4. Metaphysical: Presence
Engaged
Curiosity
get inside another person’s shoes
Ask clarifying questions to figure out where they’re coming from and what makes them tick
enjoy getting to know everyone
convey that even if you don’t get what you were looking for, you still judge the interaction worthwhile
learn something about life and the human condition from every single person you meet
Think of other people as your brothers and sisters, we’re all family making the same hard journey together
Quality attention
don't let your mind wander
Focus on sensations in your body (Grounded)
give the other person your full attention
be aware of your behavior
If you start to lose awareness of your mannerisms, focus on the feeling in your toes
This will give you a top to bottom assessment of all the things your body is doing
If you feel your mind start to wander, focus on your breath and then back to the other person
be physically comfortable
5. Metaphysical: Presence
Warmth
Appearance
relax your posture, let your shoulders, back, and chest assume a natural, comfortable position
open body language
Actions
Put warmth in your voice through the tone and pitch
kindness and warmth with a softer, richer tone
smile when you speak creates Instantaneous warmth
act warm to enhances how warm you feel inwardly
Touch generates Warmth
positive outlook
offer the same compassion you give yourself to others by imagining possible reasons for why someone else might have done something rude or annoying.
Don't judge and criticize, look for the things you like
Gratitude
write down what you’re grateful for every day
put your problems in perspective to relaxed contentment and radiate to people; putting them at ease
State
Think of the life force pulsing through your body from your head down to your toes for a second and then try to focus all of your attention on the other person
Grounding/focus