The document discusses how negative beliefs are formed from bad experiences and feelings, and how they can shape one's perceptions and behaviors in unhelpful ways. It then presents a 4-step model for changing one's mindset in just 5 seconds: 1) Be aware of negative patterns; 2) Take accountability for one's role; 3) Ask open-ended questions about how to improve the situation; 4) Take action instead of avoiding or making excuses. Examples are given for applying this model to arguments, sales, exercise, and debt. The overall message is that small positive actions can help overcome negative beliefs by changing one's mindset.

1. POSITIVE How to BE more
(in only 5 seconds)

2. It's easy to create a negative belief…

3. It's easy to create a negative belief…
>> first impressions

4. It's easy to create a negative belief…
>> first impressions
>> disappointment

5. It's easy to create a negative belief…
>> first impressions
>> disappointment
>> failure

6. It's easy to create a negative belief…
>> first impressions
>> disappointment
>> failure
>> embarrassment

7. It's easy to create a negative belief…
>> first impressions
>> disappointment
>> failure
>> embarrassment
>> fear

8. It's easy to create a negative belief…
>> first impressions
>> disappointment
>> failure
>> embarrassment
>> fear
>> exhaustion

9. HOW BELIEFS ARE CREATED

10. Something bad happens (or might happen)

11. Something bad happens (or might happen)
AND WE FEEL BAD.

12. Something bad happens (or might happen)
AND WE FEEL BAD.
Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that
bad things always happen.

13. Something bad happens (or might happen)
AND WE FEEL BAD.
Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that
bad things always happen.
Our negative belief changes how we act.

14. Something bad happens (or might happen)
AND WE FEEL BAD.
Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that
bad things always happen.
Our negative belief changes how we act.
Soon, the voice in our head sounds like:

15. Something bad happens (or might happen)
AND WE FEEL BAD.
Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that
bad things always happen.
Our negative belief changes how we act.
Soon, the voice in our head sounds like:
“They are always difficult to be with.”
“I can never get this right!”
“Nobody wants to buy my stuff!”
“If I fail I’ll lose everything!”
“I never have enough energy.”

16. Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology)

17. Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology)
When we create a negative belief: Our problem has gone from a
small thing that happened once or twice to…

18. Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology)
When we create a negative belief: Our problem has gone from a
small thing that happened once or twice to…
PERMANENT (it isn’t going away)
PERSONAL (it’s my fault)
PERVASIVE (it always happens)

19. AND, to make it worse,

20. AND, to make it worse,
our brain has one more trick.

21. AND, to make it worse,
our brain has one more trick.
When bad things happen, like:

22. AND, to make it worse,
our brain has one more trick.
When bad things happen, like:
• late fees,
• missed appointments,
• lost sales,
• arguments,
• gaining weight,
• or breakups

23. We look for evidence to prove our belief
is right.

24. “I wouldn’t have seen it
if I didn’t believe it.”
Marshall McLuhan

25. Pretty soon your belief becomes
FACT and you act as if it’s TRUE.

26. HERE’S WHAT I KNOW

27. HERE’S WHAT I KNOW
NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out.

28. HERE’S WHAT I KNOW
NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out.
NEGATIVE BELIEFS stomp on ideas before they can grow.

29. HERE’S WHAT I KNOW
NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out.
NEGATIVE BELIEFS stomp on ideas before they can grow.
NEGATIVE BELIEFS kill dreams and keep us small.

30. “A great many people think they
are thinking when they are merely
rearranging their prejudices.”
William James

31. So, how are successful
people so
P O S I T I V E ?

32. Simple: they change their mind.

33. HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MIND (in only 5 seconds)
THE MODEL

34. 1. AWARE
Realize something isn’t working AND you have
choices. Sure, there are people you can blame and
maybe you did screw up. But, what you are
experiencing right now is under your control.
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

35. 2. ACCOUNTABLE
Superman only saves cartoon characters and
good luck trying to win the lottery. You are
responsible. Now, decide what you want and
get ready to work for it.
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

36. 3. ASK
Blame is judgment - curiosity opens doors. When
you ask “Why does this always happen to me?”
your sub-conscious comes up with 12 (or more)
reasons why you failed.
That won’t help.
Instead, ask a good question, like “What’s one
thing I can do RIGHT NOW to make this better?”
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

37. 4. ACTION
This is where the rubber hits the road and you
practice taking control. Successful people train their
mind to instantly flip the switch and turn more light
on what’s in their way.
They don’t run away.
And they don’t look for more bad things to happen.
They change their mind and take action.
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

38. HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MIND (in only 5 seconds)
IN PRACTICE

39. !
!
ARGUEMENT
The fastest way to change
someone is for you go first.
Apologize for how they feel
and ask how you can make
things better. Don’t argue, get
defensive, or pissy.
Just let them know you heard
them and you care.
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

40. !
!
SALES
Pick up the phone and call a
client. But, don’t try to sell
them. Simply, ask them what
they need. And then ask
another question. And another.
Build trust and empathy now
and you’ll get all the sales you
need later.
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION

41. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
!
!
EXERCISE
Put on your running shoes and
walk out the door. Don’t think
about it. Set your watch for 20
minutes.
Don’t debate it.
Get to the road, start jogging.
Don’t stop.

42. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
!
!
DEBT
Call the credit card company,
explain your mistake and ask to
have the late fee removed. Go
to your bank. Set up a monthly
auto payment to reduce your
debt.
Every action (even small ones)
takes you closer to your goal.

43. “Our concentration on
a positive thought
robs the painful
thought of its sting.”
Richard Restak, Mozart’s
Brain and the Fighter Pilot

44. The most powerful habit
is the habit
to change
your mind.

45. This is your job
Find something TODAY
to be positive about,
just because you can.

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50. Photo Credits:!
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Woman looking: www.flickr.com/photos/danielavladimirova/5801590716
Punker: www.flickr.com/photos/lehnin78/14371279913
Woman stretching: www.flickr.com/photos/ash_hershberger/7042151137
Basketball team: www.flickr.com/photos/dborman2/5456503518
Surfer: www.flickr.com/photos/90982314@N00/7755381064
Older lady sticking tongue out: www.flickr.com/photos/poxypixels/8064118261
Standing on cliff: www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4376727123
Guy looking, plaid jacket: www.flickr.com/photos/carbonnyc/3248846504
Card player: www.flickr.com/photos/dani_vazquez/12644326014
Three people on bench: www.flickr.com/photos/mario-mancuso/8909880242
Guy looking, stud in ear: www.flickr.com/photos/titlap/3936883765
Man on bench, sunglasses: www.flickr.com/photos/pewu/224688578
Three ladies having tea: www.flickr.com/photos/skrefsrud/14438341782
Woman holding up smiley face: www.flickr.com/photos/katerha/5637856336
“Argument”: woman: www.flickr.com/photos/58847482@N03/5626162081
“Exercise” woman: www.flickr.com/photos/barretthall/7421890566
“Debt” credit cards: www.flickr.com/photos/smemon/12696360474
Richard Restak, quote: woman: www.flickr.com/photos/mlazarevski/8467690532
Girl in flowers: www.flickr.com/photos/leventlecri/2440839767