The document introduces "The Man Code" which outlines key relationships for men. It discusses a man's relationship with God, trusted advisors, friends, his local church, and community. The Man Code provides guidance on maintaining healthy relationships in each of these areas through different sessions and chapters. It is accompanied by a book, workbook, website and men's conferences to help men strengthen important relationships and live according to The Man Code principles.
5. What is THE MAN CODE ? 1 Relationship with God 3 Relationship with trusted advisors 12 Relationship with friends 120 Relationship with your local church 3000 Relationship with your community Over view
27. What is THE MAN CODE ? 1 Relationship with God 3 Relationship with trusted advisors 12 Relationship with friends 120 Relationship with your local church 3000 Relationship with your community RE CAP
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Dennis Swanberg served the local church as a pastor for 23 years. In 1995, he stepped down as church pastor and stepped up to the microphone. Soon, he became “America’s Minister of Encouragement.” Ron Smith is an artist manager, product developer, and business consultant. He has managed Swanberg for more than a decade.
In a nutshell, The ManCode is all about relationships. Understanding this numerical code can revolutionize your life and give you balance in five key areas in your life.
The ManCode is 1-3-12-120-3000.
In order to live a balanced successful life every man must have a relationship with his creator. We were created for this. Everything works out from here. Take it away, and we may be fine for a while, but when push comes to shove, we falter. We need Him.
Let me explain how these two things play the central issue in a man’s life. ALL of us would probably say we WANT Christ in our lives. Probably the same % would say we NEED a good job to provide for our families. Do you know the difference between a ‘want’ and ‘need’? How do you decide what is important in your life? The first commandment (Exodus 20:3) says pretty clearly that we are to put God first. Do you wonder why He made that commandment the first one? Do you think He did it for himself or because He knew that is what we NEEDED? Imagine your life for a moment if you had put Him first in every decision. How would your life be different? Would you value your wants and needs differently? WE NEED Christ. Everything else is a want! If you truly understand this then all your priorities will shift.
Do you have an authentic relationship with Christ? Have you asked Him into your heart and to forgive you of your sins? If not, are you willing to consider taking this first critical step? Are you ready to follow Him, let Him direct your path or even wrestle with you to break you of something? This is the biggest decision of your life, bar none. If you haven't done this yet, I strongly urge you to in order to take advantage of what He has for you. I cannot emphasize enough—you can only achieve balance and real meaning in your life if you have a real relationship with Christ.
The ‘3’ in The ManCode stands for a very close set of comrades that are going to walk with you through your battles, successes and failures in life. The specific number is negotiable in that it could be 3 or it could be 2 or 4. It does need to be a very small group. Even Christ in his darkest hour carved out 3 to take with him to the garden to pray. Although the number is negotiable one thing is not. For a Christ follower this set of 3 men MUST be believers so that the advice they give always comes form a Christ-centered approach.
Your relationship with your ‘3’ is one of accountability. Accountability is an appropriate concept, but we’ve overused and misused the term a bit in the church. Let’s get something straight. You can’t just be accountable to anyone and everyone. We change accountability partners like we change pants. You need trusted brothers that are attempting to walk with Christ. I am pretty sure that Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego had been through the “fire” together before they were placed in the furnace.
Here are 5 rules for being a ‘3’ or deciding who can be a ‘3’ for you. Let’s face it—it is a shame that so few men meet this criteria, even in the church. Remember, your ‘3’ is not necessarily comprised of your best friends. These are trusted men that love you and want to be there for you at ALL times. These men need to and must confront you and you them. And remember, to have a ‘3’ you must be a ‘3’!
The bottom line is guys need to hang out and enjoy the company of other guys. Golf, fishing, travel, ball games, eating, drinking coffee, etc. This number is very negotiable (not the concept). You could have 5, 8, 10 or even different sets of ‘12’s from college, high school, current relationships, church life etc. Your ‘12’ is not your ‘3’! It is possible for your ‘3’ to be a part of your ‘12’ but not vital.
So your ‘12’ are the guys you hang out with—your larger group of “buddies.” These are the guys you spend time with doing the things you enjoy doing.
Who was the first ‘12’ ever recorded? What did they do together? They traveled, ate, worked, fished, talked together and more.
Your ‘12’ is not an excuse to abuse other relationships like your spouse, children, work, etc. While we do need this number it is not a reason to go play golf all day every weekend at the expense of other vital areas of your life. You must have BALANCE! And your ‘3’ should be helping you stay accountable with balance.
‘ 120’ is taken from Acts 1:15 where we are told that on the day before Pentecost about 120 believers gathered in an upper room in Jerusalem and were touched by the Holy Spirit. This band of believers gave a jump start to the early church.
Men NEED the church. The church DOES NOT NEED you. The church will make it without you. This certainly doesn’t mean that the church won’t benefit from your help, and it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be a contributing member to your local church. But what it DOES mean is this: If you’re doing things right, you’ll always get more out of a church than you put into it.
It’s very easy to get into a pattern of being very critical of your church—the pastor, the music, the people, the building, the parking lot, and on and on. Have you ever noticed how much easier it is to complain than do something? What are YOU doing to serve within your church? Don’t be part of the problem. Be part of the solution! When you get involved and serve, you will see improvements and have less time to criticize.
‘ 3000’ finds its origin in the number of men and women who responded to Peter’s invitation to be baptized on the day of Pentecost (Acts 2:41). This number signifies the need to reach out to your community and to the world. It reminds us of the miraculous things that can occur when God works in the lives and hearts of His children and His church. Think of all the things that came after Pentecost: churches were built, fellowships were established among believers, mission trips were launched, lives were forever changed, and the Good News was spread far and wide. The echoes of those great victories are still heard around the world today.
The concept behind ‘3000’ has been confusing for a lot of men over the years. Does it mean World Missions? It could. Does it mean giving to missions? It could. Can it mean working at the local rescue mission? It can. What about helping a single mom? Sure. ‘3000’ is your world around you, and God will lead you where you need to go if you will just acknowledge Him.
So your ‘3000’ includes the mission field of your local community and the mission field of the world ! THIS is the Great Commission!
The ManCode is 1-3-12-120-3000.
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