3. You'll need to be walking one way,
with another person coming toward
you, with relatively few other people
on the street.
4. Situation one is to pick something out
on the horizon, and focus on that.
5. ONLY look at the other person, as you
approach them, as a kind of blur in
your peripheral vision.
6. Situation two is to look at them, off
and on, in the eyes as you walk toward
them.
7. If you do this a few times, you'll notice
a pretty clear difference between the
two situations.
8. In situation one, even though you're
not looking at the person, the both of
you will automatically and
subconsciously move out of each
other's way.
9. In situation two, when you keep
making eye contact, it will be hard
NOT to bump right into the other
person. As you move, so will they,
mirroring your movements.
10. This is one of the reasons why people
can walk down the street staring at
their phones and rarely crash into
things. Sure, there's a few funny vids
with people falling into fountains and
walking into glass doors, but these are
FAR from the norm.
11. Humans have kind of a "sixth sense"
both in avoiding others, AND in
creating instant and deep rapport with
one another.
13. You suddenly fall into rapport, and if
you know anything about rapport, you
know it's all about mirroring and
matching. Which is EXACTLY why you
always crash into each other.
14. Even doing that uncomfortable but
funny little "dance" the closer you get.
Both moving the same way at the
same time.
15. When you create rapport with
somebody, you transform from two
people trying to avoid each other to
two people magnetic for each other.
16. It's also pretty fun when you do this in
a social setting, when everybody is
pretty stationary.
17. This is kind of an "out there" exercise,
but it also works pretty well.
18. Next time you're at a social gathering,
whether it's friends at a party or down
at the local pub, try this out.
19. Sit or stand somewhere where you can
get a good view of the room.