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How to Silence Shyness in Your Job Search
Are you shy?
Do you feel awkward in social settings that involve
people you don’t know, or perhaps even people you
do? If so, then a job search is probably not your
favorite project, requiring as it does networking, cold-
calling, follow up with strangers andtelephone or in-
person interviews where you’re required to talk about
– TA DA! – you!
A job search can be stressful for just about
anyone. For someone shy or uncomfortable
when engaging in social interaction, a job
search can be a daunting experience. It
doesn’t need to be however. While it’s
unlikely that you’ll ever become the “life of
the party”, there are certainly some things
you can do to minimize the effects of your
shyness while attempting to change your
employment status.
“Wait,” you say, “this shouldn’t be an issue.
I’ll be interviewing with one
person, maybe a few at most, and it’ll be
quiet and I’ll have the opportunity to just chill
and let them know what I’m all about.” Um,
yeah, no, not so much. Not as a general rule,
anyway.
Remember that the ‘he/she/them’ interviewing you are doing so
because they have a problem (maybe a BIG problem) that they need
to solve as quickly as possible, which means finding the right person
for the job ASAP so they can return to their daily mission-critical
tasks.
Given this scenario, you’ll have a very small window in which you
can demonstrate how outstanding you are. You want to stand out
based on merit, not “stand apart” by being so shy that you’re
perceived to lack confidence, competence or worse (e.g., being
completely socially inept, which is doom).
things to consider as you conduct your job
search:
What are your boundaries?
People are constantly referring to the notion of
stretching the envelope or getting out of a comfort
zone. In general, we know what that means. But do
you know what it means in relation to
you specifically?
Work your network.
Reconnect to those with whom you’ve fallen out
of touch. Strengthen ties with those in your
existing circle of contacts. Link in to LinkedIn and
look at each of your contacts with a new
perspective, one by which you attempt to
identify what value you can add to their
relationship with you rather than the other way
around. And then provide that value.
What are you sorry for?
Don’t apologize when you ask for
help or information during your job
search. You’re building a
relationship by demonstrating that
you consider the other person
important. Because it’s important
to you. You’re not imposing.
Be biographer, not autobiographer.
Of course, we always recommend that you have
your resume professionally written. Professional
resume writers bring not just expertise, but an
objective perspective to the development of your
resume. This is important, since people who are
shy will often have trouble recognizing and
writing about their career achievements and
strengths.
Pick me, pick me!
One job search tool often overlooked is
volunteerism. Most volunteer activities
provide ample opportunity to engage with
others (especially strangers) in a comfortable,
productive setting. You’ll expand your
network, hone your communication skills and
gain confidence while working with others
towards a common goal. Communication is
much more comfortable when it’s about
making a contribution.
Michelle Dumas runs of one of the
longest-standing and most
respected professional résumé
writing firms on the internet,
Distinctive Career Services, LLC (dba
Distinctive Documents). Since 1996,
Michelle has empowered thousands of
professionals with résumés that get
results and win jobs fast. Get insider
résumé writing tips that you won't find
anywhere else at her website. Go now
to www.distinctiveweb.com
The Internet’s Résumé & Career Marketing
Specialists…Since 1996
www.distinctiveweb.com
resumes@distinctiveweb.com
(800) 644-9694
Copyright © 2014 Distinctive Career Services, LLC

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How to Overcome Shyness in your Job Search

  • 1. How to Silence Shyness in Your Job Search
  • 2. Are you shy? Do you feel awkward in social settings that involve people you don’t know, or perhaps even people you do? If so, then a job search is probably not your favorite project, requiring as it does networking, cold- calling, follow up with strangers andtelephone or in- person interviews where you’re required to talk about – TA DA! – you!
  • 3. A job search can be stressful for just about anyone. For someone shy or uncomfortable when engaging in social interaction, a job search can be a daunting experience. It doesn’t need to be however. While it’s unlikely that you’ll ever become the “life of the party”, there are certainly some things you can do to minimize the effects of your shyness while attempting to change your employment status.
  • 4. “Wait,” you say, “this shouldn’t be an issue. I’ll be interviewing with one person, maybe a few at most, and it’ll be quiet and I’ll have the opportunity to just chill and let them know what I’m all about.” Um, yeah, no, not so much. Not as a general rule, anyway.
  • 5. Remember that the ‘he/she/them’ interviewing you are doing so because they have a problem (maybe a BIG problem) that they need to solve as quickly as possible, which means finding the right person for the job ASAP so they can return to their daily mission-critical tasks. Given this scenario, you’ll have a very small window in which you can demonstrate how outstanding you are. You want to stand out based on merit, not “stand apart” by being so shy that you’re perceived to lack confidence, competence or worse (e.g., being completely socially inept, which is doom).
  • 6. things to consider as you conduct your job search: What are your boundaries? People are constantly referring to the notion of stretching the envelope or getting out of a comfort zone. In general, we know what that means. But do you know what it means in relation to you specifically?
  • 7. Work your network. Reconnect to those with whom you’ve fallen out of touch. Strengthen ties with those in your existing circle of contacts. Link in to LinkedIn and look at each of your contacts with a new perspective, one by which you attempt to identify what value you can add to their relationship with you rather than the other way around. And then provide that value.
  • 8. What are you sorry for? Don’t apologize when you ask for help or information during your job search. You’re building a relationship by demonstrating that you consider the other person important. Because it’s important to you. You’re not imposing.
  • 9. Be biographer, not autobiographer. Of course, we always recommend that you have your resume professionally written. Professional resume writers bring not just expertise, but an objective perspective to the development of your resume. This is important, since people who are shy will often have trouble recognizing and writing about their career achievements and strengths.
  • 10. Pick me, pick me! One job search tool often overlooked is volunteerism. Most volunteer activities provide ample opportunity to engage with others (especially strangers) in a comfortable, productive setting. You’ll expand your network, hone your communication skills and gain confidence while working with others towards a common goal. Communication is much more comfortable when it’s about making a contribution.
  • 11. Michelle Dumas runs of one of the longest-standing and most respected professional résumé writing firms on the internet, Distinctive Career Services, LLC (dba Distinctive Documents). Since 1996, Michelle has empowered thousands of professionals with résumés that get results and win jobs fast. Get insider résumé writing tips that you won't find anywhere else at her website. Go now to www.distinctiveweb.com The Internet’s Résumé & Career Marketing Specialists…Since 1996 www.distinctiveweb.com resumes@distinctiveweb.com (800) 644-9694 Copyright © 2014 Distinctive Career Services, LLC