Great marriages aren’t born, they’re made. We have to work out and improve on the qualities of our marriages

1. NEEDED QUALITIES IN YOUR
MARRIAGE
Great marriages aren’t born, they’re
made. We have to work out and
improve on the qualities of our
marriages
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2.  Marriage wasn't meant to be so
complicated or difficult that only a few
could do it successfully. It's within the
reach of nearly everyone.
 We can improve our marriage lives if we
learn some key marriage qualities
needed.
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3.  Good marriages make most people
happiest and their lives most meaningful,
productive, and satisfying, because it's a
basic part of God's plan for mankind.
 If you have frustrations in your marriage,
all other important things that you need
to do will be frustrated too.
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4. NEEDED QUALITIES IN YOUR MARRIAGE
 1. Put God first.
 God is the originator of marriage. Let
God take the preeminence in your
marriage. Before you take any decision,
seek for His guidance.
 Matthew 6:33; Seek the Kingdom of God
above all else, and live righteously, and
He will give you everything you
need.(NLT)
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5.  2. Be Unselfish.
 Selfishness is at the root of most
marriage problems. For a marriage to
work, both partners need to put the
happiness of the other before their own.
That's real love—the kind that lasts.
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6.  3. Be willing to recognize and work on
problems.
 Don’t not procrastinate handling
problems in your marriages. Most of the
problems that sink marriages start small
but grow out of hand because the couple
fails to deal with the problems soon
enough.
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7.  Often they tell themselves that the
problem will go away if they ignore it or
when circumstances change, but that
passive approach seldom works.
 Those with the strongest marriages are
those who learn to face their problems
head-on and take active steps to
overcome them together.
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8.  4. Be good and effective communicators.
 In order to understand and meet each
other's needs, as well as to unite to
overcome problems, good and effective
communication is a must.
 Most marriages end up in failing mainly
because there was poor and ineffective
communication. Communication is key to
the success or failure of marriage.
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9.  5. Be a forgiver.
 Without forgiveness there is no
marriage that can work. We fail,
disappoint, frustrate, talk ill, quarrel, etc
everyday in our marriages. A readiness
to forgive is a key to a solid, secure
marriage. Be quick to apologize for any
hurtful words or actions you may have
directed at your wife or husband.
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10.  6. Be supportive.
 The reason why people marry is to be
there for each other. When one is in
trouble, he/she can get a shoulder to rest
on. In marriage there is no competition.
We are to be supportive in all areas of
our marriage. To make your marriage all
it can be, dwell on each other's good
qualities and always look for ways to
bring out the best in each other.
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11.  7. Work as a Team.
 Marriage works very well when both parties
are working as a team, complementing each
other. Discuss and agree on goals and
priorities, and learn to tackle problems
together.
 Ecclesiastes 4:9-10; Two people are better off
than one, for they can help each other
succeed. If one person falls, the other can
reach out and help. But someone who falls
alone is in real trouble.(NLT)
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12.  8. Be considerate.
 We come into marriages with our
strengths and weaknesses. It is
important to be considerate of each
other's feelings, likes and dislikes, time,
and energy. This relieves stress,
prevents friction, and keeps lots of little
problems from ever happening.
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13.  9. Have all the affection you can offer.
 Do all that it can take to bring affection in
your marriage. You'd be surprised at how
many marriages fall short because of a lack
of outward affection. Vocal expressions of
your love for one another are also important,
but sometimes touching, kissing, and
hugging can convey love and reassurance
even better. They are physical manifestations
of inward feelings.
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14.  10. Be equal.
 We are equal but we have different roles we
play. Equality means involving each other in
decisions, parenting your children together,
and sharing financial and household
responsibilities. It also includes valuing and
respecting each other so each one's
strengths can come to the fore.
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15.  11. Be admirable.
 Present yourself well. Allow your spouse
to admire you. Few things boost self-
esteem or make people want to succeed in
the truly important things of life more than
hearing that their good qualities are
noticed and admired. Sharpen your
appreciation of the wonderful person you
married, and watch him or her become
even more wonderful.
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16.  12. Reach out to others.
 In order for your marriage to thrive, you
both need other friends. Others can help
you grow in ways that your husband or
wife can't, so your marriage will actually
be strengthened as you each spend time
and do things with others.
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17.  13.Have a sense of humor.
 Proverbs 17:22; A cheerful heart is good
medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person's
strength.(NLT)
 Lighten up a little and you'll find that most of
the everyday inconveniences, annoyances,
and problems you face aren't so bad after all.
 Bring as much humor as you can to your
home.
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18.  14. Be optimistic.
 Don’t spend all the energy and time on
the wrong aspects or failures in your
marriage or with your spouse. Be
optimistic. Optimism is the tendency to
believe and expect the best.
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19.  15. Include GOD in your marriage .
 Let God be Lord in your marriage. Seek
Him for direction in your marriage
everyday. Pray each other every day.
Read the Word of God together. God
wants to see us succeed in marriage and
as individuals.
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20.  What a priviledge to have someone to be
your spouse. Don’t take it lightly. It is the
best gift God has given to us. We need to
handle this gift very well.
 I have spend some 38 years with my
spouse and it is the best gift God gave me
.
 You can improve on your marriage by
acquiring these qualities. Don’t listen to
the voice that is saying that marriage can’t
work nowadays.
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