7. 1. Words of Affirmation
• You have to HEAR it!
• You need lots of verbal affirmation if you
are going to grow
• Words need to be:
• Strengthening
• Specific
• Supportive
‘I can live for two months on a good compliment’
Mark Twain
8. You can verbally affirm a
person for:
•Accomplishments
•Character
•Personality
9. 2. Quality Time
• You need undivided attention
• It’s about ‘togetherness’ not just proximity
• Quality conversation is important
10. For Quality Conversation you need good
listening skills!
• Maintain eye contact
• Concentrate
• Give positive responses
• Ask reflective questions
• Ask clarifying questions
• Don’t interrupt
11. 3. Physical Touch
• You feel loved by physical contact
• Body language speaks loud and clear
• To touch your body
is to touch you
• Must learn
appropriate touch
12. Some ‘safe’ and affirming ways of
using touch:
• High five
• Hand on shoulder/arm
• Side by side ‘nudge’
• Back ‘slap’ or rub
13. Guidelines:
• If the person draws away – back off and
give them space
• Leave a way of ‘escape’
• Keep touches brief
• Don’t be rough
• Don’t touch bare skin
14. 4. Receiving Gifts
• Love is felt in the receiving of gifts
• Gifts are visual symbols of love
• Not the intrinsic value that
counts, but the fact that
someone cared enough to
think of you
15. 5. Acts of Service
• ‘Actions speak louder than words’
• You will feel loved when someone
gives you practical help
• It’s the emotional assurance of
being valued that is sought when
you ask for help
16. Some Cautions:
• Don’t use love languages manipulatively
• Try not to love another person using
YOUR love language rather than THEIRS
• A person will tend to criticize in the area
they have the biggest emotional need
(note: This can be a clue to their love
language)
• If in doubt – ASK!!
