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Definitions
Conventional
Approach
1. Strong feeling of displeasure and aggressive hostility
aroused By real or suspected wrong
2. A response to the frustration of an unresolved
problem
3. Sudden violent displeasure accompanied by
impulse to retaliate
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Quotes
Conventional
Approach
1. Men like steel- when lose temper – lose worth
2. We boil at different degrees
3. Holding anger is like grasping of hot coal with you
only
4. Anger is a wind that blows out lamp of mind
5. If heart is a volcano, how you expect flowers to
bloom?
6. Anger is one letter short of Danger
7. The matchstick has a head but no intelligence
and hence it flares up.
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Places of Residence
A Vedic Approach
håd indriyäëy asur vyoma
väyur agnir jalaà mahé
süryaç candras tapaç caiva
sthänäny agre kåtäni te (S.B. 3.12.11)
1. Heart 2. Senses 3. Air of Life 4. Sky
5. Air 6. Fire 7. Water 8. Earth
9. Sun 10. Moon 11. Austerity
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A Vedic Approach
Unfulfilled Lust
Step 3. Frustrated attitude – I wanted to….. but I could not
Step 1. Enjoyment attitude - I want to satisfy my desires
Step 2. Ego centric attitude – I can fulfill my desire
Thus anger results
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What is your anger
style?
1. Lock it up
2. Turn it loose!
3. Manage it
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What is your anger
style?
1. Lock it up
•Withdraw emotionally
BEHAVIOUR
•Give the “silent treatment”
•Become ill or anxious
•Deny anger but show it in
other actions
REASONS
•I don’t have the right to be
angry
•Anger is inappropriate or
childish
•I may lose control of myself
•I cant cope with strong feelings
•People will dislike me if I show
anger
•I may lose my job or a
relationship
•I fearI will hurt or offend
someone
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What is your anger
style?
2. Turn it loose!
•Blowing up at people
BEHAVIOUR
•Getting physical or hurting
people
•Threatening, shouting or
swearing
•Blaming people
REASONS
•I need to assert my power over
people
•The best defense is a good
offense
•I’m afraid of getting close to
someone
•I cant stand to be wrong
•I don’t know how to
communicate calmly when
angry
•Breaking things
•Flying off the handle at
small things
•Bringing up old grievances
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What is your anger
style?
3. Manage it
•Remaining calm
BEHAVIOUR
•Focusing on the behavior,
not the person
•Using “I” statements: “I
feel angry when…”
•Sticking to the subject
REASONS
•Anger is a normal emotion -
it’s okay to be angry
•Allowing discussion to
happen
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Control and Conquer it
Control Conquer
•Patiently
•Privately
•Prudently
•Powerfully
•Positively
•Personally
•Recognize
•Repent
•Resist
•Rely
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Physical
1. Eating
Stimulating food excite nerves
Irritable Temperament
Alcohol, Smoking, Sharp foodstuffs
Eat controlled diet
Calm nerves
Peaceful mind, serene heart, untroubled will
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Physical
2. Drinking
Subtle form of fire
Destructive energy
Blood heats
Burns health preserving & rejuvenating forces
Use psychosomatic principles
Cold water or cold fruit juice
Peaceful mind, serene heart, untroubled will
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Physical
3. Breathing
Deep thinking -slow
Mental agitations
Oxygenate
Pacify nerves
Control thought process
Supply energy
Weak health, weak nerves & low vitality
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Mental
1. Cultivate sense of Humor & Proper
Perspective
2. Conserve Energy
3. Technique of Diversion- Psychological
Discipline
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Mental
1. Cultivate sense of Humor & Proper
Perspective
Amuse and humor wise
Try to see Funny side of things
Mountain & Perspectives
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Mental
3. Technique of Diversion- Psychological
Discipline
Think of something productive
Tasks
Plans
Positive Action
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Intellectual
1. Repeated reflection on it’s harmful &
Negative effect
2. Contemplation of many blessings of
non-irritable nature
3. Understanding situations &
Transforming Spirit of vengeance
into force of self development
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Intellectual
1. Repeated reflection on it’s harmful &
Negative effect
Unproductively
Discordance
Disharmony
Unpleasantness
Negative effects
Dangerous Results
During anger – strong,
after - weak & Broken down
Nervous system
Murderous & impulsive
Friendship ends
Poisons in blood stream
Breast fed in anger
Deadly diseases urinate in anger-
Rheumatism, Heart Nervous
Several months to restore normally
to equilibrium of nervous system
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Intellectual
2. Contemplation of many blessings of
non-irritable nature
Adapt and Adjust
Harmony
Happiness
Success
Gift of Wisdom
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Intellectual
3. Understanding situations & Transforming Spirit of
vengeance into force of self development
Reflection on life
Nature of circumstances & events
Course of Action
Reason against revenge
Reasons to forgive
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Spiritual
1. Association with Saints
2. Assimilate Vital lessons of the
Great Souls
3. Development of Virtues
4. Discriminating Self Examination
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Spiritual
1. Association with Saints
Serving the saints
You become what you associate with!
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Spiritual
2. Assimilate Vital lessons of the
Great Souls
Sravanam from Srimad Bhagavatam
1. Maharaj Parikshit
2. Prahlada Maharaja
3. Ambarisha Maharaja
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Spiritual
3. Development of Virtues
Humility - trnadapi sunicena …
Tolerance
Pridelessness
Forgiveness – tiraskrtah…… (SB 1.18.48)
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Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Spiritual
4. Discriminating Self Examination
Brahmaji and Bhrgu - Fire and Water (SB. 10.89.5)
37. Thank You !
If you are patient in one
moment of anger, you will
escape hundred days of
sorrow