How to Overcoming Anger

2. Overcoming
Anger

3.  Problem

4.  Cause

5.  Symptoms

6.  Solution

7. Application

8. Problem
 Definition
Conventional
Approach
 Quotes
 Consequences

9. Definitions
Conventional
Approach
1. Strong feeling of displeasure and aggressive hostility
aroused By real or suspected wrong
2. A response to the frustration of an unresolved
problem
3. Sudden violent displeasure accompanied by
impulse to retaliate
Problem

10. Quotes
Conventional
Approach
1. Men like steel- when lose temper – lose worth
2. We boil at different degrees
3. Holding anger is like grasping of hot coal with you
only
4. Anger is a wind that blows out lamp of mind
5. If heart is a volcano, how you expect flowers to
bloom?
6. Anger is one letter short of Danger
7. The matchstick has a head but no intelligence
and hence it flares up.
Problem

11. Consequences
Conventional
Approach
1. Physiological
2. Emotional
3. Social
4. Financial
5. Internal
6. Corporate
7. Familial
8. Political
Problem

12. Cause
 Origin
A Vedic Approach
 Places of Residence
 Dynamics

13. Origin
A Vedic Approach
Canto 3-From Brahma himself
Canto 4 Brahma creates causes of devastation
Cause

14. Adharma
(Irreligion)
Brahma
Mrsa
(Falsity)
Dambha
(Bluffing)
Maya
(Cheating)
Lobhaù
(Greed)
Nikåti
(Cunning)
Krodha
(Anger)
Hiàsä
(Envy)
Kali Durukti
(Harsh Speech)
Måtyu
(Death)
Bhéti
(Fear)
Yätanä
(Excessive Pain)
Niraya
(Hell)
A Vedic Approach Cause

15. A Vedic Approach
Dynamics
Step 3. Frustrated attitude – I wanted to….. but I could not
Step 1. Enjoyment attitude - I want to satisfy my desires
Step 2. Ego centric attitude – I can fulfill my desire
Thus anger is caused by unfulfilled lust
Cause

16. A Vedic Approach
śrī-bhagavān uvāca
kāma eṣa krodha eṣa
rajo-guṇa-samudbhavaḥ
mahāśano mahā-pāpmā
viddhy enam iha vairiṇam
BG: 3.37
dhyāyato viṣayān puṁsaḥ
saṅgas teṣūpajāyate
saṅgāt sañjāyate kāmaḥ
kāmāt krodho ’bhijāyate
BG: 2.62
krodhād bhavati
sammohaḥ
sammohāt smṛti-
vibhramaḥ
smṛti-bhraṁśād buddhi-
nāśo
buddhi-nāśāt praṇaśyati
BG: 2.63
Cause

17. Symptoms
What is your anger
style?
1. Lock it up
2. Turn it loose!
3. Manage it

18. What is your anger
style?
1. Lock it up
 Withdraw emotionally
BEHAVIOUR
 Give the “silent treatment”
 Become ill or anxious
 Deny anger but show it in
other actions
REASONS
 I don’t have the right to be angry
 Anger is inappropriate or childish
 I may lose control of myself
 I cant cope with strong feelings
 People will dislike me if I show
anger
 I may lose my job or a relationship
 I fear I will hurt or offend someone
 Revenge fantasies
Symptoms

19. What is your anger
style?
2. Turn it loose!
 Blowing up at people
BEHAVIOUR
 Getting physical or hurting
people
 Threatening, shouting or
swearing
 Blaming people
REASONS
I need to assert my power over people
The best defense is a good offense
I’m afraid of getting close to someone
I cant stand to be wrong
I don’t know how to communicate
calmly when angry
 Breaking things
 Flying off the handle at
small things
 Bringing up old grievances
Symptoms

20. What is your anger
style?
3. Manage it
 Remaining calm
BEHAVIOUR
 Focusing on the behavior,
not the person
 Using “I” statements: “I
feel angry when…”
 Sticking to the subject
REASONS
Anger is a normal emotion -
it’s okay to be angry
 Allowing discussion to
happen
Symptoms

21. Solution
Control and Conquer it
Step 1. Control Anger
Step 2. Conquer Anger

22. Control and Conquer it
Step 1. Control Anger
 Patiently
 Privately
 Prudently
 Powerfully
 Positively
 Personally
Solution

23. Control and Conquer it
Step 2. Conquer Anger
 Recognize
 Repent
 Resist
 Rely
Solution

24. Application
Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
A. Physical
B. Mental
C. Intellectual
D. Spiritual

25. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Physical
1. Analyze
2. Abstain
3. Avoid
Application

26. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Physical
1. Analyze
 The Mind – Body Connection
a) Drink Cold Water
b) Breathe slow and deep
Application

27. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Physical
2. Abstain
 From stimulating food that excite the nerves
a) From intoxicants such as alcohol, tobacco, etc.
b) From meat eating
Application

28. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Physical
3. Avoid
 Passionate Habits
 Give up illicit sex
 Practice Celibacy
Application

29. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Mental
1. Befriend
2. Balance
3. Banish
Application

30. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Mental
1. Befriend
 Your causes of anger
a) Cultivate a sense of humor
b) Develop right perspectives
Application

31. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Mental
2. Balance
 The Energy flow
a) Talk Less
b) Relax Reasonably
Application

32. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Mental
3. Banish
 Negative thoughts
a) Think of productive plans
b) Act positively
Application

33. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Intellectual
1. Consider
2. Contemplate
3. Convert
Application

34. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Intellectual
1. Consider
 The Harmful Effects on
a) Body
b) Society
c) Family
Application

35. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Intellectual
2. Contemplate
 The blessings of non – irritable nature such as
a) Harmony
b) Happiness
Application

36. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Intellectual
3. Convert
 The spirit of vengeance into force of self - development
a) Reason against revenge
b) Reason to forgive
Application

37. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Spiritual
1. Discuss
2. Discriminate
3. Discover
Application

38. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Spiritual
1. Discuss
 Spiritual Topics
a) Associating with saints
b) Assimilate vital lessons by hearing and serving
Application

39. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Spiritual
2. Discriminate
 Between reality and illusion
a) Accept spiritual guidance
b) Introspect regularly
Application

40. Practical Exercise for
Conquest of Anger
Spiritual
3. Discover
 Virtues like humility, tolerance, forgiveness, etc.
a) Chanting Hare Krishna regularly
b) Give Krishna to others
Application

41. Thank You !
If you are patient in one
moment of anger,
you will escape hundred
days of sorrow