The document discusses how people dislike being micromanaged and the importance of feeling in control, resulting in negative perceptions of pushy persuasion techniques often used by salespeople. It emphasizes that effective persuasion doesn't have to be manipulative; instead, it can involve guiding others to come to their own conclusions. Developing this persuasive skill is essential in various aspects of life, and while challenging, it is attainable with practice.

1. How To Avoid Pushy Persuasion

2. Most people hate to be micro-
managed.

3. Meaning that your boss (or husband or
wife) is standing right over your
shoulder.

4. Telling you exactly what to do and
exactly how to do it.

5. Humans are hard wired to have a
strong need to feel in control.

6. Only when WE decide WE want
somebody else to tell us what to do, is
it OK.

7. This is why unasked for advice is
almost always taken the wrong way.

8. There you are merrily going along, and
some goof comes and tries to tell you
what to do.

9. Think about what this means.

10. They think they know MORE about the
situation than you do.

11. Which may be true, but part of being
human is discovering and learning on
our own, instead of having some
busybody sticking their nose in our
business.

12. Which is why most of us absolutely
HATE salespeople.

13. They are pushy, obnoxious and are
always telling us THEIR reasons why
we should do things.

14. If they are being sneaky, they might
use some manipulation tactics.

15. You want to buy something for $200.
They try and sell you something for
$500.

16. They push it really hard. Finally, you
"win" and buy the one in the middle
for "only" $300.

17. Lucky you!

18. Most people are so turned off by these
ultra pushy and manipulative sales
people that they'd never DREAM of
working in sales, despite the
ENORMOUS amount of money you can
make with very little education.

19. However, even if you aren't in sales,
you ARE going to have to persuade
people.

20. You might persuade that girl or guy to
date you.

21. Or that boss to hire you instead of the
fifty other candidates.

22. Or your wife or husband to watch and
action movie instead of a romance.

23. The truth is that it's very difficult to
squeeze through life without having
some kind of persuasion skills.

24. Luckily, you don't have to be pushy, or
manipulative, or sleazy.

25. You can use THEIR ideas to help them
understand YOUR point of view.

26. And when they finally agree to do
what you want them to, it will be
THEIR idea.

27. They won't feel conned, they won't
feel tricked, and they won't feel
suckered.

28. They probably won't even realize you
"helped" them come to a decision.

29. And they'll start to associate YOU with
their decisions to get what they want.

30. Which can help out in a lot of ways.

31. To be sure, doing this is a skill, and it
takes practice.

32. There's no magic words or shortcuts.

33. But it is a skill that few people know
exist, let alone know how to use
effectively.

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