Do you know who you really are? Are you really John or is your name John?
Your name is considered to be your identity! But didn’t your friends in school call you Johnny or Jo? Your parents have their own ways of expressing their love and so will your wife. You can also change your name to Jack by legal process if you like. Does changing your name change you as well? Do you lose your existence by changing your name? No!
Read here for more understanding: https://www.dadabhagwan.org/self-realization/