Get Rid of Emotional Clutter: PART 1: Let Go of the Negative Emotions That Block Your Success & Happiness

What is Emotional Clutter?

What is Emotional Clutter? Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer apply

Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer apply

What is Emotional Clutter? Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer apply Anything that clutters up your life

Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer apply

Anything that clutters up your life

What Does Emotional Clutter Do? Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have

Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have

What Does Emotional Clutter Do? Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have Prevents you from moving forward

Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have

Prevents you from moving forward

What Does Emotional Clutter Do? Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have Prevents you from moving forward Keeps you STUCK

Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have

Prevents you from moving forward

Keeps you STUCK

Why is it important to do something about it?

If YOU… Feel STUCK

Feel STUCK

If YOU… Feel STUCK Want to be more successful

Feel STUCK

Want to be more successful

If YOU… Feel STUCK Want to be more successful Want to be happier

Feel STUCK

Want to be more successful

Want to be happier

If YOU… Feel STUCK Want to be more successful Want to be happier Want more satisfying relationships

Feel STUCK

Want to be more successful

Want to be happier

Want more satisfying relationships

If YOU… Feel STUCK Want to be more successful Want to be happier Want more satisfying relationships Want to be able to live your Life’s Purpose

Feel STUCK

Want to be more successful

Want to be happier

Want more satisfying relationships

Want to be able to live your Life’s Purpose

If YOU… Feel STUCK Want to be more successful Want to be happier Want more satisfying relationships Want to be able to live your Life’s Purpose You need to get rid of your Emotional Clutter!!

Feel STUCK

Want to be more successful

Want to be happier

Want more satisfying relationships

Want to be able to live your Life’s Purpose

You need to get rid of your Emotional Clutter!!

How Emotional Clutter Is Born

Emotional Clutter is the result of…

Emotional Clutter is the result of… 1. Negative emotions from past experiences

1. Negative emotions from past experiences

Emotional Clutter is the result of… 1. Negative emotions from past experiences AND 2. Beliefs that are really no longer true.

1. Negative emotions from past experiences

AND

2. Beliefs that are really no longer true.

Emotional Clutter is the result of… 1. Negative emotions from past experiences AND 2. Beliefs that are really no longer true AND 3. Failure to enforce boundaries.

1. Negative emotions from past experiences

AND

2. Beliefs that are really no longer true

AND

3. Failure to enforce boundaries.

Negative Emotions What are they?

What are they?

Anger

Hurt

Sadness

Fear

Guilt

Anxiety

Our emotions have messages to send us…

What are those messages?

Messages from Emotions

Messages from Emotions Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to

Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to

Messages from Emotions Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to Tell you to take action

Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to

Tell you to take action

Messages from Emotions Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to Tell you to take action Once you take action, emotion flows through you and is gone

Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to

Tell you to take action

Once you take action, emotion flows through you and is gone

Let’s look at some examples…

Anger

Anger What is the message?

Anger What is the message? A boundary has been violated

A boundary has been violated

Anger What is the message? A boundary has been violated OR Someone is being phony with you

A boundary has been violated

OR

Someone is being phony with you

Anger What is the action?

Anger What is the action? Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the anger will flow through you and disappear.

Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the anger will flow through you and disappear.

Hurt

Hurt What is the message?

Hurt What is the message? A boundary has been violated

A boundary has been violated

Hurt What is the message? A boundary has been violated You are not being treated respectfully

A boundary has been violated

You are not being treated respectfully

Hurt What is the action?

Hurt What is the action? Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the hurt will flow through you and disappear.

Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the hurt will flow through you and disappear.

Sadness

Sadness What is the message?

Sadness What is the message? There is a loss to be dealt with

There is a loss to be dealt with

Sadness What is the action?

Sadness What is the action? Deal with the loss—grieve it, resolve it by honoring the loss, figure out the positive learning from it--and the emotion flows on through you

Deal with the loss—grieve it, resolve it by honoring the loss, figure out the positive learning from it--and the emotion flows on through you

Fear

Fear What is the message?

Fear What is the message? There is danger that needs to be addressed

There is danger that needs to be addressed

Fear What is the action?

Fear What is the action? Determine if there is danger and take action to deal with it

Determine if there is danger and take action to deal with it

Fight or Flight When we feel fear, our bodies are hard-wired to respond with FIGHT or FLIGHT

When we feel fear, our bodies are hard-wired to respond with

FIGHT

or

FLIGHT

Fight or Flight Our body gets us ready to either Stand and fight OR Run away and flee (All animals have this instinct)

Our body gets us ready to either

Stand and fight

OR

Run away and flee

(All animals have this instinct)

When we stockpile Fear, it can create a 3 rd response to Danger: FREEZE

Freezing when there is danger is not a very helpful response!

When you determine if there is danger--and take action— the fear flows through you and disappears.

Guilt

Guilt What is the message?

Guilt What is the message?

Guilt What is the message? You have violated someone else’s boundaries

You have violated someone else’s boundaries

Guilt What is the message? You have violated someone else’s boundaries OR you have violated your own boundaries

You have violated someone else’s boundaries

OR you have violated your own boundaries

Guilt What action do you need to take?

Guilt What action do you need to take? Stop violating their boundaries and make amends

Stop violating their boundaries and make amends

Guilt What action do you need to take? OR if it is your own boundaries you are violating, change your behavior so that it is in tune with your values

OR if it is your own boundaries you are violating, change your behavior so that it is in tune with your values

Anxiety

Anxiety What is the message?

Anxiety What is the message? You are paying attention to something you DON’T want to have happen

You are paying attention to something you DON’T want to have happen

Anxiety What action do you need to take?

Anxiety What action do you need to take? Change your focus!

Change your focus!

Anxiety What action do you need to take? Stop paying attention to what you DON’T WANT--and start paying attention to what you DO WANT.

Stop paying attention to what you DON’T WANT--and start paying attention to what you DO WANT.

How do negative emotions get stockpiled? 1. We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience we have.

1. We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience we have.

How do negative emotions get stockpiled? 1. We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience we have. 2. We think we need to hang onto the negative emotion in order to remember some important lesson.

1. We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience we have.

2. We think we need to hang onto the negative emotion in order to remember some important lesson.

You don’t need to hang on to the negative emotion!

The learning is completely separate from the emotion.

The only thing hanging on to the emotion does for you is…

… to remind you to feel terrible.

Let go of it!

You don’t need to feel bad.

Figure out the message from the emotion…

Then, figure out what you need to do about it…

Take appropriate action…

And move on!

Let go of the “emotional clutter” of negative emotions…

For more information about how to clear out YOUR emotional clutter…

Go to http://www.EmotionalClutter.com

This slideshow was brought to you by Linda Pucci, Ph.D. Psychologist & Life Coach Inner Resource Center, LLC www.InnerResourceCenter.com

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