The document discusses the challenges of blogging about personal topics like relationships and sex. It profiles several bloggers who faced backlash for oversharing online, including Emily Gould who sold a story to the New York Times about her blogging regrets. The document provides tips for bloggers to manage their online persona and transparency, such as building a public image, monitoring discussions, and choosing privacy-focused platforms. It questions whether women who blog about sexuality are unfairly punished compared to men writing about other topics.

1. Avoiding the Emily Gould Effect: Blogging, Narrative & Transparency Susan Mernit & Viviane September 26, 2008

2. “ Of course, some people have always been more naturally inclined toward oversharing than others. Technology just enables us to overshare on a different scale.” .—Emily Gould, Exposed, NYTimes magazine, August 2008

8. Julia Allison, 2007: Girl about town heads to Silicon Valley….

9. Julia vblogs with the start up boyfriend, hits high tech parties, twitters about clothes… they break up …in public. Reblogging Julia happens.

11. Julia Allison, August 2008: The Paris Hilton of the Net gets the cover of Wired, sets records for newsstand copies sold.

12. 2006 : Emily Gould starts blogging about her dating life in gossip rag Gawker —and tells everyone in the office about dating a co-worker.

13. “ I’m going to try to never write about you,” I whispered to the boy whose shoulder my head was on two nights ago. … Oops.”

14. “ I had made my existence so public in such a strange way, and I wanted to take it all back, but in order to do that I’d have to destroy the entire Internet.” --Emily Gould, Exposed, NYTimes

15. 2008 : Emily Gould sells a cover story to the New York Times on her blogging regrets , gets 1, 216 comments and a reported $1MM book deal

16. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gJLjfJgrqIU 2008: BoingBoing editor Xeni Jardin removes blogger Violet Blue’s posts from BoingBoing— 1,500 people comment . .

17. Xeni tells the LA Times: “I just wanted to take this material down for a host of reasons that I don’t want to talk about in public…” Violet Blue responds on YouTube— quoting Metafilter commenters.

18. Show first part of Violet Blue video on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gJLjfJgrqIU

19. Girl with a One Track Mind Zoe Margolis first blogged about sex in 2003. In 2006, she published a book and got outed in a UK paper . Life as she knew it crumpled.

20. “… I lost all trust in dating, and men in general, removing myself from the dating arena entirely. The months after my 'outing' in the press were spent mostly on my own - ironic for such a previously 'active' sex diarist.” Zoe changed her job , moved to the States, and continues to blog, but her dating life is forever colored— badly -- by her fame.

21. Provoking questions : Are women who blog about their sex lives punished for being’ sluts’ ? Is a guy writing about his coke habit okay, but a woman writing about sexuality isn’t? Are we all sex-phobic? How could this story be different?

23. Melissa Gira Grant Blogger, feminist, sex worker advocate, former sex worker. “ No one can blackmail you with the truth.”

24. : Rachel Kramer Bussel Writer, editor, cupcake maven, event impresario, performer “ Once you get used to sharing in a certain way, whether it's via blog or Twitter, and you do add a level of openness, it's hard to back down from that without people thinking something is wrong.”

25. Rex Sorgatz, Blogger, author of NY Magazine’s The Microfame Game “ Countless other people are trying to manufacture microfame, over and over again.”

26. Nick Douglas Writer, comic, performer, twitterer “… A professional writer can't overshare, they can only waste good material or put something out there before it's polished enough”

27. So how do you strike a balance between oversharing and transparency? Observations….