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  1. 1. Table Etiquette: The Basics Compiled by: Maria Carmela L. Domocmat 1/29/2012
  2. 2. What is etiquette? the conduct or procedure required by good breeding or prescribed by authority to be observed in social or official life 1/29/2012
  3. 3. Table manners Table manners play an important part in making a good impression. 1/29/2012
  4. 4. Knowing table etiquette will put you at ease.
  5. 5. Sitting down At a very formal dinner name cards will show you where you should sit. If there are no name cards on the tables, the host will take you to the correct place. 1/29/2012
  6. 6. Sitting down If you are at a romantic dinner, the man should push the woman’s chair in for her. Sometimes the waiter will do this. 1/29/2012
  7. 7. Let’s Practice! Sit down please! 1/29/2012
  8. 8. THE MENU 1/29/2012
  9. 9. The Menu Read the menu to decide what you want to eat. 1/29/2012
  10. 10. The Menu 1/29/2012
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  13. 13. ORDERING 1/29/2012
  14. 14. Ordering Signal the server that you are ready to order by closing your menu and place it on the table in front of you. 1/29/2012
  15. 15. Ordering If there is something you don’t understand on the menu, ask your server any questions you may have. Answering your questions is part of the server’s job. 1/29/2012
  16. 16. Ordering An employer will generally let you order first; his or her order will be taken last. Sometimes, however, the server will decide who orders first. Often, women’s orders are taken before men’s. 1/29/2012
  17. 17. Ordering As a guest you should not order one of the most expensive items on the menu or more than two courses unless your host shows that it is all right. 1/29/2012
  18. 18. Napkin Etiquette Place the napkin on your lap. – If it is small – unfold it completely. – If it is big – fold it in half, lengthwise. 1/29/2012
  19. 19. Napkin Etiquette 1/29/2012
  20. 20. Napkin Etiquette You should only dab your lips and should not make the napkin dirty. 1/29/2012
  21. 21. Napkin Etiquette Dont clean the cutlery or wipe your face with the napkin. NEVER tuck it into your shirt like a bib, no matter how much you want to protect it from spills. Napkins do not belong tucked into your pants or skirt either. They dont need to be secured like that. Do not use it to wipe off lipstick or to blow your nose! 1/29/2012
  22. 22. Napkin Etiquette 1/29/2012
  23. 23. Napkin Etiquette The napkin stays on your lap the whole time. If you need to leave the table during the meal, place your napkin on your chair as a signal to your server that you will come back. 1/29/2012
  24. 24. Napkin Etiquette 1/29/2012
  25. 25. Napkin Etiquette Once the meal is over, you too should place your napkin loosely on the table to the right of your dinner plate. 1/29/2012
  26. 26. Napkin Etiquette It should not be crumpled or twisted, which reveal untidiness or nervousness. Nor should it be folded, which might show that you think your host might reuse it without washing. At informal occasion is used to clean up mess that occurred during meal 1/29/2012
  27. 27. Napkin Etiquette 1/29/2012
  28. 28. Let’s Practice! Take the napkin and put it on your lap. 1/29/2012
  29. 29. THE TABLE SETTING 1/29/2012
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  31. 31. Table setting: Informal Place 1/29/2012
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  33. 33. The Formal Dinner Table Setting
  34. 34. Where do I start?
  35. 35. The Cutlery or SilverwareDinner Fork Soup SpoonSalad Fork Dessert SpoonDinner Knife Butter Knife 1/29/2012
  36. 36. The Glasses White Wine Glass Red Wine Glass Champagne Glass 1/29/2012
  37. 37. M. Dessert SpoonK. Bread Plate N. Dessert ForkL. Butter Knife O. Water Goblet P. Red Wine Glass E. Soup Bowl A. Napkin Q. White Wine Glass F. Soup Plate B. Appetizer/Salad Fork H. Dinner Knife G. Dinner Plate C. Dinner Fork I. Fish Knife D. Dessert Fork J. Soup Spoon 1/29/2012
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  42. 42. Your bread plate and butter knife are locatedon your left, and your glasses are on yourright. A clue to remember what is yours:– Liquids on the right, solids on the left.Another clue to determine what belongs toyou is the BMW—not the car—it is a clue tolocate your bread (left), main course (center),and water (right). 1/29/2012
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  44. 44. Business Function Table Setting –Four-Course MealFour-Course, Semi- Formal Table Setting 1/29/2012
  45. 45. Formal Business Function TableSetting – Five-Course Meal Five-Course, Formal Place Setting 1/29/2012
  46. 46. The placement and choice This place setting for aof utensils let you know what formal business mealwill be served during the indicates what will be servedmeal and the order in which and in which order:the food will be consumed. The seafood cocktail will be served first, soup second, fish third, main course fourth, and the salad will be served last. 1/29/2012
  47. 47. Four-Course, Semi-Formal Five-Course, Formal PlaceTable Setting Setting 1/29/2012
  48. 48. Stemware The stemware is used along with the courses that will be served at a business meal. 1/29/2012
  49. 49. Stemware The water goblet is smaller than the wine glasses. The wine glasses start with the small sherry glass for the soup course. The white wine glass goes with the fish dish, the red wine glass goes with the entrée. The champagne flute for champagne, will be served at the beginning of the dessert course. Each will be filled appropriately with each course and then removed when the course is finished. 1/29/2012
  50. 50. Stemware 1/29/2012
  51. 51. WHEN TO START EATING 1/29/2012
  52. 52. When To Start Eating Wait for the host to take the first bite before beginning to eat. Never start eating before a signal from the host. At a business meal where there is not a host, wait until each person is served before you start eating. If some guests have their food and they are waiting for yours to arrive, be courteous; acknowledge the gesture and tell them to please start so their food does not get cold. This would be appreciated and would show your good manners and consideration. 1/29/2012
  53. 53. Serving Food 1/29/2012
  54. 54. Talking To The Servers The manner in which you treat your serving staff will be noticed by others. Your people skills will be reflected at the dinner table and will make an impression on your dining partners. Use the word "please" when making a request or asking a question. Make your questions and requests clear and brief. 1/29/2012
  55. 55. Talking To The Servers Avoid barking orders at your waiter or waitress. The establishment’s staff should always be treated cordially in the name of good manners, regardless of the situation. 1/29/2012
  56. 56. Talking To The Servers It is polite to say "thank you" to the servers only when they bring something special that you requested and after they have removed any used items. A simple smile and eye contact—not required, but appropriate—is sufficient to acknowledge their service. You don’t want to disrupt the flow of the meal and conversation every time something is brought to the table. 1/29/2012
  57. 57. Passing Food Food is passed from left to right. It is helpful to remember that everything of importance is to the right. – For example, the guest of honor sits to the right of the host and food is passed on the right. 1/29/2012
  58. 58. Using the cutlery During the first course of the meal, use the utensils on the outside. For example, the salad arrived, use the fork on the far left. Entrée arrives, the next fork. 1/29/2012
  59. 59. The correct ways to hold cutlery 1/29/2012
  60. 60. The correct ways to hold cutlery 1/29/2012
  61. 61. Eating Soup Dip the spoon in the soup away from your body. Sip the liquid from the side of the spoon. Don’t put the whole spoon in your mouth. 1/29/2012
  62. 62. Eating Soup 1/29/2012
  63. 63. Eating Soup 1/29/2012
  64. 64. Soup spoon at rest Soup spoon finished 1/29/2012
  65. 65. Eating Salad 1/29/2012
  66. 66. Using the cutlery or silverware In most restaurants you will only find one knife and one fork on the table. If there are more than one, you should use the one on the “outside” first. 1/29/2012
  67. 67. Cutting Meat The correct way to cut your meat, whether eating American or Continental style, is to grasp your knife and fork in a relaxed, natural manner, never with clenched fists. 1/29/2012
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  70. 70. No-no 1/29/2012
  71. 71. Cutting And Eating Food It is proper etiquette (Cutting food into to cut only enough small pieces is done food for the next for small children mouthful - one or until they learn to two pieces use the utensils to maximum cut their own food). Always chew with your mouth closed. 1/29/2012
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  73. 73. Using the knives, forks and spoons There are two ways to use a knife and a fork: – The American Style – The European Style 1/29/2012
  74. 74. The American Style When you need to cut something, you should hold the fork in your left hand and the knife in your right hand. After cutting off a small piece, you put your knife and fork down, pick the fork up with your right hand and eat it. 1/29/2012
  75. 75. The American Style 1/29/2012
  76. 76. The American Style 1/29/2012
  77. 77. The European or Continental Style When you need to cut something, you should hold the fork in your left hand and the knife in your right hand. After cutting off a small piece, you put the food directly into your mouth with your left hand. 1/29/2012
  78. 78. The European or Continental Style 1/29/2012
  79. 79. The European or Continental Style 1/29/2012
  80. 80. Using the knives, forks and spoons When you hold the knife or fork, you should relax your fingers. Never let the knife, fork or spoon touch the table after you started eating. 1/29/2012
  81. 81. Using the knives, forks and spoons When you take a break from eating, you simply put your knife and fork on the plate. When you have finished eating, you should put your knife and fork together pointing to the left. 1/29/2012
  82. 82. Placing Utensils After Start Eating 1/29/2012
  83. 83. Let’s practice! Look carefully how to hold a knife and a fork Practice the American and European styles 1/29/2012
  84. 84. Eating String pasta 1/29/2012
  85. 85. Eating pizza with utensil 1/29/2012
  86. 86. Passing the Bread 1/29/2012
  87. 87. Eating Bread Take some butter and put it on the plate. Break a piece of bread off with your hand. Put some butter on the small piece. Don’t spread the butter over the whole piece of bread. 1/29/2012
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  89. 89. Eating Dessert When the main course is finished, bring the utensils that are placed on top of the dinner plate to the sides of the plate: the fork to the left and the spoon to the right. 1/29/2012
  90. 90. Eating Dessert Dessert that includes solids and creamy or liquid food may be eaten with the fork in the left hand, prongs down, and the spoon in the right. Eat with the spoon. The fork can serve as a pusher. 1/29/2012
  91. 91. Eating Dessert If the dessert is cake or pie, you may use only the fork. For ice cream or pudding, use only the spoon. Leave the other utensil in place on the table. 1/29/2012
  92. 92. OTHER IMPORTANT TIPS 1/29/2012
  93. 93. Posture Sit up straight with your arms near your body. Don’t put your elbows on the table. 1/29/2012
  94. 94. Seasoning Food Taste your food before seasoning it. – The kitchen staff has prepared the food with care and it is an insult to the chef to add salt, pepper, ketchup or any seasoning before tasting it. If dinner is pre-set, do try a little of everything on your plate. Never criticize or state a dislike for a food that is served to you.This is insulting to your host. Simply eat foods you do like, and make an attempt to taste a little of unfamiliar foods. 1/29/2012
  95. 95. Seasoning Food If you are asked if you like something, and you don’t, say something gracious like, "Its different," or "Im not accustomed to this flavor." 1/29/2012
  96. 96. “Please pass the salt” If somebody asks you to pass the salt, you should pick up both the salt and the pepper. Put them on the table near the person next to you. 1/29/2012
  97. 97. Salt And Pepper If asked for the salt or pepper, pass both together, even if a person asks for only one of them. Pick them both up and place them on the table within reach of the person next to you. They are never passed hand to hand. This avoids the search for one of the shakers around the table. 1/29/2012
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  99. 99. Do not use the salt before youpass it on. Never intercept a No one else other pass. Snagging a than the original roll out of the requester should breadbasket or sprinkle their food taking a shake of when they have the salt when it is shakers in their enroute to someone possession. else is a no-no. 1/29/2012
  100. 100. Talking And Utensils It is inappropriate manners to keep your utensils in your hand(s), talk and move them as you speak. If someone asks you a question while you are still eating, after you swallow your food, place your utensils on the plate in the resting position, then start to talk, not before. 1/29/2012
  101. 101. Talking And Utensils 1/29/2012
  102. 102. Taking something out of your mouth Cover your mouth with a napkin and get it out— discreetly! Food should go out the same way it went in. Your may take fish bones out with your hand. 1/29/2012
  103. 103. Cutlery or napkin on thefloorIf your utensils ornapkin fall, DONOT crawl aroundon the floor toretrieve—flagdown a waiterand ask foranother. 104
  104. 104. Applying Makeup At The Table
  105. 105. Mirror, mirror on the wall… Don’t primp at a restaurant table or in public. Use the restroom to groom! 106
  106. 106. Cell Phones Turn off your cell phone or switch it to silent or vibrate mode before sitting down eat, and leave it in your pocket or purse. It is impolite to answer a phone during dinner. If you must make or take a call, excuse yourself from the table and step outside of the restaurant.
  107. 107. Text Messaging Text messaging during a business meal is inappropriate. Regardless of how many people, executives, congressman, politicians do text messaging at formal occasions, it is disrespectful to send a text message during a business meeting.
  108. 108. Allergies and colds happen,but… DO NOT blow your nose at a table. It’s alright to pat your nose with a tissue. Otherwise, excuse yourself and find a place away from others. 109
  109. 109. Never, Never, Never… Burp Snort In general:DO NOT make ANY bodily noises that are rude and disgusting! 110
  111. 111. When you have finished When you leave the table at the end of the meal, place your napkin loosely next to your plate. Place all of your utensils on the plate with the tip of the fork and knife across the plate, pointing at 11 o’clock. 1/29/2012
  112. 112. When you have finished 1/29/2012
  113. 113. When you have finished 1/29/2012
  114. 114. Dining Etiquette: Philippines If you are invited to a Filipinos house: – It is best to arrive 15 to 30 minutes later than invited for a large party. – Never refer to your hosts wife as the hostess. This has a different meaning in the Philippines. – Dress well. Appearances matter and you will be judged on how you dress. – Compliment the hostess on the house. 1/29/2012
  115. 115. Table manners: Philippines Wait to be asked several times before moving into the dining room or helping yourself to food. Wait to be told where to sit. There may be a seating plan. Do not start eating until the host invites you to do so. 1/29/2012
  116. 116. Meals are often served family- style or are buffets where you serve yourself. Hold the fork in the left hand and use it to guide food to the spoon in your right hand. Whether you should leave some food on your plate or finish everything is a matter of personal preference rather than culture- driven. 1/29/2012
  117. 117. Table Manners in America Arrive on time or Courteous to hold the early, especially if door open for male you are the host and female Pay for the meal in Business is advance discussed during the meal
  118. 118. Table Manners in America• Wait to sit until host/hostess indicated the seating arrangement• Put napkin in lap before drinking or eating• Order easy to eat food• Don’t order the most expensive items on the menu
  119. 119. Table Manners in America• Wait until everyone has been served before you begin to eat• Bring food to your mouth – NOT your head to your plate – Salt/Pepper pass together – Generally pass food to the right – Rest utensils on plate while talking – Do not talk with your mouth full – Do not chew with your mouth open
  120. 120. Other Table MannersTable manners please!!– (No gum, no elbows on the table) Be responsible for keeping up and positivelycontributing to the conversationSmall Talk is appropriate – topics such as :– Books, sports, food, theater, travel, current events etc.– Follow employer’s lead
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  122. 122. Table Manner DOS Sit properly (and straight) in your chair Talk about pleasant things Wait until everyone is seated before starting to eat Watch others, or ask, if youre not sure how to eat something Place your napkin on your lap 1/29/2012
  123. 123. Table Manner DOS Use cutlery to eat your meals. Use a knife and fork to cut your meat Never scoop food up with your fork the tines should always point downwards. Chew with your mouth closed Dont talk with your mouth full 1/29/2012
  124. 124. Table Manner DOS Finish one mouthful before starting the next. Never put your knife in your mouth, or lick your plate. Ask someone to pass the food, rather than reach across the table 1/29/2012
  125. 125. Table Manner DOS Finish your mouthful before taking a drink. Never spit food out. Say “Excuse me" or "Im sorry" if you burp. 1/29/2012
  126. 126. Table Manner DOS Say "no thank you" if you dont want a certain dish or are full Say “May I please be excused" before leaving the table Ask “May I get down please” if you’d like to leave the table early. 1/29/2012
  127. 127. Table Manner DONTS Dont talk about gross things Dont ask for seconds before others have had firsts Dont take more than your fair share Dont overload your fork or plate Dont gobble your food Dont chew with your mouth opengobble : a noise made in the throat. 1/29/2012
  128. 128. Table Manner DONTS Dont talk with your mouth full Dont play at the table Dont hum or sing at the table Dont tip your chair or lean on the table Dont eat with or lick your fingers Dont push your plate away when youre finished 1/29/2012
  129. 129. Table Manner DONTS No swearing No loud or obnoxious behavior No crude comments or topics Subjects to avoid: health, gossip, love life, politics, religion, race and inappropriate stories or jokes
  130. 130. Finally… Take time to say “please” and “thank you” more often. Don’t forget to say “Hello” rather than “Hi”. Say “you’re welcome” rather than “no problem.”
  131. 131. Sources table-manners.htm 20Presentation.ppt 40/Powerpoint_-_Business_Interviewing_Skills,_social_graces.ppt TQoKCqkAAHlSdEY1/Professional%20Etiquette.ppt?nmid=17207607 1/29/2012
  132. 132. Sources www.bartleby,com/95/ www.udefineucom www.lettgroup.com133
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