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1. Two Sides Of The Paradox Coin

2. There's a lot of paradoxes in life.

3. For example, the easiest way to get a
loan from the bank is to prove you
don't need the money.

4. The easiest way to attract a partner is
to be completely happy on your own.

5. One way to lose weight is to increase
your metabolism, which you can do by
eating more food. Which will make
you gain weight.

6. Most of us have heard that we make
our impressions of people within the
first few seconds.

7. After that, it's hard to overcome that
first impression.

8. On the other hand, most of us only
feel comfortable with somebody after
we've known them for a little bit, and
the more we hang out, the more we
let our guard down and let them know
who we REALLY are.

9. Which means almost always,
somebody's first impression (which is
hard to change) comes when we are
the most reserved and closed off.

10. There's a lot of strategies to overcome
this paradox.

11. One is where you go out in public and
do crazy things, like buy one grape at
the supermarket, go into a burger joint
and order a pizza, or walk around town
with absolutely ridiculous clothing.

12. Do this long enough, and you'll just
stop worrying too much about what
people think.

13. Then you can relax and be yourself
right away, no matter who you meet.

14. Of course, not a lot of people are
willing to go the supermarket and buy
one grape!

15. Another way around this is to develop
a deep appreciation for yourself.

16. Take some time every day really
settling into your own brain, accepting
yourself just the way you are.

17. This also takes time and consistent
effort.

18. Whichever path you choose, consider
making it a goal.

19. Once you are able to feel comfortable
around anybody, anywhere, any time,
you will have an incredibly magnetic
energy.

20. People will feel better just hanging
around you.

21. Another thing you've likely heard is
that communication is only 7% verbal.

22. Meaning before you even open your
mouth, your sending out MASSIVE
amounts of information through facial
expressions, body language, and your
movements.

23. Which means once you feel
comfortable in your own skin, people
will feel it from across the room.

24. People will naturally gravitate toward
you and want to talk to you and get to
know you.

25. Just by showing up, you'll magnetize
an entire crowd.

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