1) The document summarizes a discussion between Vladislav Grancharov and Liliya Boycheva about tools and magic for day-to-day survival. 2) They discuss constructive feedback, exploring different perspectives, choosing words wisely, and being empathetic with others. 3) One suggestion is that when you feel you can't take it anymore, you should give to others instead.

1. Tools & Magic for Day-To-Day Survival
from Two People Persons
February 25th, 2021, Thursday | 19:00
Online via MS Teams
Vladislav Grancharov, Head of Software Development
Liliya Boycheva, Agile Delivery Lead
& feat Special Guests

2. Sli.do code #Survivors
Post your questions and comment in the Sli.do app
* Any resemblance to actual events or locales or persons, living or dead, is entirely intentional.

3. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
Lily Boycheva

4. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
Vladi

5. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
Right. You’re the people person.

6. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
#2 it’s not fair!
And how skillful communication makes the difference
Tips for selling ideas
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7. #2 it’s not fair!
Own your communication.

8. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
Don’t just react. Take the time and choose your response wisely. HODL!
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In
that space is our power to choose our response. In
our response lies our growth and our freedom.
Tool: from the shelf - Man's Search for Meaning,
Viktor Frankl
Magic: it’s right under your nose – just breath in
Go chill
#3 The evolution may have screwed us

9. #3 Take a breath/break.

10. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
#4 There seems to be no sign of intelligent life
Perceptive positions
Sit in the other person’s chair
Play the security camera in the room
Play a Starlink Satellite
Tool: Liberating structures: Troika consulting

11. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
See the situation
through the other
person’s eyes
Her: I love you and all
your flaws
Him: What flaws?!

12. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
See the situation
through the lens of
the security camera in
the room
Is this an effective meeting?
Boss: My team is swarming around creative solutions
Team member 1: Luckily, I’m not Bai Ivan now
Team member 2: I should better get a smoke and
figure it out on my own
Team member 3: Shall I take the mint or peach
curtains for the kitchen
Team member 4: We get a lot done because I’m a
genius.

13. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
See the situation from a Starlink Satellite
How is this impacting the world What’s the impact on my organization Is this where I want to be in 2 min

14. #4 Explore perspectives.

15. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
#5 You’re wrong!
• No
• But
• However

16. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
My thoughts when they are conceived in my mind My thoughts when I verbally express them
Space between the stimuli and the response

17. #5 Words matter.
Memorize the spell.

18. Един успял млад мъж
Без ски
Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
Delyan Peev
#КОЙ
ski

19. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
King
of
Code

20. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
Say
no
more

21. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
• Approaching a problem
• Deciding on a solution
• Recognition
#6 Constructive feedback and feedforward

23. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
Constructive feedback and feedforward
• Code (Work) review goals
• Nitpicking & the Tab vs. Space problem
• Give Examples
BAD 👎🏻 GOOD 👍🏻
Rename this variable to depositAmount. Would it be better if we called this depositAmount?
Can't we just do a null-check here? What about doing a null-check in the beginning of the
method? Do you think this will be sufficient?
• Language
• Avoid saying "you"
• Misinterpretation in chatting
• Don't use "just"
vs.

24. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
I need a quick favor (Дай да ти редя една далавера)

25. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
• Working well with other people is a
crucial skill.
• We all depend on other teams and
people for achieving our goals.
• Don't be afraid to approach
someone new. Just drop them a
line or invite them to a quick chat
and get things rolling.
Collaborating with others

26. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
I want it all, and I want it now

27. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
Working on unclear tasks
• When and why does it happen
• Empathy
• Just talk it out

28. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
• An urgent request for code change
• Reach out to the other person and consider the
available options
• It's okay to say "No"
Working under pressure

29. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
#7 MythConception!

30. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
You can’t take it anymore...
then give.
Your Endocrine System & Buddha

31. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
#1 Giving is pure magic & the best communication
Help out, design experience and
share knowledge
Be contageously enthusiastic and
spread positivism Give without expecting in return

32. Behind every behavior there is a positive intention
Don’t try this at home
Own your communication
Take a breath/break
Explore perspectives
Choose your words wisely
Be empathetic, we are people first and professionals only after
Expect the same from the others
Give

33. Thank you!
What questions do you have for us?