The agenda covers a day of leadership training including recapping previous sessions, a discussion on managing controversy with civility, activities, lectures on collaboration and consciousness of self, lunch, group work, and Q&A. The controversy session objectives are to understand conflict versus controversy and engage in meaningful dialogue. It defines controversy as involving differing opinions without staked positions to draw people together, and civility as respecting others' views. The consciousness of self session aims to help participants achieve self-awareness and understand how it links to leadership. It discusses the importance of introspection and constant learning about one's values, talents, and aspirations.

1. Agenda – Day 3
• Recap & link with current events
• Controversy with Civility
• Discussion
• Activity
• Consciousness of Self
• Lunch
• Activity
• Group Work
• Recap
• Open Q&A
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2. Recap of Day 1 & 2
• Questions & reflections on concepts
discussed:
– Leadership & Change
– Transformational Leadership
– Technical & Adaptive challenges
– Good & Active Citizenship
– Root cause analysis
– Collaboration
– Common Purpose
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3. Activity
Examples of Technical solutions
to address Adaptive Problems
(brown bread, permis à points, 5)

4. The Model
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5. COLLABORATION
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6. OBJECTIVES OF this SESSION
By the end of this session participants will be
able to demonstrate a clear understanding of
the following concepts as they apply to
leadership in the Social Change Model (SCM)
– Collaboration
– Competition, Cooperation, Compromise
– Effectiveness of Diversity
– Pre-requisites for effective collaboration
– Link with other C’s
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7. The Model
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8. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY

9. OBJECTIVES OF THE SESSION
• By the end of this session,
participants will be able to:
– Understand the differences between
conflict and controversy.
– Engage in meaningful dialogue and
include it in the process of controversy.
– Feel comfortable voicing one’s opinion
and take into consideration the opinions of
others.

10. WHAT IS CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY?

11. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY
Controversy with civility challenges
group participants to discuss diverse
opinions and perspectives, while
maintaining respect for those sharing
other views

12. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY
• Controversy – involves differing opinions,
but positions are not staked out.
Controversy draws everyone together to
discuss differing perspectives.
• Civility – voicing disagreement and
responding to disagreement from others in a
way that respects others’ points of view.
Civility can be a value, an attitude, or a
behavior.

13. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY
Key concepts: Conflict v/s Controversy
• Conflict – opposition in nature, conflict
draws a line with people taking one side or
another.
• Conflict builds opposing sides and seeks to
convert members to one side. It is
oppositional in nature.
• Controversy allows for sharing and
considering multiple points of view before
coming to a group decision.

14. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY
Key concepts: Dialogue v/s Debate
• Dialogue – coming to a shared meaning or
new understanding, engaging for everyone to
understand an issue better.
• Debate – opposing sides trying to show the
other side as wrong with the goal of winning
the argument.
Defense of position and challenging of other
viewpoints are evidenced.

15. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY
Key concepts: Worldview
• Worldview – perspectives (or frames of
reference) that impact an individual’s
approach to any situation..
• It depends on one’s
– gender view
– racial or ethnic view
– religion, and other cultural contexts or heritages,

16. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY
Worldview
• A person’s worldview, or frame of
reference, determines what perspectives
they bring to the group.
• Members of a group must be aware of and
respect each other’s worldviews in order
to pursue their common purpose.

17. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY
Worldview
• What other factors influence an
individual’s worldview?
• Is it possible to change one’s worldview?
• Can 2 persons have the same worldview?
• Are disagreements ‘normal’?
>> It is all about how disagreements are
dealt with

18. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY
Positive and Negative Controversy
• Positive controversy comes from group
members’ differences in values and ideas.
• Negative controversy comes from such
group flaws as a lack of decision-making
processes or unresolved prior
disagreements.

19. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY
When absent, we see that
• Those who disagree are treated as:
– Disloyal
– Less intelligent
– Negative
• People avoid disagreeing openly
• Less Collaboration, Common Purpose?
• Less Commitment

20. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY
Working towards it : Trust
• Group members must trust that the other
members of the group will respect their
opinion, whether or not they agree.
• Group members must trust that the process
of controversy with civility, although it calls
for vulnerability, will help the group arrive at
a better decision.

21. CONTROVERSY
WITH CIVILITY
Working towards it : Dialogue
• Dialogue engages each differing point of
view
• Dialogue seeks to bring everyone to a
shared understanding of the issue.
• Dialogue encourages individuals to
examine what underlies their
assumptions
• .

22. • “No one is born hating another person
because of the color of his skin, or his
background, or his religion. People must
learn to hate, and if they can learn to
hate, they can be taught to love, for love
comes more naturally to the human heart
than its opposite.”
Nelson Mandela
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23. ACTIVITY
Facebook Incivility
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24. Q & A
FEEDBACK
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26. CONSCIOUSNESS OF
SELF

27. REFLECTION
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28. Things I always want to do
1. .
2. .
3. .
Things I never want to do
1. .
2. .
3. .
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29. Things I always want to be
1. .
2. .
3. .
Things I never want to be
1. .
2. .
3. .
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30. Things that are entirely
indispensable in my life
1. .
2. .
3. .
Things that are entirely
dispensable in my life
1. .
2. .
3. .
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31. COMMENTS ON ACTIVITY
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32. HOMEWORK
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Defining Your Ideal Life
The year is 20_ _, You are 90 years old today. You have known over the
last few weeks that your remaining days on earth are now a countable few,
and on this one evening, your mind drifts into a journey across the decades
of your life…the 2010’s, 2020’s and beyond...time has flown by faster than
you could ever have imagined, but you have reason to be proud and
contented with how you lived out each day and each year and each
decade, to end up where you are now.
There have been challenges and there have been triumphs, you cannot
help but smile with satisfaction and gratitude for a life well lived.
Put yourself in that moment…in the twilight years of your life…and write
down what you think would be the kind of life you must have led to allow
you to conclude that it was, in fact, a life well lived. Try to be as concrete
and specific as you can about the kinds of things that would have needed
to happen to make it this ideal life for you, as you look back at life on the
day you have turned 90 years of age.

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The year is 20_ _, I am 90 years old today. I have
known over the last few weeks that my remaining
days on earth are now a countable few. And yet
when I reflect on the years gone by, I realise that
time has flown by faster than I could ever have
imagined, but I have reason to be proud and
contented with how I lived out each day and each
year and each decade, to end up where I am
now…

35. OBJECTIVES OF THE SESSION
• By the end of this session, participants
will be able to:
– demonstrate a clearer understanding of
‘consciousness self’
– demonstrate a better consciousness of
themselves
– understand the link between consciousness
of self and leadership

36. WHAT IS CONSCIOUSNESS
OF SELF?

37. What is leadership?
• Leadership is motivating, mobilizing,
directing people to collaboratively
pursue a shared vision that
produces positive sustainable
transformation or change
• Leadership is an ethical process, an
activity

38. The Goal of Leadership
• The goal of leadership is to mobilise
oneself and/or others to change in a
positive and sustainable manner
• Sustainability will depend on our ability
to grow other leaders
• REAL leaders continue to influence
even in their absence

39. • Effective self-leadership is the
foundation of great leadership
• People follow you because of who you
are
• “If leaders are to be successful, they
must first lead themselves.” (John Maxwell)
Self-Leadership

40. Self-leadership
• Leadership has to do with
–Doing (‘savoir faire’)
–Learning
–Becoming
–Being (‘savoir être’)
• We need to be prepared to embark
on an inner journey

41. Kolb Model

42. Go one step further
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43. • At 29, Buddha left family and friends,
and went to the forest to meditate for 6
years
• At 30, Jesus went into in the
Wilderness for 40 days to meditate
• At 40, Prophet Mohammad meditated in
a cave on Mount Hira for 6 months
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44. • Gandhi - frequent jail sentences lasting
months and years
• Martin Luther King – frequent jail
sentences
• Nelson Mandela - 17 years in prison at
Robben Island
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45. • In any nonviolent campaign there are
four basic steps: collection of the facts
to determine whether injustices exist;
negotiation; self purification; and direct
action.
– Martin Luther King, Letter from Birmingham Jail, 1963
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47. What is consciousness
of self?
• Consciousness of Self refers to a process
of achieving self-awareness.
• It is not an end point that can be reached;
instead, it is adopting a way of life that
promotes constant learning about what is
most important… it is an inner journey.

48. Aspects of Individual
Identity
• Our identity can by influenced by
1. our values and principles, culture, faith,
family, generational peers
2. our personal style – timid aggressive,
organized, optimistic, patient, easy-going
3. our talents, skills and specialized knowledge
4. our aspirations and dreams – how do we
define success
5. others’ perceptions of us.

50. Importance of introspection
• Constant ‘busyness’ does not let itself to
consciousness of self
– need to retreat from doing
– introspection - not what should I do next BUT
• Who am I?
• How would I describe myself?
• What are my values?
• Why am I here?
• How would I measure my life?
• Just making a career or ALSO making a difference?

51. Becoming Conscious of
Self
• Developing consciousness of self requires
intentional actions including
1. a practice of reflection
2. openness to feedback
– strength and weaknesses - non defensive, listen
without interrupting, ask clarifying questions –
does not imply accepting everything, integrating
advice of others
3. learning about the self through assessment.

52. Mindfulness
• Mindfulness focuses on more than simply
understanding our personality.
• It is the ability to simultaneously act and
observe our actions in the present
moment.
• Being mindful allows us to choose how to
respond in situations (Covey).

53. Food for thought
• To live is to choose. But to choose well,
you must know who you are and what
you stand for, where you want to go
and why you want to get there
Kofi Annan

54. LINKS WITH OTHER C’S

55. Consciousness of Self & 7 Cs
• Becoming conscious of self lets us assess
our readiness to engage in social change.
• It helps us be better aware of how issues
affect us and others and enhances our
citizenship
• It allows us to better collaborate.
• It helps us clarify our values and agree on
common purpose
• Encourage seeing things from others
perspective – empathy – and engage in
controversy with civility

56. The Model

57. Questions

58. LUNCH
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60. Activity
Group Work

61. Activity
Links between News and Group
Work

62. Group Work
• Main problems identified
• Work on Root Causes
• Do you have enough info?
• Work on Solutions
• Did you find THE solution to the
problem?
• Action Plan
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63. Activity
Group Work - Debrief

64. Group Work
• How to keep working between Saturdays
• Facebook, email
• 1 Note-taker / Presenter : findings
• Powerpoint - laptop
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