children had ever poorer outcomes.
 They were then over-run by their healthier, marriage
valuing neighbours
 Because of this, at the start of the 20th century,
EVERY major world culture most minor cultures were
heterosexual marriage centred cultures. The stronger
marriage valuing cultures won the day.
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3. From this
Two opposite-sex adults
making a commitment to
work together to fulfil the
RIGHT of their future
biological children to the
best possible start in life
To this
Any two adults making a
commitment to each
other based on mutual,
sexual attraction
Weaken the understanding of heterosexuals that
marriage is primarily about creating the best outcomes
for their biological children
Which in turn leads to poorer outcomes for everyone
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4. What happened was the reverse.
The research shows less
heterosexuals getting married in
the countries where redefinition
happened – higher rates of decline
than one would expect to see.
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5. Rates of heterosexual
marriage fell sharply –
5% a year
This compares to no
drop in rates of
marriage in
neighbouring
Portugal – a country
that suffered the
same economic
downturn
Number of Heterosexual
marriages
220,000
200,000
180,000
160,000
140,000
120,000
100,000
2006
2011
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5.5
5
Finland
Germany
4.5
Holland (2000)
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Belgium (2003)
Canada 2005
3.5
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2000
2005
2011
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There aren’t any studies done on why, in
marriage redefined countries, do a greater
number of heterosexual couples decide to
turn away from marriage as an aspiration.
The two issues may not be linked at all.
What we can say is that same-sex marriage
absolutely DOESN’T strengthen the social
norm of marriage
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8.  For thousands of years, marriage has primarily
been about adults creating the best protection
for their biological children.
 Marriage is mankind’s way of connecting with
Mother Nature’s circle of life. We see two
opposite sex birds; they have sex, and then stay
together to raise their kids because this ensures
best outcomes for the next generation. This is
what heterosexual marriage mirrors
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9. Just as ALL species have found their best way of
raising the next generation (e.g.; Matriarchal herds of
elephants; Male dominated harems for lions and
walruses) – for humans - two opposite sex parents
making a lasting commitment in order to best fulfil
their responsibility to their biological children - has
become OUR WAY of gaining nature’s best blessings
and protection.
Marriage fundamentally is about fulfilling the RIGHT of
the biological child to the best start in life
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10.  The recent growth in the belief that marriage is
primarily about ‘true love’ between adults, etc
 The social security system prevents many of the
more terrible outcomes of single parenting. If this
didn’t exist it would be plainly evident that being
married was the best way to protect children.
 No fault divorce - a poorly designed law - created
the social illusion that marriage was about adult
RIGHTS to happiness – not about child’s rights
 Birth control – many couples don’t have children
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11. But these issues cannot hide the research from
around the world that the heterosexual maritalfamily is, on average, the optimal place to give
children the best start in life.
It is this ESSENTIAL CORE VALUE:
– that we marry to best protect our children
– and we stay together during the natural tough
times in our marriage in order to bring about best
outcomes for our biological children
This CORE value encourages the majority of
heterosexual couples TO marry and STAY married
during the natural difficult moments
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12. Then, over time, we can expect to see:
 Fewer couples marrying in order to
best protect their future children
 And less couples staying together
during the natural difficult moments
in their marriage for the sake of their
children
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13. Marriage is just
about adults’ rights
Marriage is primarily about
fulfilling the child’s right and
desire to be raised and loved
by both biological parents
Some heterosexual couples will see the
new definition of marriage and place
more weight on adult’s rights when
thinking about marriage
We can say for sure such thinking will not strengthen
the heterosexual marital-family
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14. The trouble with this argument is that even if half of all
same-sex marriages have or adopt children - the benefit
to this very small number of children is completely
negated by the poorer outcomes for FAR GREATER
numbers of children raised without the protection of
both biological parents because of the law change.
We will look more deeply at this in a future lecture
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15.  But there is one issue that
deserves a special note.
 Hidden within the new definition
of marriage there is a social lie –
a lie that is potentially so
dangerous that it is really hard to
guess its negative effects on
future society.
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16.  In redefining marriage the government basically
states in law that ‘Any two same-sex married
parents, or any configuration of group married
parents, can do just as good job of raising
children as the biological parents can’.
 Just get yourself the title – ‘We’re married’ – and
instantly you become, on average, as good as
biological parents are.
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17.  Though many same-sex couples will probably
invest a lot into their child – a lot more than some
heterosexual parents might – there are other
aspects of parenting that they will have no control
over
 The same-sex couple cannot provide opposite-sex
interaction role modelling, nor provide gender role
modelling for half the children, nor opposite-sex
sexual role modelling.
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18.  When we look at children who have experienced divorce
we usually find that it is the psychological reaction of not
having their biological father or mother there that is
MOST LIKELY to cause the child to experience poorer
outcomes. Sentences such as ‘My dad doesn’t care’, ‘why
did my mum leave me,’ etc – often de-motivate the
distressed child and lowers their sense of self-worth.
 See www.frc.org/issuebrief/homosexual-parent-studysummary-of-findings.
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19.  But marriage redefined says that biological
parents are expendable - UNNECESSARY
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20. Marriage redefined states – in law – that children:
 Don’t have ANY intrinsic right to be raised by their
two biological parents and
 They also don’t have any natural desire to be raised
by their two biological parents. They are happy to be
raised by anyone!
 We have NO IDEA where such a lies, if believed, will lead
society in the years ahead.
 We just know such lies WILL absolutely lead to poorer
outcomes for children
See Youtube Video:
Which Parent Don't I Need, My Mom or My Dad?
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21.  Gay couples ‘buying’ a new born child from a far
off land - (Is this the start of children becoming
possessions that can be bought and sold?)
 Children being exchanged - a gay male provides
sperm for a lesbian couple – the first child belongs
to the lesbian couple, the second to the gay
couple. Who knows where this might lead?
 It is these lies that allow countries to move so
quickly to legalize group marriages – ANY group
of ‘married’ people can do. Fantasy land.
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22. Heterosexual Unions
Same-sex unions
Romantic attraction
Romantic attraction
The core value of fidelity is
absolutely essential
The core value of fidelity is not essential
The core value of marrying and
staying together during the tough
times in order to fulfil the right of
the biological children is essential
The core value of fulfilling the rights of
biological children doesn’t apply. Most
don’t have children, and if they do, the
child’s right to be raised by its biological
parents has already been lost.
By calling three forms of union ‘marriage’ – the values that are
essential for heterosexual marriage become weakened
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23. Some of the MANY Faces of Social
Decay due to the breakdown of
the marital family
Thank you for trying to
understand
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24.  Lecture 3a presents a possible future timeline
based on the conclusions in this lecture
 Lecture 4 moves on to show how, in a marriage
redefined world, it is not only the heterosexual
adults that struggle more. The 98% of
heterosexual children are also ever more
persuaded that same-sex sex is OK, fun, and
progressive – even if in the real world this means
that many more will eventually struggle with their
sexual identity and, as such, they will find it
harder to build the lasting relationships they
actually desire (lecture 4 – light green lecture)
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