We Can. We WIL. A Snapshot of Women in Leadership

We Can. We WIL.
a snapshot of women in leadership

November 9, 2006
Dear Women Leaders and Friends:
Women in Leadership (WIL) is an initiative with the goal to advance women
■ by establishing relationships and networks;
■ by articulating a common vision;
■ by sharing strengths and weaknesses; and
■ by learning from successes, failures and stories
in an environment where values, beliefs, cultures and a common goal provide a fundamental basis and foundation
in knowledge-sharing for current and future leaders.
The Women in Leadership program is created to enhance and empower women in their leadership development by:
■ creating opportunities for women to experience the demands of working with diverse individuals and
challenging issues; and
■ facilitating a learning environment reflected on collective, interactive and collaborative processes utilized
in business theory and practice.
CORO Mission Statement
CORO’s mission is to strengthen communities and the democratic process by preparing individuals for effective
and ethical leadership in the public affairs arena.
Women in Leadership (WIL) VIII Mission Statement
WIL VIII is a diverse group of women networking with other women to foster leadership, personal/professional
growth and quality of life and life balance.
We Can. We WIL. A Snapshot of Women in Leadership.
We Can. We WIL. is a compilation of leadership stories from diverse women in leadership positions. This collection
fulfills the WIL VIII mission statement and provides a template for all women to share, to reflect and to discover. Women
in leadership roles, whether in the United States, in Israel, or in any sphere of the universe, share a common ground.
We Can. We WIL. aims to guide women, from generation to generation, in their endeavors towards leadership. The
women of WIL VIII envision that this compilation will continue beyond our program session, with both our own group
and the succeeding WIL class members, in order to maintain the WIL spirit and tradition of the project.
The WIL VIII Class Members are honored to present this publication to you. We extend our sincere appreciation to
the women and men who afforded their time by sharing their inspirational stories with us over the last eight weeks.
We thank Jack Horner Communications for designing this publication and to Ditto Document Solutions for printing
this publication. And lastly, we thank Maggie Sullivan and Cynthia Williams at CORO for giving us the opportunity
to learn and grow as women in leadership.
Sincerely,
CORO Women in Leadership VIII Class Members:
Mary Kate Bartley
Renee Coyner
Diane Hughley
Shirley Muhammad
Tess Riesmeyer
Jessica Varone
Lynn Brusco
Michelle DeBlasi
Rochelle Jackson
Maria Polinsky
Tara Simmons
Leigh White
Cary Cameron
Heather Glenn
Edye Lloyd
Terry Pronko
Adva Steuer
Jeaneen Zappa

What is your definition of
leadership?
Describe a time as a young girl that you felt
empowered
Looking back, how does that example make you realize that it was a
defining moment
in your journey as a leader?
EVENT
SACRIFICE?
in your life are you
most PROUD of?
Describe a time when your role as a leader has
challenged or conflicted
with personal priorities and responsibilities.
H o w d i d y o u h a n d l e i t ?
In your opinion, did this conflict potentially arise
because you’re a woman in a leadership role?
What, or who, are your
sources of strength
in your day-to-day living?
Ofwhat
How do
you think
can support and be supported by other women?
What ADVICE would you give those who
want to become tomorrow’s
w o m e n l e a d e r s ?
women in leadership
to take action about something;
and/or take a stand.
If you could visit ONE PLACE
in the world that you have not been to,
where would you go? Why?
I f y o u w e r e g i v e n
million dollars
to invest, what charity or issue
would you support? Why?
1
A leader must be a good example, accept responsibility (especially
when things go wrong), be willing to work hard, know his or her
strengths and weaknesses, and be able to inspire.
MMotivateW e C a n . W e W I L .
As a young girl, I was extremely shy. I don't recall any instances in
my youth in which I felt I was a leader (except when the band director
asked me to direct the band one day – just for one song). I would say
my defining moment as a leader did not come, for me, until I was an
adult with children of my own. I remember walking into the mothers'
meeting for my oldest daughter's Girl Scout troop. She had just joined
and all the leaders and mothers were Girl Scout "rookies." I remember
the energy of the girls in that room and the "light bulb" went off. I said
to myself, "I want to be a part of this."
Going back to my girl scouting years, I soon became my daughter's Girl Scout
leader and when her troop earned its First Class Scout awards, I was extremely
proud of that group. I continued as a Girl Scout leader after my own daughters
"graduated" from Girl Scouting by serving as a leader for another troop that
earned its Silver and Gold Awards. Those girls worked hard for years to earn
those awards and I was proud of them and proud to see them succeed.
Tough question. I think any person who volunteers in any capacity
whether it is for their church, their community or their children makes
a sacrifice of time, at the very least. But that kind of sacrifice helps us
grow as people.
Sometimes the time I spent volunteering made it difficult to keep up with my
responsibilities at home and my family felt neglected. I didn't always handle
it well and often suffered from "burn out." I do believe it is harder for women
because we are still expected to fill many roles. It is more understood now
than it was years ago when I was handling many responsibilities at once,
but I don't regret the time I spent volunteering; it made me a better person.
My faith is a constant source of strength to me. I also have family
members and good friends who are sources of strength to me.
I am supported by the women in the professional organization to which
I belong – the International Association of Administrative Professionals,
an organization for office professionals. Our monthly meetings include
education, networking, and social time to be together. I would hope
there are similar organizations for women who are working in
leadership roles in businesses of all kinds.
Short and sweet, go for it. We need you in business and in politics!
I would do the same thing Warren Buffet did – give it to the Gates
Foundation. It is a tried and true, well-run organization doing lots
of good in the entire world.
I have no one instance but laughter is so important – especially being
able to laugh at yourself. Humor is so important. At times, we need to
not take ourselves so seriously.
I've always wanted to visit the Taj Mahal because it is exotic to me.
The Grand Canyon. Wow!
My faith.
Patricia Bailey
Executive Legal Secretary
Squire, Sanders & Dempsey, LLP
For what cause would you be willing to make a
Name a situation where
HUMOR
Why was laughter important?
has helped you
make it through?
If you could have any
V I E W
from your back porch,
what would it be?
What gives the most
MEANING
to your life?

leadership?
empowered
defining moment
EVENT
SACRIFICE?
most PROUD of?
sources of strength
Ofwhat
How do
you think
women in leadership
Leadership is leveraging the strengths of others to achieve
a common goal.
W e C a n . W e W I L .
There is not one single defining moment, but from a young age
I wanted to be one of the decision makers, and not simply one
of the followers.
Moving to Pittsburgh with only my husband and being able to
quickly adjust and flourish despite being out of my comfort zone.
Abortion rights
My husband, my parents, and my friends are my strength and energy.
They have taught me the importance of leadership and of "doing," and
not just talking about things that need to be changed.
Providing opportunities for each other (civic and professional),
encouraging each other, staying connected to serve as a support
system.
Learn how to leverage the talents of others; it is the key to productivity.
I will never hide my femininity. I don't think that it compromises my
leadership ability. I like surprising people by being able to be secure
in myself.
The ocean.
Being married to my soul mate and giving back to the communities
to which I belong.
Going on vacation to the beach with my family each summer.
Erin Baker
Recruitment Manager
Coro Center for Civic Leadership
V I E W
what would it be?
What gives the most
MEANING
to your life?
How do you preserve your
femininity and your sense of yourself
as a woman in the midst of your life as a leader?
What is your favorite
childhood
MEMORY?
million dollars
1 Charities that support the fight against violence towards women
and girls. Empowering women and girls is the key to our future.
Lead

leadership?
empowered
defining moment
EVENT
SACRIFICE?
most PROUD of?
sources of strength
Ofwhat
How do
you think
women in leadership
million dollars
1
A leader is a charismatic individual that is well respected by peers,
influential, motivational, and inspirational to those in his/her circle
and outside as well.
A defining moment in my journey as a leader was when I used to be deeply
involved in music as a rap artist. I made a choice not to record negative lyrics,
but instead focused on songs that would uplift and empower women. At a time
when “gangsta rap” was going strong I made a conscious decision to put
music out into the universe that would influence a positive change. I was
fortunate enough to travel a lot with a small label and did many shows on the
West Coast. I was invited to speak at music conferences as well. I didn’t go
platinum. I didn’t end up becoming wealthy from it, but people listened. I got
some of their attention and I saw the power of words and the influence they
have. It was then I knew I’ve got more work to do. This is just the beginning.
I am proud of a lot of my accomplishments. Aside from obtaining a Masters
in Education, the community web site that I created in my small basement
apartment is probably the one that is really important to me. I call it The Soul
Pitt. Even though “Soul” is used to represent the African American influence in
Pittsburgh, it can also be related to the fact that I put my heart and soul into this
project. I wanted to give something back to the city, to my community, and to
my friends. I did it for free, on my own time, and never expected anything back.
I wanted to cause change in the attitudes of those that felt there wasn’t anything
going on in the black communities in our area or that negativity is all you see.
I am most proud because it was something I did that I love doing and it turned
out to be such an influential instrument in the city of Pittsburgh and beyond.
It’s not a cause, but my family is something that I would sacrifice anything
for. My mother and father are my inspiration and support system. I am an only
child and I’ve always referred to us as “The 3 Amigos.” They have supported
me in everything I have wanted to do. As they get older, I realize that I may
have to give up some things that I am doing to help them out and I am more
than willing to sacrifice what I have to in order to make them as happy in their
“golden years” as they have made me.
I never knew I was a leader until everyone started telling me this. In 2004,
I received the Women of Influence award from the Courier. Then in 2005, I
received a Trailblazer Award from Renaissance Publications. I used to say,
it’s only a community Web site, but that Web site was like my voice and my
voice had influenced a lot of people. Eventually, people would call or email
me to help them with their causes or put out messages to the community to
influence them on certain issues. I was expected to attend certain functions
and know who everyone was. I think that because I am a woman, people tend
to ask more from me than they would if I was a man. Everyone wanted a small
piece of me at a time when I was going through many struggles in my life, from
my father having cancer to a divorce. My personal life and business life were
at a constant struggle and I needed balance in my life if I wanted to keep both
areas in check. No matter what leadership role you are in, remember, your
health is more important. I have learned that I cannot help everyone or be there
for everyone in my business life. I had to learn to take time out for myself every
now and then. You have a personal responsibility to yourself to take care of
yourself. This in turn, will help you be a better leader.
My spiritual belief that God will take care of me no matter what,
my parents, and close friends are my sources of strength.
Don’t be afraid to just do it! You only fail if you don’t try. Also, utilize
the resources out there for women and utilize the Internet and use it to
network with people all over the world. And don’t worry, all leadership
is not natural – this is something that you can learn to do. And if you
so happen to find yourself as an influential leader one day, please use
it to lead people in positive directions.
By mentoring. I believe that we all need good mentors and role models.
Definitely a drama called "The Moonlighting Entrepreneur!"
I would support several things. First, I would give a portion to my home
church back in Johnstown PA. Pleasant Hill Baptist Church has been
instrumental in creating the person I am today. I would also give to
prostrate cancer and rheumatoid arthritis. My father is a cancer survivor
and my mother has been afflicted with severe rheumatoid arthritis since
the age of 30.
Donna Michele Baxter
Founder / Web Mistress
The Soul Pitt
What gives the most
MEANING
to your life?
If your life were
made into a
would it be a soap opera, a drama, or a sitcom?
W h a t w o u l d i t b e c a l l e d ?
TELEVISION SHOW,
My father's barbeque and collard greens fresh from his garden, my
cousin's macaroni and cheese, and my mother's sweet potato pie!
I would only need one thing…my laptop – that’s my livelihood! If I
have that, I can get back a lot of what I miss.
What would be on the menu for your
ultimate birthday dinner?
Knowing that I am not just going through a routine every day without
influencing a soul in this universe. When my time is up on earth, I want
to know that I left a positive impact and what I did, or what I said, stays
with those I leave behind.
If you could only save
3 material possessions,
what would they be?
What makes these things so important to keep?

leadership?
empowered
defining moment
EVENT
SACRIFICE?
most PROUD of?
Ofwhat
How do
you think
women in leadership
million dollars
1
Leadership is a role one takes that enables you to reach a goal
through other people. Leadership is situational and effective leadership
techniques can be learned and practiced as can ineffective leadership
techniques. (And, I've learned quite a few ineffective leadership
techniques in my life!) The most effective leaders I've known don't
always lead from the front of the pack, often times they lead from
behind, coaching and supporting the team, group, etc. to continue
moving roughly west.
I can't remember a time as a young girl that I didn't feel empowered. My parents,
especially my father, were extremely supportive in opening up opportunities for
me to decide if I wanted to participate, whether it was Girl Scouts, majorettes,
or academically. We weren't a family that talked politics or current affairs at the
dinner table, so the idea of being active in the community was a foreign concept
to me until I got much older. But through many of the experiences as a team
player (sports, majorettes), I had interesting experiences that have reoccurred
during my work life. Examples are the cliques and the cattiness of women/girls,
it’s deadly and counter productive; or, when you’re promoted from the team/group
to leader, your relationship with friends and colleagues changes, even if you
didn't want it to. Traveling with the majorette corps to every small town in PA,
I realized that the world was bigger than just my home community. I learned
tricks, techniques, and routines I picked up from competitors could be used
effectively on my team (what I now would call benchmarking.) I also learned
that all of the talent in the world doesn't help you break through the ceiling.
Talent, accomplishment, and hard work get you to a certain level in the
organization. To break into the senior ranks it's really who knows you and
who will take your cause or who won't stop your ascension that matters.
Buying my first home.
I don't think of myself as a person with great passion for any cause. I give
my time and financial resources to support Bethlehem Haven and, sometimes,
when I'm writing the checks these days I would say it's a bit of a financial
sacrifice, but I don't normally think of it that way. I left the corporate sector, and
the significantly higher salary, to move back to Pittsburgh and became engaged
with the wonderful nonprofit sector. But, I really don't consider the move out
of the sector and the reduction of income to be a tremendous sacrifice.
As a senior manager at a very large corporation, there were many times
when I was the messenger and it didn't matter whether or not I agreed with
the message. After a while though, I realized that my personal beliefs were
really out of sync with the senior management team. And at that point, I knew
it was time to look for another option. I don't believe that my gender was a
factor in that disconnect.
Share opportunities and introduce your colleagues to opportunities
you have enjoyed or groups to which you belong, i.e. share your
WIL experience with other women. Introduce women in your class
to one membership organization to which you belong.
Take a hold of and welcome the opportunities that come your way.
You'll never know when that small opportunity could provide you
the skill or experience needed for your next step.
Ride a bicycle
Earn a Ph.D.
Find the artistic side of myself.
I was on a special assignment for almost a year. Several of us on the team
were sequestered in a very small conference room every day working on the
project. Deadlines were always shortened; the financial implications to the
company were in the tens of millions of dollars in penalties. So, the pressure
was intense. When I started with this small team, I never understood the Gary
Larsen comics. I came to understand them and each day's cartoon, along with
gallows humor, is what kept us sane. As long as you’re laughing at yourself
and not taking yourself seriously, but taking your work seriously, you'll be better
off and your relationship with your colleagues will be deeper. At the end of the
project we had a celebration. We told our story in the form of doctored up
Larsen cartoons. It was a hoot and brought the house down.
The elimination of poverty. From my work with PSVP, I've seen how
poverty is generational as well as situational. Poverty keeps people
from reaching their potential, and it keeps their children from reaching
their potential. Surviving poverty is almost an impossible obstacle to
overcome, but it can be done, and the impact on our community and
society is great – economically and socially. Many of the negative
characteristics of our society are caused by or exacerbated by poverty,
crime, drug use, mental and physical health, teen pregnancies, low
graduation rates, etc.
The same view as I had from my condo in Florida – the water, a few
palm trees, birds, dolphins, and sail boats.
Chocolate cake with cream cheese icing, chocolate covered cherries,
peanut M&Ms, white pizza with spinach and feta cheese, ramen noodle
salad, and iced tea.
Terry Beggy
Executive Director
Pittsburgh Social Venture Partners
HUMOR
has helped you
make it through?
V I E W
what would it be?
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What
things would you do if you
knew you would not fail?
childhood
MEMORY?
sources of strength
I live for the opportunities to see the eyes of my niece and nephew light
up as they learn new things or see something new in the world.
Trick-or-Treating with my father. He had certain rules: no masks that
made it hard to see; no crying; no one could fall behind; and he
who gets home at the end of the evening with the most candy wins!
Strategize when going after candy. Don't pick the houses with many
steps. Don't be afraid to cut across peoples lawns. Don't check on your
candy while you're in pursuit, there's plenty of time for that later. Some
houses give better treats than others and remember which ones from
year to year. And always remember, dad's there to keep you going.

leadership?
empowered
defining moment
EVENT
SACRIFICE?
most PROUD of?
sources of strength
Ofwhat
How do
you think
women in leadership
million dollars
1Leadership is the ability to persuade people to act toward a goal
even when they are reluctant to do so.
After a visit to the University of Oxford with my father, I made up
my mind that was where I wanted to go. And despite all alternatives
offered, I would not consider that I might not get there.
Standing up for academic freedom for all while I was a professor
in South Africa during apartheid.
Educational opportunity for all.
Balancing professional opportunities with the obligations of family.
The examples of my remarkable parents and my creative husband.
All people of great integrity.
We all need encouragement and appreciation, and by taking a
GENUINE interest in the progress of each other.
Be flexible; keep learning; volunteer for the hard jobs; always present
yourself appropriately; and be articulate. Know when to take risks.
Advanced degrees in chemistry and physics
Fly an airplane
Negotiate the peace of the world
The State Hermitage Museum in St. Petersburg, Russia to
see the great art collection. I find art transforming.
Advance the progress of women in science and technology.
Queen Elizabeth I. How did she learn to be so effective?
Humor will help you make it through the darkest days especially
if you laugh at yourself.
Doreen E. Boyce
President
The Buhl Foundation
HUMOR
has helped you
make it through?
3
What
?
You can select one leader from history
and ask them a question to which they must give a truthful reply.
Whom would you select, and
what question would you ask
MMentorW e C a n . W e W I L .

leadership?
empowered
defining moment
EVENT
SACRIFICE?
most PROUD of?
sources of strength
Ofwhat
How do
you think
women in leadership
million dollars
1Preface: I offer a fluid definition of leadership that depends on the
population, set of circumstances, and needs of the group. In general,
leadership is assessing a given situation and providing the creative
actions/guidance necessary to receive a desirable outcome. The
determination of success or failure depends on he/she who serves
as judge.
As the president of my high school sorority, I wanted our members
to perform an act of kindness for Christmas. I convinced two or three
members that in performing acts of kindness we would get our pictures
in the local newspaper and that we would be called good citizens.
Hearing that, the other members quickly agreed to perform acts of
kindness. I may never know if they agreed to participate to be good
citizens or to get their pictures in the paper. What I do know is I was
able to provide the means of successfully achieving good and giving
our sorority a positive image in our community.
I am most proud of raising my children to be happy, healthy,
contributing members of society.
I can't say at this moment. I have principles. When those principles
are challenged, I am most likely to speak out (or make the sacrifice)
to alter the situation.
I served as the chancellor of a college campus. I had to be available to
make decisions at an instant. My personal priorities and responsibilities
could never take top priority. My students, faculty, and staff became my
top priority, and, as such, my priorities were clear. This had nothing to
do with the fact that I am a woman.
First, I really gain my strength from my family. Second, I gain my
strength from my religious beliefs. Third, I gain my strength from
my friends and colleagues I have worked with over the years.
Women should support others based on an honest belief that the
person deserves support. This system has proven to work better for
me than blindly supporting one gender over another. Seeing fairness,
other women hopefully will be inclined to give honest support to
another woman.
Know your business! Be fair and strong in your convictions.
This is silly. The fear of failure is a good thing. It is what will keep
you focused and on task. I don't ever want the fear of failure taken
away from any project I am involved in.
I would love to go to Morocco. I am a lover of history, and I would
love to see and learn more about North Africa. I have a friend from
Morocco who shares such wonderful stories about her people.
I am a supporter of literacy initiatives. Therefore, I would continue to
support literacy initiatives, particularly adult literacy, both in the U.S.
and in Africa. My thought is that by improving a person's ability to
read, you give them the tools to improve their own lives for as long
as they live.
There are several things that bring great meaning to my life. First,
my family (especially my grandchildren). Second, my job, and my
volunteer activities. I love being active and giving of my time and
talents. I believe I get back just as much as I give. As long as this
continues, I'll stay at it.
I have many! I select the time I raced my dad across the schoolyard.
The winner got an ice cream cone from my mother. I won!
JoAnne E. Burley, Ph.D.
Executive Director
Pittsburgh Council on Higher Education
What gives the most
MEANING
to your life?
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What
childhood
MEMORY?
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leadership?
empowered
defining moment
EVENT
SACRIFICE?
most PROUD of?
sources of strength
Ofwhat
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you think
women in leadership
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1
Leadership is inspiring others to follow your vision.
I grew up in India and went to school in a very British system. The new
school principal and I were on a collision course of wills from the day we met.
She did not like me. I did not respect her for letting her dislike for me show,
because I believed that in her position she had a responsibility to treat everyone
evenhandedly. I treated her in a perfectly respectful manner although I probably
did not light up with enthusiasm when I encountered her. I was "prefect"
(captain) of my "house" (the school was divided into four houses). I realized
that the principal sometimes discriminated against my house because she
disliked me. I did not like the fact that she disliked me. I had not experienced
this often. I believed then, and still do, that in her position she had a
responsibility to treat everyone fairly. I thought it extremely unfair that her
dislike of me hurt my house and the kids I felt responsible for, in the same way
I believed she should feel responsible for the whole school. I struggled through
this but saw that the only way to deal with this was to inspire my house, my
team, to be the best at everything and always beyond reproach. That year we
won every award there was to win as a team. And we had more fun at it than
any of the other houses. I did it by encouraging and leading, never by
punishing. The principal scolded me once for not punishing a kid from my
house for some minor infraction that meant nothing. At the time, and even
more, now I realize that I learned crucial lessons then. It was a very good
example of how a tough situation teaches you a lot and makes you much
stronger. I could take you back to an earlier time when I probably learned that
if you believe in justice you will have the courage to fight. One of my neighbors
was having his lunch stolen every day by another boy in his kindergarten class.
His older brother who was in my second grade class was too afraid of this
rough, tough kindergarten kid to tell him he'd better stop this. So I did. I told
him I'd beat him up. There was no evidence to suggest that I could, but the
conviction with which I said it worked. There were no stolen lunches after that.
The births of my children. Nothing compares.
To make things truly better for kids all over, especially the millions of
kids who die every year from hunger.
This has been something I have come to expect, particularly when you have young
children at home. And yes, most certainly the conflict is more likely to arise because
you are a woman. What do you do when you have an ill child you want to be at
home to comfort but you also have an office full of others with ill children and no
one to cover for you. It's a funny story that comes to mind though: I was to present
an award to a colleague at a large morning event. It was a school day and I was
well on my way to dropping my kids off at school in time for both school and the
program. We were almost there when my daughter announced that we had left "the
baby" (one of those middle school educational deals) at home. This would have
been a great embarrassment to her and my absence at the presentation would be
an embarrassment to me and an insult to my colleague. I did not have a cell phone.
I did consider abandoning the baby, after all is was just a bag of flour! But we did
go home and get the baby and I missed the presentation.
I really think that opportunities to talk to other women and the creation
of more effective networks help. I find that it is only later in my career
that I have found some of those networks.
My whole extended family. Scattered as we are geographically, we stay
connected and feel the strength of that connection. It gives one strength
and stability, and as I think about it, I can be having a really tough day
and can interact briefly with a little kid and I'm full of joy again. At a
fundamental level, without any conscious thought it reminds me why I
do what I do.
Frankly, I don't think that wanting to become a leader has anything to
do with it. If you have a vision, a cause, something you really believe
in, go for it. Let what you believe in lead. You are just the means. In
fact, I might even say I have trouble with the idea of wanting to be a
leader as an end in itself. Also, have wonderful strong role models in
your family!
Run USAID, the World Bank, or the United Nations
Go hang gliding
Climb Everest
Mary Carrasco
Director International and Community Health
Pittsburgh Mercy Health Systems
HUMOR
has helped you
make it through?
V I E W
what would it be?
What gives the most
MEANING
to your life?
World hunger. I would work on systemic issues not use the money to
buy food
Gandhi. What kept you going during your darkest days?
Humor helps me through every day.I see abused kids and if I could
not laugh I could not continue to do the work I do.
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What
?
The ocean.
Doing something that makes a difference to peoples lives.

leadership?
empowered
defining moment
EVENT
SACRIFICE?
most PROUD of?
sources of strength
Ofwhat
How do
you think
women in leadership
where would you go? Why?Having the charisma and vision that others want to follow yet being
self-assured enough to follow when appropriate.
Taking a stand physically and verbally against my father and
overcoming the consequences. That made me realize I was
strong enough to do anything.
Providing advice to my grandfather on how to die.
Racial equality and human rights.
My role as a leader, particularly as a business owner, is challenged
often. The right thing to do in business, i.e. making money/the bottom
line, is in conflict with my personal agenda to help others regardless
of outcomes/payment, etc. The conflict doesn't have anything to do
with being a woman, unless you consider woman are typically more
compassionate in general than men.
Hope, Jesus, and my philosophy that everything and everybody is One.
Give them tools to be successful and introduce them to other people
who can help them to advance their agenda.
Be self-assured, strong yet compassionate. Surround yourself with
experts that are good people and give them all of the credit.
I'm not afraid to fail. Failing is learning and a door that opens
to something else.
Jesus. "Why is it easier for people to hate than to love?"
Jerusalem and the surrounding area because that's where
Jesus lived and preached.
Manhattan.
Broccoli and cauliflower casserole, stuffing, mashed potatoes,
corn, bread and butter, and almond torte.
Lynn Colosi
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Clear View Strategies LLC
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I believe that leadership can be defined in different ways depending
on the context. However, central to leadership in all contexts is the
ability to recognize and call out another's gifts and talents and inspire
that individual to use those skills to accomplish a shared goal.
My grandmother once told me that when I was very young (probably in first or
second grade) I saw one boy picking on another boy. I was a slightly built little
girl who was short for my age. However, my small stature did not stop me from
putting myself between the bully and my classmate. I told him “You can't treat
him like that.” Even when the teacher tried to intervene I wouldn't move until the
bully was made to sit down. I suppose the teacher called home to discuss my
obstinate behavior. I, however, am proud of that little girl. I think it defines my
journey as a leader because size, station in life, or sphere of influence has never
defined my ability to stand up for what I believe. I am still known to say, “You
just can't treat people like that!”
I am most proud of my ability to gain entry to, excel within, and graduate
from college. Like many others, I am the first person in my family to attend an
institution of higher education. In fact, college was not an assumed path I would
take. Choosing the colleges to which I should apply, navigating the financial
aid process, and learning how to live in the world of academia were daunting
processes for me and my family. However, with the love and support of my
parents I was able to succeed. I am proud of having taken advantage of this
life-defining, learning opportunity.
Integrity – holding to your values. I have been known to change
professions, risk losing friends, forego attractive salaries, and live
with self-doubt before losing my integrity.
My husband, my close circle of friends, and my work keep me going
from day to day. I have known my husband, Joe, since college. I
admire him and respect him. He is as amazing a role model as he
is a supporter. My close circle of friends includes one representative
from almost all stages of my life. These are the type of women who
will get in the trenches with you when things go awry. Finally, my work
is fulfilling. I believe in what I do and get excited by the possibilities of
what is to come in the future.
I firmly believe that mentoring is one of the most powerful relationships
a woman can have with another woman. Every woman has a unique
life experience, thus opening different doors of access and
understanding. For those of us who know how to navigate a particular
profession, activity, or conversation, we should help other women to
navigate similar situations.
I would recommend that they try to frame the journey of leadership as
perpetual journey rather than having an end point. I believe life is about
listening, learning, and evolving. Thus, I believe leadership is about
listening, learning, and evolving actively.
1) I would become a photographer for National Geographic magazine.
2) I would drive demolition derby cars in my free time.
3) I would convince my husband to join me as a vagabond wandering
the globe.
I'd want my back porch to be on the white sandy beach of Lake
McKenzie, a fresh-water lake on an island off the coast of Queensland
Australia. I've never seen water so clear and sand so white.
I would save proof of my identity, my wedding ring, and my Bible.
The trappings of life can always be rebuilt, but it's hard to get through
a disaster without a support system and faith. The personal
identification just helps to expedite the process of moving on.
Mmmm... we'll begin with a house salad with homemade creamy
garlic dressing from the Imperial, steak from Major's in Long Island,
a side of Grandma's pasta, accompanied by grilled zucchini and
squash, and finished with banana's foster.
I derive most meaning from knowing that my life is bound to the rest
of humanity. I have a history, a future, and the responsibility to make
the most of my present circumstances.
There was a tree outside my living room window that I adored climbing.
When I would sit up in that tree I would sing for hours, making up
songs when I ran out of the ones I knew. I would sing so loud that the
neighbors could hear me. What a feeling, my head in the clouds and
not caring who could hear me!
Lina Dostilio
Coordinator, Office of Service-Learning
Duquesne University
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Leadership is the ability to influence, motivate, and enable others –
either formally or informally – and to contribute toward a success.
That success can be in the workplace, within one's family, or in the
greater community.
I was 13 years old and nine months from confirmation in my church.
Confirmation was a two-year process. A girl I grew up with in the church
attended the first year with our class. At the start of the second year, the
minister changed the class from Saturday mornings to a weeknight. Because
of her family situation she was unable to attend on weeknights. The minister
said she couldn't be confirmed. However, the minister allowed two children
who had never gone to church into our second-year class and said they would
be confirmed with one year of classes. I felt this was inequitable and organized
the rest of the class to advocate with church council for the girl I grew up with.
My mom organized all the mothers of the class and they showed up en masse
at a church council meeting to advocate, as well. Moms and children together,
we got council to agree to have the girl confirmed with us. This experience
taught me that it is important to speak and act on injustice. It also taught me
that at times it is possible to work within the system. While I didn't realize it
at the time, I believe it started me on the path to a nonprofit career.
I'm not sure that I can select a particular event, but I am proud that my
family and friends know they can rely on me to be there for them when
they need me, in good times and in bad.
Equality in educational opportunities at every level. Education cannot
solve all our societal ills, but it can go a long way toward helping to
survive many of them.
As the only woman on my organization's senior staff, I feel from time to time
that I have to be more responsible, more circumspect about mentioning family
responsibilities, and more careful to behave in ways that can't be brushed off
as stereotypical. In all fairness to my colleagues, I think that much of this may
be self-imposed. I came into the workplace when women were just starting to
break barriers and the rules for breaking these behaviors were drummed into
us by other female professionals, magazines, and books. I have aging parents
who need extra attention from time to time. Recently, one parent needed to have
some noninvasive medical testing done, which could have suggested a serious
problem. I opted not to take another day off from work. The whole day I felt
significant guilt because I kept picturing the other parent sitting in the waiting
room most of the day all alone. It probably would not have been a professional
issue had I taken the day off. All my old training and mentoring said, "Save the
day for when you really need it."
I am fortunate to have great friends, many of whom are also
professional women, who provide a significant source of strength
when things are not going well. I have two nieces who keep me thinking
young and provide a lighter side of life. I'm fortunate to have a great
staff that individually and collectively has a tremendous sense of humor.
It helps us all to see the humor in almost every situation. Someone is
always able to find something for us to laugh about as a group. I hope
my leadership style has enabled this.
I think formal venues need to be utilized. They provide face-to-face
networking opportunities that can't be replaced. In addition, women
must seize opportunities to lead in other ways: community service or
in-house committees that stretch their visibility and skills. It is very
important to work with girls and young women who will continue to
build on the leadership opportunities that currently exist.
Don't allow anything or anybody to stand in the way of following your
dreams. Work hard and pursue as much education as you possibly
can. Make good choices professionally and personally so that you
don't limit on your options.
It would be sitcom because I hope the story lines would make
a compelling statement for finding some humor in virtually every
situation. It would be titled "Always Time for Chaos."
The risks that are worth taking are those infused with some rational
basis and carry the potential of reward for the greater social good.
Those that are not worth taking carry the risk of greater danger
for humanity.
I'd start a scholarship fund that focused on the "B" and "C" students
who have drive and dedication but may not have the greatest academic
gifts, or may not have been able to pursue them to the fullest. The
scholarship fund would look for those with hidden potential and the
desire to succeed no matter how hard they had to work.
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If I had the pictures of those most important to me I would feel
comforted and supported.
Being aware that I have been blessed with many gifts in life: good
health, a caring family, a strong work ethic, supportive friends, and
excellent professional opportunities. The only way to say thank you
for this is to do all I can for those who have been less fortunate in
the hope that their hidden gifts will flourish.
Janet C. Emery, CFRE
Vice President and Chief DevelopmentOfficer
Pressley Ridge
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1Seeing needs in your community and engaging people to work with
you to address these needs. A leader is a person who acts, who is
courageous and altruistic. A leader grabs people off of the sidelines –
people who previously just watched, ignored, or complained about a
situation – to activate and empower them.
It’s difficult to pick out one instance as the defining moment. I was in
high school in the early 1970s, a time when the nation was in flux
and turmoil. Much of the change hadn’t reached my suburban high
school, so I spent most of my teenage years as an activist. I helped to
organize the first city-wide coalition of high school students dedicated
to protecting the environment, organized groups of students to protest
the Vietnam War, and successfully ran for student council, a council
which previously was mostly guys.
In 2005 and 2006, Run, Baby, Run was able to raise thousands of
dollars and provide hundreds of hours of volunteer help to the eight
women running for state representative in Southwestern Pennsylvania.
For years, SWPA’s delegation of 44 state representatives did not include
a single female. Four of our candidates made it past the primary and,
of these, several will win the general election on November 7, 2006.
I have and will continue to sacrifice on behalf of getting women elected.
I have not experienced this sort of a situation.
My daughters (both in their 20s), my sister, and my close friends.
1. Mentor and teach other women
2. Promote women
3. Patronize women owned businesses
4. Support female candidates
DO something. We are plagued by endless studies, studies that
reveal things we need only look around to discern. We are plagued
by discussion forums, where all issues are raised, some solutions are
proposed, then participants walk away and nothing gets done. I advise
women to use whatever resources they have, be they intellect, money,
networks, or talents, to affect change.
Actually, it would be a dramedy (combo of drama and comedy).
A good title would be “Somewhere between Heaven & Hell.”
I already have it. It’s a sweet little cobblestone alley, full of fruit trees
and lilac bushes and a row of Dickensian Lawrenceville row houses.
Easy. I'd teach women how to run for office.
Rather than waste time with entrees, all I’d want is a superbly made,
hot right out of the oven, chocolate mousse.
My old-fashioned, strict, no-nonsense Italian father would take my
sister and me to Disney movies and McDonald’s every Saturday.
Gloria Forouzan
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I think of leadership as inspiring others to imagine their best selves, and the best of
other people, and then working together to achieve that vision collectively. In practice,
leadership requires being the one who is always setting the example. Whether it is
delivering projects on deadline, always showing up on time, or continuing to push
yourself to work harder. You have to hold yourself to the highest standard if you are
to expect the same of others.
When I was growing up our local paper, The Miami Herald, had a student Op-Ed section
once a week called “Student Speak Out.” This space provided young people with the
opportunity to share their opinions about a variety of topics. In sixth grade, when I
was about 11 years old, I wrote one of the Op-Ed pieces featured in this section. In my
piece, I identified and offered solutions for some of the challenges that I saw in the public
schools I had attended in Miami. When I was considering writing the article, the editor
of the “Student Speak Out” section had encouraged me to voice my opinions, but had
also warned me that there might be some people who would be angry or upset about
the piece. Little did I know what I was in store for! The article ran on a school day
morning and by the time I arrived at school it seemed the entire building had irrupted in
chaos. There were several teachers who were incredibly upset, many of which confronted
me about the article and chastised me for writing it. By the time I arrived back at home
I was exhausted, had clearly been crying, and was pretty much ready never to take a
stand again. When I shared the stories of my day, my mother was outraged. She spent
the next morning at school in meetings with my teachers, meetings she insisted that I
attend with her. In these meetings she very calmly and clearly explained to my teachers
that while they certainly had the right to disagree with what I had to say, they could not
disagree with my right to say it. Watching my mother stand up for me in that way
helped me to learn two critical lessons that I believe have been essential to my life going
forward. First, this experience made me realize that my mother believed that my voice
and opinions were valid and powerful and was something that I had the right to express,
no matter how young I might be. Second, seeing my mother stand up for me helped to
reinforce the kind of powerful support that would be standing behind me no matter what.
For the first 18 years of my life, my mother was a dental hygienist. As I prepared to leave
for college, it was beginning to become clear that the physical wear and tear from the
job – carpel tunnel syndrome in her hands and strain in her neck – were taking their
toll. For several years, my mother, who demonstrated such fearlessness when it came
to coaching me on making decisions, had toyed with the idea of pursuing a Masters
Degree and making a career switch. As a single mother, however, she said she was too
afraid of the professional and financial ramifications to take the leap. Over the course
of several months, however, I took on a new role – one of coaching her to demonstrate
the same fearlessness in her own decisions that she had always inspired in mine.
Finally, as a result of my coaching and encouragement, she enrolled in a Masters
program, graduated with a 4.0 GPA, and left her job as a dental hygienist. At 50, she
made a complete career change and moved into a role as a technology integrator for a
private school system in my hometown. The moment when I was able to take the
lessons that I had learned from so many years of her encouragement and support and
provide that same opportunity for my mother was a moment of which I am incredibly
proud. It was an opportunity to truly give back to an incredibly strong woman who
worked so hard to ensure that I had the support and encouragement that I needed to
pursue my dreams. I am also now pleased and proud to report that just a few months
ago, my mother enrolled in a Ph.D. program with an anticipated graduation date of June
2009. I am excited to watch her next adventures and achievements!
Freedom of expression is a cause that I hold very dear to my heart. I believe that an
individual’s right to express his/her beliefs is essential to a socially just society.
I can not pinpoint a specific time in which my personal priorities and responsibilities
conflicted with my role as a leader. However, what I do feel more frequently, as I think
many women leaders do, is the challenge of continuously working at balancing. I have
found this to be particularly challenging because I feel so passionate about both my
work and my relationships. In terms of handling this challenge, what I have learned is
that at any given time there will be an aspect of my life that is neglected. In their turn,
friends, family, work, volunteer responsibilities, and “me time,” will have their moment
of neglect. However, the trick that I have found is making sure that each aspect is strong
enough to endure a small bit of neglect and that the period of neglect does not carry on
for too long. I think about it in the same way as tending a garden. A garden can endure
a period of drought as long as the plants are of sufficient size, the drought it is not too
lengthy, and it is followed by a hearty rain.
The strong women in my life—my mother and grandmother, my very best friend, and
the women with whom I work—are a daily source of strength and learning for me. The
knowledge that I have a safety net of unconditional love and support provides me with
the freedom to be daring and bold without a fear of failure. I also rely very heavily on
the mantra, “At the end of the day, what’s the worst case scenario.” If I believe that I’ll
be able to sleep at night given even the worst case scenario, I feel the freedom to move
forward boldly.
I believe that the honest sharing of stories and experiences can be an incredibly powerful
and empowering thing for women. By honestly sharing with one another both the
triumphs and tragedies of our experiences, we create the space in which we can learn
from one another and can provide comfort to one another in the face of great challenges.
There is a quote that I keep on my desk that says, “Courage doesn’t always roar.
Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says ‘I'll try again
tomorrow.’” It’s by an American author and artist named Mary Anne Radmacher. I’ll
look at this quote when I’ve come to the end of a day that has been filled with seemingly
endless defeats and it makes me realize that when things get really challenging,
sometimes success is just about standing up, dusting myself off, and trying again.
I believe that continuing to try, looking for new and innovative solutions in the face of
seeming failure and defeat, is an essential task for leaders.
* Go Skydiving
* Write a novel
* Run for president
I would choose Madeleine Albright. I would ask her about the process that she used
during her time as Secretary of State to make decisions. Given so many competing
interests, so many equally pressing concerns, I would love to know how she navigated
coming to what she believed was the best solution.
Art history is one of my great passions and pleasures. If I could only visit one place
where I have never been, I would visit the Hermitage in St. Petersburg, Russia. The
museum houses one of the finest and most diverse artistic collections in the world.
I think I could spend years just taking it all in.
Outside of my professional life, I serve as a post-graduate residential advisor to first-year
students at Harvard University. I live in a dorm, take my meals in the dining hall, and
provide academic, social, and general life guidance to a group of 28 freshmen who will
tell you themselves that they are long on intellect and short on common sense. Needless
to say, this is a position that requires humor in abundance. Whether it is shutting down
the 2 a.m. Broadway show tunes sing-a-long party or requesting that students not use
the stairwell to test the speed of a falling chair, most situations are best approached with
wit and humor to lighten the mood. Frequently, when we are presented with the more
humorous elements of a situation, things that were once stressful become less
overwhelming. Laughter clears our minds, connects us with those around us, and
encourages a spirit of collaboration and shared growth.
My relationships with the people in it. I believe that at the end of the day, relationships
are absolutely the most important thing and work to prioritize meaningful relationships
in both my personal and professional life.
Lindsay Hyde
Executive Director
Strong Women, Strong Girls, Inc.
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Being able to influence others to behave and follow your vision in order
to get to your desired results.
I was co-valedictorian of my high school graduation class, along with
two boys. I decided that my commencement speech would be about
how women can achieve anything, in any career, that they put their
minds to. It doesn't sound like a big deal today, but in the mid-70s,
in a small town, it was quite an empowering speech to give.
Being the mother of two beautiful children (while having a successful
career).
Women's issues, especially those that involve underprivileged women.
Many, many times in my career, I have had to forego family functions,
seeing friends, and most recently, miss my children's events. Although
I was disappointed, I realized that sometimes, these things happen.
I tried not to dwell on them and get too upset. I don't think that the
conflicts arose because I am a woman in a leadership role. I just think
that the expectations of anyone, man or woman, in my position, are
high. I have a supportive husband who understands that these conflicts
arise. I couldn't have advanced without the support and understanding
he has given me over the years.
My children, my husband, my friends, and my wonderful colleagues.
I think we need to understand the many priorities we have in our lives,
whether or not we are married, in relationships or, are single, have
children or don't. Women need to mentor each other and help each
other navigate through different career situations and offer advice and
guidance.
Understand that there are sacrifices, some personal and some
professional. Keep your eye on your goals and keep working toward
them. If you have a setback, dust yourself off and keep moving
forward. Be patient. You have to earn respect and advancement.
It isn't just handed to you.
A sitcom. I juggle so many priorities at work and at home, that
sometimes, I just have to laugh! It would probably be called "When
Does She Sleep?"
I know some women who have families who try to keep their personal
lives and their professional lives very separate. I am so proud of my
family, that I don't do that. Whenever it is appropriate, I make sure that
I openly talk about being a mother, a wife, and a leader in my career. It
all shapes who I am and what kind of leader I am.
A view of the Aegean Sea, the same view I have from my family home
in Greece.
I think you should take a risk when your values or beliefs are being
challenged. You should also take risks when the rewards far outweigh
what would happen if you fail. I don't believe in taking risks that harm
others--either personally or professionally.
1. I know they aren't "material" possessions, but I love my children
and my husband so much that I will put them first on the list! 2. All of
my photos and the photos I inherited from my parents. These chronicle
my life and my family's history. 3. My family home and property in
Greece. It preserves my heritage and is a way for me to connect with
that heritage.
Barbara Stefanis-Israel
Senior Vice President, Director of Marketing
MARC USA
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Inspiring people to do things they may not think they can.
As a girl, I had the typical love/hate relationship with my little brother. I would
never have admitted it at the time, but I adored him. A neighborhood boy, a year
older than me, decided that picking on him would be his new hobby. I sought
counsel and received varying advice from “Kick him in the @##$%." to “Ignore
him and he'll stop.” Just as the neighbor kid was about to display his bullying
ways one afternoon, I stepped in and asked him a series of questions: Why was
he doing it? What did he hope to accomplish? How would it make him feel if I
did this to someone close to him? I remember being so scared to summon up
the courage to speak up. I don't think anybody had ever confronted him before.
He realized that, as a manly 10 year-old, picking on a kindergartner was “kinda
lame.” I try to remember that speaking up--and for--others can be a pretty
powerful tool.
Starting our advertising agency. I can't think of anything that's as
simultaneously scary and joyful as starting a company.
My children. I'd do anything for them.
At one point in my life, my role as a leader required a lot of travel. I channeled
all those out-of-town moments of missing my kids into shoe shopping. And
while I amassed quite an impressive Imelda-Marcos-like collection, it wasn't
making any of us happy. Then something really tragic happened in a project I
was working on. A woman I'd come to admire lost her battle with breast cancer,
leaving two kids without their wonderful, amazing mom. It struck me that I could
potentially be an amazing person to my own kids. So I changed jobs, paths and
priorities. And yes, shoes. Taking control was an incredibly powerful thing.
My kids, Zoe and Max. I admire and respect them both. And every day,
I try to make them proud in the ideas I create, in the way I run our
business, in the decisions I make. Like everything else, I guess, some
days are more successful than others.
Empathy. A little understanding goes a long way.
Be yourself.
Write a book, competitive ice dancing, and karaoke.
I cannot name a situation where humor DIDN'T help me through.
Laughter is my everyday companion. That, of course, along with
breathing and coffee.
None of the above. In my line of work, it'd be made into a series of
30-second commercials. The only saving grace is that they could be
easily skipped over with TiVo.
The one I have. Even with all its imperfections, I’m constantly reminded
that if you take joy in the little things, you'll never run out of joy.
Being a foodie, I could list menu items on and on. But as long as I
was surrounded by friends and family, it wouldn't really matter.
Kris Knieriem
President
Blender, Inc.
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In third grade, I was able to mobilize a few classmates to stand up
for a kid who was being treated unfairly by other classmates.
Being the first African American valedictorian of my high school class
and my graduation from law school.
Equal rights for minorities and women.
I chaired a board that required travel and more time than I had originally
anticipated. I was the first African American to chair this committee and
was the youngest person on the board. I think that at times there may
have been conflicts because of my age and gender. By being prepared,
I was able to earn the respect and trust of my fellow board members.
God, my husband, and mother are my sources of strength.
Successful women should always be reaching back to help other
women achieve. This requires mentoring others so that you are
helping to shape the next generations of leaders for this country.
Work hard, know your craft, and believe in yourself even when others
doubt you.
I would like to work in the theatre, write a book, and paint.
I would like to talk with Harriet Tubman. I would ask her how she
was able to do what she did at a time when her very actions could
result in her death.
I would support literacy programs for African American youth. It
is crucial that African American children understand the importance
and value of an education at a time when so many other things
(often negative) are competing for their attention.
My family gives me the most meaning in my life.
My favorite childhood memory is seeing my first Broadway play.
Rosa Copeland Miller
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How do
you think
women in leadership
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My definition of leadership is one that is fearless, honest, humble,
unselfish, responsible, accountable, trustworthy, understanding,
dependable, helpful, and merciful.
Believe it or not, at the age of three, I remember a group of children
approaching and threatening me to play with them as I sat on a step.
I did not want to and told them so. They vowed to never play with me
again in life if I did not play with them. I stood up and told them, I
didn't care. They left and I sat back down and, in solitude, I comfortably
enjoyed playing by myself. This was my first known sign that I was not
a follower.
To have had the opportunity to have two children makes me the
most proud. To bring forth human life into the world is a physical
accomplishment only held by women and only matched by Allah
(God) himself.
I'm willing to sacrifice for the cause of freedom, justice, and equality for
my people and our youth. I am also willing to sacrifice for the cause of
ridding our communities of increasing diseases and senseless killings.
Being looked upon as a leader demands much of my time. Family
responsibilities tend to fall short. To better handle all my responsibilities,
I use a planner and prioritize my tasks. I set aside one day a week for
family recreation. I also tell my family often that I love them. I found that
conflict arises because, as a woman in leadership, additional tasks are
added to my plate but the regular ones are not removed. In other words,
I'm still expected (and I accept) to fulfill the duties of a wife and mother.
Yes, I must become that Super Woman.
My strength comes from Allah (God), my family, and my brothers and
sisters of faith.
Interaction is key. When leadership supports others, others support
leadership. Leadership should not have a big “I” and little “you” attitude.
Instead leaders must share wisdom and knowledge to uplift a person
and be open to others' needs and wants.
My advice is to learn to be a good giver, listener, and follower, first.
This will make you humble, caring, and understanding. The role is
not something you ask for. Sometimes it just happens through proper
righteous growth. Remember a leader is based on how someone
sees you. Not on how you see yourself.
If given one million dollars, I would invest in a center in the black
community which would focus on manhood and womanhood training,
becoming entrepreneurs, and developing support groups for AIDS
victims.
For me, risks that are analyzed on paper are worth taking. Gut feelings
are not (it could be indigestion).
My view would be of an ocean with the sun rising and setting.
How peaceful and calm.
A man was outside being beaten by a couple of men with baseball
bats. He screamed dearly for help. I opened my door and his bloody
body fell in, while the other men ran off. I called for an ambulance.
Though some mocked me for opening my door, I know my actions
saved his life. I'm proud I did.
The elated joy I felt when at the age of seven, I won the last, beautiful,
red, three-ring binder notebook. Out of all the prizes, this is the one
I wanted the most. I closed my eyes, made a wish, and they called
my name.
Stacey M. Muhammad
Women's Trainer
Muhammad Mosque No. 22
V I E W
what would it be?
RISKS
Which
are worth taking
and which are not?
childhood
MEMORY?
Think of a time when you felt
empowered
as a citizen or community member?
What happened? What did you do? What made
this possible? How do you feel about it now?
CCollaborate

leadership?
empowered
defining moment
EVENT
SACRIFICE?
most PROUD of?
sources of strength
Ofwhat
How do
you think
women in leadership
Doing what's right. Setting an example for others to follow. Being
consistent with your words and actions. Following through with
your commitments.
When I was a senior in high school, a number of top students were accused
of cheating in order to win in a contest that was very important to our school.
Most of the other students felt comfortable with "the ends justify the means"
approach to the situation. I did not. I eventually convinced my colleagues that
winning was not as important as maintaining integrity and playing within the
rules. I was a most unpopular figure for a time because I insisted on turning my
own friends in to the authorities. After some time, some of my fellow students
came around and agreed with me and the stance I took, but many never did.
It certainly was a defining moment for me to realize that doing "the right thing"
was not always the popular thing, but that doing the right thing was the only
acceptable way to go.
Starting my own business and keeping it going for 15 years.
Family, justice, fairness.
Typically, any feeling of being challenged or conflicted comes from my tendency
to over commit and letting myself be spread too thin. I've often let myself get
run down and put my health at risk by my failure to say "no" when I should.
I'm getting better at that as I get older. Although I think women tend to get
themselves in that position more often than men, I don't think it's a function
of being a woman. The only time I can think of that I thought my leadership
was being challenged directly was when I was a new administrator of a
hospital. A few of the department heads (all older males) thought they'd take
me on. I set the record straight by firing one of the ring leaders and the rest
fell right into place!
Faith, friends, my husband.
Friendships are key, especially friendships with other women who are dealing
with similar stresses and challenges. I never had much in the way of mentoring
in my career. I'm trying to mentor the younger women I work with and to give
them opportunities to take on responsibility whenever I can.
Be good at what you do. If you're good and you don't let people intimidate you,
you will gain their respect. Don't walk around with a chip on your shoulder
because you're a woman. I believe there is a glass ceiling in certain situations
but I also think women sometimes use that concept as an excuse for why they
have not been successful, when the truth is they haven't really developed the
skills or taken on the challenges that lead to success.
I use humor in almost every situation. It invariably defuses tension.
I have never found this difficult. Maybe because I'm as big as most
men (5' 9”), or that I played a lot of sports growing up, or that I had
four brothers, but I always felt respected as a woman and equal to any
man I worked with. Very few times have I felt that a man tried to
challenge my authority because I am a woman. I guess I don't give
them the chance to do that. I'm confident with myself and if someone
gives me grief I give it right back. I try to do it with humor, but if that
doesn't work, I have no trouble taking off the gloves.
The Grand Canyon
My cabin in the woods. It’s a place of beauty which my husband and
I worked hard to make welcoming for all our friends. My car, because I
love the feeling of independence it gives. The letters written to me over
the years from family and friends. They remind me of those I love and
why I love them.
Being a Catholic and struggling to encounter all experiences within the
construct of my faith.
Anne Mullaney
Partner/Attorney
Thorp Reed & Armstrong
HUMOR
has helped you
make it through?
V I E W
what would it be?
What gives the most
MEANING
to your life?
what would they be?
I'm president of a neighborhood community group. As such, we have
pretty good access to the "powers that be" in local and state government.
As a group, we've been able to get a fair amount of money for projects
we felt were important to the city and/or our individual businesses. It
affirmed that if you unite with people and push your agenda, you have
a much better chance of prevailing than going it alone.
Christmas season with my siblings and parents.
Being diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor. Nothing makes you
focus and/or helps clarify your values and beliefs more than that! I
look at my diagnosis as a gift. We're all going to die eventually.
Facing that reality as starkly as I did made me more committed to
the things I hold to be important and made me less tolerant of wasted
time and opportunity.
childhood
MEMORY?
Think of a time when you felt
empowered
as a citizen or community member?
What happened? What did you do? What made
this possible? How do you feel about it now?
Name a time when your values
were tested and you were able to
manage the situation and preserve your beliefs?
H O W ?

leadership?
empowered
defining moment
EVENT
SACRIFICE?
most PROUD of?
sources of strength
Ofwhat
How do
you think
women in leadership
Leadership to me is having the ability to empower others by providing
a clear sense of direction. I have always loved the statement that you
can't lead where you would not go and you can't very well teach the
things you do not know. Lead by example.
I can remember a group of girls picking on a "not so popular" girl in
elementary school. It was a constant effort on their part and they were
trying to get me to join in with them. I felt so bad for the girl that I ended
up not joining the others and actually becoming very good friends with
this girl (and remain so today). At that moment, I knew that I did not
want to be a follower. I wanted to make sure that I always would try to
stick to my own convictions. As simple as that sounds, that moment
has stuck with me all these years and so has my friend.
Becoming a mom and raising two great kids.
I think I would be willing to sacrifice for any cause that I strongly
believe in.
Events in my kid’s lives at times have conflicted with my work schedule.
If I was not able to attend something for my kids, I always tried to
"delegate" that and make sure that someone was there, always
reminding them to take pictures so that I can still enjoy and share in
those experiences. I think any mom would have conflicts and feelings
of guilt, but we need to try to keep a balance and not beat ourselves up.
(Easier said than done!)
Of course my faith and my family. They are there in both good and bad
times and have seen me at my best and worst and still stick with me!
I try to celebrate their achievements no matter how small, constantly
reminding them of their strengths and that they have the ability to be
successful. There is power in positive thinking!
Know yourself. Also, realize that what you do and say can have an
impact on others. Most of all, surround yourself with good people.
I would go to Italy. My entire life I have listened to stories of
relatives over there and the towns. I would love to visualize that.
Pizza and Diet Coke (simple but true)
A sandy beach overlooking the ocean
I try to remain true to myself and my beliefs but at the same time
realizing that I, as a leader, have an impact on others. I also try to
balance all parts of my life: my job, my family, my community
involvement, and ultimately myself, while at the same time trying to
make major contributions to each one of them. (Sometimes "myself"
gets left out!)
My relationships with my family and friends.
Lisa Neil
President
Southwest Training Services, Inc.
V I E W
what would it be?
What gives the most
MEANING
to your life?
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leadership?
empowered
defining moment
EVENT
SACRIFICE?
most PROUD of?
sources of strength
Ofwhat
How do
you think
women in leadership
million dollars
1
Leadership is the ability that one has for enabling a group to engage
collectively in the process of developing, sharing, and implementing a vision.
It is imperative that a leader has a group of people to lead. A pastor of mine
once said, “A leader without any followers is a man going for a walk.” There
is a lot of truth in that little statement. A leader’s character and integrity should
also play a vital role in the definition of leadership. The integrity of a leader
creates trust. Building trust is necessary for plans to be implemented over a
period and for the group to have faith in the direction your vision is going.
In middle school, I was invited to attend a leadership camp on the campus of
Wright State University, Dayton, Ohio. During the course of the summer, one
of my peers was accused of breaking the rules and was discharged from the
program. Their decision to have her leave was not based on any evidence or
facts, just the word of a scared girl who told a lie. I was so disturbed by the
situation that I decided to leave the program, without informing my parents of
my decision. The day I was moving out happened to be the day the program's
sponsors came for a tour to see their money in action. One of the sponsors had
asked me why I was leaving the program, and I took the time to explain that it
was by choice and why. Upon further review of the situation, the facts, and a
confession from the girl who lied, my friend was invited to return to the program.
I was also asked to stay.
At this point in my life, the achievement I am most proud of is graduating from
college in the time I allotted for myself. I entered Fisk University, in Nashville,
Tennessee, as a young girl with a vague sense of who I was. Over the course
of four years, I met so many unique and wonderful people who blessed my life
with the opportunity of getting to know them. I was also afforded numerous
leadership opportunities that enabled to grow as a person. I was able to focus
my talents and truly know and understand who I was as a person, and the role
I play as a child of God first, a woman, African, African American, daughter,
sister, significant other, leader, and a follower. My college years at Fisk were
priceless, and obtaining a degree from such a prestigious institution of higher
education was one of the happiest and most fulfilling days of my life.
Education. Education is the solution to a wide array of problems facing our
society today. Knowledge of the mind is a tool that no man can take from
another. With education, each one of us is the master of our destiny. I would
be willing to sacrifice for the education of our youth.
As senior class president at Fisk University, I had many responsibilities to the
graduating student body. But as a graduating senior, majoring in biology, I had
an obligation to dedicate an appropriate amount of time to studying and to my
projects. The load as class president quickly became too heavy and I had to
make some adjustments. I rectified the situation by allocating some of the
responsibilities to my vice president and other officers on the senior executive
board.
My number one source of strength is my God, my Lord and Savior. I know all
things are possible through Him, and He will always be there to guide me in all
that I do. My loving mother and father are also a major source of strength in my
life. They have instilled in me priceless values that have carried me a long way,
and they continue to support me in all the decisions I make. Without their love,
support, and discipline, I wouldn't be the woman I am today.
As women in leadership, we must continue to encourage ourselves and others
whenever it is needed. One would be surprised how far an encouraging word
can carry others.
First and foremost, love and respect yourself. If you do not respect yourself,
how can you expect others to? Knowing who you are and your values is a
great foundation for any vision and project you take. Please stand strong in
your beliefs, but also be open to other people's opinions. You must keep an
open mind, but be firm in all your decisions. And remember that the only thing
that can limit your success is the limit you place on it.
1) Become the first woman president of Nigeria, my home country.
2) Build a hospital in an urban setting.
3) Advocate for universal health care.
I would visit Japan. I am extremely fascinated by the samurai, the military
nobility in pre-industrial Japan. Their dedication and sacrifice for the things
they believe in can be implemented in our day-to-day lives. The education of
a samurai was extensive and diverse. They had seven virtues associated with
their code of conduct: rectitude, courage, benevolence, respect, honesty, honor
and glory, and loyalty.
United Negro College Fund, because a mind is a terrible thing to waste. The
United Negro College Fund provides scholarships for African American youths
who want to attend college, but just cannot afford the rising cost of a secondary
education.
Chocolate, chocolate, and more chocolate. There would also be a plethora
of seafood. Fine wines and decedent desserts that would have all my guests
waiting for my next birthday.
Contentment. With contentment, everything else will fall in place. You will
definitely be happy, because you are satisfied with where you are. You will
be successful by your standards, because those are the only standards that
count. You will be in a position to share what you have with others.
Lola Oluyitan
Post Baccalaureate in Medicine/Masters in Health Management Systems
Duquesne University
What gives the most
MEANING
to your life?
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