A therapist should ask how the client is feeling at the beginning and end of each session, listen without judgment, and help clarify thoughts. The therapist works with the client to set concrete and achievable goals that move problems towards solutions and focus on strengths, needs, and an agreed strategy for change. Through practical techniques, the therapist guides the client to rehearse success, ease anxiety and depression, and provide tools to improve their life in as few sessions as possible.

1. A therapist should…
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2. A therapist should: Ask “How are you?”
A therapist should:
• Ask you to ‘rate your pain’
• From 1-10 (1 = negative, 5 = balanced, 10 = positive)
• At beginning
• At end of session
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3. A therapist should: Listen to you
• Let you unload your thoughts
• Doesn’t encourage you to get overwhelmed
• Summarise what you’ve said
• Reflect back to you to let you know they’ve understood
• Ask you clarifying questions
• Teach you what anxiety and depression are for
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4. A therapist should: Ask you for goals
• Goals protect you and your counsellor
• They provide a guide to therapy
• They demonstrate the progress you’ve made
• Goals activate your subconscious
• What you focus on you get
• Moves problems to solutions
• Goals must be concrete and achievable
• Positive
• Achievable
• Needs focused
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5. A therapist should: Focus on your strengths
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• A therapist should ask you for information
on your:
• Successes
• Achievements
• Outside interests
• Connects these to future goals
• Shows you what your resources are and
how you can use them

6. A therapist should: Find your needs
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• Figures out which emotional needs are missing
• Finds out which are important to you
• Helps you use your resources to get them met

7. A therapist should: Make an agreement
• Agrees with you a strategy for change in your life
• Agrees with you goal you believe you can achieve
• Agrees with you tasks you would like
• Separates you from your problem
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8. A therapist should: Rehearse your success
• Helps you use your imagination in positive ways
• Relaxes you and guides you through the changes you can make
• Teaches you how to relax
• Activates your imagination
• Helps you reframe your situation
• Helps you focus on success
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9. A therapist should: Guide you through
• Practical techniques and tools
• Help you cope with negativity
• Ease anxiety and depression
• Take as few sessions as possible
• Improve your life quickly
• Give you the tools to use outside the therapy room
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10. A therapist should:
• Ask “How are you?”
• Listen to you
• Ask you for goals
• Focus on your strengths
• Find your emotional needs
• Agrees change with you
• Rehearse success
• Give you the tools
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11. More info
• Kaye Bewley is the Founder of BewleyBooks.com
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