Specifically for online dating, if you’d like to improve your dating profile and meet someone online, there are books that can help. Instead of just tactics, these books are more for growing yourself, which then leads to better tactics - naturally.

1. Seven Books to Help You Attract More Dates
Greg Aronoff | Dateafied
How to attract more dates?
Answer ­ read a book.
Well, that’s not ​the ​answer, but rather, ​an ​answer.
It's interesting that we turn to books (or YouTube) to learn how things work, but
when it comes to our personal life we often struggle to figure things out on our
own.
Maybe it’s a point of pride, but irregardless (which is the funner version of
‘regardless’. Related, how is ‘funner’ also not a “real” word?).
As the say, “If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always
gotten."

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Specifically for online dating, if you’d like to improve your dating profile and
meet someone online, there are books that can help.
Instead of just tactics, these books are more for growing yourself, which then
leads to better tactics ­ naturally.
7.) WHAT EVERY BODY IS SAYING: An Ex­FBI Agent's Guide to
Speed­Reading People ​by Joe Navarro
Unless you have Professor X­like ability, figuring out what someone is thinking
can be difficult ­ even though clues can flash right before our eyes.
According to research, 93% of communication is nonverbal, with nearly 55%
being conveyed through body language.

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So if we’re inundated with body communication, why is it so hard to decipher
what’s being ‘said’?
To make matters worse, by default men aren’t as attuned at nonverbal
communication.
So, a woman might get frustrated because she thinks she’s obviously signaling
her intention (like ‘you’re a creeper, please leave’ or ‘you’re cute, stay and
chat’), but it’s not even registering on the guy’s radar.
The good news is that learning how to decode nonverbal communication is
possible, and that men who received training were able to show improvements.
What Every Body Is Saying was written by a former FBI counterintelligence
officer who’s regarded as an expert on ‘reading people’ based on their
nonverbal behavior.
This book can help when you’re on the date, but it could also help decide if you
should even go on the date. Do her dating profile pictures reveal confidence,
insecurity, etc?
Here’s an excerpt straight from the book:
"A potential suitor can get a pretty good reading on how things are going based
on this “shoe­play” behavior. If, upon approaching a woman (or after talking
with her for a while), her shoe play stops, she adjusts her shoe back on her foot,
and especially if she follows this by turning slightly away from the suitor and
perhaps gathering up her purse, well, in the language of baseball, that suitor
has most likely just struck out.
Ever wonder what kind of first impression you’ve made on someone? Whether
they seem to like you from the outset or, rather, if there could be difficulties
brewing? One way to find out is the “shake and wait” ap­proach. Here’s how it

4. works. Foot and leg behavior is especially important to observe when you first
meet people. It reveals a lot about how they feel about you.
Personally, when I first meet someone, I typically lean in, give the person a
hearty handshake (depending on the appropriate cultural norms in the
situation), make good eye contact, and then take a step back and see what
happens next.
One of three responses is likely to take place:
(a) the person will remain in place, which lets me know he or she is comfortable
at that distance.
(b) the individual will take a step back or turn slightly away, which lets me
know he or she needs more space or wants to be elsewhere.
(c) the person will actually take a step closer to me, which means he or she feels
comfortable and/or favorable toward me.
Remember, the feet are the most honest part of the body. If someone takes a step
toward me, I know they feel more comfortable near me."

5. 6.) FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY​ by Susan Jeffers
Fear is a doozy.
In pretty much all aspects of life, fear can stop us in our tracks and hold us back
from reaching our goals.

6. For most of us, approaching and talking to an attractive stranger is on par with
public speaking ­ which most people rank as more fearful than death.
So Fear the Fear and Do it Anyways is great at breaking down fear and looking
at it from a different angle.
Susan Jeffers talks about her personal struggles with fear and how that helped
make some big life choices.
Part of attracting women and improving your social life is to manage your fear
and venture out of your comfort zone ­ which is usually where the good stuff
lives.
And this book is great about giving you techniques to break through your fear
barriers.
From her book "Fear the Fear and Do It Anyway", and its follow up "Feel the
Fear and Beyond", here are five truths about fear...
1.) “The fear will never go away as long as you continue to grow!”
Analysis: ​A lot of time we tell ourselves “someday I’ll…” Well, whatever you
think is holding you back, will still be there in the future, so you might as well
take that first step today.
2.) “The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and…do
it!”
Analysis:​ ​Sadly the solution we need isn’t always ‘easy’. Like eating healthy
and frequent exercise aren’t easy, but that’s what’s needed to get the results we
want. So, the only way to get rid of your anxiety is to do the thing that makes
you nervous.
One of the best examples is Toastmasters, which helps participants get over
public speaking anxiety, by simply getting up and speaking in front of the

7. group. You will have faced the unknown and you will have handled it. Then
new challenges await you, which certainly add to the excitement in living.
3.) “The only way to feel better about yourself is to go out and…do it!”
Analysis: ​Facing the unknown and taking a step towards what you’re afraid of
(even a small step) builds confidence in knowing that you can handle more than
you think.
4.) “Not only are you afraid when facing the unknown, so is everyone else!”
Analysis: ​Yep, you’re not alone. Any anxiety you feel around dating is totally
normal. The successful guys who already figured out how to meet women, felt
the exact same nerves that you feel. They just kept at it, till eventually the fear
diminished.
5.) “Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the bigger
underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness!”
Analysis​: ​Facing your fears (even in small steps) empowers you and gives you
sense of relief as any feelings of helplessness quietly dissipates.

8. 5.) THE RULES: Time­tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider
This book doesn’t receive the same hype that it did in the mid to late 90’s, but
it’s still worth reading.
The main philosophy is that women should not pursue men, but rather, should
get men to pursue them.
So the ‘rules’ are essentially tips on playing hard to get.
The main theory is that we humans don’t value things that are in high­supply
and easy to get. Conversely, things that are scarce and hard to come by are more
valued and treasured.

9. Can these rules be considered head games? Yep. Annoying? Maybe. Do they
work? Possibly.
Some Rules include:
“Always End Phone Calls First”
For those who still use the phone part of their phone, they recommend not
staying on the phone longer than 10 minutes and staying upbeat and friendly.
No matter what, refrain from venting or going on and on about your problems.
With the shorter phone time, you’re also less likely to put your foot in your
mouth while leaving an air of mystery about yourself.
“Don't Accept a Saturday Night Date After Wednesday”
They recommend taking control of your schedule, so as not to sit and wait for
someone else to decide if you’re doing something on Saturday.
Guys, whether you’re dating a ‘Rules Woman’ or not, it’s good practice to make
plans a few days in advance.
If you reverse the roles, and women did the asking, how would you feel if she
tried to make day of plans?
Maybe like she figured you didn’t have anything else going on? Or maybe you
would just drop your plans for her?
Either way, remember that when you’re the one making plans.
“Don't Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls”
This one definitely falls in the (annoying?) head games arena. The Rules tell
women not to call/ text, because it reveals their interest, and once a man knows
a woman is interested, the man’s desire diminishes.
Is that accurate?

10. Well, it’s hard to tell. There’s research that shows we tend to like those who like
us. It’s called the ‘reciprocity of liking’. Findings also show we tend to be
attracted to that person who likes us.
But from our own experience, there is some truth to the fact that we want what
we can’t have.
A milder form of not calling, might be to keep a one­to­one relationship on calls
and texts.
So, you can initiate the conversation, but you can’t call or text again, until she
gets back to you. That way you’ll avoid over texting and will keep some of that
challenge status.
4.) HOW TO MAKE ANYONE FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU ​by Leil
Lowndes

11. This is a fascinating (and quick) read as it covers everything from how to meet
women all the way to enhancing your bedroom prowess.
Leil breaks down each specific area with scientific findings and personal
anecdotes in a warm and conversational style.
And she has actionable tips that are simple and easy to implement right away.
She starts by answering how to attract someone and what makes people fall in
love. So she has tips on eye contact and body language as well as what to say on
a first date.
Then she breaks down how to show you’re a good match as well as how to
harness the power of compliments.
Here is an excerpt straight from "From How To Make Anyone Fall In Love
With You":
“When you spot an attractive lady, what's the best strategy? Let your body do
the talking. First, use your eyes. Look at her and hold your eye contact for a few
extra seconds. Be prepared for her to look away. A woman has been trained to
lower her eyes when a man looks at her. This does not mean she is not
interested.
An analysis of flirtation patterns tells us if, after looking away, the woman looks
up again within 45 seconds, she welcomes your attention.
Gentlemen, set your chronograph. As she coyly feigns interest in something else
in the room, clock how long it takes for her to glance back at you. If it's within
45 seconds, proceed as follows.
Smile at her and give her a little nod. Think of it as making a reservation for a
table at an exclusive restaurant.

12. When you've signaled a woman's attention, you've made your reservation to talk
with her. Abolish all thoughts of "What will she think of me if I'm too forward or
move too fast?"
She won't think anything of you—good or bad—if you don't meet her. If you
don't move fast, every woman will be the one that got away.
3.) THE GAME: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists​ by Neil
Strauss
The corollary of the Rules for women might be the Game for men.
Rather than a standard how­to­guide, the Game is probably the most
entertaining book on this list.
Neil Strauss is an engaging storyteller, and in the Game he shares his journey
from being an “average frustrated chump” (a nice guy who doesn’t understand
what attracts women) to becoming a natural ladies man.

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In essence, Neil infiltrates a secret society of international pick­up artists (for a
writing assignment), which sounds either fictional and/or ridiculous.
But in a Joseph Campbell­esque way, he goes on a Hero’s Journey and grows as
a person by the end.
Along the way, he shares with readers the tips and techniques that improved his
social life.
It’s worth noting that some view the Game as misogynistic. I will stay out of
that discussion, and will leave that up to you, gentle reader, to decide for
yourself.
Here’s a short excerpt from the Game:
“A group of women walked by and I tried to say something. But the word "hi"
just barely squeaked out of my throat, not even loud enough for them to hear. As
they continued past, I followed and grabbed one of the girls on the shoulder
from behind. She turned around, startled, and gave me the withering
whata­creep look that was the whole reason I was too scared to talk to women
in the first place.
"Never," Sin admonished me in his adenoidal voice, "approach a woman from
behind. Always come in from the front, but at a slight angle so it's not too direct
and confrontational. You should speak to her over your shoulder, so it looks
like you might walk away at any minute. Ever see Robert Redford in The Horse
Whisperer? It's kind of like that."
And here are some insights and epiphanies that Neil learned from his
experience:
“But who are we, really? Just a bundle of good genes and bad genes mixed with
good habits and bad habits. And since there's no gene for coolness or

14. confidence, then being uncool and unconfident are just bad habits, which can be
changed with enough guidance and will power.” ~ Neil Strauss
2.) THE ART OF SEDUCTION ​by Robert Greene

15. In the Art of Seduction, Robert Greene combed the history and literature books
to share the essence of seduction, which he describes as the most intoxicating
form of power and persuasion.
Or in Robert Greene’s own words ­ “The Art of Seduction is designed to arm
you with weapons of persuasion and charm, so that those around you will
slowly lose their ability to resist without knowing how or why it has happened.
It is an art of war for delicate times.”
So, Greene shares stories and quotes from the most successful seducers in
history as he describes nine different types/personas of seducers.
The seducer's many faces include: the Siren, the Rake, the Ideal Lover, the
Dandy, the Natural, the Coquette, the Charmer, and the Charismatic.
The second half of the book is dedicated to the "Seductive Process, "which
include tips and techniques on how to enchant and get past the walls of your
‘target’.
Some of the techniques include: Appear to Be an Object of Desire, Keep Them
in Suspense, Prove Yourself, and Master the Art of the Bold Move.
Here is a short excerpt from the "Art of Seduction":
“Today we have reached the ultimate point in the evolution of seduction. Now
more than ever, force or brutality of any kind is discouraged. All areas of social
life require the ability to persuade people in a way that does not offend or
impose itself.
Forms of seduction can be found everywhere, blending male and female
strategies. Advertisements insinuate, the soft sell dominates. If we are to change
people's opinions—and affecting opinion is basic to seduction—we must act in
subtle, subliminal ways.

16. Today no political campaign can work without seduction. Since the era of John
F. Kennedy, political figures are required to have a degree of charisma, a
fascinating presence to keep their audience's attention, which is half the battle.
The film world and media create a galaxy of seductive stars and images. We are
saturated in the seductive.
But even if much has changed in degree and scope, the essence of seduction is
constant: never be forceful or direct; instead, use pleasure as bait, playing on
people's emotions, stirring desire and confusion, inducing psychological
surrender. In seduction as it is practiced today, the methods of Cleopatra still
hold.”

17. 1.) HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE​ by Dale
Carnegie

18. How to Win Friends and Influence People was first published in 1937 and is
one of the all­time international best­sellers with over 50 million copies sold.
So as far as social proof goes, this book is pretty amazing.
People have been reading this classic for insights into advertising, networking,
and interpersonal relationships.
That’s why this is one of the best books on improving your online dating profile
and having more dating success.
Like “How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You”, Dale Carnegie uses
personal stories and anecdotes to convey powerful techniques that still ring true
today.
You’ll definitely be able to implement a lot of the lessons into your dating life
and guide you on how to talk to women.
In a nutshell, here are six ways on how to get women interested in you...
Principle 1: Become genuinely interested her. As Leil Lowndes would say ­
shine the spotlight on her and encourage her to talk about herself..
Principle 2: Smile. No one likes a debbie downer, and despite what cologne ads
might make you think, smiling makes you more attractive and approachable.
Principle 3: Her own name is to her the most important sound in any language.
If you’re emailing, using it in the subject line and definitely include it in the first
sentence (“Hey Kate”, rather than just a generic “Hello there”).
Principle 4: Be a good listener. See also Principle 1.
Principle 5: Since you encouraged her to talk about herself, and actually
listened, now talk and communicate in terms of her personal interests.

19. Principle 6: Make the other person feel important ­ and do it sincerely. See
Principles 1­5.
Here is an excerpt from How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale
Carnegie.
The Big Secret of dealing with people:
“There is only one way under high heaven to get anybody to do anything. Did
you ever stop to think of that? Yes, just one way. And that is by making the other
person want to do it.
Remember, there is no other way.
Of course, you can make someone want to give you his watch by sticking a
revolver in his ribs. You can make your employees give you cooperation ­ until
your back is turned ­ by threatening to fire them.
You can make a child do what you want it to by a whip or a threat. But these
crude methods have sharply undesirable repercussions.
The only way I can get you to do anything is by giving you what you want….
What do you want? Not many things, but the few things that you do wish, you
crave with an insistence that will not be denied. Some of the things most people
want include:
● Health and the preservation of life
● Food
● Sleep
● Money and the things money will buy
● Sexual gratification
● The well­being of our children
● A feeling of importance
So, in essence, if you can be the type of guy who can offer what we’re naturally
looking for, you’ll become invaluable and your dating success will skyrocket.

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