This document discusses the risks of teenage and pre-marital sex. It begins by defining premarital and extramarital sex. It then discusses some common myths around sex and the realities, noting that sex is powerful but should be controlled and protected. The document outlines some of the main risks of teenage pregnancy and pre-marital sex, including STDs, actual pregnancies, emotional manipulation, and school drop-out. It also discusses factors that can influence teenage pregnancy like peer pressure, poverty, and lack of communication skills. The document provides examples of practical responses one can give to persuade against pre-marital sex. It concludes by reiterating the message to say no to pre-marital sex.

1. TTEEEENNAGEAGE
andand
PRE-MARITAL SEXPRE-MARITAL SEX
Lecturer : Prof. Malyn C. SingsonLecturer : Prof. Malyn C. Singson
For Parallel programFor Parallel program
Values IntegrationValues Integration (2011)(2011)

2. Say “Say “NONO TOTO
PRE-MARITAL SEXPRE-MARITAL SEX””
Prof.Prof.
MSingsonMSingson

3. • Definition (Premarital vs. Extra marital)
• The truths and lies
• Facts about pre-marital sex
• Risks and factors of pre-marital sex and
teenage pregnancy
• Practical communication skills to avert pre-
marital sex and teenage pregnancy
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4. Premarital sexPremarital sex Extra-marital sex
- Adulterous;
prohibited by lawprohibited by law oror
moral conventionmoral convention
- Sex before marriageSex before marriage
- is sexual activity
between marriedbetween married
person and someoneperson and someone
other than his or herother than his or her
spouse.spouse.
- is sexual activity
practiced by people
who are unmarried.
Differences:

5. What is sex ?
refer to a variety of sexual activities, and can
mean different things to different people.
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6. The truth about sexThe truth about sex
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7. Sex is a very powerful and divine thing, theSex is a very powerful and divine thing, the
first activity that God had Adam and Evefirst activity that God had Adam and Eve
pursue right out of the gate.pursue right out of the gate.
“GOD is the creator of sex”

8. THETHE
POWERPOWER
OFOF
SEXSEX
ACCORDING TOACCORDING TO
NAPOLEON HILL:NAPOLEON HILL:
SEX IS THE MOST
POWERFUL OF ALL
HUMAN DESIRES.
IT CAN MAKE A
MAN DEVELOP
COURAGE, WILL
POWER,
PERSISTENCE AND
CREATIVE ABILITY
UNKNOWN TO
HIM AT ANY
OTHER TIME.
Prof. MSingsonProf. MSingson

9. All must be taught how to
control and protect it
Sexual desire is as normal as desire
for food, water and rest

10. Prof. MSingsonProf. MSingson

11. In this 21In this 21stst
Century....Century....
TRUTH IS SCARYTRUTH IS SCARY SEX ISSEX IS
HEAVILYHEAVILY
PROMOTEDPROMOTED inin
movies, fashion,movies, fashion,
songs andsongs and
advertisementsadvertisements
NOBODYNOBODY
REALLY CARESREALLY CARES
TRUTHTRUTH
HURTS !!HURTS !!

12. - An old fashion way,An old fashion way,
everybody is doing it.everybody is doing it.
- Sex is needed to maintainSex is needed to maintain
struggling relationshipstruggling relationship
- Men are sexual beingMen are sexual being
and cannot be expectedand cannot be expected
to follow sexual normsto follow sexual norms
Wala na daw “forever?”Wala na daw “forever?”
The sooner you try it to yourThe sooner you try it to your
relationship, the greaterrelationship, the greater
chance you will fail.chance you will fail.
Young men can make wiseYoung men can make wise
decision, if they are taughtdecision, if they are taught
how and the standard is sethow and the standard is set
highhigh..
MYTHSMYTHS FACTSFACTS

13. - Marriage canMarriage can
wait.wait.
- Sexual doubleSexual double
standard betweenstandard between
man and womenman and women
should be resistedshould be resisted
It’s easier said thanIt’s easier said than
done.done.
““Kung kaya mo,Kung kaya mo,
kaya ko rin”kaya ko rin”
MYTHSMYTHS FACTSFACTS

14. The latest FACTS...The latest FACTS...
One in ten young Filipino women age 15-19One in ten young Filipino women age 15-19
has begun childbearing:has begun childbearing:
8 percent are already mothers and another 28 percent are already mothers and another 2
percent are pregnant with their firstpercent are pregnant with their first
Source:Source: National Demographic and Health Survey (NDHS).
Youngest mom is 10 yrs old (2012) in theYoungest mom is 10 yrs old (2012) in the
Philippines is her father.Philippines is her father.
(Ang Pinakabata, GMA TV News Documentary(Ang Pinakabata, GMA TV News Documentary
“Front row”)“Front row”)
Department of Education mandated the teachingDepartment of Education mandated the teaching
of sex education from Grade 5 to higher year.of sex education from Grade 5 to higher year.

15. Risks of Premarital sex and teenage pregnancyRisks of Premarital sex and teenage pregnancy
1. STD (Sexually transmitted1. STD (Sexually transmitted
diseases)diseases)
2. Premarital/teenage2. Premarital/teenage
pregnanciespregnancies
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16. Risks of Premarital sex and teenage pregnancy..Risks of Premarital sex and teenage pregnancy..
4. Religious and social4. Religious and social
effectseffects
3. Emotional3. Emotional
manipulationsmanipulations
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17. Risks of Premarital sex and teenage pregnancy..Risks of Premarital sex and teenage pregnancy..
6. Early marriage ,6. Early marriage ,
family burdenfamily burden
5. School drop-out5. School drop-out
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18. Risks of Premarital sex and teenage pregnancy..Risks of Premarital sex and teenage pregnancy..
8. Guilt, loss of self-8. Guilt, loss of self-
esteemesteem
7. Abortion7. Abortion

19. Risks of Premarital sex and teenage pregnancy..Risks of Premarital sex and teenage pregnancy..
9. Prohibited drugs9. Prohibited drugs9. Rape9. Rape
10. Guilt, loss of self-10. Guilt, loss of self-
esteemesteem

20. Factors influencing premarital andFactors influencing premarital and
teenage pregnancyteenage pregnancy
1.1. Socio-economic factors – poverty, financialSocio-economic factors – poverty, financial
supportsupport
2.2. Substance abuse or lack of alternativeSubstance abuse or lack of alternative
entertainmententertainment

21. Factors influencing premarital and teenageFactors influencing premarital and teenage
pregnancypregnancy
PEER PRESSUREPEER PRESSURE
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22. Factors influencing premarital and teenage pregnancyFactors influencing premarital and teenage pregnancy
POOR NEGOTIATION SKILLSPOOR NEGOTIATION SKILLS
WagWag
makulit!makulit!
BakaBaka
pwede..pwede..
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23. 1.1. Why you won’t have sex if you love me?Why you won’t have sex if you love me?
My love is based on respect not on sex.My love is based on respect not on sex.
2. Time have changed.2. Time have changed.
HIV and AIDS has not.HIV and AIDS has not.
3. Why different, everyone is doing it?3. Why different, everyone is doing it?
God and I will know it.God and I will know it.
4. If you don’t, I will date someone.4. If you don’t, I will date someone.
Go ahead! I won’t die.Go ahead! I won’t die.
5. Virgin! You’re not a normal. You have a problem.5. Virgin! You’re not a normal. You have a problem.
I’m so normal . Different and unique.I’m so normal . Different and unique.
6. Promise, there’ll be no pregnancy.6. Promise, there’ll be no pregnancy.
Keep your empty promises. I’m staying zipped because itKeep your empty promises. I’m staying zipped because it
makes me feel hip! Sex is worth waiting for!makes me feel hip! Sex is worth waiting for!
PRACTICAL ANSWERS THAT YOU CAN GIVEPRACTICAL ANSWERS THAT YOU CAN GIVE

24. Thank you for listening!!Thank you for listening!!

25. Say “Say “NONO TOTO
PRE-MARITAL SEXPRE-MARITAL SEX””
Prof. MSingsonProf. MSingson