Create a plan with your family for dealing with your busy coaching schedule. Spend time with your family when not in season to maintain balance. Do not miss important family events like the birth of a child for games or practices. Address stress in healthy ways rather than through alcohol or venting work problems at home, which can cause resentment. Involve family in your coaching role as they feel comfortable while avoiding unnecessary drama or stress.

1. Athlete Builder: Assistant Coach Reference Guide
Section 6 - Reference Guide For Dealing With Family
Dealing With Family
Awareness Development
Create a valuable and sustainable culture inside your family. There needs to be
structure. Your crazy schedule can cause some difficulties. Talk to your spouse and
children before the season and have a plan.
Accept that this is a stressful job and alcohol becomes a problem with some
people who have stressful jobs. Defend against this at all cost. Alcohol is power-
ful and many good people become the devil on alcohol. Your family doesn’t need
the devil visiting your house because you haven’t learned how to deal with stress
without self medicating.
Let your family be as involved as they feel comfortable in your extended
coaching family. They definitely need to be involved but let them choose how and
how much.
Do not let your spouse create or take part in a pecking order created by other
spouses in your extended coaching family.
Be careful what you share with your family about internal conflicts going on at
work. This causes resentment between coaching families. Don’t create
unnecessary drama and stress for them because you have to vent when you come
home. Write it down and throw it away.
Spend as much time with your family as you can out of season.
Don’t miss the birthing of your child for a game or practice (Men).
Balance is the number one key to working in a stressful environment. You chose
this. You must work on becoming balanced in your life. No one thing needs to
monopolize your life. Your job included. Figure out how to be balanced by setting
and monitoring goals. This does not mean putting in less effort at work!
If you and your staff become more efficient you will see your family more. Don’t
complain. Find solutions to the efficiency problems the coaching profession
experiences. Using technology is a good start.
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