The document discusses the importance of emotional intelligence (EQ) for success over cognitive intelligence (IQ). It summarizes various studies that have shown people with average grades often become more successful than their more "intelligent" peers due to higher EQ. EQ involves self-awareness, managing emotions, and connecting with others, which helps navigate complex workplace environments involving teamwork, stress, and interpersonal relationships. While IQ measures cognitive ability, EQ measures one's ability to monitor and manage emotions. Schools focus more on academics than developing EQ, but incorporating social-emotional learning concepts could significantly improve decision-making, productivity and well-being. Building relationships, expressing appreciation, and managing stress and negative emotions are some ways

1. THE SECRET FACTOR FOR SUCCESS
What is more important for success intelligence or amiability? Most
people would think the former was the answer but increasingly,
studies indicate that the latter might matter as much, if not more

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Think about it. Is your daily work life more to do with information, facts and
figures or team and boss management, meetings, strategic ideation and the
constant effort to stay calm in the face of stress? Granted, some jobs are
more cerebral than others, but for most of us engaged in the corporate
world, the workplace is a complex playground of emotions, interpersonal
clashes and attitudinal issues. To navigate this playground in a way that
ensures your success and happiness, a healthy dose of EQ (Emotional
Quotient) is indispensable.
In India, we are completely sold on the idea that equates grades with
success. But since the 90s, various studies have pinpointed a strange fact
average graders often go on to become more successful than their more
`intelligent' counterparts. Many of us have witnessed this among our own
erstwhile classmates. Students who never managed to get any attention
from the teachers are now in senior positions in reputed organisations.

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How did they manage it? The answer is not always workplace politics or `contacts'
as we often assume. Some people are just naturally gifted with a higher EQ and this
helps them to connect with others and manage their own emotions at work better.
In the words of Kirti Vaswani, co-founder, EQ Learn, “According to Peter Salovey
(Yale University) and John Mayer (University of New Hampshire), authors of the
seminal paper titled `Emotional Intelligence', EI is the ability to monitor one's own
and others' feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this
information to guide one's thinking and actions. Emotional Quotient (EQ) is the
measure of emotional intelligence, just as IQ is the measure of cognitive
intelligence.“
So, does this mean that emotional intelligence is outside the purview of education?
School curricula certainly seem to be in agreement with this notion. All we are ever
taught in classrooms is science, mathematics and languages. There are no courses
on perceptive thinking or self-awareness.But maybe, there should be.

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“While children and adults can be trained in concepts of Social and
Emotional Learning (SEL), this domain falls in the realm of the subjective and
the intangible and hence, cannot be “taught“ using conventional methods.
Yet, even exposure to concepts such as self-awareness, stress perception
management, generosity , and purposeful living, can significantly improve
decision making and implementations, leading to higher productivity and
greater joy ,“ says Piya Mukherjee, director, VESLARC (Vivekanad Education
Society's Leadership Academy and Research Centre).
Talent is great but when it comes combined with a great personality, it's even
better. “You don't have to be the smartest or most hard working person to
be successful. A lot of times, being the nicest person who makes people
around feel relaxed and comfortable adds to success,“ says Mahesh Singhi,
founder and MD, Singhi Advisors.

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The surest evidence of EQ being a vital determinant of an individual's
success is the difference it has made to the lives of many . “Listening
with empathy (listening to understand and not preparing to respond)
has prevented many a times, issues from escalating as crises and going
beyond control,“ shares A Thiru, president (corporate HR), JK
Organisation.
These days, a few schools are mushrooming solely to impart courses on
emotional intelligence. The day doesn't seem far when it is
incorporated into corporate training and learning modules as well.

6. HOW CAN YOU UP YOUR EQ?
We've made a good case for EQ. But how do you go about building up your EQ if you
haven't been a pro at people management so far? Madhuri Singh, consulting psychiatrist,
Nanavati Super Speciality Hospital offers a few tips: Stay cool under pressure.
This will keep your judgment intact; Keep a watch on your negative emotions. This will
keep all prejudices away and there will be no misunderstandings with the person; Be
proactive; not reactive.
When angry, count till 100, so that by then, your reactions are softer and less harmful.
This way you can empathise better; Learn to assert and express negative emotions but not
by blaming others. Say `I don't like this' rather than saying `you did this'; Learn from your
experiences.
And try not to repeat them; Build relationships with people by expressing intimate
emotions directly on a one-on-one basis. Start by asking questions about health or family
or expressing appreciation.

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