Get Rid of Emotional Clutter: Part 1--Let Go of the Negative Emotions That Block Your Success & Happiness

Get Rid of Emotional Clutter: PART 1: Let Go of the Negative Emotions That Block Your Success & Happiness

What is Emotional Clutter?

Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer apply

Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer apply
Anything that clutters up your life

What Does Emotional Clutter Do?
Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have

Prevents you from moving forward

Prevents you from moving forward
Keeps you STUCK

Why is it important to do something about it?

If YOU…
Feel STUCK

If YOU…
Feel STUCK
Want to be more successful

If YOU…
Feel STUCK
Want to be happier

If YOU…
Feel STUCK
Want to be happier
Want more satisfying relationships

If YOU…
Feel STUCK
Want to be happier
Want to be able to live your Life’s Purpose

If YOU…
Feel STUCK
Want to be happier
Want to be able to live your Life’s Purpose
You need to get rid of your Emotional Clutter!!

How Emotional Clutter Is Born

Emotional Clutter is the result of…

1. Negative emotions from past experiences

AND
2. Beliefs that are really no longer true.

AND
2. Beliefs that are really no longer true
AND
3. Failure to enforce boundaries.

Negative Emotions
What are they?

Sadness

Anxiety

Our emotions have messages to send us…

What are those messages?

Messages from Emotions

Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to

Tell you to take action

Tell you to take action
Once you take action, emotion flows through you and is gone

Let’s look at some examples…

Anger What is the message?

A boundary has been violated

OR
Someone is being phony with you

Anger What is the action?

Anger What is the action?
Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the anger will flow through you and disappear.

Hurt What is the message?

You are not being treated respectfully

Hurt What is the action?

Hurt What is the action?
Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the hurt will flow through you and disappear.

Sadness

Sadness What is the message?

Sadness What is the message?
There is a loss to be dealt with

Sadness What is the action?

Sadness What is the action?
Deal with the loss—grieve it, resolve it by honoring the loss, figure out the positive learning from it--and the emotion flows on through you

Fear What is the message?

Fear What is the message?
There is danger that needs to be addressed

Fear What is the action?

Fear What is the action?
Determine if there is danger and take action to deal with it

Fight or Flight
When we feel fear, our bodies are hard-wired to respond with
FIGHT
or
FLIGHT

Fight or Flight
Our body gets us ready to either
Stand and fight
OR
Run away and flee
(All animals have this instinct)

When we stockpile Fear, it can create a 3 rd response to Danger: FREEZE

Freezing when there is danger is not a very helpful response!

When you determine if there is danger--and take action— the fear flows through you and disappears.

Guilt What is the message?

You have violated someone else’s boundaries

You have violated someone else’s boundaries
OR you have violated your own boundaries

Guilt What action do you need to take?

Stop violating their boundaries and make amends

OR if it is your own boundaries you are violating, change your behavior so that it is in tune with your values

Anxiety

Anxiety What is the message?

Anxiety What is the message?
You are paying attention to something you DON’T want to have happen

Anxiety What action do you need to take?

Change your focus!

Stop paying attention to what you DON’T WANT--and start paying attention to what you DO WANT.

How do negative emotions get stockpiled?
1. We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience we have.

How do negative emotions get stockpiled?
1. We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience we have.
2. We think we need to hang onto the negative emotion in order to remember some important lesson.

You don’t need to hang on to the negative emotion!

The learning is completely separate from the emotion.

The only thing hanging on to the emotion does for you is…

… to remind you to feel terrible.

Let go of it!

You don’t need to feel bad.

Figure out the message from the emotion…

Then, figure out what you need to do about it…

Take appropriate action…

And move on!

Let go of the “emotional clutter” of negative emotions…

For more information about how to clear out YOUR emotional clutter…

Go to http://www.EmotionalClutter.com

This slideshow was brought to you by Linda Pucci, Ph.D. Psychologist & Life Coach Inner Resource Center, LLC www.InnerResourceCenter.com

Watch for Get Rid of Emotional Clutter Part 2 Let go of limiting beliefs that block your success & happiness

Get Rid of Emotional Clutter: Part 1--Let Go of the Negative Emotions That Block Your Success & Happiness

by Linda Pucci on Aug 13, 2009

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