Slides from a presentation given by Reb Veal to a meeting of IIBA UK's South West branch on 21 April 2015

1. with Reb Veale
Dealing with Change
Positively

2. Defining Change & Transition
Change = the stuff that happens (new boss,
re‐organisation, new job etc)
Transition = our psychological adaptation to
the change (or lack of it)

3. 3 Stages of Transition (William Bridges)
Endings Dealing with Loss
Anxiety, Blame, Fear,
Shock
Neutral Zone Transitional Period
Anxiety, Confusion,
Uncertainty
Beginnings Setting New Goals
Integration, Reinventing
Yourself

4. The Modified Change Curve

5. Circles of Influence
CONCERN
INFLUENCE
CONTROL
Stephen Covey

6. Defining Resilience
“Resilience is the process of, capacity for,
or outcome of successful adaption despite
challenging or threatening
circumstances.” (Masten, Best & Garmezy 1990)
“Resilience is predicated on exposure to
significant threat or adversity, and on the
attainment of good outcomes despite this
exposure.” (Luthar, Cicchetti, & Becker 2000)

7. The Seven ‘Learnable’ Skills of
Resilience
1. Emotion awareness or regulation
2. Impulse control
3. Optimism
4. Causal analysis
5. Empathy
6. Self‐efficacy
7. Reaching out.

8. What do you need during
change?

9. A Lethal Cocktail
DHEA cortisol
relaxation
adrenaline
freeze, flight, fight

10. Resilience – some questions
Benefits How might this experience benefit you in future?
Choices What possibilities and choices can you see?
Changes What will you stop / start / continue?
Action Plan What do you want to take forwards from this
experience? Why? How? When?
Learning Plan What do you want to explore further? Why? How?
When?
Predictions What are your optimistic predictions about the
longer term value of this event?
Priorities I will be disappointed, pleased, delighted if ...
Re‐
Awakening
This event has renewed my ...

11. Mind & Body = Same System
Thinking
Doing
Feeling
Cognitive
(internal
representations ‐
processing)
Affective
(internal
emotions ‐
state)
Somatic
(external behaviour)

12. Who pushes your buttons?
“The notion that others can
make us feel good or bad is
untrue. Consciously, or more
frequently unconsciously, we
are choosing how we feel at
every single moment”
Candice Pert

13. Cause & Effect: C > E
Cause
Achieve Results
• Choice
• Responsibility
• ‘I Can...’
• ‘I chose to...’
• ‘I will...’
• Can/Want to
• Possibility
Effect
Excuses & Blame
• Reasons
• Justification
• ‘Yes, but...’
• Problems
• ‘I have to...’
• Must/Ought/Got to
• Obligations

14. Cause & Effect: C > E
Cause
Achieve Results
Hold the Power
Effect
Excuses & Blame
Give the Power Away
‘I’ve got to get this report
done because…’
‘I want to make this report
clear and persuasive’

15. Change and Me
– Understanding My Impact
• Self awareness
• Other awareness
• Self management
• Relationship management

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