2. Eye contact: The most important communication tool
Is your eye contact aggressive, is it soft, is it inviting, do you love with your eyes? Eye contact is a very
tricky art to master but vital to effective communication. How can you make it better?
Eye contact provides social information to the person you are listening to and talking to. Too much eye
contact and you could be seen as aggressive, too little eye contact and you can be seen as having no
interest in the person speaking. It is an often overlooked skill to have and an under utilized skill when
communicating with people. You can see masters of eye contact in great sales persons, politicians, and
good public speakers.
I realized the importance of eye contact when I was counseling people face to face. I noticed when I broke
eye contact the person would stop speaking. When I maintained eye contact the person would continue
talking knowing that I was interested in what they had to say.
Physiological signs of eye contact
Street traders know the importance of the eyes when using their selling skills to
keep their potential buyers interested. When you are aroused or interested in an
object your pupils will dilate and this is a big cue for salesmen all over the world.
Also when you are interested in someone sexually your pupils will dilate and you
hold the person’s gaze a little longer than normal. When I was single I always knew when a girl was
interested in me through her eyes, now that I am married if I get the same signs
I discourage eye contact.
3. Every day conversation and eye contact
We will use eye contact every day of our lives so it makes sense to learn
the best ways to use your eyes to your advantage.
Certain situations demand different uses of the eyes. For example if your
are arguing it is seen as strong if you can hold your gaze. If you are
deferring to someone it is better to lower your eyes, if you are loving
someone it is good to stare into the pool of the eyes.
Talking to a Group
When talking to a group of people it is great to have direct contact with your listeners. Don’t make the mistake of maintaining eye contact with
just one person as this will stop the other members of the group from listening. To get past this, focus on a different member of the group with
every new sentence. This way you are talking to all of the group and keeping them all interested.
Talking to an Individual
It is great to maintain eye contact when talking to a person however it can become a bit creepy and uncomfortable if you stare intensely at them.
To combat this, break eye contact every 5 seconds or so. When breaking the eye contact don’t look down as this might indicate the ending of
your part of the conversation. Instead, look up or to the side as if your are remembering something. Try it just now: don’t move your head, and
think about the first time you started school. You will notice your eyes might move up or to the side as you try to remember this. So when your
listener sees this they will think you are trying to remember something and keep on listening to you.
Listening to Someone
When you are listening to someone it can be off putting for the talker if you stare at them too hard. The technique I use when I am counseling
someone is to use what I call ‘The triangle’. This is when I look at one eye for about 5 seconds, look at the other eye for 5 seconds and then
look at the mouth for 5 seconds and keep on rotating in this way. This technique coupled with other listening skills such as nodding, occasional
agreement words such as ‘yes’, ‘Uh –huh’ ‘mm’ etc is a great way to keep the talker talking and to show them you are interested in what they
are saying.
4. What Is Communication?
COMMUNICATION IS THE ART OF TRANSMITTING
INFORMATION, IDEAS AND ATTITUDES FROM ONE
PERSON TO ANOTHER.COMMUNICATION IS THE
PROCESS OF MEANINGFUL INTERACTION AMONG
HUMAN BEINGS.
5. Types Of Skin
• Normal Skin
• Dry Skin
• Oily Skin
• Combination Skin
• Sensitive Skin
6. Normal Skin
• If you skin belongs to a normal type, the tissue will
not reveal any traces of oil. Your skin should feel
vibrant, elastic, and supple. Normal skin is the least
problematic type.
• It looks clean and smooth and has a good circulation and
healthy complexion. Even with a minimum care, it will look
good well into your advanced age.
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Dry Skin
• If your skin is dry, the paper will be clean, too, but your face skin will feel flaky,
dry, and tight after you have wiped it.
•
• Dry skin can easily develop a sallow tone, wrinkles, and fine pores, and it is
very prone to aging and irritating. It might still look great on a young person,
but, to keep it healthy, you should apply thorough care and use regular skin or
beauty treatment with natural masks and moisturizers.
7. Oily Skin
• If you have oily skin, the paper will have spots of facial oil on it,
corresponding to the areas of your cheeks, nose, and forehead. Oily
skin is problematic – it usually looks greasy, thick, coarse, and
shiny, has enlarged pores, and tends to break into acne.
•
• A good thing, though, is that oily skin is not prone much to aging
and wrinkling. Careful cleaning, minimizing of carbohydrate
consumption, and avoiding rich creams can be helpful in improving
the quality of oily skin.
Combination Skin
… • If you skin is combination, like that of most women, the tissue will
have traces of oil coming from your nose and forehead, but will be
clean in the areas that touched your cheeks.
•
• Combination skin has patches of both dry and oily skin, and it
requires different types of care in relation to particular facial areas.
8. Sensitive Skin …
• Sensitive skin is usually very dry, tends to feel tight, and becomes
inflamed and irritated easily. Typically, sensitive skin develops
reddish and scaly areas, can be itchy and tingly, and is prone to
breaking into spots. It is the most problematic and fragile type of
skin, which needs a very special type of care. To get the right body
products for this skin type too requires great research.
10. Curly Hair
For some people curly hair is the best gift from the god. Many
people who don’t have curly hair wish to have one and even
spend lot of money in parlors to change to one.
Dry Hair
• Lot of people have problem of dry hair. Hair of such people prone to
have split ends, they may also feel brittle.
Oily Hair
• Every hair on our body has Sebaceous Gland connected to their
root. This gland produces oil in order to nourish our skin and hair.
When this gland produces oil in excess our hair looks and
become oily.
11. Long H r
ai
Growing and maintaining Long hair is like maintaining
a villa. It really takes a lot of time to grow long hair.
Straight Hair
Straight hair has a problem of becoming fuzzy after
some time if proper care is not taken.
Wavy Hair
• Straight hair is an example of simplicity. It is followed by those
who want to show simplicity as their style.
12. Time
Management
• Time management is the act or process of exercising conscious control
over the amount of time spent on specific activities, especially to
increase efficiency or productivity. Time management may be aided by a
range of skills, tools, and techniques used to manage time when
accomplishing specific tasks, projects and goals. This set encompasses
a wide scope of activities, and these include planning, allocating, setting
goals, delegation, analysis of time spent, monitoring, organizing,
scheduling, and prioritizing. Initially, time management referred to just
business or work activities, but eventually the term broadened to include
personal activities as well. A time management system is a designed
combination of processes, tools, techniques, and methods. Usually time
management is a necessity in any project development as it determines
the project completion time and scope.
13. Diet Chart
• Walking (or) Cycling
• Drink More Water
• Breakfast : Non rice Items( Bread,
Idly )
• Fruits
• Vegetables
• Avoid Potato's
• Eggs
• Fish
• Avoid Chocolates
14. Balanced Diet, Health And Nutrition
• A balanced diet comprising of diverse and healthy foods is key
to promoting good health. After all, we are what we eat -
Research continues to prove that eating healthy food
promotes good health and unhealthy food habits lead to a
diseased body. Foods contain vital nutrients that aid our body’s
metabolic function. However, a lack of consumption of these
nutrients or feeding upon the wrong kinds of food leads to an
accumulation of toxins within the body, resulting in chronic
diseases in the long run.
• A nutritious diet while ensuring overall well being, helps to
maintain a healthy Body Mass Index (BMI), reduces the risk of
several debilitating diseases like cancer, cardiovascular
ailments, diabetes, osteoporosis and stroke. Thus a nutritious &
healthy diet is important in the prevention and cure of various
diseases.
15. Diet for diseases
• There are several health conditions
that can be caused or aggravated by
the food we eat. However, there are
also several foods that you can
include in your diet to help prevent
or treat diseases. It is simplest to
draw up a balanced diet chart as this
will ensure that you get all the
nutrients you require on a regular
basis. A nutrition diet chart is a diet
chart that helps you to keep a track
of your nutritional diet requirements
and is a very useful tool when
16. Heart diseases
Heart diseases: Coronary
heart diseases are a very
common health problem and
they are closely linked to a diet
that is high in unhealthy fats.
Decreasing one’s intake of fatty
foods, especially fried food, will
go a long way in preventing
heart diseases. On the other
hand, a healthy diet chart with
an adequate amount of high
fiber foods is seen to prevent
heart diseases. People who
17. Diabetes
• Diabetes: While genet ics
does play an impor t ant r ole in
t he onset of diabet es, an
unhealt hy lif est yle and bad
eat ing habit s ar e also
cont r ibut ing f act or s. A
diabet es diet char t is a diet
plan t hat is high in f iber and
low in f at wit h a minimum
amount of sat ur at ed f at s. A
18. Healthy Food Groups
• Since no single food group can nourish the body with all the vital ingredients
it requires, it is important that we consume a variety of healthy foods to
derive the nutrition our body needs. There are five main food groups
Fruits
Vegetables
Cereals and Pulses
Dairy
Poultry, Fish and Meat products
A healthy balanced diet of these five food groups
ensures essential vitamins, minerals and dietary fiber.
The food group serving size will depend upon various factors like age, activity level, body
size and gender. It is also important that one eat a variety of healthy foods from within and
across the food groups. As some foods from within a food group provide more nutrients
than others. This will ensure that one gets the maximum recommended nutrition from the
food group; besides the food variety will make for an interesting meal.
19. Diet for weight loss
• Pr oblems r elat ed t o excessive weight gain
ar e commonplace as we t end t o lead a
sedent ar y lif est yle and have unhealt hy
eat ing habit s. People wit h excessive weight
gain of t en t r y t o cr ash diet in t he hope of
obt aining a svelt e f igur e. However , t his
t ype of a r est r ict ive diet char t f or weight
loss is ext r emely unhealt hy and not easy t o
st ick t o and so t he individual succumbs t o
t empt at ion and goes back t o his/ her
unhealt hy eat ing habit s. The cycle of
r epeat ed t r ial and f ailur e can leave t he
individual disillusioned and f inally t he
per son st ops t r ying t o lose weight .