Chapter 12:
Attraction and Relationships
Couple stands face to face smiling at each other.
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Learning Objectives
By the end of the chapter you should be able to:
Describe how proximity, attractiveness, matching, similarity, equitability, and being "hard to get" influence attraction
Explain the two factors of the need to belong
and how human tendencies toward social bonds,
including what happens when we are deprived,
show the need to belong
Explain the difference between companionate love, passionate love, and compassionate love
Explain the difference between a communal relationship and an exchange relationship
Explain Sternberg's triangular theory of love
Describe how interdependence theory works
Explain the components of the investment model
Describe John Gottman's findings about relationship maintenance
Chapter Outline
12.1 Factors in Attraction
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
We Like Those Who Are Attractive
We Like Those Who Are Similar to Us
We Like Those We Have Equitable Relationships With
We Like Those Who Are Hard to Get
12.2 Need to Belong
Social Bonds
Deprivation
12.3 Love
Types of Love
Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love
12.4 Relationship Maintenance
12.5 When Relationships End
Chapter Summary
* * *
Around 2 million Americans marry each year, with other couples entering into long-term commitments with a partner or beginning cohabitation (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2013; Copen, Daniels, Vespa, & Mosher, 2012). According to the U.S. Census Bureau (2010), the average household size was 2.59 in 2010. When it comes to other close relationships, most adults in the United States report that they have around nine close friends (Brewer & Webster, 1999; Carroll, 2004). The majority of people say they have at least one close friend, with fewer than 2% of U.S. residents reporting no close friends. For those who use the social networking site Facebook, the average friend count is 303, though such counts may be artificially inflated by a few users who have a very large number of friends. Younger Facebook users tend to have more friends, with an average of 506 and 510 for those aged 12–17 and 18–24, respectively (Marketing Charts Staff, 2013). Seeking out, forming, and maintaining relationships seem to be major activities among human beings. Who do we tend to form friendships with? Who will become our romantic partners? In this chapter, we explore attraction, the need for social connections, love, and maintaining relationships.
12.1 Factors in Attraction
Many of us meet a variety of people each day. Some we become friends with, others remain strangers. We may begin a romantic relationship with one person but, refuse to even date another. What attracts us to some people and not others? There are a variety of factors related to attraction.
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
Surprisingly, simple proximity, or propinquity, has a lot ...
Feenstra, J. (2013). Social Psychology. San Diego Bridgepoint Edu.docxmglenn3
Feenstra, J. (2013). Social Psychology. San Diego: Bridgepoint Education, Inc.
Chapter 12
Attraction and Relationships
Fuse/Thinkstock
Learning Objectives
By the end of the chapter you should be able to:
· Describe how proximity, attractiveness, matching, similarity, equitability, and being "hard to get" influenceattraction
· Explain the two factors of the need to belong and how human tendencies toward social bonds, includingwhat happens when we are deprived, show the need to belong
· Explain the difference between companionate love, passionate love, and compassionate love
· Explain the difference between a communal relationship and an exchange relationship
· Explain Sternberg's triangular theory of love
· Describe how interdependence theory works
· Explain the components of the investment model
· Describe John Gottman's findings about relationship maintenance
Chapter Outline
12.1 Factors in Attraction
· We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
· We Like Those Who Are Attractive
· We Like Those Who Are Similar to Us
· We Like Those We Have Equitable Relationships With
· We Like Those Who Are Hard to Get
12.2 Need to Belong
· Social Bonds
· Deprivation
12.3 Love
· Types of Love
· Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love
12.4 Relationship Maintenance
12.5 When Relationships End
Chapter Summary
* * *
Around 2 million Americans marry each year, with other couples entering into long-term commitments with a partner orbeginning cohabitation (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2013; Copen, Daniels, Vespa, & Mosher, 2012). According tothe U.S. Census Bureau (2010), the average household size was 2.59 in 2010. When it comes to other close relationships, mostadults in the United States report that they have around nine close friends (Brewer & Webster, 1999; Carroll, 2004). Themajority of people say they have at least one close friend, with fewer than 2% of U.S. residents reporting no close friends. Forthose who use the social networking site Facebook, the average friend count is 303, though such counts may be artificiallyinflated by a few users who have a very large number of friends. Younger Facebook users tend to have more friends, with anaverage of 506 and 510 for those aged 12–17 and 18–24, respectively (Marketing Charts Staff, 2013). Seeking out, forming, andmaintaining relationships seem to be major activities among human beings. Who do we tend to form friendships with? Whowill become our romantic partners? In this chapter, we explore attraction, the need for social connections, love, andmaintaining relationships.
Many of us meet a variety of people each day. Some we become friends with, others remain strangers. We may begin a romanticrelationship with one person but, refuse to even date another. What attracts us to some people and not others? There are a variety offactors related to attraction.
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
Surprisingly, simple proximity, or propinquity, has a lot to do with who we meet and become friends with. Fir.
FuseThinkstockLearning Objectives By the end of the c.docxbudbarber38650
Fuse/Thinkstock
Learning Objectives
By the end of the chapter you should be
able to:
• Describe how proximity, attractiveness, matching,
similarity, equitability, and being “hard to get”
influence attraction
• Explain the two factors of the need to belong
and how human tendencies toward social bonds,
including what happens when we are deprived,
show the need to belong
• Explain the difference between companionate
love, passionate love, and compassionate love
• Explain the difference between a communal
relationship and an exchange relationship
Attraction and Relationships 12
Chapter Outline
12.1 Factors in Attraction
• We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
• We Like Those Who Are Attractive
• We Like Those Who Are Similar to Us
• We Like Those We Have Equitable
Relationships With
• We Like Those Who Are Hard to Get
12.2 Need to Belong
• Social Bonds
• Deprivation
12.3 Love
• Types of Love
• Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
12.4 Relationship Maintenance
12.5 When Relationships End
Chapter Summary
• Explain Sternberg’s triangular theory of love
• Describe how interdependence theory works
• Explain the components of the investment model
• Describe John Gottman’s findings about relationship maintenance
fee85798_12_c12_257-282.indd 257 7/16/13 9:47 AM
CHAPTER 12Section 12.1 Factors in Attraction
Around 2 million Americans marry each year, with other couples entering into
long-term commitments with a partner or beginning cohabitation (Centers for
Disease Control and Prevention, 2013; Copen, Daniels, Vespa, & Mosher, 2012).
According to the U.S. Census Bureau (2010), the average household size was 2.59
in 2010. When it comes to other close relationships, most adults in the United
States report that they have around nine close friends (Brewer & Webster, 1999;
Carroll, 2004). The majority of people say they have at least one close friend, with
fewer than 2% of U.S. residents reporting no close friends. For those who use
the social networking site Facebook, the average friend count is 303, though such
counts may be artificially inflated by a few users who have a very large number
of friends. Younger Facebook users tend to have more friends, with an average
of 506 and 510 for those aged 12–17 and 18–24, respectively (Marketing Charts
Staff, 2013). Seeking out, forming, and maintaining relationships seem to be major
activities among human beings. Who do we tend to form friendships with? Who
will become our romantic partners? In this chapter, we explore attraction, the need
for social connections, love, and maintaining relationships.
12.1 Factors in Attraction
Many of us meet a variety of people each day. Some we become friends with, oth-ers remain strangers. We may begin a romantic relationship with one person but, refuse to even date another. What attracts us to some people and not others?
There are a variety of factors related to attraction.
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
Surprising.
Feenstra, J. (2013). Social Psychology. San Diego Bridgepoint.docxmglenn3
Feenstra, J. (2013). Social Psychology. San Diego: Bridgepoint Education, Inc. ISBN: 978-1-62178-578-1
Chapter 12
Attraction and Relationships
Fuse/Thinkstock
Learning Objectives
By the end of the chapter you should be able to:
· Describe how proximity, attractiveness, matching, similarity, equitability, and being "hard to get" influenceattraction
· Explain the two factors of the need to belong and how human tendencies toward social bonds, includingwhat happens when we are deprived, show the need to belong
· Explain the difference between companionate love, passionate love, and compassionate love
· Explain the difference between a communal relationship and an exchange relationship
· Explain Sternberg's triangular theory of love
· Describe how interdependence theory works
· Explain the components of the investment model
· Describe John Gottman's findings about relationship maintenance
Chapter Outline
12.1 Factors in Attraction
· We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
· We Like Those Who Are Attractive
· We Like Those Who Are Similar to Us
· We Like Those We Have Equitable Relationships With
· We Like Those Who Are Hard to Get
12.2 Need to Belong
· Social Bonds
· Deprivation
12.3 Love
· Types of Love
· Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love
12.4 Relationship Maintenance
12.5 When Relationships End
Chapter Summary
* * *
Around 2 million Americans marry each year, with other couples entering into long-term commitments with a partner orbeginning cohabitation (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2013; Copen, Daniels, Vespa, & Mosher, 2012). According tothe U.S. Census Bureau (2010), the average household size was 2.59 in 2010. When it comes to other close relationships, mostadults in the United States report that they have around nine close friends (Brewer & Webster, 1999; Carroll, 2004). Themajority of people say they have at least one close friend, with fewer than 2% of U.S. residents reporting no close friends. Forthose who use the social networking site Facebook, the average friend count is 303, though such counts may be artificiallyinflated by a few users who have a very large number of friends. Younger Facebook users tend to have more friends, with anaverage of 506 and 510 for those aged 12–17 and 18–24, respectively (Marketing Charts Staff, 2013). Seeking out, forming, andmaintaining relationships seem to be major activities among human beings. Who do we tend to form friendships with? Whowill become our romantic partners? In this chapter, we explore attraction, the need for social connections, love, andmaintaining relationships.
12.1 Factors in Attraction
Many of us meet a variety of people each day. Some we become friends with, others remain strangers. We may begin a romanticrelationship with one person but, refuse to even date another. What attracts us to some people and not others? There are a variety offactors related to attraction.
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
Surprisingly, simple proximity, or propinquity, has a lot to .
Chapter 11
Attraction & Exclusion
Today’s Outline
Attraction
Belongingness
Similarity
Physical attractiveness
Reciprocity
Rejection
Causes of rejection
Effects of rejection
Loneliness
Attraction & Exclusion
As social animals, humans are, at their core, truly concerned with attraction and exclusion
Indeed the point of social psychology may be to understand why some are accepted and loved, while others are rejected
Take a moment to consider times in your life where you might have been afraid of romantic rejection or perhaps were seeking social acceptance with a new group of peers
Attraction & Exclusion
The need to belong is defined as the desire to form and maintain close, lasting relationships with some other individuals
Needing to belong is considered a fundamental drive or basic need of the human psyche
Warren Jones, “In two decades of studying loneliness, I have met many people who said they had no friends. I have never met any one who didn’t want to have any friends.”
Need to belong
From an evolutionary psychology perspective:
Attraction and acceptance are necessary for reproduction
Additionally, humans likely developed a herd mentality to increase our odds of survival
Consider all the ways we know our behavior changes in groups
Monkeys can recognize that any two monkeys may have an alliance, be forming one, or might be likely to fight
One theory is that the human brain developed more to keep track of a highly complex social world
Two components to belongingness
1. Regular, positive social interactions
Regular is key here, many of us have formed friendships but moved on to new situations in our life and lost regular contact with old friends
Positive is also key, hanging out with that person you always argue with doesn’t fill that social need
2. Stable relationship/friendship in which people share mutual concern for each other
Typically research has shown people want about 1-5 close friends
People are less concerned with casual friends/acquaintances
How bad for you is not belonging?
Belonging is called a need, not a want, perhaps for these reasons
Death rates from various diseases increase among people with no social connections (Lynch, 1979)
People who are alone have more mental and physical problems (Uchino, Cacioppo, & Kiecolt-Glaser, 1996)
Loneliness reduces the ability of the immune system to heal the body (Cacioppo & Hawkley, 2005)
Attraction – Similarity,
complementarity, & opposites
Which old saying turns out to be true, “Birds of a feather flock together” or “Opposites attract”
The research has pointed to birds of a feather being the clear winner
In any relationship ranging from acquaintance to lover, opposites are unlikely to stay connected in the long run
Typically, but not always, our friends are similar in age, race, education level, political leaning, economic status, etc.
Note this is kind of a bad thing too, as it can lead us to assume everyone shares the opinions of your social group
How .
Chapter 10 Interpersonal Relationship Types
This chapter focuses on specific relationship types: (1) friendship, (2) love, (3) family, and (4) workplace relationships. We establish what these are and explore how interpersonal communication within each of these relationships can be made more effective. We’ll also examine the dark side of some relationships in the final section. All of these relationships can be face-to-face or online or, as is most often the case, some combination. Online relationships have been increasing since the first online dating service was established in 1995. According to one survey, 38 percent of those who identified themselves as “single and looking” used an online dating service (Smith & Duggan, 2013). Social networking sites such as Facebook, Google+, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest; professional sites such as LinkedIn; and the dating sites such as Match.com, eHarmony, and OKCupid (and the numerous apps for your phone such as Zoosk, PlentyofFish, and HowAboutWe) make it increasingly easy and interesting to meet new friends and potential romantic partners, to keep in touch with family (websites that provide family hubs are increasing in popularity), and to conduct much of the business of work. As you’ve no doubt noticed, each type of relationship has both advantages and disadvantages. Here we need to identify just a few of these. One of the advantages to establishing relationships online (though some may say it’s a disadvantage) is that personality outweighs physical appearance. Online communication reveals people’s inner qualities first. Rapport and mutual self-disclosure become more important than physical attractiveness in promoting intimacy (Cooper & Sportolari, 1997). And contrary to some popular opinion, online relationships rely just as heavily on the ideals of trust, honesty, and commitment as do face-to-face relationships (Whitty & Gavin, 2001). Friendship and romantic interaction on the Internet are a natural boon to shut-ins and extremely shy people, for whom traditional ways of meeting others are often difficult. Computer talk is empowering for those with “physical disabilities or disfigurements,” for whom face-to-face interactions are often superficial and often end with withdrawal (Bull & Rumsey, 1988; Lea & Spears, 1995). By eliminating the physical cues, computer talk equalizes the interaction and doesn’t put the disfigured person, for example, at an immediate disadvantage in a society where physical attractiveness is so highly valued. Online you’re free to reveal as much or as little about your physical self as you wish, when you wish. Another obvious advantage of online relationships is that the number of people you can reach is so vast that it’s relatively easy to find someone who matches what you’re looking for. The situation is like finding a book that covers just what you need from a library of millions of volumes rather than from a collection of only several hundred or even thousands. In a ...
Feenstra, J. (2013). Social Psychology. San Diego Bridgepoint Edu.docxmglenn3
Feenstra, J. (2013). Social Psychology. San Diego: Bridgepoint Education, Inc.
Chapter 12
Attraction and Relationships
Fuse/Thinkstock
Learning Objectives
By the end of the chapter you should be able to:
· Describe how proximity, attractiveness, matching, similarity, equitability, and being "hard to get" influenceattraction
· Explain the two factors of the need to belong and how human tendencies toward social bonds, includingwhat happens when we are deprived, show the need to belong
· Explain the difference between companionate love, passionate love, and compassionate love
· Explain the difference between a communal relationship and an exchange relationship
· Explain Sternberg's triangular theory of love
· Describe how interdependence theory works
· Explain the components of the investment model
· Describe John Gottman's findings about relationship maintenance
Chapter Outline
12.1 Factors in Attraction
· We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
· We Like Those Who Are Attractive
· We Like Those Who Are Similar to Us
· We Like Those We Have Equitable Relationships With
· We Like Those Who Are Hard to Get
12.2 Need to Belong
· Social Bonds
· Deprivation
12.3 Love
· Types of Love
· Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love
12.4 Relationship Maintenance
12.5 When Relationships End
Chapter Summary
* * *
Around 2 million Americans marry each year, with other couples entering into long-term commitments with a partner orbeginning cohabitation (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2013; Copen, Daniels, Vespa, & Mosher, 2012). According tothe U.S. Census Bureau (2010), the average household size was 2.59 in 2010. When it comes to other close relationships, mostadults in the United States report that they have around nine close friends (Brewer & Webster, 1999; Carroll, 2004). Themajority of people say they have at least one close friend, with fewer than 2% of U.S. residents reporting no close friends. Forthose who use the social networking site Facebook, the average friend count is 303, though such counts may be artificiallyinflated by a few users who have a very large number of friends. Younger Facebook users tend to have more friends, with anaverage of 506 and 510 for those aged 12–17 and 18–24, respectively (Marketing Charts Staff, 2013). Seeking out, forming, andmaintaining relationships seem to be major activities among human beings. Who do we tend to form friendships with? Whowill become our romantic partners? In this chapter, we explore attraction, the need for social connections, love, andmaintaining relationships.
Many of us meet a variety of people each day. Some we become friends with, others remain strangers. We may begin a romanticrelationship with one person but, refuse to even date another. What attracts us to some people and not others? There are a variety offactors related to attraction.
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
Surprisingly, simple proximity, or propinquity, has a lot to do with who we meet and become friends with. Fir.
FuseThinkstockLearning Objectives By the end of the c.docxbudbarber38650
Fuse/Thinkstock
Learning Objectives
By the end of the chapter you should be
able to:
• Describe how proximity, attractiveness, matching,
similarity, equitability, and being “hard to get”
influence attraction
• Explain the two factors of the need to belong
and how human tendencies toward social bonds,
including what happens when we are deprived,
show the need to belong
• Explain the difference between companionate
love, passionate love, and compassionate love
• Explain the difference between a communal
relationship and an exchange relationship
Attraction and Relationships 12
Chapter Outline
12.1 Factors in Attraction
• We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
• We Like Those Who Are Attractive
• We Like Those Who Are Similar to Us
• We Like Those We Have Equitable
Relationships With
• We Like Those Who Are Hard to Get
12.2 Need to Belong
• Social Bonds
• Deprivation
12.3 Love
• Types of Love
• Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
12.4 Relationship Maintenance
12.5 When Relationships End
Chapter Summary
• Explain Sternberg’s triangular theory of love
• Describe how interdependence theory works
• Explain the components of the investment model
• Describe John Gottman’s findings about relationship maintenance
fee85798_12_c12_257-282.indd 257 7/16/13 9:47 AM
CHAPTER 12Section 12.1 Factors in Attraction
Around 2 million Americans marry each year, with other couples entering into
long-term commitments with a partner or beginning cohabitation (Centers for
Disease Control and Prevention, 2013; Copen, Daniels, Vespa, & Mosher, 2012).
According to the U.S. Census Bureau (2010), the average household size was 2.59
in 2010. When it comes to other close relationships, most adults in the United
States report that they have around nine close friends (Brewer & Webster, 1999;
Carroll, 2004). The majority of people say they have at least one close friend, with
fewer than 2% of U.S. residents reporting no close friends. For those who use
the social networking site Facebook, the average friend count is 303, though such
counts may be artificially inflated by a few users who have a very large number
of friends. Younger Facebook users tend to have more friends, with an average
of 506 and 510 for those aged 12–17 and 18–24, respectively (Marketing Charts
Staff, 2013). Seeking out, forming, and maintaining relationships seem to be major
activities among human beings. Who do we tend to form friendships with? Who
will become our romantic partners? In this chapter, we explore attraction, the need
for social connections, love, and maintaining relationships.
12.1 Factors in Attraction
Many of us meet a variety of people each day. Some we become friends with, oth-ers remain strangers. We may begin a romantic relationship with one person but, refuse to even date another. What attracts us to some people and not others?
There are a variety of factors related to attraction.
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
Surprising.
Feenstra, J. (2013). Social Psychology. San Diego Bridgepoint.docxmglenn3
Feenstra, J. (2013). Social Psychology. San Diego: Bridgepoint Education, Inc. ISBN: 978-1-62178-578-1
Chapter 12
Attraction and Relationships
Fuse/Thinkstock
Learning Objectives
By the end of the chapter you should be able to:
· Describe how proximity, attractiveness, matching, similarity, equitability, and being "hard to get" influenceattraction
· Explain the two factors of the need to belong and how human tendencies toward social bonds, includingwhat happens when we are deprived, show the need to belong
· Explain the difference between companionate love, passionate love, and compassionate love
· Explain the difference between a communal relationship and an exchange relationship
· Explain Sternberg's triangular theory of love
· Describe how interdependence theory works
· Explain the components of the investment model
· Describe John Gottman's findings about relationship maintenance
Chapter Outline
12.1 Factors in Attraction
· We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
· We Like Those Who Are Attractive
· We Like Those Who Are Similar to Us
· We Like Those We Have Equitable Relationships With
· We Like Those Who Are Hard to Get
12.2 Need to Belong
· Social Bonds
· Deprivation
12.3 Love
· Types of Love
· Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love
12.4 Relationship Maintenance
12.5 When Relationships End
Chapter Summary
* * *
Around 2 million Americans marry each year, with other couples entering into long-term commitments with a partner orbeginning cohabitation (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2013; Copen, Daniels, Vespa, & Mosher, 2012). According tothe U.S. Census Bureau (2010), the average household size was 2.59 in 2010. When it comes to other close relationships, mostadults in the United States report that they have around nine close friends (Brewer & Webster, 1999; Carroll, 2004). Themajority of people say they have at least one close friend, with fewer than 2% of U.S. residents reporting no close friends. Forthose who use the social networking site Facebook, the average friend count is 303, though such counts may be artificiallyinflated by a few users who have a very large number of friends. Younger Facebook users tend to have more friends, with anaverage of 506 and 510 for those aged 12–17 and 18–24, respectively (Marketing Charts Staff, 2013). Seeking out, forming, andmaintaining relationships seem to be major activities among human beings. Who do we tend to form friendships with? Whowill become our romantic partners? In this chapter, we explore attraction, the need for social connections, love, andmaintaining relationships.
12.1 Factors in Attraction
Many of us meet a variety of people each day. Some we become friends with, others remain strangers. We may begin a romanticrelationship with one person but, refuse to even date another. What attracts us to some people and not others? There are a variety offactors related to attraction.
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
Surprisingly, simple proximity, or propinquity, has a lot to .
Chapter 11
Attraction & Exclusion
Today’s Outline
Attraction
Belongingness
Similarity
Physical attractiveness
Reciprocity
Rejection
Causes of rejection
Effects of rejection
Loneliness
Attraction & Exclusion
As social animals, humans are, at their core, truly concerned with attraction and exclusion
Indeed the point of social psychology may be to understand why some are accepted and loved, while others are rejected
Take a moment to consider times in your life where you might have been afraid of romantic rejection or perhaps were seeking social acceptance with a new group of peers
Attraction & Exclusion
The need to belong is defined as the desire to form and maintain close, lasting relationships with some other individuals
Needing to belong is considered a fundamental drive or basic need of the human psyche
Warren Jones, “In two decades of studying loneliness, I have met many people who said they had no friends. I have never met any one who didn’t want to have any friends.”
Need to belong
From an evolutionary psychology perspective:
Attraction and acceptance are necessary for reproduction
Additionally, humans likely developed a herd mentality to increase our odds of survival
Consider all the ways we know our behavior changes in groups
Monkeys can recognize that any two monkeys may have an alliance, be forming one, or might be likely to fight
One theory is that the human brain developed more to keep track of a highly complex social world
Two components to belongingness
1. Regular, positive social interactions
Regular is key here, many of us have formed friendships but moved on to new situations in our life and lost regular contact with old friends
Positive is also key, hanging out with that person you always argue with doesn’t fill that social need
2. Stable relationship/friendship in which people share mutual concern for each other
Typically research has shown people want about 1-5 close friends
People are less concerned with casual friends/acquaintances
How bad for you is not belonging?
Belonging is called a need, not a want, perhaps for these reasons
Death rates from various diseases increase among people with no social connections (Lynch, 1979)
People who are alone have more mental and physical problems (Uchino, Cacioppo, & Kiecolt-Glaser, 1996)
Loneliness reduces the ability of the immune system to heal the body (Cacioppo & Hawkley, 2005)
Attraction – Similarity,
complementarity, & opposites
Which old saying turns out to be true, “Birds of a feather flock together” or “Opposites attract”
The research has pointed to birds of a feather being the clear winner
In any relationship ranging from acquaintance to lover, opposites are unlikely to stay connected in the long run
Typically, but not always, our friends are similar in age, race, education level, political leaning, economic status, etc.
Note this is kind of a bad thing too, as it can lead us to assume everyone shares the opinions of your social group
How .
Chapter 10 Interpersonal Relationship Types
This chapter focuses on specific relationship types: (1) friendship, (2) love, (3) family, and (4) workplace relationships. We establish what these are and explore how interpersonal communication within each of these relationships can be made more effective. We’ll also examine the dark side of some relationships in the final section. All of these relationships can be face-to-face or online or, as is most often the case, some combination. Online relationships have been increasing since the first online dating service was established in 1995. According to one survey, 38 percent of those who identified themselves as “single and looking” used an online dating service (Smith & Duggan, 2013). Social networking sites such as Facebook, Google+, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest; professional sites such as LinkedIn; and the dating sites such as Match.com, eHarmony, and OKCupid (and the numerous apps for your phone such as Zoosk, PlentyofFish, and HowAboutWe) make it increasingly easy and interesting to meet new friends and potential romantic partners, to keep in touch with family (websites that provide family hubs are increasing in popularity), and to conduct much of the business of work. As you’ve no doubt noticed, each type of relationship has both advantages and disadvantages. Here we need to identify just a few of these. One of the advantages to establishing relationships online (though some may say it’s a disadvantage) is that personality outweighs physical appearance. Online communication reveals people’s inner qualities first. Rapport and mutual self-disclosure become more important than physical attractiveness in promoting intimacy (Cooper & Sportolari, 1997). And contrary to some popular opinion, online relationships rely just as heavily on the ideals of trust, honesty, and commitment as do face-to-face relationships (Whitty & Gavin, 2001). Friendship and romantic interaction on the Internet are a natural boon to shut-ins and extremely shy people, for whom traditional ways of meeting others are often difficult. Computer talk is empowering for those with “physical disabilities or disfigurements,” for whom face-to-face interactions are often superficial and often end with withdrawal (Bull & Rumsey, 1988; Lea & Spears, 1995). By eliminating the physical cues, computer talk equalizes the interaction and doesn’t put the disfigured person, for example, at an immediate disadvantage in a society where physical attractiveness is so highly valued. Online you’re free to reveal as much or as little about your physical self as you wish, when you wish. Another obvious advantage of online relationships is that the number of people you can reach is so vast that it’s relatively easy to find someone who matches what you’re looking for. The situation is like finding a book that covers just what you need from a library of millions of volumes rather than from a collection of only several hundred or even thousands. In a ...
Unit Three Interpersonal Communication in ActionEric L. Mor.docxlillie234567
Unit Three: Interpersonal Communication in Action
Eric L. Morgan and Greg G. Armfield
What Is Interpersonal Communication?
Communication between a customer and a salesperson, a doctor and a patient, a mother and a daughter, two partners who are in a fight, two partners who are in love, two friends talking on a park bench who join in conversation with a third friend who stops by and sits down, an e-mail from a soldier to his girlfriend. All these scenarios are examples of interpersonal communication. Scholar Brant Burleson (2010) defines
interpersonal communication
as “a complex, situated social process in which people who have established a communicative relationship exchange messages in an effort to generate shared meanings and accomplish social goals” (p. 151). Burleson (2010) further explains that people form a communicative relationship when “the recipient recognizes the source’s intention to convey an internal state, and the source recognizes the recipient’s intention to interpret” (p. 152).
Burleson’s definition of interpersonal communication has several implications. First, Burleson’s definition is different than traditional definitions in that it does not limit interpersonal communication to that which occurs in a face-to-face relationship or a dyadic context where only two people are present. For example, interpersonal communication still occurs over e-mail and phone, and even the presence of other people does not halt interpersonal communication. Second, interpersonal communication is not always effective. In other words, communicators do not always have shared understanding about the intentions and interpretations of messages. This is what makes the study of interpersonal communication so fascinating. Interpersonal scholars are often interested in studying relationships, not because the communication is so good and harmonious but rather to gain an understanding of a problematic issue in a relationship. To learn more about these problems, scholars can focus their study on certain communication episodes such as conflicts, support messages, influence attempts, or expressions of affection. Third, to be in a communicative relationship does not require that one is in a close, intimate relationship. Interpersonal communication can include the study of public, short-term relationships where the interactants do not know each other well (e.g., a grocery clerk and a customer). However, interpersonal scholars have devoted extraordinary time to studying how people communicate in close, intimate relationships given that such relationships impact our well-being so deeply.
The goal of this chapter is to explore interpersonal communication scholarship in just one type of relationship—the development and maintenance of romantic relationships. Anthropologists and evolutionary psychologists argue that humans have a fundamental need for social connection and are compelled to form romantic pair bonds (Fisher, 1992; Schmitt, 2008). Th.
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14.1
Love
Sitting in the train station, you hear the woman next to you say "I love you" to her husband before hanging up the phone. Someone sitting across from you exclaims "I love donuts" when her friend brings her one to eat. A mother tells her child she loves him. "Love" is a word with a multitude of meanings. To say you love your mother is different from saying you love your shoes or you love your romantic partner or you love chocolate donuts. When Fehr and Russell (1991) asked college students to list all the kinds of love they could up with, the students were able to list 216 different kinds of love. Puppy love, brotherly love, romantic love, and maternal love are all different types.
To further investigate our conception of love, Meyers and Berscheid (1997) asked people to write down the initials of everyone they loved, everyone they were in love with, and everyone they felt a sexual attraction or desire for. After sorting out where the lists overlapped, the researchers found that the love list was long. We love a lot of people. Most people who were on the in love list were also on the love list (93% of the in love list were on the love list). The love list contained a number of people that were not on the in love list (23% of the love list were on the in love list). This suggests that when we talk about being in love we are talking about something similar to love but more selective in some way. It was the last list that helps us sort out how in love differs from love. Many of the people on the in love lists were also on the sexual attraction or desire for list (87% of the in love list were also on the sexual attraction list). This suggests that when we say we are in love, we are describing a type of love that includes a sexual or desire component.
Three Types of Love
One way we might break down love is to put it into a few categories, two of these roughly analogous to the love versus in love dimensions above. One type of love is the affection we hold for friends and family, what some researchers have deemed companionate love. Companionate love is characterized by deep caring for another person, comfort and trust, and enjoyment of shared experiences (Berscheid, 2010). Marriages characterized by companionate love tend to be lasting and satisfying (Gottman, 1999). The importance of companionate love may be surprising to some, as a more passionate type of love is often expected and striven for in marriage, but researchers find that a more romantic view of love does not do as good of a job of predicting well-being within a marriage (Orbuch, Veroff, & Holmberg, 1993; Grote & Frieze, 1994) or general well-being (Kim & Hatfield, 2004). Companionate love does a better job of predicting well-being in these situations.
Passionate love would describe the in love type of love from above. Passionate love involves intense emotional arousal and physical attraction (Fehr, 1994; Regan, 1998). This strong desire for another person may be the draw into.
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Examine how nature is discussed throughout The Open Boat.” Loo.docxcravennichole326
Examine how nature is discussed throughout “The Open Boat.” Look at the literary critical piece by Anthony Channell Hilfer. Once you have established your own ideas, consider how Hilfer discusses nature in the short story and analyze the following questions: What does nature mean to the men aboard the boat? or Do their perceptions of nature shift throughout the story? Why or why not?
Do their perceptions of nature shift throughout the story? Why or why not?
Write down a loose response about what I think of the question and what I remember of the story.
ICE method.
I introduce the citation
C the citation itself
E explain its meaning to your argument.
The scenes shift with no discernable rhyme or reason. Crane invites every reader in. Critic Anthony Channell Hilfer disagrees with point, saying, “Crane’s image is an accusation of the putative picturesque spectators” (Hilfer 254). Hilfer’s challenge goes against what Crane is trying to do, by making nature a copilot through the reading.
3. Nature as Protagonist in “The Open Boat”
Anthony Channell Hilfer
Texas Studies in Literature and Language, Volume 54, Number 2, Summer
2012, pp. 248-257 (Article)
Published by University of Texas Press
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3. Nature as Protagonist in “The Open Boat”
The bottom of the sea is cruel.
—Hart Crane, “Voyages”
As many critics have argued, questions of perspective and epistemology are
central to Stephen Crane’s “The Open Boat” (Kent; Hutchinson). The story’s
first sentence famously clues us to this: “None of them knew the color of
the sky” (68). But behind the uncertainties of perspective is a determinable
ontology, a presence, or rather, I shall argue, a sort of presence, the existence
of which implies a rectified aesthetic response. This response emerges, how-
ever, from negations, denials, and occultations: what is not seen, who is not
there, and what does not happen.3 Here again, when we look at nature we
behold things that are not there and miss “the nothing that is.”
Fully as much as Stevens in “The Snow Man,” Crane is concerned
with certain conventions of representation: personification, the pictur-
esque, the American sublime, and the melodramatic, which although it
does not inform “The Snow Man” is played on in Stevens’s “The Ameri-
can Sublime.” Crane’s story is intertextual with nature poetry, sentimental
poetry, hymns, and landscape art, as well as with Darwinism, theological
clichés, and, less obviously, theological actualities. For the most part these
conventions add up to what the Stevens poem declares is “not there.” To
get to “the nothing that is” we must first traverse this ocean of error. Doing
so helps keep our p.
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Examine
"All Children Can Learn"
. Then, search the web for effective, evidence-based differentiated strategies that are engaging, motivating, and address the needs of individual learners.
First, provide five evidence-based strategies:
Two instructional strategies (i.e., graphic organizers),
Two instructional tools (e.g., technology tool, device or iPad App, Web Quests, etc.),
One activity (e.g., Think-Pair-Share).
Second, for the two instructional strategies you listed explain how you can alter each to address the classroom needs you designed in Weeks One and Two and how the modification is relevant to the theory of differentiation.
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Examine each of these items, which are available on the internet:
1) for music, listen to the first movement of J.S. Bach's MAGNIFICAT; this is the High Baroque era. If you can find a performance with Sir John Eliot Gardiner and his Monteverdi Choir and the English Baroque soloists, go for it.
2) For art, find Giovanni Bellini's ST. FRANCIS IN THE DESERT; you might want to read up on the background of this wonderful painting. Not only St. Francis, but what else do you notice i the painting?
3) For architecture, look at the church at Melk Abbey, Austria; BE SURE to look at the interior shots. Again,
this is high Baroque--but in post-Reformation Catholicism, it had a political aim, too; can you figure it out?
After you have analyzed these, telling what you think the artists/musicians valued and were trying to express, tell me what
YOU think about them! Remember, if you read up on these items, LIST THE WORKS YOU CONSULTED! That way, you avoid plagiarism.
write a 1-page paper on each of these three, telling 1) where they found this value, 2) why it was important “back then,” and 3) is it still around today.
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Examine a web browser interface and describe the various forms .docxcravennichole326
Examine a web browser interface and describe the various forms of analogy and composite interface metaphors that have been used in its design. What familiar knowledge has been combined with new functionality? need a couple of paragraphs.. and one reference
need this in the next 4 hours..
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Examine a scenario that includes an inter-group conflict. In this sc.docxcravennichole326
Examine a scenario that includes an inter-group conflict. In this scenario, you are recognized as an authority in cross-cultural psychology and asked to serve as a consultant to help resolve the conflict. You will be asked to write up your recommendations in a 6-page paper not including your title and reference page.
Darley, J.M. & Latané, B. (1968). Bystander interview in emergencies: Diffusion of responsibility.
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 8
(4), 377-383.
Scenario: Culture, Psychology, and Community
Imagine an international organization has approached you to help resolve an inter-group conflict. You are an authority in cross-cultural psychology and have been asked to serve as a consultant based on a recent violent conflict involving a refugee community in your town and a local community organization. In the days, weeks, and months leading up to the violent conflict, there were incidents of discrimination and debates regarding the different views and practices people held about work, family, schools, and religious practice. Among the controversies has been the role of women’s participation in political, educational, and community groups
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Part 1: Developing an Understanding
(2 pages)
Based on the scenario, explain how you can help integrate the two diverse communities so that there is increased understanding and appreciation of each group by the other group. (
Note
: Make sure to include in your explanation the different views and practices of cultural groups as well as the role of women.)
Based on your knowledge of culture and psychology, provide three possible suggestions/solutions that will help the community as a whole. In your suggestions make sure to include an explanation regarding group think and individualism vs. collectivism.
Part 2: Socio-Emotional, Cognitive, and Behavioral Aspects
(2 pages)
Based on your explanations in Part 1, how do your suggestions/solutions impact the socio-emotional, cognitive, and behavior aspects of the scenario and why?
Part 3: Gender, Cultural Values and Dimensions, and Group Dynamics
(2 pages)
Explain the impact of gender, cultural values and dimensions, and group dynamics in the scenario.
Further explain any implications that may arise from when working between and within groups.
Support your Assignment by citing all resources in APA style, including those in the Learning Resources.
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Examine a current law, or a bill proposing a law, that has to do with technology and criminal activity. The law can be at the state or federal level. Identify the law or bill, where it comes from, and its purpose or intent. Next, identify positive outcomes if the law is successful. Finally, identify at least two unintended consequences that the law could bring about. . . DUE 4/18, 2021
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Exam IT 505Multiple Choice (20 questions , 2 points each)Pleas.docxcravennichole326
Exam IT 505
Multiple Choice (20 questions , 2 points each)
Please Submit a word document of your exam. Please DO NOT repeat the questions. Only submit your answers for example 1.A, 2. B……Ect
1. Which of the following is NOT one of the typical characteristics of back-end networks?
A. high data rate B. high-speed interface
C. distributed access D. extended distance
2. Problems with using a single Local Area Network (LAN) to interconnect devices
on a premise include:
A. insufficient reliability, limited capacity, and inappropriate network
interconnection devices
B. insufficient reliability, limited capacity, and limited distances
C. insufficient reliability, limited distances, and inappropriate network
interconnection devices
D. limited distances, limited capacity, and inappropriate network
interconnection devices
3. Which of following is NOT one of the designs that determines data rate and
distance?
A. the number of senders B. the number of receivers
C. transmission impairment D. bandwidth
4. The fact that signal strength falls off with distance is called ________________.
A. bandwidth B. attenuation
C. resistance D. propagation
5. Which of the following is NOT one of the distinguishing characteristics for optical
fiber cables compared with twisted pair or coaxial cables?
A. greater capacity B. lower attenuation
C. electromagnetic isolation D. heavier weight
6.________ is a set of function and call programs that allow clients and servers to intercommunicate.
A. IaaS B. SQL C. API D. Middleware
7. A computer that houses information for manipulation by networked clients is a __________.
A. server B. minicomputer C. PaaS D. broker
8. ________ is software that improves connectivity between a client application and a server.
A. SQL B. API C. Middleware D. SAP
9. The inability of frame relay to do hop by hop error control is offset by:
A. its gigabit speeds B. its high overhead
C. the extensive use of in-band signaling D. the increasing reliability of networks
10. All Frame Relay nodes contain which of the following protocols?
A. LAPB B. LAPD
C. LAPF Core D. LAPF Control
11. The technique employed by Frame Relay is called __________.
A. inband signaling B. outband signaling
C. common channel signaling D. open shortest path first routing
12. In ATM, the basic transmission unit is the ________.
A. frame B. cell
C. packet D. segment
13. When using ATM, which of the following is NOT one of the advantages for the
use of virtual paths?
A. less work is needed to set a virtual path
B. the network architecture is simplified
C.
EXAM
Estructura 8.1 - Miniprueba A
Verbos
Complete the chart with the correct verb forms.
infinitivo
seguir
(1) [removed]
yo
(2) [removed]
morí
tú
seguiste
(3) [removed]
nosotras
seguimos
(4) [removed]
ellos
(5) [removed]
murieron
Completar
Fill in the blanks with the correct preterite forms of the verbs in parentheses.
Diego y Javier [removed] (conseguir) un mapa.
Esta mañana usted [removed] (despedirse) de los estudiantes.
Tú [removed] (sentirse) mal ayer.
La semana pasada yo no [removed] (dormir) bien.
Amparo [removed] (preferir) comer en casa.
Oraciones
Write sentences using the information provided. Use the preterite and make any necessary changes.
Modelo
Edgar / preferir / pollo asado
Edgar prefirió el pollo asado.
Álvaro y yo / servir / los entremeses
[removed]
¿quién / repetir / las instrucciones?
[removed]
ayer / yo / despedirse / de / mis sobrinos
[removed]
ustedes / dormirse / a las diez
[removed]
La cena
Fill in the blanks with the preterite form of the appropriate verbs from the list. Four verbs will not be used.
abrir
conseguir
escoger
leer
mirar
pedir
preferir
probar
repetir
sentirse
servir
vestirse
Anoche Jorge, Iván y yo salimos a cenar a Mi Tierra, un restaurante guatemalteco. Nosotros
(1) [removed]
este lugar porque Jorge
(2) [removed]
una reseña (
review
) en Internet que decía (
said
) que la comida es auténtica y muy sabrosa. No es un restaurante elegante; entonces nosotros
(3) [removed]
de bluejeans. De verdad, en Mi Tierra mis amigos y yo
(4) [removed]
como (
like
) en casa. El camarero que nos
(5) [removed]
fue muy amable. Para empezar, Jorge e Iván
(6) [removed]
tamales, pero yo
(7) [removed]
esperar el plato principal: carne de res con arroz y frijoles. Comimos tanto (
so much
) que no
(8) [removed]
nada de postre (
dessert
). ¡Fue una cena deliciosa!
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Examine current practice guidelines related to suicide screeni.docxcravennichole326
Examine current practice guidelines related to suicide screening and prevention and how they could pertain to John.
Choose two of the following questions to answer as part of your initial post.
What events in John's life created a "downward spiral" into homelessness and hopelessness? Which events were related to social needs, mental health needs, and medical needs, and which could health care have addressed?
What were some of the barriers John faced in accessing medical care and mental health care?
How does homelessness and mental illness intersect? Do you believe homelessness may develop because of a mental health issue, or do you believe those who become homeless eventually sink into psychological despair?
The tipping point for many people who live at the margins of society may be things that could have been managed given the right support. How can your role as an APRN help identify, alleviate, or support those who are in need like John?
In your own experience, have you encountered a homeless individual? What was that like? Do you recall what you were thinking?
Please include at least three scholarly sources within your initial post.
Rubric:
Discussion Question Rubric
Note:
Scholarly resources are defined as evidence-based practice, peer-reviewed journals; textbook (do not rely solely on your textbook as a reference); and National Standard Guidelines. Review assignment instructions, as this will provide any additional requirements that are not specifically listed on the rubric.
Discussion Question Rubric – 100 PointsCriteriaExemplary
Exceeds ExpectationsAdvanced
Meets ExpectationsIntermediate
Needs ImprovementNovice
InadequateTotal PointsQuality of Initial PostProvides clear examples supported by course content and references.
Cites three or more references, using at least one new scholarly resource that was not provided in the course materials.
All instruction requirements noted.
40 points
Components are accurate and thoroughly represented, with explanations and application of knowledge to include evidence-based practice, ethics, theory, and/or role. Synthesizes course content using course materials and scholarly resources to support importantpoints.
Meets all requirements within the discussion instructions.
Cites two references.
35 points
Components are accurate and mostly represented primarily with definitions and summarization. Ideas may be overstated, with minimal contribution to the subject matter. Minimal application to evidence-based practice, theory, or role development. Synthesis of course content is present but missing depth and/or development.
Is missing one component/requirement of the discussion instructions.
Cites one reference, or references do not clearly support content.
Most instruction requirements are noted.
31 points
Absent application to evidence-based practice, theory, or role development. Synthesis of course content is superficial.
Demonstrates incomplete understandin.
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Examine Case Study: Pakistani Woman with Delusional Thought Processes.
You will be asked to make three decisions concerning the medication to prescribe to this client. Be sure to consider factors that might impact the client’s pharmacokinetic and pharmacodynamic processes.
At each decision point stop to complete the following:
Decision #1
Which decision did you select?
Why did you select this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
What were you hoping to achieve by making this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
Explain any difference between what you expected to achieve with Decision #1 and the results of the decision. Why were they different?
Decision #2
Why did you select this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
What were you hoping to achieve by making this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
Explain any difference between what you expected to achieve with Decision #2 and the results of the decision. Why were they different?
Decision #3
Why did you select this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
What were you hoping to achieve by making this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
Explain any difference between what you expected to achieve with Decision #3 and the results of the decision. Why were they different?
Also include how ethical considerations might impact your treatment plan and communication with clients.
BACKGROUND
The client is a 34-year-old Pakistani female who moved to the United States in her late teens/early 20s. She is currently in an “arranged” marriage (her husband was selected for her since she was 9 years old). She presents to your office today following a 21 day hospitalization for what was diagnosed as “brief psychotic disorder.” She was given this diagnosis as her symptoms have persisted for less than 1 month.
Prior to admission, she was reporting visions of Allah, and over the course of a week, she believed that she was the prophet Mohammad. She believed that she would deliver the world from sin. Her husband became concerned about her behavior to the point that he was afraid of leaving their 4 children with her. One evening, she was “out of control” which resulted in his calling the police and her subsequent admission to an inpatient psych unit.
During today’s assessment, she appears quite calm, and insists that the entire incident was “blown out of proportion.” She denies that she believed herself to be the prophet Mohammad and states that her husband was just out to get her because he never loved her and wanted an “American wife” instead of her. She tells you that she knows this because the television is telling her so.
She currently weighs .
Examination of Modern LeadershipModule 1 Leadership History, F.docxcravennichole326
Examination of Modern Leadership
Module 1: Leadership: History, Fundamentals, and the Modern Context
Module 1 content establishes the context for the entire course dedicated to the examination of modern and postmodern leadership. The introduction of critical theory and its use in ORG561 provides a framework for investigation. The context of social, economic, political, and technological environments informs an exploration of modern and postmodern leadership approaches. Emphasis on leader self-awareness sets the stage for reflection, introspection, and personal leadership development.
Learning Outcomes
1. Compare and contrast historical leadership concepts against modern and postmodern organization needs.
2. Analyze leadership approaches using a critical framework.
3. Construct a personal leadership biography.
For Your Success & Readings
A key to success in ORG561 is to start early, build, reflect, reinforce, build, reflect, and reinforce.
Begin each week’s study by reading and comprehending the learning outcomes. Learning outcomes are always revealed in assignments, discussions, and lectures. Likewise, learning outcomes are reflected in rubrics, which are used as objective measures for scoring and grading. Establish the learning outcomes as your checklist for success.
In Module 1 criticaltheory is introduced through the readings, lecture, discussion, and Critical Thinking Assignment. The critical approach provides new frameworks on which to research leadership. You may not be familiar with critical inquiry, so seize the opportunity to advance your analytic skills. You are expected to use one or more critical frames in each module of this course. Take the time this week to fully understand the reasoning and context of critical theory.
Studying the history of leadership requires reading publications from earlier eras. Notice that some of the required and recommended readings for Module 1 are not current publications, but these contribute to understanding the earlier periods of organization and leadership study.
Postmodern leadership literature expounds on the notion that self-awareness is a critical component required to lead. In ORG561, the thread of self-examination is woven throughout the course. You will have opportunities to move beyond reflection to develop a better understanding of personal assumptions and biases, skills and competencies, and professional development plans, all related to leadership. Embrace the opportunity!
Required
· Introduction and Chapters 1 & 2 in Leadership: A Critical Text
· Axley, S. R. (1990). The practical qualities of effective leaders. Industrial Management, 32(5), 29-31.
· Brocato, B., Jelen, J., Schmidt, T., & Gold, S. (2011). Leadership conceptual ambiguities.Journal of Leadership Studies, 5(1), 35-50. doi:10.1002/jls.20203
· Gandolfi, F., & Stone, S. (2016). Clarifying leadership: High-impact leaders in a time of leadership crisis. Revista De Management Comparat International, 17(3), 212-224.
· Blom, M. .
Examine current international OB issues that challenge organizat.docxcravennichole326
Examine current international OB issues that challenge organizational leaders to resolve critical issues involving cross-cultural communication, negotiation, leadership, motivation, decision-making, among others.
(1) identify the key organizational behavior issues facing management,
(2) what impact the international environment has on these issues,
(3) strategies management should use to overcome these issues,
(4) how these strategies will impact the overall organizational operations, and
(5) identify the potential costs and risks to the organizations of implementing the newly developed strategies.
Offer a set of recommendations, which must be derived from both data and theory. Teams must include aspects of global leadership, global motivation and global team-management in their work.
APA format, Times New Roman (12), 20-25 pages, No plagiarism.
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as “a complex, situated social process in which people who have established a communicative relationship exchange messages in an effort to generate shared meanings and accomplish social goals” (p. 151). Burleson (2010) further explains that people form a communicative relationship when “the recipient recognizes the source’s intention to convey an internal state, and the source recognizes the recipient’s intention to interpret” (p. 152).
Burleson’s definition of interpersonal communication has several implications. First, Burleson’s definition is different than traditional definitions in that it does not limit interpersonal communication to that which occurs in a face-to-face relationship or a dyadic context where only two people are present. For example, interpersonal communication still occurs over e-mail and phone, and even the presence of other people does not halt interpersonal communication. Second, interpersonal communication is not always effective. In other words, communicators do not always have shared understanding about the intentions and interpretations of messages. This is what makes the study of interpersonal communication so fascinating. Interpersonal scholars are often interested in studying relationships, not because the communication is so good and harmonious but rather to gain an understanding of a problematic issue in a relationship. To learn more about these problems, scholars can focus their study on certain communication episodes such as conflicts, support messages, influence attempts, or expressions of affection. Third, to be in a communicative relationship does not require that one is in a close, intimate relationship. Interpersonal communication can include the study of public, short-term relationships where the interactants do not know each other well (e.g., a grocery clerk and a customer). However, interpersonal scholars have devoted extraordinary time to studying how people communicate in close, intimate relationships given that such relationships impact our well-being so deeply.
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14.1
Love
Sitting in the train station, you hear the woman next to you say "I love you" to her husband before hanging up the phone. Someone sitting across from you exclaims "I love donuts" when her friend brings her one to eat. A mother tells her child she loves him. "Love" is a word with a multitude of meanings. To say you love your mother is different from saying you love your shoes or you love your romantic partner or you love chocolate donuts. When Fehr and Russell (1991) asked college students to list all the kinds of love they could up with, the students were able to list 216 different kinds of love. Puppy love, brotherly love, romantic love, and maternal love are all different types.
To further investigate our conception of love, Meyers and Berscheid (1997) asked people to write down the initials of everyone they loved, everyone they were in love with, and everyone they felt a sexual attraction or desire for. After sorting out where the lists overlapped, the researchers found that the love list was long. We love a lot of people. Most people who were on the in love list were also on the love list (93% of the in love list were on the love list). The love list contained a number of people that were not on the in love list (23% of the love list were on the in love list). This suggests that when we talk about being in love we are talking about something similar to love but more selective in some way. It was the last list that helps us sort out how in love differs from love. Many of the people on the in love lists were also on the sexual attraction or desire for list (87% of the in love list were also on the sexual attraction list). This suggests that when we say we are in love, we are describing a type of love that includes a sexual or desire component.
Three Types of Love
One way we might break down love is to put it into a few categories, two of these roughly analogous to the love versus in love dimensions above. One type of love is the affection we hold for friends and family, what some researchers have deemed companionate love. Companionate love is characterized by deep caring for another person, comfort and trust, and enjoyment of shared experiences (Berscheid, 2010). Marriages characterized by companionate love tend to be lasting and satisfying (Gottman, 1999). The importance of companionate love may be surprising to some, as a more passionate type of love is often expected and striven for in marriage, but researchers find that a more romantic view of love does not do as good of a job of predicting well-being within a marriage (Orbuch, Veroff, & Holmberg, 1993; Grote & Frieze, 1994) or general well-being (Kim & Hatfield, 2004). Companionate love does a better job of predicting well-being in these situations.
Passionate love would describe the in love type of love from above. Passionate love involves intense emotional arousal and physical attraction (Fehr, 1994; Regan, 1998). This strong desire for another person may be the draw into.
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Examine how nature is discussed throughout The Open Boat.” Loo.docxcravennichole326
Examine how nature is discussed throughout “The Open Boat.” Look at the literary critical piece by Anthony Channell Hilfer. Once you have established your own ideas, consider how Hilfer discusses nature in the short story and analyze the following questions: What does nature mean to the men aboard the boat? or Do their perceptions of nature shift throughout the story? Why or why not?
Do their perceptions of nature shift throughout the story? Why or why not?
Write down a loose response about what I think of the question and what I remember of the story.
ICE method.
I introduce the citation
C the citation itself
E explain its meaning to your argument.
The scenes shift with no discernable rhyme or reason. Crane invites every reader in. Critic Anthony Channell Hilfer disagrees with point, saying, “Crane’s image is an accusation of the putative picturesque spectators” (Hilfer 254). Hilfer’s challenge goes against what Crane is trying to do, by making nature a copilot through the reading.
3. Nature as Protagonist in “The Open Boat”
Anthony Channell Hilfer
Texas Studies in Literature and Language, Volume 54, Number 2, Summer
2012, pp. 248-257 (Article)
Published by University of Texas Press
DOI:
For additional information about this article
[ Access provided at 9 Apr 2020 17:36 GMT from Marymount University & (Viva) ]
https://doi.org/10.1353/tsl.2012.0012
https://muse.jhu.edu/article/476402
https://doi.org/10.1353/tsl.2012.0012
https://muse.jhu.edu/article/476402
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3. Nature as Protagonist in “The Open Boat”
The bottom of the sea is cruel.
—Hart Crane, “Voyages”
As many critics have argued, questions of perspective and epistemology are
central to Stephen Crane’s “The Open Boat” (Kent; Hutchinson). The story’s
first sentence famously clues us to this: “None of them knew the color of
the sky” (68). But behind the uncertainties of perspective is a determinable
ontology, a presence, or rather, I shall argue, a sort of presence, the existence
of which implies a rectified aesthetic response. This response emerges, how-
ever, from negations, denials, and occultations: what is not seen, who is not
there, and what does not happen.3 Here again, when we look at nature we
behold things that are not there and miss “the nothing that is.”
Fully as much as Stevens in “The Snow Man,” Crane is concerned
with certain conventions of representation: personification, the pictur-
esque, the American sublime, and the melodramatic, which although it
does not inform “The Snow Man” is played on in Stevens’s “The Ameri-
can Sublime.” Crane’s story is intertextual with nature poetry, sentimental
poetry, hymns, and landscape art, as well as with Darwinism, theological
clichés, and, less obviously, theological actualities. For the most part these
conventions add up to what the Stevens poem declares is “not there.” To
get to “the nothing that is” we must first traverse this ocean of error. Doing
so helps keep our p.
Examine All Children Can Learn. Then, search the web for effec.docxcravennichole326
Examine
"All Children Can Learn"
. Then, search the web for effective, evidence-based differentiated strategies that are engaging, motivating, and address the needs of individual learners.
First, provide five evidence-based strategies:
Two instructional strategies (i.e., graphic organizers),
Two instructional tools (e.g., technology tool, device or iPad App, Web Quests, etc.),
One activity (e.g., Think-Pair-Share).
Second, for the two instructional strategies you listed explain how you can alter each to address the classroom needs you designed in Weeks One and Two and how the modification is relevant to the theory of differentiation.
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Examine each of these items, which are available on the internet .docxcravennichole326
Examine each of these items, which are available on the internet:
1) for music, listen to the first movement of J.S. Bach's MAGNIFICAT; this is the High Baroque era. If you can find a performance with Sir John Eliot Gardiner and his Monteverdi Choir and the English Baroque soloists, go for it.
2) For art, find Giovanni Bellini's ST. FRANCIS IN THE DESERT; you might want to read up on the background of this wonderful painting. Not only St. Francis, but what else do you notice i the painting?
3) For architecture, look at the church at Melk Abbey, Austria; BE SURE to look at the interior shots. Again,
this is high Baroque--but in post-Reformation Catholicism, it had a political aim, too; can you figure it out?
After you have analyzed these, telling what you think the artists/musicians valued and were trying to express, tell me what
YOU think about them! Remember, if you read up on these items, LIST THE WORKS YOU CONSULTED! That way, you avoid plagiarism.
write a 1-page paper on each of these three, telling 1) where they found this value, 2) why it was important “back then,” and 3) is it still around today.
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Examine a web browser interface and describe the various forms .docxcravennichole326
Examine a web browser interface and describe the various forms of analogy and composite interface metaphors that have been used in its design. What familiar knowledge has been combined with new functionality? need a couple of paragraphs.. and one reference
need this in the next 4 hours..
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Examine a scenario that includes an inter-group conflict. In this sc.docxcravennichole326
Examine a scenario that includes an inter-group conflict. In this scenario, you are recognized as an authority in cross-cultural psychology and asked to serve as a consultant to help resolve the conflict. You will be asked to write up your recommendations in a 6-page paper not including your title and reference page.
Darley, J.M. & Latané, B. (1968). Bystander interview in emergencies: Diffusion of responsibility.
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 8
(4), 377-383.
Scenario: Culture, Psychology, and Community
Imagine an international organization has approached you to help resolve an inter-group conflict. You are an authority in cross-cultural psychology and have been asked to serve as a consultant based on a recent violent conflict involving a refugee community in your town and a local community organization. In the days, weeks, and months leading up to the violent conflict, there were incidents of discrimination and debates regarding the different views and practices people held about work, family, schools, and religious practice. Among the controversies has been the role of women’s participation in political, educational, and community groups
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Part 1: Developing an Understanding
(2 pages)
Based on the scenario, explain how you can help integrate the two diverse communities so that there is increased understanding and appreciation of each group by the other group. (
Note
: Make sure to include in your explanation the different views and practices of cultural groups as well as the role of women.)
Based on your knowledge of culture and psychology, provide three possible suggestions/solutions that will help the community as a whole. In your suggestions make sure to include an explanation regarding group think and individualism vs. collectivism.
Part 2: Socio-Emotional, Cognitive, and Behavioral Aspects
(2 pages)
Based on your explanations in Part 1, how do your suggestions/solutions impact the socio-emotional, cognitive, and behavior aspects of the scenario and why?
Part 3: Gender, Cultural Values and Dimensions, and Group Dynamics
(2 pages)
Explain the impact of gender, cultural values and dimensions, and group dynamics in the scenario.
Further explain any implications that may arise from when working between and within groups.
Support your Assignment by citing all resources in APA style, including those in the Learning Resources.
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Examine a current law, or a bill proposing a law, that has to do wit.docxcravennichole326
Examine a current law, or a bill proposing a law, that has to do with technology and criminal activity. The law can be at the state or federal level. Identify the law or bill, where it comes from, and its purpose or intent. Next, identify positive outcomes if the law is successful. Finally, identify at least two unintended consequences that the law could bring about. . . DUE 4/18, 2021
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Exam IT 505Multiple Choice (20 questions , 2 points each)Pleas.docxcravennichole326
Exam IT 505
Multiple Choice (20 questions , 2 points each)
Please Submit a word document of your exam. Please DO NOT repeat the questions. Only submit your answers for example 1.A, 2. B……Ect
1. Which of the following is NOT one of the typical characteristics of back-end networks?
A. high data rate B. high-speed interface
C. distributed access D. extended distance
2. Problems with using a single Local Area Network (LAN) to interconnect devices
on a premise include:
A. insufficient reliability, limited capacity, and inappropriate network
interconnection devices
B. insufficient reliability, limited capacity, and limited distances
C. insufficient reliability, limited distances, and inappropriate network
interconnection devices
D. limited distances, limited capacity, and inappropriate network
interconnection devices
3. Which of following is NOT one of the designs that determines data rate and
distance?
A. the number of senders B. the number of receivers
C. transmission impairment D. bandwidth
4. The fact that signal strength falls off with distance is called ________________.
A. bandwidth B. attenuation
C. resistance D. propagation
5. Which of the following is NOT one of the distinguishing characteristics for optical
fiber cables compared with twisted pair or coaxial cables?
A. greater capacity B. lower attenuation
C. electromagnetic isolation D. heavier weight
6.________ is a set of function and call programs that allow clients and servers to intercommunicate.
A. IaaS B. SQL C. API D. Middleware
7. A computer that houses information for manipulation by networked clients is a __________.
A. server B. minicomputer C. PaaS D. broker
8. ________ is software that improves connectivity between a client application and a server.
A. SQL B. API C. Middleware D. SAP
9. The inability of frame relay to do hop by hop error control is offset by:
A. its gigabit speeds B. its high overhead
C. the extensive use of in-band signaling D. the increasing reliability of networks
10. All Frame Relay nodes contain which of the following protocols?
A. LAPB B. LAPD
C. LAPF Core D. LAPF Control
11. The technique employed by Frame Relay is called __________.
A. inband signaling B. outband signaling
C. common channel signaling D. open shortest path first routing
12. In ATM, the basic transmission unit is the ________.
A. frame B. cell
C. packet D. segment
13. When using ATM, which of the following is NOT one of the advantages for the
use of virtual paths?
A. less work is needed to set a virtual path
B. the network architecture is simplified
C.
EXAM
Estructura 8.1 - Miniprueba A
Verbos
Complete the chart with the correct verb forms.
infinitivo
seguir
(1) [removed]
yo
(2) [removed]
morí
tú
seguiste
(3) [removed]
nosotras
seguimos
(4) [removed]
ellos
(5) [removed]
murieron
Completar
Fill in the blanks with the correct preterite forms of the verbs in parentheses.
Diego y Javier [removed] (conseguir) un mapa.
Esta mañana usted [removed] (despedirse) de los estudiantes.
Tú [removed] (sentirse) mal ayer.
La semana pasada yo no [removed] (dormir) bien.
Amparo [removed] (preferir) comer en casa.
Oraciones
Write sentences using the information provided. Use the preterite and make any necessary changes.
Modelo
Edgar / preferir / pollo asado
Edgar prefirió el pollo asado.
Álvaro y yo / servir / los entremeses
[removed]
¿quién / repetir / las instrucciones?
[removed]
ayer / yo / despedirse / de / mis sobrinos
[removed]
ustedes / dormirse / a las diez
[removed]
La cena
Fill in the blanks with the preterite form of the appropriate verbs from the list. Four verbs will not be used.
abrir
conseguir
escoger
leer
mirar
pedir
preferir
probar
repetir
sentirse
servir
vestirse
Anoche Jorge, Iván y yo salimos a cenar a Mi Tierra, un restaurante guatemalteco. Nosotros
(1) [removed]
este lugar porque Jorge
(2) [removed]
una reseña (
review
) en Internet que decía (
said
) que la comida es auténtica y muy sabrosa. No es un restaurante elegante; entonces nosotros
(3) [removed]
de bluejeans. De verdad, en Mi Tierra mis amigos y yo
(4) [removed]
como (
like
) en casa. El camarero que nos
(5) [removed]
fue muy amable. Para empezar, Jorge e Iván
(6) [removed]
tamales, pero yo
(7) [removed]
esperar el plato principal: carne de res con arroz y frijoles. Comimos tanto (
so much
) que no
(8) [removed]
nada de postre (
dessert
). ¡Fue una cena deliciosa!
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Examine current practice guidelines related to suicide screeni.docxcravennichole326
Examine current practice guidelines related to suicide screening and prevention and how they could pertain to John.
Choose two of the following questions to answer as part of your initial post.
What events in John's life created a "downward spiral" into homelessness and hopelessness? Which events were related to social needs, mental health needs, and medical needs, and which could health care have addressed?
What were some of the barriers John faced in accessing medical care and mental health care?
How does homelessness and mental illness intersect? Do you believe homelessness may develop because of a mental health issue, or do you believe those who become homeless eventually sink into psychological despair?
The tipping point for many people who live at the margins of society may be things that could have been managed given the right support. How can your role as an APRN help identify, alleviate, or support those who are in need like John?
In your own experience, have you encountered a homeless individual? What was that like? Do you recall what you were thinking?
Please include at least three scholarly sources within your initial post.
Rubric:
Discussion Question Rubric
Note:
Scholarly resources are defined as evidence-based practice, peer-reviewed journals; textbook (do not rely solely on your textbook as a reference); and National Standard Guidelines. Review assignment instructions, as this will provide any additional requirements that are not specifically listed on the rubric.
Discussion Question Rubric – 100 PointsCriteriaExemplary
Exceeds ExpectationsAdvanced
Meets ExpectationsIntermediate
Needs ImprovementNovice
InadequateTotal PointsQuality of Initial PostProvides clear examples supported by course content and references.
Cites three or more references, using at least one new scholarly resource that was not provided in the course materials.
All instruction requirements noted.
40 points
Components are accurate and thoroughly represented, with explanations and application of knowledge to include evidence-based practice, ethics, theory, and/or role. Synthesizes course content using course materials and scholarly resources to support importantpoints.
Meets all requirements within the discussion instructions.
Cites two references.
35 points
Components are accurate and mostly represented primarily with definitions and summarization. Ideas may be overstated, with minimal contribution to the subject matter. Minimal application to evidence-based practice, theory, or role development. Synthesis of course content is present but missing depth and/or development.
Is missing one component/requirement of the discussion instructions.
Cites one reference, or references do not clearly support content.
Most instruction requirements are noted.
31 points
Absent application to evidence-based practice, theory, or role development. Synthesis of course content is superficial.
Demonstrates incomplete understandin.
Examine Case Study Pakistani Woman with Delusional Thought Processe.docxcravennichole326
Examine Case Study: Pakistani Woman with Delusional Thought Processes.
You will be asked to make three decisions concerning the medication to prescribe to this client. Be sure to consider factors that might impact the client’s pharmacokinetic and pharmacodynamic processes.
At each decision point stop to complete the following:
Decision #1
Which decision did you select?
Why did you select this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
What were you hoping to achieve by making this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
Explain any difference between what you expected to achieve with Decision #1 and the results of the decision. Why were they different?
Decision #2
Why did you select this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
What were you hoping to achieve by making this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
Explain any difference between what you expected to achieve with Decision #2 and the results of the decision. Why were they different?
Decision #3
Why did you select this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
What were you hoping to achieve by making this decision? Support your response with evidence and references to the Learning Resources.
Explain any difference between what you expected to achieve with Decision #3 and the results of the decision. Why were they different?
Also include how ethical considerations might impact your treatment plan and communication with clients.
BACKGROUND
The client is a 34-year-old Pakistani female who moved to the United States in her late teens/early 20s. She is currently in an “arranged” marriage (her husband was selected for her since she was 9 years old). She presents to your office today following a 21 day hospitalization for what was diagnosed as “brief psychotic disorder.” She was given this diagnosis as her symptoms have persisted for less than 1 month.
Prior to admission, she was reporting visions of Allah, and over the course of a week, she believed that she was the prophet Mohammad. She believed that she would deliver the world from sin. Her husband became concerned about her behavior to the point that he was afraid of leaving their 4 children with her. One evening, she was “out of control” which resulted in his calling the police and her subsequent admission to an inpatient psych unit.
During today’s assessment, she appears quite calm, and insists that the entire incident was “blown out of proportion.” She denies that she believed herself to be the prophet Mohammad and states that her husband was just out to get her because he never loved her and wanted an “American wife” instead of her. She tells you that she knows this because the television is telling her so.
She currently weighs .
Examination of Modern LeadershipModule 1 Leadership History, F.docxcravennichole326
Examination of Modern Leadership
Module 1: Leadership: History, Fundamentals, and the Modern Context
Module 1 content establishes the context for the entire course dedicated to the examination of modern and postmodern leadership. The introduction of critical theory and its use in ORG561 provides a framework for investigation. The context of social, economic, political, and technological environments informs an exploration of modern and postmodern leadership approaches. Emphasis on leader self-awareness sets the stage for reflection, introspection, and personal leadership development.
Learning Outcomes
1. Compare and contrast historical leadership concepts against modern and postmodern organization needs.
2. Analyze leadership approaches using a critical framework.
3. Construct a personal leadership biography.
For Your Success & Readings
A key to success in ORG561 is to start early, build, reflect, reinforce, build, reflect, and reinforce.
Begin each week’s study by reading and comprehending the learning outcomes. Learning outcomes are always revealed in assignments, discussions, and lectures. Likewise, learning outcomes are reflected in rubrics, which are used as objective measures for scoring and grading. Establish the learning outcomes as your checklist for success.
In Module 1 criticaltheory is introduced through the readings, lecture, discussion, and Critical Thinking Assignment. The critical approach provides new frameworks on which to research leadership. You may not be familiar with critical inquiry, so seize the opportunity to advance your analytic skills. You are expected to use one or more critical frames in each module of this course. Take the time this week to fully understand the reasoning and context of critical theory.
Studying the history of leadership requires reading publications from earlier eras. Notice that some of the required and recommended readings for Module 1 are not current publications, but these contribute to understanding the earlier periods of organization and leadership study.
Postmodern leadership literature expounds on the notion that self-awareness is a critical component required to lead. In ORG561, the thread of self-examination is woven throughout the course. You will have opportunities to move beyond reflection to develop a better understanding of personal assumptions and biases, skills and competencies, and professional development plans, all related to leadership. Embrace the opportunity!
Required
· Introduction and Chapters 1 & 2 in Leadership: A Critical Text
· Axley, S. R. (1990). The practical qualities of effective leaders. Industrial Management, 32(5), 29-31.
· Brocato, B., Jelen, J., Schmidt, T., & Gold, S. (2011). Leadership conceptual ambiguities.Journal of Leadership Studies, 5(1), 35-50. doi:10.1002/jls.20203
· Gandolfi, F., & Stone, S. (2016). Clarifying leadership: High-impact leaders in a time of leadership crisis. Revista De Management Comparat International, 17(3), 212-224.
· Blom, M. .
Examine current international OB issues that challenge organizat.docxcravennichole326
Examine current international OB issues that challenge organizational leaders to resolve critical issues involving cross-cultural communication, negotiation, leadership, motivation, decision-making, among others.
(1) identify the key organizational behavior issues facing management,
(2) what impact the international environment has on these issues,
(3) strategies management should use to overcome these issues,
(4) how these strategies will impact the overall organizational operations, and
(5) identify the potential costs and risks to the organizations of implementing the newly developed strategies.
Offer a set of recommendations, which must be derived from both data and theory. Teams must include aspects of global leadership, global motivation and global team-management in their work.
APA format, Times New Roman (12), 20-25 pages, No plagiarism.
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Executive Program Practical Connection Assignment .docxcravennichole326
Executive Program Practical Connection Assignment
Component Proficient (15 to 20 points) Competent (8 to 14 points) Novice (1 to 7 points) Score
Assignment
Requirements
Student completed all required
portions of the assignment
Completed portions of the
assignment
Did not complete the required
assignment.
Writing Skills,
Grammar, and APA
Formatting
Assignment strongly demonstrates
graduate-level proficiency in
organization, grammar, and style.
Assignment is well written, and ideas
are well developed and explained.
Demonstrates strong writing skills.
Student paid close attention to spelling
and punctuation. Sentences and
paragraphs are grammatically correct.
Proper use of APA formatting. Properly
and explicitly cited outside resources.
Reference list matches citations.
Assignment demonstrates graduate-
level proficiency in organization,
grammar, and style.
Assignment is effectively
communicated, but some sections
lacking clarity. Student paid some
attention to spelling and
punctuation, but there are errors
within the writing. Needs attention
to proper writing skills.
Use of APA formatting and citations
of outside resources, but has a few
instances in which proper citations
are missing.
Assignment does not demonstrate
graduate-level proficiency in
organization, grammar, and style.
Assignment is poorly written and
confusing. Ideas are not
communicated effectively. Student
paid no attention to spelling and
punctuation. Demonstrates poor
writing skills.
The assignment lacks the use of APA
formatting and does not provide
proper citations or includes no
citations.
Maintains
purpose/focus
Submission is well organized and has a
tight and cohesive focus that is
integrated throughout the document
Submissions has an organizational
structure and the focus is clear
throughout.
Submission lacks focus or contains
major drifts in focus
Understanding of
Course Content
Student demonstrates understand of
course content and knowledge.
Student demonstrates some
understanding of course content
and knowledge.
Student does not demonstrate
understanding of course content and
knowledge.
Work Environment
Application
Student strongly demonstrates the
practical application, or ability to apply,
of course objectives within a work
environment.
Student demonstrates some
practical application, or ability to
apply, of course objectives within a
work environment.
Student does not demonstrate the
practical application, or ability to
apply, of course objectives within a
work environment.
Executive Program Practical Connection Assignment
At UC, it is a priority that students are provided with strong educational programs and courses that
allow them to be servant-leaders in their disciplines and communities, linking research with practice and
kn.
Executive Program Practical Connection Assignment Component .docxcravennichole326
Executive Program Practical Connection Assignment
Component
Proficient (15 to 20 points)
Competent (8 to 14 points)
Novice (1 to 7 points)
Score
Assignment Requirements
Student completed all required portions of the assignment
Completed portions of the assignment
Did not complete the required assignment.
Writing Skills, Grammar, and APA Formatting
Assignment strongly demonstrates graduate-level proficiency in organization, grammar, and style.
Assignment is well written, and ideas are well developed and explained. Demonstrates strong writing skills. Student paid close attention to spelling and punctuation. Sentences and paragraphs are grammatically correct.
Proper use of APA formatting. Properly and explicitly cited outside resources. Reference list matches citations.
Assignment demonstrates graduate-level proficiency in organization, grammar, and style.
Assignment is effectively communicated, but some sections lacking clarity. Student paid some attention to spelling and punctuation, but there are errors within the writing. Needs attention to proper writing skills.
Use of APA formatting and citations of outside resources, but has a few instances in which proper citations are missing.
Assignment does not demonstrate graduate-level proficiency in organization, grammar, and style.
Assignment is poorly written and confusing. Ideas are not communicated effectively. Student paid no attention to spelling and punctuation. Demonstrates poor writing skills.
The assignment lacks the use of APA formatting and does not provide proper citations or includes no citations.
Maintains purpose/focus
Submission is well organized and has a tight and cohesive focus that is integrated throughout the document
Submissions has an organizational structure and the focus is clear throughout.
Submission lacks focus or contains major drifts in focus
Understanding of Course Content
Student demonstrates understand of course content and knowledge.
Student demonstrates some understanding of course content and knowledge.
Student does not demonstrate understanding of course content and knowledge.
Work Environment Application
Student strongly demonstrates the practical application, or ability to apply, of course objectives within a work environment.
Student demonstrates some practical application, or ability to apply, of course objectives within a work environment.
Student does not demonstrate the practical application, or ability to apply, of course objectives within a work environment.
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Executive Program Group Project Assignment Component Profi.docxcravennichole326
Executive Program Group Project Assignment
Component
Proficient (15 to 20 points)
Competent (8 to 14 points)
Novice (1 to 7 points)
Score
Assignment Requirements
Student completed all required portions of the assignment
Completed portions of the assignment
Did not complete the required assignment.
Writing Skills, Grammar, and APA Formatting
Assignment strongly demonstrates graduate-level proficiency in organization, grammar, and style.
Assignment is well written, and ideas are well developed and explained. Demonstrates strong writing skills. Student paid close attention to spelling and punctuation. Sentences and paragraphs are grammatically correct.
Proper use of APA formatting. Properly and explicitly cited outside resources. Reference list matches citations.
Assignment demonstrates graduate-level proficiency in organization, grammar, and style.
Assignment is effectively communicated, but some sections lacking clarity. Student paid some attention to spelling and punctuation, but there are errors within the writing. Needs attention to proper writing skills.
Use of APA formatting and citations of outside resources, but has a few instances in which proper citations are missing.
Assignment does not demonstrate graduate-level proficiency in organization, grammar, and style.
Assignment is poorly written and confusing. Ideas are not communicated effectively. Student paid no attention to spelling and punctuation. Demonstrates poor writing skills.
The assignment lacks the use of APA formatting and does not provide proper citations or includes no citations.
Maintains purpose/focus
Submission is well organized and has a tight and cohesive focus that is integrated throughout the document
Submissions has an organizational structure and the focus is clear throughout.
Submission lacks focus or contains major drifts in focus
Understanding of Course Content
Student demonstrates understand of course content and knowledge.
Student demonstrates some understanding of course content and knowledge.
Student does not demonstrate understanding of course content and knowledge.
Work Environment Application
Student strongly demonstrates the practical application, or ability to apply, of course objectives within a work environment.
Student demonstrates some practical application, or ability to apply, of course objectives within a work environment.
Student does not demonstrate the practical application, or ability to apply, of course objectives within a work environment.
Criteria Excellent Satisfactory Less than Satisfactory Not Completed
Log
Completion
4 points
Food logs are
complete with detailed
food/beverage items
3 points
Food logs are
complete but lack
some detail on
food/beverage items
(3 pts)
2 points
Food logs are
complete are missing
substantial detail on
food/beverage items
0 points
Student did not
complete this
component of the
project.
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Por.
Executive Practical Connection Activityit is a priority that stu.docxcravennichole326
Executive Practical Connection Activity
it is a priority that students are provided with strong educational programs and courses that allow them to be servant-leaders in their disciplines and communities, linking research with practice and knowledge with ethical decision-making. This assignment is a written assignment where students will demonstrate how this course research has connected and put into practice within their own career.
Assignment:
Provide a reflection of at least 500 words (or 2 pages double spaced) of how the knowledge, skills, or theories of this course have been applied, or could be applied, in a practical manner to your current work environment. If you are not currently working, share times when you have or could observe these theories and knowledge could be applied to an employment opportunity in your field of study.
Requirements:
· Provide a 500 word (or 2 pages double spaced) minimum reflection.
· Use of proper APA formatting and citations. If supporting evidence from outside resources is used those must be properly cited.
· Share a personal connection that identifies specific knowledge and theories from this course.
· Demonstrate a connection to your current work environment. If you are not employed, demonstrate a connection to your desired work environment.
· You should NOT, provide an overview of the assignments assigned in the course. The assignment asks that you reflect how the knowledge and skills obtained through meeting course objectives were applied or could be applied in the workplace.
MY ROLE: BIGDATA/KAFKA ADMIN
Need Plagiarism report for this Assignement.
****Directions
Choose from one of the following tweets and answer the 4 questions, Include at least one scholarly source***** The link is included in each tweet for more information.
1. Identify a healthcare issue within your community and explain the issue to your class colleagues. (You may use the same issue you identified in Week 2, but please expand your responses to address this week's focus).
2. Describe the type of healthcare policy you would advocate for in an effort to change this issue.
3. What type of campaign would you need to launch in order to gather a network of support?
4. Compose a Tweet that describes what you have shared with your class colleagues. Remember, Twitter only allows for 140 characters so you will need to be concise.
1. NR708HealthPol Retweeted
Tara Heagele, PhD, RN, PCCN, EMT@TaraHeagele
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Executive FunctionThe Search for an Integrated AccountMari.docxcravennichole326
Executive Function
The Search for an Integrated Account
Marie T. Banich
Department of Psychology & Neuroscience, and Institute of Cognitive Science, University of Colorado at Boulder;
Department of Psychiatry, University of Colorado Denver
ABSTRACT—In general, executive function can be thought
of as the set of abilities required to effortfully guide be-
havior toward a goal, especially in nonroutine situations.
Psychologists are interested in expanding the under-
standing of executive function because it is thought to be a
key process in intelligent behavior, it is compromised in a
variety of psychiatric and neurological disorders, it varies
across the life span, and it affects performance in compli-
cated environments, such as the cockpits of advanced
aircraft. This article provides a brief introduction to the
concept of executive function and discusses how it is
assessed and the conditions under which it is compromised.
A short overview of the diverse theoretical viewpoints re-
garding its psychological and biological underpinnings is
also provided. The article concludes with a consideration
of how a multilevel approach may provide a more inte-
grated account of executive function than has been previ-
ously available.
KEYWORDS—executive function; frontal lobe; prefrontal
cortex; inhibition; task switching; working memory; atten-
tion; top-down control
Like other psychological constructs, such as memory, executive
function is multidimensional. As such, there exists a variety of
models that provide varying viewpoints as to its basic component
processes. Nonetheless, common across most of them is the idea
that executive function is a process used to effortfully guide
behavior toward a goal, especially in nonroutine situations.
Various functions or abilities are thought to fall under the rubric
of executive function. These include prioritizing and sequencing
behavior, inhibiting familiar or stereotyped behaviors, creating
and maintaining an idea of what task or information is most
relevant for current purposes (often referred to as an attentional
or mental set), providing resistance to information that is dis-
tracting or task irrelevant, switching between task goals, uti-
lizing relevant information in support of decision making,
categorizing or otherwise abstracting common elements across
items, and handling novel information or situations. As can be
seen from this list, the functions that fall under the category of
executive function are indeed wide ranging.
ASSESSING EXECUTIVE FUNCTION
The very nature of executive function makes it difficult to
measure in the clinic or the laboratory; it involves an individual
guiding his or her behavior, especially in novel, unstructured,
and nonroutine situations that require some degree of judgment.
In contrast, standard testing situations are structured—partic-
ipants are explicitly told what the task is, given rules for per-
forming the task, and provide.
Executive Compensation and IncentivesMartin J. ConyonEx.docxcravennichole326
Executive Compensation and Incentives
Martin J. Conyon*
Executive Overview
The objective of a properly designed executive compensation package is to attract, retain, and motivate
CEOs and senior management. The standard economic approach for understanding executive pay is the
principal-agent model. This paper documents the changes in executive pay and incentives in U.S. firms
between 1993 and 2003. We consider reasons for these transformations, including agency theory, changes
in the managerial labor markets, shifts in firm strategy, and theories concerning managerial power. We show that
boards and compensation committees have become more independent over time. In addition, we demonstrate
that compensation committees containing affiliated directors do not set greater pay or fewer incentives.
Introduction
E
xecutive compensation is a complex and con-
troversial subject. For many years, academics,
policymakers, and the media have drawn atten-
tion to the high levels of pay awarded to U.S.
chief executive officers (CEOs), questioning
whether they are consistent with shareholder in-
terests.1 Some academics have further argued that
flaws in CEO pay arrangements and deviations
from shareholders’ interests are widespread and
considerable.2 For example, Lucian Bebchuk and
Jesse Fried provide a lucid account of the mana-
gerial power view and accompanying evidence.3
Marianne Bertrand and Sendhil Mullainathan too
provide an analysis of the ‘skimming view’ of CEO
pay.4 In contrast, John Core et al. present an
economic contracting approach to executive pay
and incentives, assessing whether CEOs receive
inefficient pay without performance.5 In this pa-
per, we show what has happened to CEO pay in
the United States. We do not claim to distinguish
between the contracting and managerial power
views of executive pay. Instead, we document the
pattern of executive pay and incentives in the
United States, investigating whether this pattern
is consistent with economic theory.
The Context: Who Sets Executive Pay?
B
efore examining the empirical evidence pre-
sented in this paper, it is important to consider
the pay-setting process and who sets executive
pay. The standard economic theory of executive
compensation is the principal-agent model.6 The
theory maintains that firms seek to design the most
efficient compensation packages possible in order to
attract, retain, and motivate CEOs, executives, and
managers.7 In the agency model, shareholders set
pay. In practice, however, the compensation com-
mittee of the board determines pay on behalf of
shareholders. A principal (shareholder) designs a
contract and makes an offer to an agent (CEO/
manager). Executive compensation ameliorates a
moral hazard problem (i.e., manager opportunism)
arising from low firm ownership. By using stock
options, restricted stock, and long-term contracts,
shareholders motivate the CEO to maximize firm
value. In other words, shareholders try to design
optimal compensation packages .
Executing the StrategyLearning ObjectivesAfter reading.docxcravennichole326
Executing the Strategy
Learning Objectives
After reading this chapter, you should be able to:
• Distinguish good operational plans from weak ones.
• Detail the value of tracking progress on all operational plans.
• Discuss why emergent strategies occur and how they might affect an organization’s
current strategy.
• Implement the ten basic steps of a generic strategic formulation process.
• Manage, improve, and evaluate an existing strategic management process.
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CHAPTER 9Section 9.1 Managing Operational Plans
Implementing a strategy (see Figure 1.1) in the real world is not a leisurely swim across
a calm pond on a sunny day, but rather like crossing from one bank of a raging river to
the other, encountering hidden eddies, fog, driving rain, lightning, and riptides along the
way. While it is not impossible to reach the other bank (the goal), the task often becomes
one of overcoming obstacles and making constant adjustments without losing sight of the
goal. Implementation is like that. Even the most brilliant strategy is worthless if it cannot
be implemented.
This chapter focuses on strategy execution and its difficulties. Part of the chapter is devoted
to assessing, improving, and managing the strategy formulation process itself.
9.1 Managing Operational Plans
The process for obtaining board approval of operational plans is covered in this chapter.
Exactly what is it that gets approved? An operational plan is a document that specifies the
projects or tasks that must be accomplished to achieve particular operational objectives.
Many of these plans will contain activities that are ongoing. Some will include plans for
enhanced or new services. Details specified in operational plans include the names of those
who will be involved and the indi-
vidual responsible for each one, what
equipment will be needed, when each
will start and end, and the estimated
costs for each activity. Given the level
of detail required, it should come as
no surprise that an operational plan
for a large functional unit, such as the
nursing department in a hospital, can
run to many pages, as there are lots of
activities to be detailed. Operational
plans for small HSOs such as physi-
cian clinics and community health
centers may be just a few pages long
unless new strategic initiatives are to
be undertaken.
It takes contributions from everyone
who will be involved in that HSO’s
operations to create such plans. They
will make sure that continuing cur-
rent operations are included in the plans, which is easily done. What adds a level of com-
plexity and difficulty is incorporating additional tasks demanded by a change in strategy.
Consider the following scenarios, which illustrate the difficulty in creating operational
plans that involve more than simply repeating what was done the previous year:
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Chapter 12Attraction and RelationshipsCouple stands face to.docx
1. Chapter 12:
Attraction and Relationships
Couple stands face to face smiling at each other.
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Learning Objectives
By the end of the chapter you should be able to:
Describe how proximity, attractiveness, matching, similarity,
equitability, and being "hard to get" influence attraction
Explain the two factors of the need to belong
and how human tendencies toward social bonds,
including what happens when we are deprived,
show the need to belong
Explain the difference between companionate love,
passionate love, and compassionate love
Explain the difference between a communal relationship and an
exchange relationship
Explain Sternberg's triangular theory of love
Describe how interdependence theory works
Explain the components of the investment model
Describe John Gottman's findings about relationship
maintenance
Chapter Outline
12.1 Factors in Attraction
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
We Like Those Who Are Attractive
We Like Those Who Are Similar to Us
We Like Those We Have Equitable Relationships With
2. We Like Those Who Are Hard to Get
12.2 Need to Belong
Social Bonds
Deprivation
12.3 Love
Types of Love
Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love
12.4 Relationship Maintenance
12.5 When Relationships End
Chapter Summary
* * *
Around 2 million Americans marry each year, with other
couples entering into long-term commitments with a partner or
beginning cohabitation (Centers for Disease Control and
Prevention, 2013; Copen, Daniels, Vespa, & Mosher, 2012).
According to the U.S. Census Bureau (2010), the average
household size was 2.59 in 2010. When it comes to other close
relationships, most adults in the United States report that they
have around nine close friends (Brewer & Webster, 1999;
Carroll, 2004). The majority of people say they have at least
one close friend, with fewer than 2% of U.S. residents reporting
no close friends. For those who use the social networking site
Facebook, the average friend count is 303, though such counts
may be artificially inflated by a few users who have a very large
number of friends. Younger Facebook users tend to have more
friends, with an average of 506 and 510 for those aged 12–17
3. and 18–24, respectively (Marketing Charts Staff, 2013). Seeking
out, forming, and maintaining relationships seem to be major
activities among human beings. Who do we tend to form
friendships with? Who will become our romantic partners? In
this chapter, we explore attraction, the need for social
connections, love, and maintaining relationships.
12.1 Factors in Attraction
Many of us meet a variety of people each day. Some we become
friends with, others remain strangers. We may begin a romantic
relationship with one person but, refuse to even date another.
What attracts us to some people and not others? There are a
variety of factors related to attraction.
We Like Those Who Are Close to Us
Surprisingly, simple proximity, or propinquity, has a lot to do
with who we meet and become friends with. First-year students
were more likely to develop a friendship with someone they sat
next to during an introductory session than those they were not
sitting near (Back, Schmukle, & Egloff, 2008). In a student
apartment building, individuals were more likely to make
friends with those living in apartments next to theirs, as
opposed to those down the hall or up the stairs. The one
exception to this was for those living near the mailboxes. The
people in the apartments near the mailboxes saw individuals
from all areas of the building frequently and thus became
friends with residents on different floors or farther down the
hall (Festinger, Schacter, & Back, 1950; also Cadiz Menne &
Sinnett, 1971). The most important factor in our liking of those
who are close to us is repeated exposure. Exposure does not
need to be in a face-to-face context. When we frequently
interact with someone online, such as in a chat room or online
classroom, we show greater liking for that person (Levine,
2000).
4. This tendency to have greater liking for things we see often is
the mere-exposure effect. The familiarity created by multiple
exposures creates greater fondness for someone over time.
Repeated exposure to people and objects is related to greater
liking for those people or objects (Monahan, Murphy, & Zajonc,
2000; Zajonc, 1968). A piece of modern art that you thought
was merely interesting the first time you saw it may, with
repeated exposure, become well loved. In one study of this
phenomenon, women who attended more class sessions were
better liked by their classmates, even when they did not interact
with those classmates (Moreland & Beach, 1992).
We Like Those Who Are Attractive
Imagine you are beginning school at a large university and have
signed up to be part of a welcome week dance. For the dance,
you are paired with another student of the opposite sex based on
your answers to some questionnaires. You meet your date and
the two of you try to get to know each other over the course of
the evening. As part of this dance, you are asked to evaluate
your partner and consider whether you would like to date him or
her again. What might influence your answer? Would how
intelligent your date is matter? His or her sincerity? Other
personality factors? When researchers did this study, they found
none of these predicted evaluations of the date. The only
predictor of the evaluation students gave of their partner was
how physically attractive the date was. The partners of more-
attractive dates liked them more and showed a greater desire to
go out with them again (Walster, Aronson, Abrahams, &
Rottman, 1966). All other things being equal, we prefer highly
attractive individuals: as dates, as friends, and to interact with
in a social situation (Black, 1974; Byrne, London, & Reeves,
1967). In a study of speed daters, the strongest predictor of
attraction for both men and women was attractiveness of the
partner (Luo & Zhang, 2009). In another study involving third
and eighth graders, physical attractiveness was an important
factor in a desire for friendship with a peer (Zakin, 1983).
6. 1999; Rhodes, Proffitt, Grady, & Sumich, 1998; Rhodes et al.,
2001).
When composite faces are created by a computer from a number
of individual faces, composite faces are judged to be more
attractive than the individual faces that went into the composite.
When faces have features placed in locations that are the
average for those found in the population, and the size of
features are the average size for the population, such faces are
judged to be beautiful (Langlois & Roggman, 1990). The ratios
that fit these averages are a vertical distance between eyes and
mouth of about 36% of the length of the face. The most
beautiful horizontal distance between the eyes is 46% of the
width of the face (Pallett, Link, & Lee, 2010). The final set of
features that make faces attractive is masculine features in men
and feminine features in women. A man's face with a square
chin, thick brows, and thin lips is rated more attractive. A
woman's face with a smaller chin, smaller lower face area, and
fuller lips is judged more attractive (Rhodes, 2006).
According to evolutionary psychologists, beauty may signal
fitness. People without genetic disorders and those with good
immune system responses to disease have more average faces
(Rhodes, 2006). More fertile women have been shown in some
samples to have more symmetrical faces (Pfluger, Oberzaucher,
Katina, Holzleitner, & Gammer, 2012; for an opposing
viewpoint see Silva, Lummaa, Muller, Raymond, & Alvergne,
2012). People's careful attention to attractiveness may,
therefore, be based on a desire to choose a mate who will help
produce valuable offspring.
Test Yourself
Click on each question below to reveal the answer.
According to the mere-exposure effect, which song would
you like more: song A that you heard for the first time today or
7. song B that you have heard 15 times in the last 2 weeks?
All things being equal, who would most people choose to
interact with: Mary, a beautiful woman, Joan, a woman of
average attractiveness, or Lisa, an unattractive woman?
We Like Those Who Are Similar to Us
While individuals might desire a relationship with an attractive
other, an attractive person might not desire a relationship with
the not-so-attractive individual. One of the messages that an
individual who refuses a date or relationship might be sending
concerns the desirability of the other person. In other words, the
woman may be communicating to the man she rejects that he is
not as attractive as he thinks he is, and is "out of her league."
She rejects him because she can do better. Perhaps because of
this message, unrequited love tends to reduce self-esteem in the
would-be lover (Baumeister, Wotman, & Stillwell, 1993). Most
people expect and tend to end up in a romantic relationship with
someone who is similarly physically attractive (Berscheid,
Dion, Walster, & Walster, 1971; Folkes, 1982; Montoya, 2008;
Murstein, 1972). This tendency to have relationships with those
who match us is called the matching hypothesis. The next time
you have a chance to observe couples, perhaps at a party, look
around and notice whether the couples are about the same in
attractiveness. When couples do not match, there is often a
quality in the less-attractive member that in some way makes up
for his or her lack of physical beauty, such as social status,
money, education, physical grooming, sense of humor, or
personality (Carmalt, Cawley, Joyner, & Sobal, 2008; Feingold,
1981).
According to the matching hypothesis, we tend to end up with
those who are similar to us in attractiveness. Beyond that, do
the values or interests of a potential relationship partner, either
friend or romantic partner, make a difference in our liking of
8. that person? In general, we like and want to interact with those
who are similar to us in values, interests, personality, gender,
and race (Byrne et al., 1967; Johnson, 1989; Tenney,
Turkheimer, & Oltmanns, 2009). Among those who are already
our friends, researchers find, the intensity of friendship is
greater among those who perceive their friend to be similar
(Selfhout, Denissen, Branje, & Meeus, 2009). If a new
acquaintance is similar to you, you may feel more comfortable
and be able to better predict what the other person would want
to talk about or do (Berg & Clark, 1986; Berger & Calabrese,
1975). Similarities can allow interactions to progress smoothly
and reduce conflict, particularly at the beginning of a
relationship.
Similarity may be a more long-term relationship factor than a
short-term factor. For example, speed daters showed no greater
attraction to those who were similar; attractiveness was more
important (Luo & Zhang, 2009). Greater similarity is attractive
for long-term relationships like friendship, or relationships with
long-term romantic partners. Even when we desire similarity in
our friendships, we may not actually be friends with similar
people if our options are limited. Friends in the United States
tend to show greater similarity than friends in Japan.
Researchers found that this was because of a difference in the
ability of individuals within those cultures to form new
relationships. The Japanese population, as a whole, is less
mobile that the U.S. population, with lesser likelihood of
moving away from family or friends for employment or other
reasons. With fewer opportunities for new friendships to form,
we tend to stick with friends who are not necessarily similar to
ourselves but are close in geographic proximity (Schug, Yuki,
Horikawa, & Takemura, 2009).
We Like Those We Have Equitable Relationships With
Have you ever had a relationship where you felt you were
giving more than you were getting from the other person? If so,
9. you were part of an inequitable relationship. Equity involves
receiving benefits proportional to what one provides (Hatfield,
1983). According to equity theory, it is not the overall amount
of benefit one receives from a relationship that is important, but
whether what one gives and what one gets are equal. Partners
who gives more than they receive in a relationship are
underbenefited in the relationship. Partners who receive more
than they give in a relationship are overbenefited. As you might
imagine, underbenefiting is more distressing to individuals. If
you have ever invested in a relationship and have not received
rewards proportional to your input, you were likely unhappy
with that relationship. This theory also predicts that
overbenefiting is problematic. When one relationship partner
overbenefits, that person gains rewards he or she knows are
undeserved, causing distress (Sprecher, 1986; 1992; Stafford &
Canary, 2006).
Although there is some support for this theory, the overall
amount of benefits in a relationship may be more important than
equity (Cate, Lloyd, Henton, & Larson, 1982; Cate, Lloyd, &
Long, 1988). If one is in an equitable relationship, but is neither
giving nor receiving much from that relationship, it is unlikely
to be a relationship for very long. Some people may expect
fairness and pay attention to equity; others may be satisfied
with an unbalanced relationship (Donaghue & Fallon, 2003). In
long-term, intimate partnerships, there may also be certain
domains where equity is more important. Housework and
childcare often fall inequitably to married women, which can
potentially create problems within the relationship (Davis,
Greenstein, & Marks, 2007). Equitability in these areas may,
therefore, be more important to relationship success for some
married couples than equity in other domains (Gottman &
Carrere, 1994).
We Like Those Who Are Hard to Get
The idea of playing hard to get is a familiar notion within the
10. dating sphere. Individuals who play hard to get appear to be
selective in their social choices, and are not easily swayed by
the advances of another. Magazines and websites give men and
women advice on how to play hard to get in order to win over
the object of their affection (Dahlstrom, 2011). Advertisers use
scarcity to suggest their product is particularly desirable, so
would the same be true about potential dates? Like that rare
painting or limited-edition collectible, are people who play hard
to get liked better?
Much of the advice about playing hard to get, and therefore the
research on the idea, focuses on women playing hard to get in
their potential romantic relationships. In an impressive series of
studies, Elaine Walster and colleagues (Walster, Walster,
Piliavin, & Schmidt, 1973) investigated whether those who were
more selective in their romantic interactions were liked more
than those who were less selective. College students who read a
story about a woman who was not all that interested in a
potential romantic partner (Studies 1 and 2), and male students
who called up a woman who was hesitant about accepting his
invitation to go out (Studies 3 and 4), did not report more
attraction to that person. Researchers used a unique confederate,
a prostitute, to show that her clients seemed to like her less and
were less likely to call her in the future when she played hard to
get (Study 5). Finally, Walster and colleagues discovered that
targeted selectivity is what is most attractive about being hard
to get (Study 6). Women who appeared to like and want to date
the man in question, but not other men, were more attractive
than women who were uniformly hard to get or who were
willing to date anyone. The men were most likely to report
wanting to date the women who liked them but no one else,
liked her most, and expected fewer problems in dating.
The strategy of being selectively hard to get is true for both
men and women (Wright & Contrada, 1986). Interacting with
someone who likes you but not other people may provide a
11. boost in self-esteem (Matthews, Rosenfield, & Stephan, 1979);
being singled out by another person makes us feel good. In
addition, further work has revealed that uncertainty can be
attractive. Women were most attracted to men when they were
uncertain how the man had rated them (Whitchurch, Wilson, &
Gilbert, 2011). Perhaps a little mystery is motivating in
romantic relationships. Hard-to-get tactics also work better for
women than for men, and for long-term relationships rather than
casual flings. Potential romantic partners report being willing to
invest more time and money in a partner who seems hard to get,
perhaps because of the concept of scarcity (Jonason & Li,
2013).
Test Yourself
Click on each question below to reveal the answer.
Are people who are very attractive likely to end up in a
relationship with someone who is not-at-all attractive?
Which adage is most accurate "birds of a feather flock
together" or "opposites attract"?
Within a relationship, is it best to get more than you give,
give more than you get, or give and get in equal measure?
Is being universally hard to get attractive?
12.2 Need to Belong
There are a variety of reasons why we might pursue
relationships with some people but not others. The question
remains as to why we would pursue relationships at all. Given
the statistics on marriage, partnerships, and friendships cited at
the beginning of this chapter, our behavior suggests we have a
need to be part of relationships. Psychologists Baumeister and
Leary (1995) argue that we have a need to interact and be in
relationships with others. The need to belong has two
components: (a) the need for frequent positive contact with
12. others, and (b) the need for enduring connections marked by
mutual concern for the welfare of the other.
Social Bonds
This need to belong is evidenced in the ease with which we
form social bonds, and the trouble we have breaking those
bonds. While waiting in the doctor's office or at the train
station, you might find yourself chatting with the person sitting
next to you, easily forming a friendship. Or after a short stay at
summer camp as a child, you may have promised your bunk
mate or the other kids in your cabin that you would be friends
forever. Humans quickly, and relatively easily, form social
bonds. Research evidence of this can be found in the ease to
which the boys in Sherif's study of conflict and superordinate
goals made friends with the boys in their own group (Sherif,
Harvey, White, Hood, & Sherif, 1961). Recall from the chapter
on prejudice that within a week these boys were a close-knit
group. Ingroup favoritism quickly developed when participants
were placed into groups, even when these groups were based on
something as unimportant as the number of dots estimated on a
slide (Billig & Tajfel, 1973; Tajfel, 1970).
Attachment theory helps to explain the bonds we have with
those to whom we are close. John Bowlby (1969; 1973) first
described attachment in the realm of the infant–caregiver
relationship. Within these early relationships people develop
internal working models of relationships (Bowlby, 1973). These
working models tell us what to expect from others. Some people
learn that others are available and responsive to needs and that
they are worthy of that care, such individuals would be
described as having a secure attachment style. Others learn that
others may not be around at times when they are needed and
come to believe that they are not worthy of care, such
individuals would be described as having an insecure
attachment style (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991). What people
learn about themselves and others impacts adult relationships
13. (Mikulincer & Shaver, 2007). People who have a secure
attachment style tend to seek support from others in times of
need and provide reassurance to relationship partners when they
need it (Collins & Feeney, 2010).
The effect of insecure attachment on relationships can differ
depending on the attachment style. Some individuals have
difficulty believing others are to be trusted, but think they can
deal with stressors on their own—reflective of a dismissing or
avoidant attachment style (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991).
These individuals do not seek or give a great deal of support to
others, though they do still benefit from feeling like they belong
and are accepted by others (Carvallo & Gabriel, 2006;
Edenfield, Adams, & Briihl, 2012; Holmberg, Lomore, Takacs,
& Price, 2011; Schwartz, Lindley, & Buboltz, 2007). People
who don't believe they are worthy of care by others either trust
others and seek close relationships, having a preoccupied
attachment style, or distrust others and avoid close
relationships, having a fearful attachment style (Bartholomew &
Horowitz, 1991). Preoccupied individuals attempt closeness
with others, but, because they are concerned about their own
worthiness to be loved, they tend to seek extreme closeness and
be jealous of other relationships their friends or romantic
partners might have (Marazziti et al., 2010; Pietromonaco &
Barrett, 2006). Those with a fearful attachment style are fearful
of intimacy and tend to avoid relationships (Bartholomew &
Horowitz, 1991; Edenfield, Adams, & Briihl, 2012; Welch &
Houser, 2010).
Deprivation
What happens if we are deprived of belonging? On April 20,
1999, Erick Harris and Dylan Klebold killed 12 fellow students
and one teacher and wounded 23 other people at Columbine
High School in Littleton, Colorado. In the end, they turned their
guns on themselves and committed suicide. Since the
Columbine school shooting there have been more than 60 other
14. school shootings around the world (Information Please
Database, 2012). Many of the student perpetrators of these
school shootings had been bullied or ostracized by their
classmates (Gibbs & Roche, 1999; Leary, Kowalski, Smith, &
Phillips, 2003).
A marked lack of a sense of belonging can have negative
consequences. Bullying seems to be both a consequence of and
caused by interference with the need to belong. In other words,
bullying is due, in part, to a lack of connections with others and
desire for acceptance from other children. Boys involved in
bullying desired acceptance from other boys involved in the
types of antisocial activities they were involved in (other
bullies), and from other boys in general (Olthof & Goossens,
2008). These boys used bullying as a gateway to belonging. In
some schools, bullying can even denote social status. When the
popular kids bully, engaging in bullying is accepted practice
that can show or increase one's social status (Dijkstra,
Lindenberg, & Veenstra, 2008). Bullying also communicates to
bullied individuals that they do not belong, their peers reject
them, leading to negative feelings and even suicide (Dill,
Vernberg, Fonagy, Twemlow, & Gamm, 2004; Herba et al.,
2008). Not fulfilling the need to belong creates behavior that is
harmful to others and is dangerous for one's own physical and
mental health. Individuals with limited social ties, including
family and friendships, had poorer physical health (Berkman,
1995; House, Robins, & Metzner, 1982). Individuals who do not
fulfill the need to belong are also more vulnerable to mental
illness (Broadhead et al., 1983; Thoits, 1995).
Threats to relationships are associated with negative emotions.
The loss of a loved one is very stressful (Holmes & Rahe,
1967). Even the possibility that an important relationship might
end is met with sadness or jealousy (Leary, 1990; Leary &
Downs, 1995; Leary, Tambor, Terdal, & Downs, 1995; Pines &
Aronson, 1983). Also, our reactions to discrimination may, in
15. part, be rooted in our need to belong (Carvallo & Pelham,
2006). Discrimination tells us we are not a valued member of
the group, in fact, we either may not be part of the group or, if
we are, we will not be able to enjoy all of the privileges of
group membership.
Lonely student posing while his classmates are talking in the
background.
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When a person is ostracized by peers, loneliness and increased
aggression often result.
Depriving others of their connections with us can be used as a
tool to control them. Ostracism is the deliberate exclusion of a
person from one's social group or from social interactions.
Ostracism is something most people experience and use to
control others. Individuals with high self-esteem ostracize to
end relationships, while those with low self-esteem use
ostracism as a defense against the expected rejection or
criticism by others (Sommer, Williams, Ciarocco, &
Baumeister, 2001). Although the individual being ostracized
certainly suffers, ostracism has positive effects for the group
excluding the individual, as it increases group cohesion (Gruter
& Masters, 1986). A group grows close together by having a
common target.
Ostracism interferes with our need to belong, particularly when
we are unsure of the cause of our ostracism (Nezlek,
Wesselmann, Wheeler, & Williams, 2012; Sommer et al., 2001).
Ostracism also affects our self-esteem (Ruggieri, Bendixen,
Gabriel, & Alsaker, 2013). Recall from Chapter 2 the
sociometer theory, the idea that acceptance and rejection are
important for self-esteem. Ostracism tells us that others do not
value us as much as we value them (van Beest & Williams,
2006). When ostracized from a social group, we feel pain,
16. anger, and sadness, though initially we may feel numbness
(DeWall & Baumeister, 2006; van Beest & Williams, 2006;
Williams, 2001). The pain we experience when ostracized is
processed in the same locations of the brain as physical pain
(Eisenberger, Lieberman, & Williams, 2003). In fact,
researchers have found that the pain reliever acetaminophen can
lessen the pain of ostracism (DeWall, Pond, & Deckman, 2011).
To get back in the good graces of those around us, we often act
in compliant or prosocial ways when we have been ostracized
(Carter-Sowell, Chen, & Williams, 2008; Williams, 2007). For
example, an ostracized teen might buy gifts for the friends who
ostracized her in an attempt to secure entry back into the group
and demonstrate that she is a valuable member of the group.
When we are ostracized, life seems to lose meaning and we feel
out of control (Nezlek et al., 2012; Ruggieri et al., 2013;
Stillman et al., 2009; Williams, 1997). Ostracism that affects
our sense of purpose or control is more likely to result in
antisocial behavior (Williams, 2007). The interaction of
ostracism and control may be particularly important for
aggression. Warburton, Williams, and Cairns (2006) used a
game of toss to ostracize research participants and then expose
them to an unpleasant blast of noise. Some of the participants
were able to control the noise and others were not. Participants
were then asked to decide how much hot sauce to put in the
food of a stranger, knowing that the individual did not like
spicy foods but would be required to eat all of the food.
Participants who had no control over the noise wanted to put
four times more hot sauce in the stranger's food than those who
had control over the noise. Placing hot sauce in the food of
someone who does not like it is an aggressive act, an act made
more likely when people felt they were ostracized and had no
control over their circumstances. At times ostracism's effect on
our sense of control results in depression. When people are
chronically ostracized they have less of a desire to exert self-
control. This sense of helplessness leads to symptoms of
17. depression (DeWall, Gilman, Sharif, Carboni, & Rice, 2012).
Expand Your Knowledge: Loneliness Scale
A loneliness assessment based on the UCLA Loneliness Scale
can be accessed at
http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/loneliness.htm.
Another result of ostracism is loneliness. Loneliness is the
feeling of being without desired social connections. It is
possible to fulfill one piece of the need to belong, frequent
contacts, without fulfilling the second, ongoing relationships
involving mutual caring. Loneliness involves a problem with the
second part of the need to belong. Someone can be lonely,
therefore, even when that person has frequent contacts with
others. Loneliness may be understood and experienced
differently in different cultures. Cultures have different ways of
understanding the nature of relationships, so, while loneliness
appears to be common across cultures, it is understood
differently depending on the culture (Rokach, 2007; van Staden
& Coetzee, 2010). Lonely people have the physical and mental
health issues discussed above. One major issue with loneliness
is that it can lead to depression (Cacioppo, Hughes, Waite,
Hawlkey, & Thisted, 2006).
Test Yourself
Click on each question below to reveal the answer.
What are the two aspects of the need to belong?
What are some of the effects of ostracism?
Is it possible to have frequent social contacts with others and
still feel lonely?
12.3 Love
In everyday life you may hear a number of different uses of the
18. word love. Overhearing a cell phone conversation on the street,
you might hear a woman next to you say "I love you" to her
husband before hanging up. Someone else might exclaim "I love
donuts" when her friend brings her one to eat. A mother tells
her child she loves him. "Love" is a word with a multitude of
meanings. To say you love your mother is different from saying
you love your shoes or you love your romantic partner or you
love chocolate donuts. When Fehr and Russell (1991) asked
college students to list all of the kinds of love they could up
with, the students were able to list 216 different kinds of love.
Puppy love, brotherly love, romantic love, and maternal love
are all different types.
To further investigate our conception of love, Meyers and
Berscheid (1997) asked people to write down the initials of
everyone they loved, everyone they were in love with, and
everyone they felt a sexual attraction or desire for. After sorting
out where the lists overlapped, the researchers found that the
love list was long. We love a lot of people. Most people who
were on the in love list were also on the love list (93% of the in
love list were on the love list). The love list contained a number
of people that were not on the in love list (23% of the love list
were on the in love list); when we talk about being in love we
are talking about something similar to love, but more selective
in some way. Many of the people on the in love lists were also
on the "sexual attraction or desire for" list (87% of the in love
list were also on the sexual attraction list); when we say we are
in love, we are describing a type of love that includes a sexual
attraction or desire component.
Types of Love
One way we might break down love is to delineate a few
categories; two of these types are roughly analogous to the love
versus in love dimensions above. One type of love is the
affection we hold for friends and family, what some researchers
have deemed companionate love. Companionate love is
19. characterized by deep caring for another person, comfort and
trust, and the enjoyment of shared experiences (Berscheid,
2010). Marriages characterized by companionate love tend to be
lasting and satisfying (Gottman, 1999). The importance of
companionate love may be surprising to some, as a more
passionate type of love is often expected and striven for in
marriage, but researchers find that a more romantic view of love
does not do as good a job of predicting well-being within a
marriage or general well-being (Grote & Frieze, 1994; Kim &
Hatfield, 2004; Orbuch, Veroff, & Holmberg, 1993).
Companionate love does a better job of predicting well-being in
these situations.
Young, smiling woman sits on a couch with her laptop
computer.
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Online dating can be beneficial for widening one's social
network thus increasing the chances of finding love. However,
experts caution against maintaining online communication with
a potential partner for too long, because the longer two people
spend interacting online, the more likely they are to be
disappointed by each other when they meet in person.
Passionate love would describe the in love type of love
mentioned earlier. Passionate love involves intense emotional
arousal and physical attraction. (Fehr, 1994; Regan, 1998). This
strong desire for another person may be the initial draw in a
relationship, which could then transition into a relationship
characterized by companionate love (Berscheid, 2010). Unlike
companionate love, which seems to increase over time given the
right conditions, passionate love tends to decline over time
(Hatfield & Rapson, 2008; Tucker & Aron, 1993). Although one
would think otherwise, researchers have found that arranged
marriages are largely no different in the amount of
companionate and passionate love, as marriages where the
20. partners chose one another (Regan, Lakhanpal, & Anguiano,
2012).
Another category of love is the self-giving, caregiving type of
love, called compassionate love. Compassionate love might
describe a parent–child relationship or a long-term friendship.
Individuals who have a secure attachment style are more likely
to have compassionate love for their partner than those with an
insecure style (Sprecher & Fehr, 2011). Due to their
background, securely attached individuals may approach
intimate relationships with greater willingness to give care to
their partner. Margaret Clark and colleagues describe the caring
and concern for the welfare of the other that is present in
compassionate love as part of communal relationships (Clark &
Mills, 1979; Clark & Monin, 2006). In communal relationships,
partners respond to the needs of the other person, not worrying
about when or how their contributions will be repaid. Exchange
relationships, by contrast, are those where contributions and
rewards are counted and immediate repayment is expected. We
tend to act in a more communal manner, showing compassionate
love, in close friendships or dating or marriage relationships
(Sprecher & Fehr, 2005). Exchange relationships are more
common in our interactions with acquaintances, strangers, or
coworkers.
Social Psychology in Depth: Love Online
It has become popular to look for love online. Estimates vary,
but it seems that somewhere around 40% of single Internet users
have visited a dating site or posted a profile (Madden &
Lenhart, 2006; Valkenburg & Peter, 2007). Seventy-four percent
of Internet users who are single and looking for relationships
have used the Internet in their quest for love: flirting with
someone online, being introduced to someone online, joining a
chat group in hopes of finding a date, and even searching for
information on a potential date (Madden & Lenhart, 2006).
Online daters appear to come from all age groups and income
21. brackets, although individuals who are divorced are more likely
than those who are never-married or widowed to use online
dating services (Valkenburg & Peter, 2007).
Most daters anticipate meeting and potentially forming intimate
relationships with the individuals they find online. Individuals
who expect to meet in the real world and establish long-term
relationships tend to be more honest in their online
communication. They also disclose more information
consciously and intentionally (Gibbs, Ellison, & Heino, 2006).
That is not to say that online daters never misrepresent
themselves, provide idealized portrayals, or are mistaken about
their own attributes. Online daters attempt to counter this
misrepresentation while looking at online profiles by assuming
the image they get from a profile is a bit rosier than reality.
Men, for example, might be a little shorter than they claim,
women a little heavier (Ellison, Heino, & Gibbs, 2006).
There is a typical decision process while engaging in online
dating. The first step involves looking at profiles. Some profiles
are rejected because they do not fit what one is looking for in
terms of age, location, or some other factor. Some online daters
describe this as shopping for a date. The dater scans what is
available and makes a decision based on the presence of desired
qualities. Ironically, having more choices has been found to
lead to poorer choices, as well as objectification of future
partners (Heino, Ellison, & Gibbs, 2010; Wu & Chiou, 2008).
Another point in the decision process comes with online
communication. A budding relationship may be ended at this
point because of rejected overtures for communication or
communication that is slow, uncomfortable, or reveals
inaccuracies. When communication moves from online to phone
or face-to-face, online daters face another decision point. At
this point daters need to decide whether the online profile
matches reality and whether any chemistry found online is
present in the real world (Heino, Ellison, & Gibbs, 2010).
22. When individuals who met online meet face-to-face, a
significant minority experience disappointment. In fact, the
longer the couple spends engaging in computer-mediated
communication, the more likely they are to be disappointed
when they meet face-to-face (Ramirez & Wang, 2004; Ramirez
& Zhang, 2007). The limited information an online dater
receives about his or her match can lead to idealized or
inaccurate ideas of the qualities the potential partner possesses
(Hancock & Dunham, 2001). Accurate data on the success of
online dating is hard to come by. Of the people who have
visited online dating sites, about half say they have had positive
experiences, with a third describing negative experiences. The
vast majority (97%) of currently married or committed people
did not meet online. That number is skewed, however, by the
fact that many met before online dating was an option. Many
online daters know someone who found a long-term romantic
partner online (43%). Of the Americans who have looked for
love using Internet dating sites, about a quarter are in
committed relationships. Those numbers sound hopeful until
you consider that almost half of those who have visited online
dating sites have not found a relationship partner (Madden &
Lenhart, 2006). The Internet may be a good tool, but it seems
finding Mr. or Ms. Right is just as hard as it has ever been.
Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love
Robert Sternberg (1986) divides love into even more distinct
categories. In his triangular theory of love, he describes three
aspects of love. Each can be thought of as a point on a triangle
(see Figure 12.1). Intimacy is one component, described as
feelings of closeness or bonds to another person. Intimacy may
include sharing of oneself and one's possessions with another,
counting on that person in times of need, and receiving
emotional support from and providing emotional support to the
other person. We tend to grow in intimacy within a relationship.
Intimacy is moderately stable over time. Typically, intimacy is
24. control the amount of commitment we have in a relationship,
and it is important for long-term relationships. Individuals who
are securely attached tend to have more intimacy and
commitment in relationships, and greater relationship
satisfaction (Madey & Rodgers, 2009).
Within the triangular theory of love these three components are
combined to describe different kinds of love. For example,
infatuated love is a type of love that includes passion but no
intimacy or commitment. Companionate love, on the other hand,
includes intimacy and commitment but no passion.
Test Yourself
Click on each question below to reveal the answer.
If people were to list the names of all the people they were in
love with, is that list likely to contain more or fewer names than
a list of people they love?
When Marcus needed help moving, Aaron spent the day
moving furniture and boxes, expecting no immediate repayment
of the favor. From this evidence, it appears Marcus and Aaron
have a communal relationship or an exchange relationships?
The type of love in Sternberg's triangular theory of love that
includes passion, intimacy, and commitment is what?
12.4 Relationship Maintenance
What keeps partners in relationships? One way to look at our
relationships over the long term is to use the interdependence
theory (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978; Thibaut & Kelley, 1959). With
this theory we can determine satisfaction and dependency within
relationships. The way satisfaction is determined is by looking
at the rewards and costs in a relationship and the comparison
level. Imagine you were in a relationship and found there were a
lot of costs: your partner left messes around the house, often
25. borrowed money without paying it back, and had several
annoying habits. The relationship also held some rewards: your
partner was sweet and affectionate and when you went out,
heads turned because your partner was very good looking. When
you put it all together, though, the costs outweighed the
benefits. A relationship where a partner feels appreciated tends
to increase the benefits side of the equation and leads to greater
commitment to the relationship (Gordon, Impett, Kogan, Oveis,
& Keltner, 2012). Some individuals do not expect a lot of
rewards in their relationships, so having a relationship with a
lot of costs and only a few rewards might still be satisfying for
these people. Others might be dissatisfied even with large
rewards because they expect highly rewarding relationships.
This expectation for the outcomes in a relationship is the
comparison level.
This theory also involves a calculation of dependence. In this
context, dependence is the degree to which we believe our
current relationship is the best we can do, in other words, how
dependent we are on this particular relationship. Our calculation
of dependence includes a comparison level of alternatives. The
comparison level of alternatives is the outcome we would
expect to receive if we were in an alternate relationship.
Imagine you were in a city where a number of neat and solvent
relationship partners were available, all of who were also likely
to be affectionate and good looking. Given the alternatives, you
would be unlikely to stay with your present messy, annoying
partner. However, if you looked around and found that
alternative partners were no better than or were worse than your
present partner, you might stay even though you are unsatisfied.
Within this theory you might be satisfied in a relationship (your
rewards outweigh the costs) but still leave that relationship
because there are other attractive alternatives. When people are
less identified with their relationship, they are more likely to
pay attention to and change their behavior in response to
attractive alternatives. Individuals who are more identified with
26. their relationship naturally and spontaneously discount
alternatives, leading to greater survival of their existing
relationship (Linardatos & Lydon, 2011).
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Investment is one motivation two people may have for staying
together. People who have invested significant time and energy
into a relationship are less likely to abandon it, even if they are
dissatisfied with aspects of the relationship.
An expansion of this idea is the investment model. According to
this model, the level of commitment one has for a particular
relationship relates to one's satisfaction with the relationship,
the quality of alternatives, and the investments associated with
the relationship (Rusbult, 1983). As you might imagine,
individuals who are more satisfied with a relationship are more
likely to be committed to a relationship. But satisfaction alone
is not enough to predict commitment. As in the interdependence
theory, alternatives are also important. If one has good
alternatives to a current relationship, that person might move to
another relationship even if satisfaction is not low. Investment
may take the form of intrinsic investments, like time and
emotional energy. Investments may also be extrinsic
investments, like shared possessions or even mutual friends that
might be lost if one were to leave the relationship. Even when
satisfaction is low and alternatives are good, people might stay
in a relationship because of their enormous investment in the
relationship, an investment they would lose by leaving. Putting
this all together, a member of a couple who is very satisfied,
has few alternatives, and has high investments will likely be
quite committed to a relationship and make the decision to
remain in the relationship. An individual who is not satisfied,
has a number of alternatives, and has a small investment is
likely to show low commitment to the relationship (Rusbult,
27. Drigotas, & Verette, 1994; Rusbult, Martz, & Agnew, 1998).
Though this may all seem more like economics than
relationships, other researchers have also played a numbers
game with relationships and have been quite successful in
predicting relationship outcomes. John Gottman and his
colleagues are able to predict with greater than 90% accuracy
the likelihood of divorce for a couple with their mathematical
model (Gottman, Swanson, & Swanson, 2002). Couples may
follow a variety of patterns, but overall, the researchers found
that a ratio of five positive behaviors to every one negative
behavior must be maintained for relationships to last. A couple
that fights often might have a long relationship if that fighting
is balanced with expressions of fondness toward one another
(Gottman, 1993). Couples that largely avoid both conflict and
positive interactions may last for a while, but eventually
divorce (Gottman & Levenson, 2002).
Expand Your Knowledge: John Gottman
Additional information on Gottman and his work, including
workshops and DVDs, can be found at his website:
http://www.gottman.com/.
A particularly destructive interaction pattern is called the
demand-withdraw pattern. One member of the couple brings up
an issue he or she needs to talk about and the other member
attempts to avoid the discussion. The person bringing up the
issue is critical and contemptuous; the member responding
comes back with defensiveness, eventually withdrawing
(Gottman, 1998). Note that anger is not among these emotions.
Properly expressed anger is not necessarily a problem for a
relationship, provided it is expressed within the context of
positive interactions. Four behaviors—criticism, contempt,
defensiveness, and stonewalling (withdrawal)—are so
detrimental to the success of a relationship that Gottman calls
them the four horsemen of the Apocalypse (Gottman, 1994).
28. A variety of strategies can be employed to nurture good
interactions and make negative interactions less likely. Simply
having a positive outlook on the relationship and expecting
good things is positive for relationships. Openness to engaging
in communication is helpful. Self-disclosure is when a person in
a relationship tells the other person something, particularly
intimate or important information. Self-disclosure by one
person tends to lead to self-disclosure by the other, something
called disclosure reciprocity. Such reciprocity can lead to
deeper commitment by both members. Expressions of love are
helpful to relationships. Sharing of responsibilities is also
helpful. Finally, couples that have shared social networks tend
to maintain their relationship to a greater degree than those who
have entirely separate social networks (Adams & Baptist, 2012;
Canary & Stafford, 1992).
Test Yourself
Click on each question below to reveal the answer.
Suzanne expects relationships to be very rewarding and have
few costs. Annaliese expects relationships to have about equal
amounts of costs and benefits. According to interdependence
theory Suzanne and Annaliese are different on what variable?
What unique addition does the investment model add to the
interdependence theory of relationships?
Leon tells Tara about a frightening episode from his
childhood. She responds by telling him about an unpleasant
experience she had when she was a teenager. Leon and Tara's
behavior is an example of what?
12.5 When Relationships End
About half of all first marriages end in divorce by the 20th
anniversary, with subsequent marriages ending at even higher
29. rates (Bramlett & Mosher, 2002; Cherlin, 1992; Goodwin,
Mosher, & Chandra, 2010; Rogers, 2004; Glick, 1984). A vast
number of nonmarital relationships end each year as well
(Sprecher & Fehr, 1998). Many of the same factors that attract
us to others and help us maintain our relationships also affect
our likelihood of ending a relationship. When relationships do
not feel equitable or there are differences in aspirations,
relationships are more likely to end. Mismatched couples in
terms of attractiveness are also more likely to break up (Hill,
Rubin, & Peplau, 1976). Divorce is often preceded by problems
like infidelity, incompatibility (general disagreement about a
variety of issues), money issues, substance abuse, jealousy,
growing apart, and by personal factors like moodiness and
irritating habits (Amato & Previti, 2003; Amato & Rogers,
1997).
Expand Your Knowledge: State of Marriage and Divorce
For an interesting report on marriage and divorce within
different states, check out the report from the Pew Research
Center at http://pewresearch.org/pubs/1380/marriage-and-
divorce-by-state. The report looks at age of marriage, rate of
divorce, and some correlations to marriage and divorce patterns.
A variety of factors may be behind breakups, but one we often
do not think about is the calendar. In one study of college
student relationships, the point in the school year had an effect
on when couples broke up (Hill et al., 1976). The end of the
school year and school vacations are a potentially dangerous
time for college relationships. Valentine's Day is also a
dangerous time for relationships that are not doing well. A
cultural expectation exists for couples on Valentine's Day. For
partners whose relationship is already in choppy water, the time
and energy needed to successfully navigate Valentine's Day
activities may be more than the members can handle. A couple
might not want to put the time and money into a Valentine's
Day celebration for a relationship that appears troubled, and
30. therefore they break up before getting to Valentine's Day.
Couples may also find that the ideal love that Valentine's Day
promotes is not present in their own celebration and break up
post-Valentine's Day. In a study of college student couples, the
number of breakups increased in the two-week time period
around Valentine's Day (Morse & Neuberg, 2004).
According to Duck (1982) the breakup process often begins
with a personal realization of the need to end the relationship,
sometimes by one member of the couple and sometimes by both.
Next, the members negotiate with one another about the
dissolution of the relationship. At times one member may be
resistant and ask that they work harder or go to counseling, but
at other times both parties agree that a breakup is an appropriate
course of action. A couple is not done breaking up when they
have agreed to break up; they must recover from the breakup
and others in their environment must be told of the breakup
(Duck, 1982). Depending on the type and length of the
relationship the entire process could take hours or years.
Someone who wants to break up might use a variety of
approaches to dissolve the relationship. These strategies can be
grouped into four categories. (1) A person might withdraw from
the relationship and avoid contact with the partner, hoping the
partner will get the message that the relationship is over.
Avoiding one's spouse and hoping he or she realize this means a
divorce is coming may be difficult. However, a short romantic
entanglement in the teen years may end this way. (2) Another
strategy involves using other people or other indirect ways to
break up. For example, one might have a friend tell the
significant other that the relationship is over. An announcement
of being single on a social media platform like Facebook could
also send a message to a boyfriend or girlfriend that the
relationship has ended. (3) Alternatively, the partner might be
more direct but attempt to set a positive tone, describing the
other person's positive qualities. Perhaps you have heard the
31. phrase "it's not you, it's me. . . ." (4) Finally, a simple direct
approach stating a desire to break up may be used to end the
relationship (Baxter, 1982; Wilmot, Carbaugh, & Baxter, 1985).
The particular strategy one uses may depend on the relationship
type, the reason for the breakup, as well as the degree of
compassionate love one has for the partner (Sprecher,
Zimmerman, & Abrahams, 2010).
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The primary emotions that accompany a breakup are love,
anger, and sadness. Anger may actually be more beneficial than
sadness, as it resolutely breaks the bond between two people,
whereas sadness can linger and lead to depression.
A variety of emotions accompany a breakup. The primary
emotions are love, anger, and sadness (Sbarra & Ferrer, 2006).
If you have experienced a breakup, you may remember the
rollercoaster of emotions that accompanied it. Emotions tend to
be very variable in the first few weeks after a breakup (Sbarra
& Emery, 2005). Love and sadness tend to occur together. For
example, one might listen to a song that provides a reminder of
the love that was shared and this brings along with it feelings of
sadness that the relationship is over. Continued attachment
(love) is not generally positive for people and may be
associated with depression (Sbarra & Emery, 2005; Sbarra &
Ferrer, 2006). Because of intense initial emotions, people often
overestimate the length and intensity of the emotions they will
feel after a breakup (Eastwick, Finkely, Krishnamurti, &
Loewenstein, 2008). Although emotions may be intense at first,
sadness does tend to get better with time. In one study of dating
breakups in college students, most participants who had been
broken up for a month showed no more sadness than those in
intact relationships (Sbarra & Emery, 2005). Anger may
actually be somewhat of a positive emotion in breakups as it
32. serves to more firmly sever the bond, provided one does not get
stuck on anger. In line with the investment model, individuals
who had greater investment (were together longer and felt
closer) and who saw fewer positive alternatives showed more
distress at the ending of a relationship (Simpson, 1987).
Breakups are sometimes mutual, but often not, so the initiator
and the partner who is left may be dealing with different
emotions (Baxter, 1984; Hill et al., 1976; Sprecher, 1994).
Sadness is a common emotion in those who have been broken up
with as well as, for some, betrayal (Boelen & Reijntjes, 2009;
Field, Diego, Pelaez, Deeds, & Delgado, 2009). For the one who
does the leaving, emotions often follow a different pattern.
Though regret and guilt about hurting one's partner may be
present, there might also be a sense of relief or freedom (Emery,
1994; Sprecher, Felmlee, Metts, Fehr, & Vanni, 1998; Vaughn,
1986). Knowing the relationship would soon end because they
were the ones to instigate it, the initiators of the breakup may
have already dealt with sadness about ending the relationship
before talking to their partner about the disillusion. Generally,
the initiator of the breakup does better than the one who is
broken up with (Thompson & Spanier, 1983).
Breakups can have a positive impact on someone's life. If a
relationship was fraught with conflict or abuse, a breakup of
that relationship can produce positive change (Nelson, 1989;
1994). When asked about positive changes that occurred
because of a romantic relationship breakup, the most common
had to do with things learned about the self. Some people report
being more self-confident and independent as the result of a
breakup. One factor in recovery from a breakup is the ability to
redefine the self. People need to develop a new self-concept that
does not include the former relationship partner (Mason, Law,
Bryan, Portley, & Sbarra, 2012). Individuals also learn things
from the relationship, such as what they want from a
relationship or how to do better in future relationships. Other
33. relationships can also grow because of a breakup. Friends and
family may be seen as more important, or these relationships
might become closer than they were in the past (Tashiro &
Frazier, 2003). Sometimes when a relationship is troubled,
ending it may be best for everyone and can make someone
available for a healthier and happier relationship in the future.
Test Yourself
Click on each question below to reveal the answer.
What major emotions accompany a breakup?
Who usually does better when a relationship breaks up, the
one who initiates the breakup or the person who is broken up
with?
Conclusion
We like those we interact with often, those who are attractive,
those who are similar to us, and those we have equitable
relationships with. We also like those who like us exclusively.
We form relationships quickly and easily and are happier and
healthier because of these relationships. Our need for
interaction and close bonds is a need, not just a want, in our
lives. Love comes in a variety of guises, at times including
passion or friendship or compassion. The staying power of
relationships depends on factors inside the relationship, like
costs and rewards; factors inside of the person, like comparison
level; and factors outside the relationship, like available
alternatives. When relationships end, the emotions experienced
may depend on one's status as an initiator of the breakup, the
type of relationship, and the quality of the relationship before it
ended.
Chapter Summary
Factors in Attraction
34. A variety of factors exist that help determine our liking of
others. We like those we see or interact with often, as the mere-
exposure effect predicts. We also like those who are attractive.
Although we would prefer to interact with those who are
attractive, we usually end up in relationships with those who are
similar to us in attractiveness, as proposed by the matching
hypothesis. We tend to like those who are similar to us in values
and interests rather than those who are different. We prefer to
not overbenefit or underbenefit in a relationship, but have a
relationship characterized by equity. We also tend to like those
who like us and only us.
Need to Belong
The need to belong has two components: frequent contact and
enduring connections. Evidence of this need is seen in our ease
of forming and reluctance in ending relationships. The need is
also evident in our happiness when we have social bonds and
the negative emotions (anger, sadness) associated with lack of
connection. Deprivation is associated with mental and physical
health detriments. Ostracism interferes with our sense of self-
esteem and brings about feelings of meaninglessness, lack of
control, and aggression. We may interact with others when we
are lonely, but we do not feel that we have a close connection to
anyone.
Love
Love is a concept with many facets. Companionate love
involves a deep caring for another person, passionate love
includes desire for another, and compassionate love is a self-
giving type of love. Love can also be characterized according to
the amount of intimacy, passion, and decision/commitment
involved, according to Sternberg's triangular theory of love.
Relationship Maintenance
Interdependence theory predicts satisfaction with a relationship
by bringing together costs, rewards, and the expectations one
35. has for costs and rewards in a relationship. Dependence on a
particular relationship, according to this theory, is determined
by costs, rewards, and possible alternatives. The investment
model predicts commitment to a relationship through a
combination of satisfaction, quality of alternatives, and
investments in the relationship. One relationship researcher
with an impressive track record at predicting relationship
success, John Gottman, notes that a ratio of at least five
positive for every one negative behavior must be maintained for
relationships to last. Relationships characterized by criticism,
contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are likely to fail.
Having a positive outlook and expressing love for a relationship
partner tends to help maintain relationships. Openness,
including self-disclosure, can lead to disclosure reciprocity and,
therefore, deepening of a relationships. Sharing responsibilities
and having mutual friends is also helpful to relationship
maintenance.
When Relationships End
Breakups normally follow a pattern of individual realizations
about the relationship, a breakup of the partnership, telling
others about the breakup, and recovery. Love, sadness, and
anger are all emotions felt in a breakup. One's status as initiator
of a breakup and quality of the relationship before the breakup
can affect the emotions one feels after a relationship dissolves.
Ending of relationships is not always negative. Some people
learn confidence or independence or other important lessons
when a relationship ends.
Critical Thinking Questions
Have you had an experience with any of the factors related to
attraction? For example, do you find yourself friends with your
neighbors? Is your significant other, if you have one, similar to
you in attractiveness?
If you were a scientist looking into liking, what other factors
36. might you want to investigate?
What kinds of situations could you imagine in which
someone would fulfill one aspect of the need to belong, but not
the other? How would that affect the person?
How could you assist others whose need to belong is not
fulfilled? For example, if older adults in nursing homes lack
frequent contacts with others, how might that be alleviated?
Some researchers describe three types of love (companionate,
passionate, and compassionate), others three aspects of love
(passion, intimacy, commitment). Are there other types or
aspects of love not covered by these?
Consider some of your own relationships. Based on
Sternberg's theory of love, how would you characterize these
relationships? How might you apply interdependence theory or
the investment model to relationships you are part of or know
about?
If you have experienced a relationship breakup, does the
research on this topic fit with your experience? Is there
anything these researchers are missing?
Key Terms
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communal relationships
companionate love
comparison level
comparison level of alternatives
compassionate love
commitment
37. disclosure reciprocity
equity
exchange relationships
hard to get
insecure attachment style
interdependence theory
intimacy
investment
investment model
loneliness
matching hypothesis
mere-exposure effect
need to belong
ostracism
overbenefited
passion
passionate love
secure attachment style
38. self-disclosure
triangular theory of love
underbenefited
Chapter 11:
Prosocial Behavior
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Learning Objectives
By the end of the chapter you should be able to:
Define altruistic motives and egoistic motives
Differentiate ultimate goals from instrumental
goals and unintended consequences
Explain the empathy–altruism hypothesis and the debate
about whether true altruism exists
Explain how the norm of reciprocity, social norms in general,
kin selection, and personal differences determine helping
Explain the steps to helping and the factors that may cause
someone to not help in an emergency situation
Define and describe the underpinnings of the bystander effect
Chapter Outline
11.1 Altruism
11.2 Reasons Behind Helping
11.3 Bystander Help
39. Step 1: Noticing an Event Is Occurring
Step 2: Interpreting an Event as an Emergency
Step 3: Taking Responsibility for Helping
Step 4: Deciding How to Help
Step 5: Helping
Reducing the Bystander Effect
Chapter Summary
* * *
In May 2010, Ione Fletcher Kleven heard yelling outside her
California home. Heading out to investigate, she discovered a
14-year-old boy being attacked by men in their 20s. Trying to
stop the attack, she ran toward them yelling. She grabbed the
boy's arm and tried to drag him away. Stunned by an
intervention in the attack by a woman in her 60s, the men
momentarily stopped. When Kleven's husband, a former Marine,
came out to investigate, the men got into their car and fled the
scene. Kleven asked her husband to take care of the boy and call
for help while she chased down the assailants, losing them in
traffic. The boy was taken to the hospital for surgery and
recovered from the stab wounds he suffered in the attack (De
Benedetti, 2012). Kleven's extraordinary act of heroism earned
her a Carnegie Hero Award in 2012.
11.1 Altruism
Life provides us with opportunities for kindness and, at times,
heroism. Rarely do we encounter situations like that faced by
Ione Fletcher Kleven, but daily life provides plenty of occasions
for helping those around us. Imagine you were in a train station
waiting for a departure when you notice a woman drop her
ticket. The man behind her picks it up and returns it to her. She
40. accepts it with a smile of relief and hurries off to catch her
train. This may be an ordinary occurrence, but it leaves us with
the question of why the man helped the woman by returning her
ticket. Was he hoping to make a connection and get her phone
number? Was he hoping for a reward? Did he want to look like
a hero? Or, even though he was a stranger and not helping
would not have affected him, was he just trying to make sure
she made her train? When we help others, the question arises as
to whether we help because we truly care about the welfare of
another or whether we help to get something out of it. This is
the basic question in the debate about altruism. Altruism occurs
when our motive for a behavior is based entirely in the interest
of the other person and is not motivated by self-interest. On the
other hand, when we do something entirely for self-interest, we
are being egoistic.
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Altruism involves bettering the welfare of others without
expecting personal benefits or gains.
Imagine you bought coffee and a bagel for the person sitting
next to you in the train station. If you bought those treats for
your neighbor entirely because you wanted to make that person
happy, you would have acted altruistically. Your ultimate goal
was the happiness of the other person. An ultimate goal is the
true goal, the end toward which one is aiming. In these types of
situations we can also talk about another type of goal called an
instrumental goal. Instrumental goals are the things we do to
obtain our ultimate goal (Batson, 1990). Your instrumental goal
was to buy the coffee and bagel and give them to your neighbor.
As stepping stones toward our ultimate goals, instrumental
goals may change depending on our ability to do them. If coffee
and a bagel were not available, you might have told your
42. only an instrumental goal. If there had been another way to
reach the goal of impressing your significant other, you may
have taken that option instead. If you have ever volunteered so
that you would have something impressive to put on your
resume, you engaged in volunteering for an egoistic motive. The
type of volunteering you might choose to do may depend on
whether you are egoistically or altruistically motivated (van
Emmerik & Stone, 2002). If you are volunteering to gain
recognition, volunteering that has a high profile or is for a
popular cause may be more attractive to you. If you are
volunteering for altruistic motives, opportunities with groups
you can identify with, and therefore have greater empathy for,
may be more attractive.
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The Carnegie Hero Fund Commission recognizes individuals
who perform acts of heroism. Click on Carnegie Medal
Awardees to read the stories of some past winners of the
Carnegie Medal.
We engage in altruism, according to researchers, when we feel
empathy for another person. Empathy is an emotion that people
feel when they adopt another person's perspective (Hoffman,
1981; Howe, 2013). By adopting that other person's perspective
we are able to act in an altruistic way. This is called the
empathy–altruism hypothesis (Batson, 1990; Batson, Duncan,
Ackerman, Buckley, & Birch, 1981). You might know what it is
like to be hurrying through a train station, so when you see
someone else hurrying, you may help because you have been in
that person's shoes. If we see that someone else is in trouble and
needs help but do not adopt that person's point of view, we feel,
not empathy but, personal distress. For example, if someone
slipped and fell in front of you and you did not feel empathy,
you might instead be upset that you had to see blood or be
inconvenienced by someone else's clumsiness. In this case you
might help only because you don't want to see the injury or so
43. that you can be on your way quickly, not because you truly care
about that person's well-being. Egoistic (self-focused) motives
involve personal distress, a concern about how one might be
viewed by others, or a desire to feel better about oneself.
The problem researchers face in examining whether we engage
in activities for truly altruistic motives is that the action itself
does not clearly show the motive behind the action. That coffee
you bought for your neighbor in the train station may have
earned you a kiss from your significant other, but was your
action egoistically motivated by recognition for your good deed
or altruistically motivated by a desire to make your neighbor
happy? On the surface, the action and reaction are identical. To
look into altruism, researchers set up situations in which
participants who were feeling empathy for someone else could
either help that person or get out of the situation without
looking or feeling bad. For example, in one study the
participants could help by taking the place of another
participant (actually a confederate) and receive electrical shocks
in her place. For some participants, escape from the situation,
and therefore from their own distress, was easy. For other
participants escape was difficult. The idea was to see whether
people were motivated by true altruism (they would help
whether escape was difficult or easy) or egoism (they would
help only if escape was difficult). In this, and other studies like
it, researchers found that when empathy was high, people
seemed to act in truly altruistic ways. Even when they could
escape the situation or leave feeling happy or looking good
without helping, they still helped (Batson, 2010; Batson et al.,
1989; Batson et al., 1991; Batson et al., 1988; Dovidio, Allen,
& Schroeder, 1990). Altruism can even occur when it violates
the principle of justice. When we feel strong empathy for
someone, we may act to increase that person's welfare even
when that act will be unfair to others. An individual might
cover for a coworker whose mother has died even when that is
unfair to another coworker or to the department in general
44. (Batson et al., 1995; Batson, Klein, Highberger, & Shaw, 1995).
Empathy can be thought of as an emotional state that can be
manipulated within a particular situation, which is what the
researchers did in many of the studies cited above. People do
differ in the amount of empathy they generally feel, called trait
empathy. Different conceptualizations of trait empathy exist.
Some focus on the emotional, describing trait empathy as an
emotional response to the distress of others (Mehrabian &
Epstein, 1972; Mehrabian, Young, & Sato, 1988). Others focus
more on the cognitive, describing trait empathy as a greater
understanding of the states of others (Hogan, 1969) High trait
empathy is associated with greater helping of a person who
appears to be in need (Eisenberg et al., 1989). Individuals
higher in trait empathy are more likely to help in a sustained
way through regular volunteering. (Davis et al., 1999; Unger &
Thumuluri, 1997).
Empathy is processed by the front part of the brain (medial
prefrontal cortex). Individuals who are experiencing empathy
toward another person show activation in this part of the brain,
as well as a few other areas (Rameson, Morelli, & Lieberman,
2012). Some neural evidence suggests that empathy and helping
are linked in the brain, as this is also the area that is activated
for helping (Rameson et al., 2012). The activated part of the
brain is an area that is also active when we are thinking about
past and future experiences and taking the perspective of others,
which is in line with what we know about empathy.
Altruism does vary from culture to culture (Cohen, 1972; Fehr
& Fischbacher, 2003; Gurven, Zanolini, & Schniter, 2008) and
may be maintained or expanded through cultural transmission
across time. In a process similar to natural selection for genes, a
culture that encourages altruistic behavior may, because of that
behavior, continue and flourish (Bell, Richerson, & McElreath,
2009). For example, altruism is higher in Thailand than in the
45. United States. The reasons for such differences are likely quite
varied, but in interviews, Thais remarked that their Buddhist
religion was an important factor in their desire to help others
(Yablo & Field, 2007). Even within a nation, different
subcultures or religious groups might have different views of
helping. One's faith tradition might encourage helping even
when one gets nothing in return or when helping puts one's own
life in danger—leading to more altruistic behavior in some
groups. In a study of Indian Hindus and Muslims, the Muslims
were more likely to help even when the person they would help
was disliked and they had a justification for not helping
(Kanekar & Merchant, 2001). This is not to say altruism is
entirely based in culture. Evolutionary psychologists propose
that altruism is partially genetically based, and it is an
interaction of genetic influences and cultural influences that
determine altruism (Gintis, Bowles, Boyd, & Fehr, 2008; Knafo
& Israel, 2010).
Test Yourself
Click on each question below to reveal the answer.
If someone helps another with the intention of increasing that
person's well-being but receives benefits for that action was the
helping altruistic?
When we put ourselves in other people's shoes we may help
them out because we truly care about their welfare. This
describes what term?
11.2 Reasons Behind Helping
Besides altruism there are a variety of reasons we might help
others. One reason is because we want others to help us. Recall
the discussion of reciprocity as a persuasion technique. We
generally want to get as much as we give and give as much as
we get (Gouldner, 1960). You might give a friend a ride to the
46. airport with the implicit understanding that your friend will
give you a ride when you need one. Helping, then, is really a
form of social exchange. We help to be helped.
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Helping may also be part of a general social norm (Staub,
1972). We often engage in behavior because we believe others
engage in those behaviors (descriptive norms), or because
others think we should (injunctive norms). We may help,
therefore, because we believe it is what others do and what
others think we should do (Schwartz, 1975). For example, in a
study of potential bone marrow donors, women who ascribed to
themselves the responsibility of donating bone marrow due to a
descriptive or injunctive norm were more likely to volunteer to
donate than those who did not have the norm or the feeling of
responsibility (Schwartz, 1973). Members of a work group
follow the norms for helping in a group when they are more
attracted to the group (Naumann & Ehrhart, 2011). Norms for
who we help may be culturally dependent. Indians were more
likely than Americans to judge the failure to help strangers or
others in moderate or minor need as immoral (Miller, Bersoff, &
Harwood, 1990), suggesting a stronger norm for helping exists
in India than in the United States. Such national norms will lead
to more helping for those types of needs.
Evolutionary theorists believe people help to gain benefits
through promoting the genes of those related to them (Hoffman,
1981). Individuals are more likely to help their own child than a
47. stranger's child. We are also more likely to help a sibling than a
cousin, and more likely to help a cousin than a stranger.
Generally, the closer the person in need is to us in terms of
genetic similarity, the greater the likelihood of helping. This
tendency allows our own genes to be passed on to future
generations and is called kin selection (Essock-Vitale &
McGuire, 1980; Kruger, 2003; Waibel, Floreano, & Keller,
2011).
Some similarities in personality and belief exist in those people
who are particularly helpful. Individuals who helped Jews in
Nazi Europe had greater empathy and beliefs in the equality of
people than those who did not help, though they were similar to
others in most other personality characteristics (Oliner &
Oliner, 1988). Helpful people tend to be high in self-esteem and
self-efficacy (feelings of competence). Helpful people also tend
to have a strong belief that their own actions will affect what is
happening in the world (something called an internal locus of
control) and attribute responsibility for making those changes to
themselves (Schwartz, 1974). Moral development is also more
advanced; that is, those who are helpful are more focused on
societal functioning or universal moral principles than on
personal outcomes (Piliavin, Dovidio, Gaertner, & Clark, 1981;
Rushton, Chrisjohn, & Fekken, 1981; Staub, 1978). In a study
of online bullying, researchers found that people high in
extraversion and empathy are more likely to intervene than
those lower in those characteristics (Freis & Gurung, 2013).
An older husband and wife volunteer at a soup kitchen.
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Altruistic behavior increases with age.
Many religious traditions promote prosocial behavior, leading
researchers to examine whether religious people help more
(Batson, Schoenrade, & Pych, 1985; Habito, 2002; Wuthnow,
48. 1991). In general, religiosity is more strongly tied to long-term
or planned helping, like volunteering, as opposed to helping in
emergency situations (Galen, 2012). People who are more
religious are more likely to engage in planned helping than
those who are less religious, while there is no difference
between those of different levels of religiosity in emergency
helping (Annis, 1976; Hardy & Carlo, 2005; Mattis et al., 2000;
Wilson & Janoski, 1995; Youniss, McLellan, & Yates, 1999).
Due to differing motivations, people may engage in the same
religious behaviors but not have the same experience. Batson et
al. (1985) found that those who saw their faith as a journey or
quest, or those whose focus was on their relationship with God,
engaged in more prosocial behavior than those who viewed
religion as a means to an end.
Altruistic types of helping increase with age and differ between
genders. Children learn to help altruistically from adult models,
particularly parents (London, 1970; Piliavin & Callero, 1990;
Rosenhan, 1970). Preschool children show few instances of
altruistic helping, while older children show these types of
actions much more (Bar-Tal, Raviv, & Goldberg, 1982;
Eisenberg, 1986). Altruism may continue to increase across the
lifespan (Marks & Song, 2008; Midlarsky & Hannah, 1989).
Men and women also exhibit differences when it comes to
helping. For example, men are more likely than women to help
in high-risk situations, or situations that require physical
strength. Women are more likely than men to help in low-risk
and low physical-strength situations (Eagly, 2009; Erdle,
Sansom, Cole, & Heapy, 1992). For example, a man might pull
someone from a burning house or intervene when someone is
being mugged, while a woman might bring food to a grieving
family or canvas the neighborhood collecting donations.
Test Yourself
Click on each question below to reveal the answer.
49. According to the theory of kin selection, which of the
following would you be most likely to run into a burning house
to save: your identical twin, your cousin, your grandmother, or
a stranger?
What personal characteristics are more often found in helpful
people?
Social Psychology in Depth: Helping After Natural Disasters
In October 2012, superstorm Sandy headed up the east coast of
the United States and brought death and damage. Millions of
people lost power for days or weeks; thousands of people were
left homeless, some with homes completely destroyed; and 149
lives were lost (Sharp, 2012). Thousands of utility workers from
other states and from Canada were called in to help restore
power, and the Red Cross brought in 14,400 workers, most
volunteers, to help with disaster relief (Red Cross, 2012;
Webley, 2012). When asked, 77% of Americans say they want
to help in the face of such disasters (Marchetti & Bunte, 2006).
What determines helping in disasters?
Our emotional reactions to disasters are important to our
response. According to the empathy–altruism hypothesis, we
help altruistically when we feel empathy for others. Feelings of
empathy and sympathy are related to a desire to help and to
eventual helping (Amato, 1986; Amato, Ho, & Partridge, 1984;
Avdeyeva, Burgetova, & Welch, 2006; Marjanovic, Greenglass,
Struthers, & Faye, 2009). Personal distress also affects helping.
Individuals who reported shock, horror, or sickness in response
to major bush fires in Australia donated more money than those
who did not report feeling these emotions (Amato, 1986).
Our degree of relation to the victims of disaster and personal
characteristics affect the help we are willing to provide. As
would be expected from kin selection theory, individuals with
friends or relatives affected by a disaster are more likely to
51. reports suggested some changes to the basic facts (neighbors
may have heard but not seen her attack and called earlier than
reported), the city and the country were horrified that people
could be so apathetic in the face of an unfolding tragedy. Why,
everyone wanted to know, didn't someone help?
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Examples of such incidents are not difficult to find. In 2008, in
Connecticut, Angel Arce Torres was hit by a car while crossing
the street. He lay paralyzed on the sidewalk as cars and
pedestrians passed by (Goren, 2008). In 2009 a 15-year-old girl
at Richmond High School, in California, was gang-raped and
beaten during a homecoming dance, while at least 10 observers
watched and took pictures (Martinez, 2009). When we encounter
such events, when do we help and what factors might lead us to
turn away? Social psychologists decided to answer that
question. There are five major steps to helping (Latane &
Darley, 1970). At each step one can continue to the next step or
fail to continue. Looking at the five steps together, we see that a
person in need of help is less likely to get that help in a crowd
than when one other person is present, a phenomenon known as
the bystander effect (Latane & Darley, 1970).
Step 1: Noticing an Event Is Occurring
Before people can help, they need to first notice that there is a
situation present in which help is needed. If you are listening to
music through earbuds or are in a noisy place, you might not
hear someone scream (Page, 1977). If you do not know the
event is occurring you will not help. Other than not hearing or
seeing something, we might also be less likely to notice an
event if we are in a hurry. In a study by Darley and Batson
(1973), the researchers recruited seminary students to be part of
a study supposedly focusing on vocational careers for seminary
52. students. The students participated in the first part of the study
and were asked to go to another building to complete the second
part of the study. One third of the participants were told that
they were late and needed to hurry to the next building. Another
third were told to go directly over, they would be right on time.
The final third were told they were early but could go over to
the other building to wait. While walking from one building to
the next, the participants encountered a man—actually a
confederate of the researchers—sitting in a doorway who
coughed twice and slumped down as they went by.
Of the participants who were not in a hurry, 63% stopped to
help the man. Of those who were told they would be right on
time, 43% helped. Being in a hurry had a dramatic effect on
helping. Of those in the high-hurry group, only 10% helped.
This study suggests that being distracted from one's
surroundings due to hurry decreases helping.
Step 2: Interpreting an Event as an Emergency
If a person has noticed an event has occurred, the next step is
interpreting that event as an emergency. Kleven, the woman
described in the initial story for this chapter, needed to decide
whether the shouting she heard outside her house was a
potential emergency or just some teenagers having fun. Is the
person slumped in a seat at the train station asleep or ill? Is the
person pulling to the side of the road having car trouble or
stopping to discipline a whiny child? When an event is
ambiguous, we are less likely to take the next step in helping.
The man who clutches his chest and groans "heart attack" is
fairly clearly having a heart attack. The man slumped in a seat
at the train station is less clearly in need of help.
One way we try to determine if someone needs help is to look to
other bystanders. If others look alarmed at the sound of the
scream in the train station, you might interpret the event as an
emergency. If others look unconcerned you might interpret the
54. rather than rely on the nonverbal signals strangers are likely to
send. In a study involving a potential emergency, two friends
responded more quickly than two strangers, though individuals
that were alone still responded most quickly (Latane & Rodin,
1969).
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the Holocaust and smaller-scale tragic events like the torture
and murder of Ilan Halimi.
We interpret situations differently depending on what we
believe is the relationship of those involved in the situation. In
an emergency involving a victim and an attacker, we are less
likely to intervene when we believe there is a relationship
between the individuals. A tragic example of this phenomenon
occurred in the United Kingdom in 1993 when 2-year-old James
Bulger was killed by two 10-year-old boys. James was
kidnapped by the boys from a shopping mall and dragged 2½
miles to railroad tracks where he was killed. Many people saw
the boys together and noticed little James' distress but assumed
it was two older brothers taking home a reluctant little brother.
This type of interpretation and reaction was supported in
research. When researchers staged an attack of a woman, three
times as many people intervened when she said "I don't know
you" (65% intervened) to her attacker than when she said "I
don't know why I ever married you" (19% intervened) (Shotland
& Straw, 1976).
Step 3: Taking Responsibility for Helping
Once we have interpreted an event as an emergency, we may
still not help if we fail to take responsibility for helping. In a
study investigating this step to helping, research participants
55. heard another participant apparently having an epileptic seizure
in another room (Darley & Latane, 1968). The seizure was
staged. One group of participants believed they were the only
ones hearing the seizure, another group thought there was one
other person besides them, and a third group believed that four
others were also hearing the seizure. After 6 minutes, 85% of
those who believed they were alone, 62% of those who thought
there was one other person, and 31% of those who thought there
were four other people, went to find help. The individuals who
did not seek help were still concerned. When the researchers
went to get them at the end of the study they showed signs of
nervousness and asked about the condition of the person
apparently having the seizure.
A man leans down to help a woman pick up the spilt contents of
her purse.
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You are more likely to help a person in a stressful situation
when you are the only witness.
Most of the time, as in the study with the alleged seizure,
having a larger group observing an emergency seems to inhibit
helping. The responsibility for helping gets diffused, or
parceled out, in large groups. In a group of four you might
assume that someone else can take responsibility for helping
because you are not the only one hearing the emergency. When
you are the only witness in an emergency situation, all
responsibility to help falls to you. The result of this diffusion of
responsibility is that less helping occurs with a larger
population of bystanders (Darley & Latane, 1968).
Larger groups are not always detrimental. Groups made up of
friends are less likely to show diffusion of responsibility than
groups made up of strangers and are more likely to help. It may
be that these groups are used to working together and can,