The document discusses how arguments begin and provides advice on avoiding arguments. It notes that arguments often start due to pride, selfishness, or a lack of love. It encourages focusing on listening to others, forgiving, spending time with friends, expressing gratitude, and resolving issues with love, humility and prayer rather than arguments.

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“A soft answer turns away wrath.”
Proverb 15:1a

2. HOW DO WARS BEGIN?
A boy once asked his father, "Dad, how do wars begin?”
"Well, take the First World War," said his father. "That got started when
Germany invaded Belgium."
Immediately his wife interrupted him, "Tell the boy the truth! It began
because somebody was assassinated!”
The husband drew himself up with an air of superiority and snapped
back, "Are you answering the question or am I?"
Turning her back upon him in a huff, the
wife stormed out the room and slammed
the door as hard as she could!
When the dishes stopped rattling in the
cupboard an uneasy silence followed,
broken at length by the boy:
"Daddy, you don't have to tell me
how wars begin; I KNOW now!"

3. Arguing!
Arguing
We all do it sometimes! We
all know what it is to walk
away from an argument
with the mouth dry, tummy
in a knot, head hot and
spinning, and heart sick--
wishing that it had never
happened, deeply
regretting the unkind words
that were said!
Believe it or not,
more homes are
destroyed by
arguments than
by fires or
funerals!

4. We all know that arguing for the sake of
arguing is a pointless waste of time!
We have absolutely NOTHING to gain -
only our time, energy and more importantly
relationship is LOST!
It is said that the only people who really
LISTEN to an argument are the neighbours!
Some people love to For others, arguing has
argue, and will do become a HABIT, an
anything to prove automatic reaction of
their point! They'd saying something
rather lose a friend contradictory to
than an argument! whatever is being said!

5. A LESSON FROM
BENJAMIN FRANKLIN
One compulsive arguer was the early American statesman,
philosopher and author, Benjamin Franklin. As a youth he
loved nothing more than a good argument until a close
friend took him aside and said,
"Ben, you are impossible! Your opinions have a slap in
them for everyone who differs with you! Your friends
enjoy themselves better when you are not around! You
think you KNOW so much that no one can TELL you
anything. Indeed, no one is going to try, for the effort
would only lead to discomfort and hard work!
So you are not likely ever to know
any more than you do now--which is actually very
LITTLE!"

6. Ben Franklin was BIG enough and WISE enough to
accept these stinging truths, and to realize that he was
headed for failure and social disaster! So he immediately
began to change his bigoted, argumentative ways!
He became one of the best loved, wisest and most
diplomatic men in American history, and was actually
remembered for saying:
"If you argue and rankle and
contradict, you may achieve a
victory sometimes. But it will
be an empty victory, because
you will never get your
opponent's good will!"

7. NO ONE ever really wins an argument!
You can shout and scream and argue until you're blue in the
face, but people are not going to believe that you are right
unless they WANT to believe it!
And even if they would LIKE to agree with you, your tone
may have put them so much on the defensive that it would
be like an utter humiliation, a defeat on the battlefield, for
them to confess you're right or even partly right!
And remember, Nine times out
no amount of of ten, an
logic or argument ends
argument will with each side
make anyone more firmly
change his mind convinced than
if he doesn't ever that he is
want to! absolutely right!

8. You can't win an argument,
because if you lose it, you lose
it!-- And if you WIN it,
you still LOSE it!
Why?
Well, suppose you triumph over the other
person and shoot his argument full of holes and
prove that he's an absolute idiot.
Then what ?
You'll feel fine, smug and satisfied. But what about him?
You'll have made him feel inferior. You've hurt
his pride. He may resent your triumph, and…
"A man convinced against his
will, is of the same opinion still!"

9. "WHAT CAUSES FIGHTS AND QUARRELS AMONG
YOU?"
“….Don't they come from your lusts and desires that battle within you?
You want something, but don't get it...so you quarrel and fight.”
--James 4:1-2.
So greediness and selfishness can be one of the root causes of arguing,
trying to get the things you selfishly want.
Other arguments are caused by PRIDE. Proverbs 13:10 says,
“Only by PRIDE come quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take
advice.”
Also, as we've clearly seen, many arguments are caused
by SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS.--Pushing your point, thinking
that you're so right, putting yourself up and the other
person down by contradicting them!

10. And what it all boils down
to is a lack of
LOVE!
Arguing isn't the real problem, that's just a SYMPTOM!
--A LACK OF LOVE is the REAL problem!
That's one of the major lessons that God wants us to learn--
how to LOVE people, how to work with them, how to treat
them, how to give the other person the advantage and the
benefit of the doubt, how to build them up unselfishly, instead
of selfishly tearing them down through contention and
argument!
All this is a part of LEARNING TO LOVE,
to put ourselves in other people's shoes,
to
"do unto others as you would have them do unto
you!”

11. GOD can give you the solutions,
change your heart and spirit, fill you
with His Spirit of Love, joy, peace,
patience, kindness, goodness,
faithfulness, gentleness
and self-control.
GOD also can give you the strength
and grace to LOVE and NOT argue!
So stay close to GOD !!!
Love, Humility and Prayer solves all problems!
(All human problems are spiritually based
and will be spiritually resolved.)
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