Mrs. Doron
Did you know?
• The word “bully” used to mean the total
opposite of what it means now.
• Five hundred years ago, it meant friend,
family member or sweetheart.
• The root of the word comes from the Dutch
boel, meaning lover or brother.
Bullying can be...
• One person making fun of another.
• One person trying to beat up another.
• A group of people ganging up against
others.
Does it have to be a part of
growing up?
No
• Each and every person has the right to feel
safe in your life and good about yourself.
The three types with examples
Physical
Bullying
Verbal Bullying Relationship
Bullying
Hitting, Kicking, or
Pushing someone
Stealing, Hiding or
ruining someone's things
Making someone do
something he or she
doesn't want to do
Name calling
Teasing
Insulting
Refusing to talk to
someone
Spreading lies and
rumors about someone
Making someone feel
left out or rejected
All bullies have one thing in
common:
• Something or someone is making them feel insecure.
~Therefore they bully to make themselves feel better.
•They could have something going on in their family.
•They might not feel like they are getting enough attention
from parents or teachers.
•They might have watched their parents or older siblings get
their way by being angry and pushy.
•Maybe they are also bullied.
•They might be spoiled by their parents.
Possible reasons for being a
Target.
• The bully or the target are either
smaller or bigger than most kids their
age.
• The target may be a minority.
• May have a disability.
• Maybe you have a name that is not
ordinary.
Possible reasons for being a
Target.
• If you get anxious or upset easily.
• If you usually are alone and don't have
many friends.
• If you don't have a lot of confidence and
don't stand up for yourself.
What to do “In the moment”
Ignore them! Pretend you
didn’t hear them
Don’t even look
at them
Don’t Cry Don’t get angry Don’t show
them that you
are upset
Talk about it to
someone else
Write it down so
you don’t forget
to tell someone
Respond to the
Bully evenly
and firmly
Continued
“In the moment” continued
Turn the
comment into
a joke.
Turn and
walk away.
Remove
yourself from
the situation.
Go
somewhere
that an adult
is present.
Remember
you are not
the one with
the problem.
The bully is.
Talk to
an
adult!
Ways to avoid future bullying
• Don’t bring expensive things or money to
school.
• Label your belongings with permanent
marker in case they get stolen.
• Avoid unsupervised areas.
Sit near the bus driver on the bus or walk with
a teacher to class.
More ways to avoid future
bullying
• Act confident. Hold your
head up, stand up strait,
and make eye contact.
• Don’t walk alone, travel
with at least one other
person.
• Avoid places where
bullying happens.
Reasons
• The bully is someone others look
up to and want to hang out with.
• They want to “side” with the bully
because to do that makes them feel
strong.
Reasons
• They’re entertained by the
bullying.
• They don’t think speaking up will
help.
• They’re afraid that if they say
something, the bully will turn on
them.
Some things you can say if
someone is getting bullied.
Remember the golden rule:
•Treat others the way you
want to be treated. Stand
up for someone when he or
she needs it, and when you
need it, someone will stand
up for you.
Ask yourself these questions.
• Does it make you feel better to hurt other
people or take their things?
• Are you bigger and stronger than other
people your age? Do you sometimes use
your size and strength to get your way?
• Have you been bullied by someone in the
past and feel like you have to make up for
doing the same thing to others?
• Do you avoid thinking about how other
people might feel if you say or do hurtful
things to them?
If you are a bully, here are some
ways to stop.
• Apologize to people that you have bullied, and
follow it up by being friendly.
• They might not trust you right away, but eventually
they will see that you have changed.
More ways to stop
• If you are having a hard time feeling good about
yourself, explore ways to boost your self-esteem.
• If you feel like you’re having trouble controlling
your feelings, especially anger, talk to a school
counselor about it.
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    Did you know? •The word “bully” used to mean the total opposite of what it means now. • Five hundred years ago, it meant friend, family member or sweetheart. • The root of the word comes from the Dutch boel, meaning lover or brother.
  • 3.
    Bullying can be... •One person making fun of another. • One person trying to beat up another. • A group of people ganging up against others.
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    Does it haveto be a part of growing up? No • Each and every person has the right to feel safe in your life and good about yourself.
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    The three typeswith examples Physical Bullying Verbal Bullying Relationship Bullying Hitting, Kicking, or Pushing someone Stealing, Hiding or ruining someone's things Making someone do something he or she doesn't want to do Name calling Teasing Insulting Refusing to talk to someone Spreading lies and rumors about someone Making someone feel left out or rejected
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    All bullies haveone thing in common: • Something or someone is making them feel insecure. ~Therefore they bully to make themselves feel better. •They could have something going on in their family. •They might not feel like they are getting enough attention from parents or teachers. •They might have watched their parents or older siblings get their way by being angry and pushy. •Maybe they are also bullied. •They might be spoiled by their parents.
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    Possible reasons forbeing a Target. • The bully or the target are either smaller or bigger than most kids their age. • The target may be a minority. • May have a disability. • Maybe you have a name that is not ordinary.
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    Possible reasons forbeing a Target. • If you get anxious or upset easily. • If you usually are alone and don't have many friends. • If you don't have a lot of confidence and don't stand up for yourself.
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    What to do“In the moment” Ignore them! Pretend you didn’t hear them Don’t even look at them Don’t Cry Don’t get angry Don’t show them that you are upset Talk about it to someone else Write it down so you don’t forget to tell someone Respond to the Bully evenly and firmly Continued
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    “In the moment”continued Turn the comment into a joke. Turn and walk away. Remove yourself from the situation. Go somewhere that an adult is present. Remember you are not the one with the problem. The bully is. Talk to an adult!
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    Ways to avoidfuture bullying • Don’t bring expensive things or money to school. • Label your belongings with permanent marker in case they get stolen. • Avoid unsupervised areas. Sit near the bus driver on the bus or walk with a teacher to class.
  • 17.
    More ways toavoid future bullying • Act confident. Hold your head up, stand up strait, and make eye contact. • Don’t walk alone, travel with at least one other person. • Avoid places where bullying happens.
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    Reasons • The bullyis someone others look up to and want to hang out with. • They want to “side” with the bully because to do that makes them feel strong.
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    Reasons • They’re entertainedby the bullying. • They don’t think speaking up will help. • They’re afraid that if they say something, the bully will turn on them.
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    Some things youcan say if someone is getting bullied.
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    Remember the goldenrule: •Treat others the way you want to be treated. Stand up for someone when he or she needs it, and when you need it, someone will stand up for you.
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    Ask yourself thesequestions. • Does it make you feel better to hurt other people or take their things? • Are you bigger and stronger than other people your age? Do you sometimes use your size and strength to get your way?
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    • Have youbeen bullied by someone in the past and feel like you have to make up for doing the same thing to others? • Do you avoid thinking about how other people might feel if you say or do hurtful things to them?
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    If you area bully, here are some ways to stop. • Apologize to people that you have bullied, and follow it up by being friendly. • They might not trust you right away, but eventually they will see that you have changed.
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    More ways tostop • If you are having a hard time feeling good about yourself, explore ways to boost your self-esteem. • If you feel like you’re having trouble controlling your feelings, especially anger, talk to a school counselor about it.