This document outlines a presentation on courageous parenting given by Herky Cutler. It discusses generating a child's profile using the Circle of Courage model, which evaluates a child's sense of belonging, generosity, independence and mastery. The presentation provides descriptions of normal, absent and distorted characteristics for each component and suggests brainstorming interventions to move a child toward normal development. The overarching messages are that self-esteem is key to courageous parenting and actions should be taken to help children.

1. Courage-ousParenting!!! Herky Cutler February 28, 2011

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3. Herky Cutler B. ED., M.A., CCDP President/Foothills Youth & Family Services – Pincher Creek, AB Organizational and Educational Consultant Professional Speaker Trainer/Facilitator Entertainer Your photo

4. Workshop Assumptions

5. Workshop Objectives

7. What was one of your worst?

8. What were your feelings during those times?

9. Now think about your teenage children or adolescents that you work with or children of the parents you work with.

10. What are their best and worst experiences so far in their lives?

12. Parenting Issues Anger Dealing with guilt Blended families Dysfunctional families Communication skills Enabling Power struggles Time High/low expectations Follow through United parenting Motivation Peer pressure Setting limits Tough love Money

13. Self Esteem

14. The Circle of Courage

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20. Belonging Normal 1.Attached 2.Loving 3.Friendly 4.Intimate 5.Gregarious 6.Cooperative 7.Trusting Distorted 1.Gang Loyalty 2.Craves affection 3. Craves acceptance 4.Promiscuous 5.Clinging 6.Cult-vulnerable 7.Overly dependent Absent 1.Unattached 2.Guarded 3.Rejected 4.Lonely 5.Aloof 6.Isolated 7.Distrustful

21. Generosity Normal 1.Altruistic 2.Caring 3.Sharing 4.Loyal 5.Empathic 6.Pro-social 7.Supportive Absent 1.Selfish 2.Affectionless 3.Narcissistic 4.Disloyal 5.Hardened 6.Anti Social 7.Exploitative Distorted 1.Noblesse Oblige 2.Over-involved 3.Plays martyr 4.Co-dependency 5.Over-involvement 6.Servitude 7.Bondage

22. Independence Normal 1.Autonomous 2.Confident 3.Assertive 4.Responsible 5.Inner control 6.Self discipline 7.Leadership Absent 1.Submissive 2.Lacks confidence 3.Inferiority 4.Irresponsible 5.Helplessness 6.Undisciplined 7.Easily led Distorted 1.Dictatorial 2.Reckless/Macho 3.Bullies others 4.Sexual prowess 5.Manipulative 6.Rebellious 7.Defies authority

23. Mastery Normal 1.Achiever 2.Successful 3.Creative 4.Problem solver 5.Motivated 6.Persistent 7.Competent Absent 1.Non-achiever 2.Failure orientated 3.Avoids risks 4.Fears challenges 5.Unmotivated 6.Gives up easily 7.Inadequate Distorted 1.Overachiever 2.Arrogant 3.Risk seeker 4.Cheater 5.Workaholic 6.Perseverative 7.Delinquent skill

24. Belonging Normal 1.Attached 2.Loving 3.Friendly 4.Intimate 5.Gregarious 6.Cooperative 7.Trusting Distorted 1.Gang Loyalty 2.Craves affection 3. Craves acceptance 4.Promiscuous 5.Clinging 6.Cult-vulnerable 7.Overly dependent Absent 1.Unattached 2.Guarded 3.Rejected 4.Lonely 5.Aloof 6.Isolated 7.Distrustful

25. Generosity Normal 1.Altruistic 2.Caring 3.Sharing 4.Loyal 5.Empathic 6.Pro-social 7.Supportive Absent 1.Selfish 2.Affectionless 3.Narcissistic 4.Disloyal 5.Hardened 6.Anti Social 7.Exploitative Distorted 1.Noblesse Oblige 2.Over-involved 3.Plays martyr 4.Co-dependency 5.Over-involvement 6.Servitude 7.Bondage

26. Independence Normal 1.Autonomous 2.Confident 3.Assertive 4.Responsible 5.Inner control 6.Self discipline 7.Leadership Absent 1.Submissive 2.Lacks confidence 3.Inferiority 4.Irresponsible 5.Helplessness 6.Undisciplined 7.Easily led Distorted 1.Dictatorial 2.Reckless/Macho 3.Bullies others 4.Sexual prowess 5.Manipulative 6.Rebellious 7.Defies authority

27. Mastery Normal 1.Achiever 2.Successful 3.Creative 4.Problem solver 5.Motivated 6.Persistent 7.Competent Absent 1.Non-achiever 2.Failure orientated 3.Avoids risks 4.Fears challenges 5.Unmotivated 6.Gives up easily 7.Inadequate Distorted 1.Overachiever 2.Arrogant 3.Risk seeker 4.Cheater 5.Workaholic 6.Perseverative 7.Delinquent skill

28. Action!!! Create a profile (N=7, D=5, A=16) Verify profile (1 or 2 other opinions) These are “points of intervention” Getting the child to “normal” is the goal Brainstorming solutions for each component Take action!!! Self esteem is the key! Be Courage-ous!!!

29. Contact Information www.herkycutler.com herkycutler@gmail.com 403-627-5044