Eliminating negative thoughts


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The impact of negative thoughts and negative thinking on our lives is far more harmful than we knew. Discover where negative thoughts and negative thinking comes from and what you can do to stop your mind from racing endlessly into sickness.

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Eliminating negative thoughts

  2. 2. What is a Negative Thought?  Any thought associated with un-constructive or unpleasant emotional states (such as anger, anxiety, depression, pessimism, etc.)  How do negative thoughts feel in the body?
  3. 3. Characteristics  Automatic - they just pop into your head without any effort on your part.  Distorted - stem from perception.  Obstructive - they stop you from getting what you want out of life.  Plausible - you accept them as facts, and it does not occur to you to question them.
  4. 4. Categories of Negative Thoughts  Assuming  Over Generalizing  Should’s  Labeling  It's all or nothing!  Believing what you feel
  5. 5. Examples of Negative Thoughts  I’m not good enough…  There must be something wrong with me…  I wish I were a better person…  I’m a failure, I’m worthless…  I’m so disappointed in myself…
  6. 6. Where Do They Come From? They often arise when we are living with:  stress and anxiety  Depression  low self-esteem  self-hate
  7. 7. The Conditioning Process: Sugges-tions Beliefs Attitude Behavior Success Failure
  8. 8. Inner Critic VS Inner Ally  The inner-critic is the voice in your head, which constantly evaluate everything that you do while at the same time reminding you of your faults, failings and weaknesses.  Whether this is a silent monolog or one you hear in your own voice, the voice of your parents, teachers and friends or even as a simple mental image, it has the power to wipe out your self-esteem.
  9. 9. Inner-Critic Inner-Ally Focus on a tiny part of an experience which is negative, use that as the memory Focus on overall experience, evaluate, find the good Focus on what you did wrong Focus on lessons learned, achievements Perfect memory of negative experiences Terrible memory of positive experiences Picks up sayings and ideas from the outside, never evaluates, and repeats Evaluates everything, allows the positive through and ignores most else no faith, no goals, sets up for failure Faith, trust in self, goals, looks ahead Feeds you weakness Feeds you strength Makes you think everyone is criticizing you and evaluating you constantly Knows everyone is too busy listening to their inner-critic to focus on your faults
  10. 10. Banishing Negative Thoughts  Decide - to feel good, no secondary gains  The Whole Picture - See things as they are  Focus - Every dark cloud has a silver lining  Self Talk - change what you say to yourself
  11. 11. A Wise Quote “Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass…it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” ~ Anonymous
  12. 12. 5 Ways to Cut Down NT 1. First you have to perceive it. Listen to your inner voice (self-talk). If it’s negative: Recognize it. Acknowledge it. Turn it around.
  13. 13. 5 Ways to Cut Down NT 2. Replace the negative voice with a positive one. Instead of “that jerk cut in front of me, what an idiot!” replace it with: “He must really be in a hurry, maybe there is some personal emergency, I’m glad I saw him and my reflexes are good.”
  14. 14. 5 Ways to Cut Down NT 3. Remove non-positive words or phrases from your vocabulary, such as “I can’t,” or “I hate,” or “I’m pissed off”. Remember the old saying, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all”
  15. 15. 5 Ways to Cut Down NT 4. Reward yourself! When you do something positive, reflect on the positive ways it made a difference. Give Yourself permission to feel good about your actions.
  16. 16. 5 Ways to Cut Down NT  5. Have someone to talk to who can uplift your spirit and inspire you. Choose your company wisely. Yes, a support structure is very important.
  17. 17. Other Self-Help Techniques  Hypnotherapy – Use self-hypnosis recordings  Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)  Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP)
  18. 18. USEFUL BOOKS TO READ  Overcoming Low Self-Esteem : A Self-Help Guide using Cognitive-BehaviouralTechniques by Melanie Fennell (Constable & Robinson, 1999)  Creating Self-Esteem : A Practical Guide to Realizing Your True Worth by Lynda Field (Vermilion, 2001)  The Achilles Syndrome : Overcoming the Secret Fear of Failure by Petruska Clarkson (Element Books Ltd., 1994)  There Is Nothing Wrong With You : Going Beyond Self-Hate by Cheri Huber (Keep It Simple Books, 2001)  Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway : How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into confidence and Action By Susan Jeffers (Rider and Co., 1997)
  19. 19. Schedule Your FREE Consultation  Call: 617 - 564 - 0707  Email: Free@AvinoamLerner.com  Visit: www.AvinoamLerner.com Thank you, Avinoam Lerner