The document discusses the "meta model," which involves asking specific questions to gain more detailed information rather than relying on vague terms. It provides examples of using the meta model to clarify directions or terms like "congruence." The meta model can help with becoming more "congruent" by examining different "parts" of oneself that may have conflicting desires and finding ways to align all parts toward the same goals.

1. Keep The
Good Stuff

2. There's a lot of squishy words that
people throw around, and many of
them are kind of hard to pin down.

3. One thing you learn in NLP is
something called the "meta model."

4. Basically, it's asking questions to get
more specific information.

5. Like if I said I had a delicious meal, that
may seem pretty specific, but it's really
not.

6. What did I eat? How did I eat? Who
did I eat with? Where did I eat? How
often do I eat whatever it was I ate?

7. Now, if you were at some party and
you started throwing these questions
around, you'd find yourself alone in a
hurry.

8. We humans LIKE using vague words,
for many, many reasons.

9. Feeling somebody ask you all these
"meta model" questions feels like
somebody's digging through your
brain, which these days is one of the
few places we can be alone.

10. However, the meta model DOES have
its place.

11. Like if somebody is giving us
directions.

12. If they just said, "go up this street turn
left a couple of times," that wouldn't
help us much.

13. We'd need to know exactly WHERE to
turn and what to look for to let us
know it's the turning place.

14. (My buddy in high school wanted to
design a residential neighborhood
where all the streets were named
things like, "The Big Rock," or "The
Ugly Tree," just to make directions
sound pretty funny.)

15. One of the ways the meta model can
help is when we run into some meta-
physical sounding terms.

16. Take "congruence" for example.

17. Most people will agree that it's a good
thing, and that having more is better
than having less.

18. But what specifically is it?

19. And how specifically can you get more
of it?

20. That's the part they usually leave out.

21. It's based on the idea from NLP that
we all have "parts," which of course, is
a metaphor.

22. But we act as if there are separate
parts in our heads.

23. Part of us wants to lose weight, but
part of us wants to eat ice cream.

24. Part of us wants to make money, but
part of us is terrified of rejection.

25. Part of us would love a relationship,
but part of us is terrified expressing
our sexual desires, even subtly.

26. The process of becoming more
congruent is when you take out all
your "parts" and take a look at them.

27. That way, you can figure out what's
holding you back.

28. For example, if you'd like to lose
weight, but don't want to give up
eating ice cream, you can figure out
what you like so much about eating ice
cream.

29. Then it's matter of finding something
else, that satisfies those deeper
desires, that's more congruent with
losing weight.

30. So instead of having two parts going in
different directions, you'll have ALL
your parts going the same direction.
Making it much easier to create what
you want.

31. udemy.com/goalsetting/