Here's a simple introduction to the mammal brain that controls your happy chemicals: dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphin. You learn how they're wired from past experience, and how you can rewire them by feeding your brain new experiences. You learn why they're not on all the time, so you can build realistic expectations. Our happy chemicals are inherited from earlier animals, and when you know how they work in animals, you can find better ways to stimulate them.
Dopamine makes you feel good when you anticipate a reward. It evolved to promote survival, not to make you happy. But our brain defines survival in quirky ways, so we do quirky things to stimulate it. Fortunately, you can rewire yourself to turn on the good feeling of dopamine in new ways.
Happy brain chemicals: Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin and EndorphinLoretta Breuning, PhD
Here's a simple introduction to the brain chemicals that make us happy. You can rewire yourself to turn them on in new ways. This simple look at our neurochemistry what turns them on in the state of nature, and why they inevitably droop. Ups and downs are natural, but you can build new circuits to enjoy more ups.
You don’t intend to be perfectionist, but you are often waiting for a better time to act. How do animals manage to act despite living amidst danger? How can you learn from them. Your big cortex makes it easy to anticipate what can go wrong, but you can train it to anticipate rewards.
Meet Your Happy Chemicals: Dopamine, Serotonin, Endorphin, OxytocinLoretta Breuning, PhD
We all have "happy habits." We repeat behaviors that triggered our happy chemicals in the past, even without conscious intent. Habits have power because brain chemicals pave neural pathways. Our brain expects to feel good by doing things that felt good before. Unfortunately, good things have side effects. We can end up feeling bad despite our efforts to feel good. Fortunately, we can rewire ourselves to replace an unwanted habit with a healthier habit. Here is a simple plan for choosing a new habit and repeating it until it feels natural. You can stimulate more happy chemicals with fewer side effects. It's not easy, but you can do it in 45 days it you commit.
Your ability to manage your brain is your most important skill. When you understand the animal origins of your dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin, you have power. Your happy chemicals are wired by past experience so they're hard for your verbal brain to make sense of. Mirror neurons also shape our responses in ways that are not obvious to the verbal brain. To be a good leader, understand your own responses.
When you feel better you do better, but our happy chemicals are not designed to flow all the time for no reason. What's a big-brained mammal to do? These happy chemical strategies are simple enough to teach the people around you. You can have company on the path to dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphin!
Your brain is always picking and choosing its information because the world floods us with more detail than we can process. Your brain zooms in on bad news and threat signals when your cortisol is turned on. A bad loop results: you feel threatened so you find evidence of threat, which leaves you feeling more threatened and more disposed to find evidence. Here's how to escape from that loop.
Zookeepers are expert at managing temperamental mammals. They face the risk of conflict and aggression every moment of their day. Here's how they manage it:
1. Don’t reward bad behavior. (Or else you’ll get more of it.)
2. Introductions take time. (Don’t expect instant acceptance.)
3. Enrichment always. (The mind needs stimulation.)
4. Good habits can replace bad habits. (The brain runs on habit.)
Dopamine makes you feel good when you anticipate a reward. It evolved to promote survival, not to make you happy. But our brain defines survival in quirky ways, so we do quirky things to stimulate it. Fortunately, you can rewire yourself to turn on the good feeling of dopamine in new ways.
Happy brain chemicals: Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin and EndorphinLoretta Breuning, PhD
Here's a simple introduction to the brain chemicals that make us happy. You can rewire yourself to turn them on in new ways. This simple look at our neurochemistry what turns them on in the state of nature, and why they inevitably droop. Ups and downs are natural, but you can build new circuits to enjoy more ups.
You don’t intend to be perfectionist, but you are often waiting for a better time to act. How do animals manage to act despite living amidst danger? How can you learn from them. Your big cortex makes it easy to anticipate what can go wrong, but you can train it to anticipate rewards.
Meet Your Happy Chemicals: Dopamine, Serotonin, Endorphin, OxytocinLoretta Breuning, PhD
We all have "happy habits." We repeat behaviors that triggered our happy chemicals in the past, even without conscious intent. Habits have power because brain chemicals pave neural pathways. Our brain expects to feel good by doing things that felt good before. Unfortunately, good things have side effects. We can end up feeling bad despite our efforts to feel good. Fortunately, we can rewire ourselves to replace an unwanted habit with a healthier habit. Here is a simple plan for choosing a new habit and repeating it until it feels natural. You can stimulate more happy chemicals with fewer side effects. It's not easy, but you can do it in 45 days it you commit.
Your ability to manage your brain is your most important skill. When you understand the animal origins of your dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin, you have power. Your happy chemicals are wired by past experience so they're hard for your verbal brain to make sense of. Mirror neurons also shape our responses in ways that are not obvious to the verbal brain. To be a good leader, understand your own responses.
When you feel better you do better, but our happy chemicals are not designed to flow all the time for no reason. What's a big-brained mammal to do? These happy chemical strategies are simple enough to teach the people around you. You can have company on the path to dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphin!
Your brain is always picking and choosing its information because the world floods us with more detail than we can process. Your brain zooms in on bad news and threat signals when your cortisol is turned on. A bad loop results: you feel threatened so you find evidence of threat, which leaves you feeling more threatened and more disposed to find evidence. Here's how to escape from that loop.
Zookeepers are expert at managing temperamental mammals. They face the risk of conflict and aggression every moment of their day. Here's how they manage it:
1. Don’t reward bad behavior. (Or else you’ll get more of it.)
2. Introductions take time. (Don’t expect instant acceptance.)
3. Enrichment always. (The mind needs stimulation.)
4. Good habits can replace bad habits. (The brain runs on habit.)
Our brains are wired by early experience. We can build new wiring later on, but it's hard. When you know why it's hard, you know why we revert to old patterns, and what it takes to change them. Our brain learns from rewards, so you need to find healthy rewards to build healthy new pathways.
Happy at Home: Keep up your dopamine and oxytocin when you're stuck at homeLoretta Breuning, PhD
You can stimulate your happy chemicals and avoid threat chemicals, even when you're stuck at home. It's not each because your old ways of triggering them don't work. But you can find new ways to trigger them when you know how they work in animals. You can enjoy dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin even when you're stuck at home.
Your brain releases happy chemicals when you see something good for survival. You define survival with neural pathways built from experience. They can lead to behaviors that are not really good for survival. You can build new pathways, but it's not easy. It helps to know how the old ones got there. Neurons connect from emotion and repetition. Emotions are chemicals controlled by the brain structures we've inherited from earlier mammals. You cannot just ignore your animal brain because it's part of your operating system. Your three brains have to work together, even though they're not on speaking terms.
It would be nice if our happy chemicals just flowed all the time, but that's not how they're designed to work. When you know the job they do in animals, you know why they turn on in humans, and why they're not on all the time. Here's how to rewire yourself to stimulate happy chemicals and avoid stress chemicals. And more important, how to accept the brain you've got. It's not easy being a mammal!
We all want more trust at work and at home because it smoothes the rough edges of life. You can build trust when you know how animals build it and why your limbic brain makes careful decisions about when it turns on the great oxytocin feeling of trust.
Our brain is naturally inclined toward frustration because it’s designed to constantly seek rewards. When you approach a reward, dopamine surges and you feel great. But when you see an obstacle in your path to rewards, your brain releases cortisol and it feels like a survival threat. You can end up with a lot of cortisol on your path to rewards. Here’s a simple strategy to ease that natural sense of threat and stimulate the chemicals that make us feel good.
Know Your Inner Mammal: The Neuroscience of Happy RelationshipsLoretta Breuning, PhD
The mammal brain produces ups and downs, and we blame these feelings on others until we know how we produce them. When you know what trigger dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin in the state of nature, you stop blaming your ups and downs on others. Our brain evolved to promote survival, not to make you feel good all the time. It saves the happy chemicals for steps that meet survival needs, but it defines your needs in a quirky way. We all do quirky things to stimulate our happy chemicals. When you accept these quirky impulses in yourself and others, your relationships improve. We can all improve but we have to start with realistic acceptance of our natural impulses!
Love is a cocktail of brain chemicals: Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin, Endorphin. These happy chemicals evolved to promote your genes, not to make you happy all the time. You can manage the roller coaster when you understand the job these chemicals do in the state of nature. More information like this at InnerMammalInstitute.org
Guided Neuroplasticity can help you relieve cortisol and stimulate your happy brain chemicals. You can enjoy more dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphin when you know how your brain works. You can build new neural pathways instead of repeating old pain endlessly.
Here you will learn what it takes to build new neural pathways, and why old pathways are so powerful. You will learn what turns on your happy chemicals in the state of nature, and what turns on your stress chemicals.
Our brain evolved to protect us from harm, so it is constantly alert for potential danger signals. Cortisol is turned on by pain and the anticipation of pain. The bad feeling prompts your brain to scan for more evidence about the threat. You can easily wind up with endless pain, but you can also rewire your brain with new responses. You'll be glad you did!
Negativity is natural because our brain zooms in on problems. We feel good when we solve them, but our brain immediately shifts to the next problem. You miss out on positivity when you see the world through this lens. Fortunately, you can build a corrective lens that lets in the good that your negative lens has screened out. You can reduce the stress / anxiety of cortisol and stimulate your dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin in new ways.
1. The job of each happy chemical in the state of nature
2. The neural pathways that control these chemicals
3. How to create new pathways to enjoy more of them
Our happy brain chemicals are not meant to flow all the time for no reason. Each one has a job to do, and when you know what turns them on in the state of nature, you know how they work in your life. But your happy chemicals are controlled by neural pathways built from past experience. Here's how to build new pathways to turn them on in new ways.
Mammals live in groups for protection from predators, but group life is frustrating. Other mammals get the good bananas and mating opportunities. When things go your way, your brain releases serotonin. It feels good, which motivates your brain to do things that stimulate more. You have inherited a brain that cares about its status in a herd or pack or troop, though you would never consciously think this. Your neurochemical ups and downs make sense when you understand the mammal brain.
You were born with billions of neurons but very few connections between them. You built connections whenever your happy chemicals or unhappy chemicals were flowing. Your brain relies on the pathways it has, but we all end up with some pathways we're better off without. You can build new pathways in your brain to turn on your happy chemicals in new ways. It's not easy, but when you know how your brain works you can do it.
Comparing yourself to others is a major cause of unhappiness. Our brains are actually designed to compare, so it's hard to stop. Animals try to one-up each other when they can do it without pain. Natural selection produced a brain that tries to avoid conflict but also to seize the one-up position. You hate it when others try to one-up you, but when you do it, you think are just trying to survive. Endless frustration results unless you make peace with your inner mammal. Here's how.
Happiness is just a neurochemical spurt.
Four different brain chemicals create happy feelings, and you need all of them to feel good.
You miss out when you rely on one or two old familiar ways of triggering your happy chemicals.
You can enjoy a balanced happy chemical diet if you know the distinct kind of happiness each brain chemical evolved for
Happiness is just a neurochemical spurt.
Four different brain chemicals create happy feelings, and you need all of them to feel good.
You miss out when you rely on one or two old familiar ways of triggering your happy chemicals.
You can enjoy a balanced happy chemical diet if you know the distinct kind of happiness each brain chemical evolved for
What Is Happiness?
Can hormones make you happy?
Hormones that make you happy
Dopamine
Serotonin
Endorphins
Phenylethamine
Oxytocin
Ghrelin
Why not Adrenaline?
The brain chemicals that make us feel good are inherited from earlier animals: dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphin. They are not meant to flow all the time for no reason. They evolved to do a job. They reward a mammal with a good feeling when you take action to promote your survival. They're controlled by pathways built from early experience. You can enjoy more happy chemicals when you know how they work. You can re-wire yourself to turn them on in new and healthier ways.
Your brain evolved to meet your needs, so your neurochemicals surge in response to anything relevant to your needs. Natural selection built a brain that responds to opportunities and threats with a sense of urgency. No wonder politics gets us going! It's easy to see how this works in others, especially your social rivals. It helps to see how this works in yourself. Then you can make careful decisions about where you invest your limited brain power.
Our happy brain chemicals (dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, endorphin) are inherited from earlier mammals. They did not evolve to make you happy all the time. They are meant to motivate you to go toward things that promote your genes, and warn you to avoid things that threaten your genes. No conscious interest in your genes is involved - these chemicals create such strong impulses that we search for information to make sense of them. That's the job of our big cortex. It's not easy being a mammal, but your ups and downs are easier to manage when you know the job they do in the state of nature.
Here's a fun and attractive way to understand the brain chemicals that make us feel good, and find your power over them. It's based on the book, "14 Days to Sustainable Happiness," which is the workbook that goes with "Habits of a Happy Brain: Retrain your brain to boost your serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin and endorphin levels."
Sustainable happiness is habits that spark your happy chemicals in the short run without harming you in the long run. There's no easy way to do that with this brain we've inherited, but it starts with realistic knowledge about how these chemicals work in animals.
The most successful storytellers often focus listeners’ minds on a single important idea and they take no longer than a 30-second to forge an emotional connection.
Story telling can be effective if and only if both teller and listeners are in happy mood
Happiness is just a neurochemical spurt of four different brain chemicals
WE need all of them to feel good.
Our brains are wired by early experience. We can build new wiring later on, but it's hard. When you know why it's hard, you know why we revert to old patterns, and what it takes to change them. Our brain learns from rewards, so you need to find healthy rewards to build healthy new pathways.
Happy at Home: Keep up your dopamine and oxytocin when you're stuck at homeLoretta Breuning, PhD
You can stimulate your happy chemicals and avoid threat chemicals, even when you're stuck at home. It's not each because your old ways of triggering them don't work. But you can find new ways to trigger them when you know how they work in animals. You can enjoy dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin even when you're stuck at home.
Your brain releases happy chemicals when you see something good for survival. You define survival with neural pathways built from experience. They can lead to behaviors that are not really good for survival. You can build new pathways, but it's not easy. It helps to know how the old ones got there. Neurons connect from emotion and repetition. Emotions are chemicals controlled by the brain structures we've inherited from earlier mammals. You cannot just ignore your animal brain because it's part of your operating system. Your three brains have to work together, even though they're not on speaking terms.
It would be nice if our happy chemicals just flowed all the time, but that's not how they're designed to work. When you know the job they do in animals, you know why they turn on in humans, and why they're not on all the time. Here's how to rewire yourself to stimulate happy chemicals and avoid stress chemicals. And more important, how to accept the brain you've got. It's not easy being a mammal!
We all want more trust at work and at home because it smoothes the rough edges of life. You can build trust when you know how animals build it and why your limbic brain makes careful decisions about when it turns on the great oxytocin feeling of trust.
Our brain is naturally inclined toward frustration because it’s designed to constantly seek rewards. When you approach a reward, dopamine surges and you feel great. But when you see an obstacle in your path to rewards, your brain releases cortisol and it feels like a survival threat. You can end up with a lot of cortisol on your path to rewards. Here’s a simple strategy to ease that natural sense of threat and stimulate the chemicals that make us feel good.
Know Your Inner Mammal: The Neuroscience of Happy RelationshipsLoretta Breuning, PhD
The mammal brain produces ups and downs, and we blame these feelings on others until we know how we produce them. When you know what trigger dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin in the state of nature, you stop blaming your ups and downs on others. Our brain evolved to promote survival, not to make you feel good all the time. It saves the happy chemicals for steps that meet survival needs, but it defines your needs in a quirky way. We all do quirky things to stimulate our happy chemicals. When you accept these quirky impulses in yourself and others, your relationships improve. We can all improve but we have to start with realistic acceptance of our natural impulses!
Love is a cocktail of brain chemicals: Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin, Endorphin. These happy chemicals evolved to promote your genes, not to make you happy all the time. You can manage the roller coaster when you understand the job these chemicals do in the state of nature. More information like this at InnerMammalInstitute.org
Guided Neuroplasticity can help you relieve cortisol and stimulate your happy brain chemicals. You can enjoy more dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphin when you know how your brain works. You can build new neural pathways instead of repeating old pain endlessly.
Here you will learn what it takes to build new neural pathways, and why old pathways are so powerful. You will learn what turns on your happy chemicals in the state of nature, and what turns on your stress chemicals.
Our brain evolved to protect us from harm, so it is constantly alert for potential danger signals. Cortisol is turned on by pain and the anticipation of pain. The bad feeling prompts your brain to scan for more evidence about the threat. You can easily wind up with endless pain, but you can also rewire your brain with new responses. You'll be glad you did!
Negativity is natural because our brain zooms in on problems. We feel good when we solve them, but our brain immediately shifts to the next problem. You miss out on positivity when you see the world through this lens. Fortunately, you can build a corrective lens that lets in the good that your negative lens has screened out. You can reduce the stress / anxiety of cortisol and stimulate your dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin in new ways.
1. The job of each happy chemical in the state of nature
2. The neural pathways that control these chemicals
3. How to create new pathways to enjoy more of them
Our happy brain chemicals are not meant to flow all the time for no reason. Each one has a job to do, and when you know what turns them on in the state of nature, you know how they work in your life. But your happy chemicals are controlled by neural pathways built from past experience. Here's how to build new pathways to turn them on in new ways.
Mammals live in groups for protection from predators, but group life is frustrating. Other mammals get the good bananas and mating opportunities. When things go your way, your brain releases serotonin. It feels good, which motivates your brain to do things that stimulate more. You have inherited a brain that cares about its status in a herd or pack or troop, though you would never consciously think this. Your neurochemical ups and downs make sense when you understand the mammal brain.
You were born with billions of neurons but very few connections between them. You built connections whenever your happy chemicals or unhappy chemicals were flowing. Your brain relies on the pathways it has, but we all end up with some pathways we're better off without. You can build new pathways in your brain to turn on your happy chemicals in new ways. It's not easy, but when you know how your brain works you can do it.
Comparing yourself to others is a major cause of unhappiness. Our brains are actually designed to compare, so it's hard to stop. Animals try to one-up each other when they can do it without pain. Natural selection produced a brain that tries to avoid conflict but also to seize the one-up position. You hate it when others try to one-up you, but when you do it, you think are just trying to survive. Endless frustration results unless you make peace with your inner mammal. Here's how.
Happiness is just a neurochemical spurt.
Four different brain chemicals create happy feelings, and you need all of them to feel good.
You miss out when you rely on one or two old familiar ways of triggering your happy chemicals.
You can enjoy a balanced happy chemical diet if you know the distinct kind of happiness each brain chemical evolved for
Happiness is just a neurochemical spurt.
Four different brain chemicals create happy feelings, and you need all of them to feel good.
You miss out when you rely on one or two old familiar ways of triggering your happy chemicals.
You can enjoy a balanced happy chemical diet if you know the distinct kind of happiness each brain chemical evolved for
What Is Happiness?
Can hormones make you happy?
Hormones that make you happy
Dopamine
Serotonin
Endorphins
Phenylethamine
Oxytocin
Ghrelin
Why not Adrenaline?
The brain chemicals that make us feel good are inherited from earlier animals: dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphin. They are not meant to flow all the time for no reason. They evolved to do a job. They reward a mammal with a good feeling when you take action to promote your survival. They're controlled by pathways built from early experience. You can enjoy more happy chemicals when you know how they work. You can re-wire yourself to turn them on in new and healthier ways.
Your brain evolved to meet your needs, so your neurochemicals surge in response to anything relevant to your needs. Natural selection built a brain that responds to opportunities and threats with a sense of urgency. No wonder politics gets us going! It's easy to see how this works in others, especially your social rivals. It helps to see how this works in yourself. Then you can make careful decisions about where you invest your limited brain power.
Our happy brain chemicals (dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, endorphin) are inherited from earlier mammals. They did not evolve to make you happy all the time. They are meant to motivate you to go toward things that promote your genes, and warn you to avoid things that threaten your genes. No conscious interest in your genes is involved - these chemicals create such strong impulses that we search for information to make sense of them. That's the job of our big cortex. It's not easy being a mammal, but your ups and downs are easier to manage when you know the job they do in the state of nature.
Here's a fun and attractive way to understand the brain chemicals that make us feel good, and find your power over them. It's based on the book, "14 Days to Sustainable Happiness," which is the workbook that goes with "Habits of a Happy Brain: Retrain your brain to boost your serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin and endorphin levels."
Sustainable happiness is habits that spark your happy chemicals in the short run without harming you in the long run. There's no easy way to do that with this brain we've inherited, but it starts with realistic knowledge about how these chemicals work in animals.
The most successful storytellers often focus listeners’ minds on a single important idea and they take no longer than a 30-second to forge an emotional connection.
Story telling can be effective if and only if both teller and listeners are in happy mood
Happiness is just a neurochemical spurt of four different brain chemicals
WE need all of them to feel good.
The Biology of Belonging
Loretta Breuning, PhD
If belonging were easy, we would not be talking about it. Belonging is not easy, and that’s hard to explain since it feels so good. Biology can help us explain.
Animals seek safety in numbers in order to survive. Natural selection built a brain that rewards you with a good feeling when you find social support. The good feeling is produced by the chemical, “oxytocin.” We humans seek social support because oxytocin makes it feel good.
You may have heard that touch stimulates oxytocin, but it’s more complicated. Touching someone you don’t trust feels bad. Oxytocin comes from trust. But how do you know who to trust? Neurons connect when oxytocin flows, and that wires you to turn on the good feeling more easily in similar future circumstances. Each brain looks for social trust in ways that worked for it before.
It would be nice to enjoy oxytocin all the time, but our brain does not work that way. Trusting everyone all the time would not promote survival. Our brain evolved to make careful decisions about when to release oxytocin.
For herd animals, isolation means instant death in the jaws of a predator. The mammal brain releases the bad feeling of cortisol when it sees that it’s isolated. Cortisol is relieved when a mammal returns to its herd, but a different bad feeling results when it competes for grass that others have trampled on. We mammals long for greener pasture, but when you go your own way, your oxytocin falls and your corisol rises. What’s a big-brained mammal to do?
Animals have a simple solution: they gather when predators lurk, and space out as threats subside. Baboons quickly forget their differences when a lion approaches. Humans do the same. We bond against common enemies because oxytocin makes it feel good. But we pay a high price for this strategy. Your groups dwell on “enemies,” and the fear keeps you following the herd when you’d rather not. It’s not easy being a mammal!
To make life even harder, cortisol is triggered by disappointed trust. We are disappointed with our friends and family a lot because we expect so much from them. Cortisol makes it feel like a survival threat even though you don’t consciously think that. Neurons connect when cortisol flows, so the bad feeling turns on faster in similar future situations.
The solution is to recognize that belonging as a skill. We all build that skill all the time. My children cannot learn the skill if I create belonging for them. They have to learn it by taking small steps toward social trust, again and again. Each step connects neurons that make the next step easier. It’s the same for adults!Know why belonging is hard so you can transcend the obstacles and meet the need.
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Examining how moods are influenced by thoughts and behaviors, and thoughts and behaviors are influenced by moods. It can be a positive spiral, or a downward one.
Your happy brain chemicals: dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphin
1. Your Power Over Your
Happy Brain Chemicals
Loretta G. Breuning PhD
Inner Mammal Institute
innermammalinstitute.org
dopamine endorphin
oxytocin
serotonin
31. Loretta Graziano Breuning PhD, Inner Mammal Institute
Oxytocin
is often called
the “love chemical” or the “bonding hormone”
32. Loretta Graziano Breuning PhD, Inner Mammal Institute
Oxytocin
creates the feeling that
it’s safe to lower your guard
33. Loretta Graziano Breuning PhD, Inner Mammal Institute
Social support
promotes
survival, so the
mammal brain
rewards you with
the good feeling
of oxytocin
when you find
social support
34. Loretta Graziano Breuning PhD, Inner Mammal Institute
Oxytocin is stimulated by
trust,
touch,
birth,
and
sex
35. Neurons connect when oxytocin
flows, which wires you to expect
more where you got it before
43. Animals avoid conflict because they
are skilled at predicting who would
win. Serotonin is your brain’s signal
that you are in the position of strength
49. Your past serotonin experiences
built the pathways that turn on
your social exectations today
50. If you always see yourself as the big
monkey, you risk a lot of conflict.
But if you always see yourself as the little
monkey, you deprive yourself of serotonin.