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Constant techno communication brings lack of focus and
loss of privacy
By ERIC ADLER and LAURA BAUER
The Kansas City Star
Just days ago, Elliot Kort, 22, woke in his Lawrence apartment, yawned, brushed his teeth and greeted his
girlfriend, Elyse, in the way he does most every morning.
“Hi, sweetie.”
“Hi, baby,” Elyse responded. “How did you sleep?”
“It took me a little bit to get there, but I slept OK. How about you?”
“Very well,” she told him.
Intimate? Ordinary?
Absolutely.
And yet, experts said, it is the fact that such a conversation is now deemed routine — happening, as this one
did, by computer, with Kort electronically chatting to his girlfriend at her apartment in Washington, D.C. — that
makes it remarkable.
“It’s our morning breakfast table in the digital realm,” Kort said.
Cyber-savvy experts view it as far more than that. It’s an example of how technology — and especially the
growth in text messaging and live video chatting — is allowing people to keep in such constant
communication that it has begun to radically change the sense of what it means for people to feel together, or
alone, or apart.
Researchers even have names for it: “connected presence” or “persistent presence” — the feeling, through
technology, that you are with someone when you are not.
“It’s having this sense, this ambient awareness, of your friends or family,” said Mary Madden, senior research
specialist with the Pew Research Center’s Internet & American Life Project. “Even if you’re not communicating
or interacting, they have a sense of you being there and being OK, just by you being logged on.”
But the boom in constant connections also is raising significant concerns, from fostering poor focus and lack
of independence to the real difficulty of cutting ties in an era of Facebook “friend” connections.
More privacy questions are sure to arise with the evolution of new phone applications. Foursquare or Gowalla
now tell people where you are, using Global Positioning System satellites.
Some worry, too, about stalking, domestic violence and being connected to people who are truly unwanted.
“We are seeing persistent texting,” said Parry Aftab, a lawyer and executive director of WiredSafety.org, an
Internet safety organization. “People wanting to know where you are at every hour of the day, who you are
with. When does it go from, ‘I care about you,’ to ‘I’m a stalker, I’m a punching bag?’ There’s a thin line from
what’s reasonable and what’s manic.”
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•••
To be sure, technology’s role in helping bring people closer is older than the chariot. Trains, planes,
telegraphs, telephones have all played roles.
But social scientists said that nothing had so narrowed that gap as the unprecedented rise in technologies
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Sunday, Mar 14, 2010
Posted on Sun, Mar. 14, 2010
Constant techno communication brings lack of focus and
loss of privacy
By ERIC ADLER and LAURA BAUER
The Kansas City Star
Just days ago, Elliot Kort, 22, woke in his Lawrence apartment,
yawned, brushed his teeth and greeted his
girlfriend, Elyse, in the way he does most every morning.
“Hi, sweetie.”
“Hi, baby,” Elyse responded. “How did you sleep?”
“It took me a little bit to get there, but I slept OK. How about
you?”
“Very well,” she told him.
Intimate? Ordinary?
Absolutely.
And yet, experts said, it is the fact that such a conversation is
now deemed routine — happening, as this one
did, by computer, with Kort electronically chatting to his
girlfriend at her apartment in Washington, D.C. — that
2. makes it remarkable.
“It’s our morning breakfast table in the digital realm,” Kort
said.
Cyber-savvy experts view it as far more than that. It’s an
example of how technology — and especially the
growth in text messaging and live video chatting — is allowing
people to keep in such constant
communication that it has begun to radically change the sense
of what it means for people to feel together, or
alone, or apart.
Researchers even have names for it: “connected presence” or
“persistent presence” — the feeling, through
technology, that you are with someone when you are not.
“It’s having this sense, this ambient awareness, of your friends
or family,” said Mary Madden, senior research
specialist with the Pew Research Center’s Internet & American
Life Project. “Even if you’re not communicating
or interacting, they have a sense of you being there and being
OK, just by you being logged on.”
But the boom in constant connections also is raising significant
concerns, from fostering poor focus and lack
of independence to the real difficulty of cutting ties in an era of
Facebook “friend” connections.
More privacy questions are sure to arise with the evolution of
new phone applications. Foursquare or Gowalla
now tell people where you are, using Global Positioning System
satellites.
Some worry, too, about stalking, domestic violence and being
connected to people who are truly unwanted.
3. “We are seeing persistent texting,” said Parry Aftab, a lawyer
and executive director of WiredSafety.org, an
Internet safety organization. “People wanting to know where
you are at every hour of the day, who you are
with. When does it go from, ‘I care about you,’ to ‘I’m a
stalker, I’m a punching bag?’ There’s a thin line from
what’s reasonable and what’s manic.”
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•••
To be sure, technology’s role in helping bring people closer is
older than the chariot. Trains, planes,
telegraphs, telephones have all played roles.
But social scientists said that nothing had so narrowed that gap
as the unprecedented rise in technologies
(text messages, Skype video chats, Twitter, cell phone access to
social networking sites such as Facebook)
that allow people to commune with one another as they walk
through their days, at any moment and
anywhere.
In January, a report on children aged 8 to 18 showed that 31
percent of second to fourth graders now own
their own cell phones. By 18, nearly everyone has one. Some
4.1 billion texts are now sent each day in the
United States, at least four times what it was in 2007.
4. Last year, users of Skype, which offers instant messaging and
video conferencing, logged onto their
computers to make 3.1 billion minutes of calls, up 44 percent
from the year before. Of all Skype users, just
over one-third were talking face to face over live video.
A few results of such constant connection:
•Going off to college no longer means kids are on their own.
“There are parents who are now sending their college kids
wake-up calls in the morning,” said Mary Chayko,
a professor of sociology at New Jersey’s College of St.
Elizabeth and author of the 2008 book “Portable
Communities: The Social Dynamics of Online and Mobile
Connectedness.”
Maureen Baker, a teacher at Mize Elementary School in De
Soto, said her daughter Hannah, a 20-year-old
business major at the University of Kansas, “Probably calls me
two or three times a day.”
Hannah: “I talk to her on my way to different class or when I’m
grabbing something to eat. It’s definitely
comforting. Sometimes I’m a little homesick.”
Kristopher Scott Thomas, 19, from Houston, is a freshman at
Northwest Missouri State University in Maryville.
“I, personally, bought a webcam and got Skype just to be able
to talk to my father,” he said. “I Skype with my
family at least once a day.”
Nearly every Sunday, Kansas Citian Morgan Dameron, now a
junior in film school at the University of
5. Southern California, spends face time over the laptop with her
mom, dad and younger sisters and brother in
the metro.
“If it’s snowing, we’ll take the computer outside and show her,”
her mother, Lori Dameron, said.
•When high school friends part, the relationships don’t break
up.
Shawnee residents Emily Hodgson, 19, and Tiffany Fletcher, 19,
are best friends. Hodgson went to Mid
America Nazarene College in Olathe. Fletcher went off to
Southern Nazarene College in Oklahoma.
They almost talk more now than when they were together.
“Texting is the best thing that ever happened to me,” Hodgson
said. “She’s even more updated on my life than
some of my friends in Kansas.”
•The perception of improved relationships.
“Staying in constant communication actually adds to
relationships,” said sociologist Barry Wellman, director of
the University of Toronto’s NetLab.
Wellman said he knew one couple, married for about three
years, who text “I love you” to each other 50 times
a day.
Kort, the student in Lawrence, attended his grandmother’s
funeral earlier this year. His girlfriend couldn’t be
there. He said that in the limousine, surrounded by grieving
relatives, and driving back from the gravesite, he
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took out his cell phone.
“I missed her so much I could barely breathe,” Kort said. “I
wanted her there so badly.”
He texted, “I miss you so much.” She immediately texted back
words of comfort. Kort understands that some
people might blanch at the notion of texting at such a moment.
“Without knowing what is going on, it could be deemed as
rude,” he said. “But I did feel better. When you’re
dealing with your family in a situation like that, you hope that
they can lift you up as much as you can lift them
up. But, at that moment, I needed her to be there.”
And in a virtual sense, he felt she was.
•••
Researchers and others also recognize that such constant
communication also presents difficulties — even a
dark side.
Chayko, the New Jersey sociologist, said there existed a general
sense that such constant communication,
often conducted while multi-tasking in the midst of other
activities, was creating a culture with a shortened
attention spans.
7. People talk or text while they walk or eat, watch television, sit
in the movie, attend classes and, dangerously,
drive. A recent poll of some 1,200 teens showed that 24 percent
literally sleep with their cell phones.
“That is a rising trend,” Chayko said. “It is a compulsion to be
in contact. People actually feel nervous,
uncomfortable when they are too far away from their phones.”
It becomes a preoccupation, she said.
“They have trouble doing one thing at a time. When they meet
friends face to face,” Chayko said, “they will be
texting at the same time they are with these other kids. They are
used to juggling all these interactions, and
they are good at it, but there is a loss.
“There is a loss of focus, a loss of reflection. There is a loss of
depth.”
Maureen Baker, whose daughter calls or texts her from college
multiple times each day, certainly cherishes
her constant contact with her daughter. But she sometimes
wonders whether it comes at the price of her
daughter developing greater independence.
Like Chayko, she also senses that repeated contact may also be
an outgrowth of people being unaccustomed
to exploring quiet moments.
Although being in constant contact helps sustains relationships,
it also can make getting out of those
relationships that much harder.
“We run into all kinds of messy situations,” said Madden of the
8. Pew Center. “I am thinking about relationships
— after breakups, sometimes long after breakups when you start
wading into the waters of Facebook, and the
friends of all our friends in college.
“Suddenly realize you are reconnected to your old boyfriend.
You’re seeing all these pictures of his children,
all this information you did not seek out and would not have
come to seek out otherwise.”
Part of living in an age of constant communication, she said, is
learning to isolate yourself from unwanted
contact.
“You can find young people who can obsess about their exes,”
said University of Denver’s Lynn Schofield
Clark, who studies how digital media are changing family
relationships. “Twenty years ago, you’d worry about
passing your ex-boyfriend in the hallway at school. Now you
don’t know what you’re going to click on and be
reminded of what your ex is up to today.”
The same goes for adults.
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Amber Bourek, spokeswoman for Safehome, Johnson County’s
domestic violence agency, recalls a client
who left an abusive marriage. Twenty times each day, the man
continued to text her, “Miss you,” and “Thinking