Mr. Waxman, the lawyer of Lori Handrahan's ex-husband, has systematically threatened to sue, prosecute, or investigate Lori, her daughter's caregivers, doctors, lawyers, and anyone else involved in her life. As a result, Lori has lost reliable childcare and her daughter's doctor, costing her employment. She has also incurred over $200,000 in legal fees and been isolated. Lori believes Mr. Waxman's actions constitute legal stalking under Maine law, as he has engaged in a course of conduct directed at her and others that would cause serious emotional distress or inconvenience to a reasonable person. She is requesting the District Attorney investigate Mr. Wax

1. October 28, 2009
Stephanie Anderson
Cumberland County District Attorney
Dear District Attorney Anderson:
Under the guise of “aggressive lawyering” and “co-parenting rights” for his client, my former
husband, Igor Malenko, Mr. Michael Waxman, I believe, is guilty of stalking under Maine Law
Title 17-A: MAINE CRIMINAL CODE Part 2: SUBSTANTIVE OFFENSES Chapter 9:
OFFENSES AGAINST THE PERSON §210-A. Stalking.
1.A person is guilty of stalking if: A. The actor intentionally or knowingly engages in a course of
conduct directed at or concerning a specific person that would cause a reasonable person: (1)
To suffer serious inconvenience or emotional distress;
In addition to going after me, Mr. Waxman has systematically threatened to sue, prosecute
and/or bring investigations against:
• my daughter’s caregivers
• day-care provider
• medical doctor
• all but one of my lawyers, or would be lawyers,
• friends
• mandatory reporter to DHHS
As a result of Mr. Waxman’s threats:
• My daughter has lost her day-care, which we loved and where she was (and would still
be) for over a year. Please see attached. This had an immediate impact on my
employment. As a single mother high quality, reliable day-care is essential. As we were
removed from the daycare on a moment’s notice my employment suffered.
• My daughter lost her medical doctor, who was also a neighbor, close friend and child-
care provider. Maine Medical Legal Department told Dr. Trevor Braden, after Mr.
Waxman’s series of threatening letters that it would be better if Dr. Braden not be Mila’s
doctor.
• Threatened Ken Altshuler, my lawyer, with prosecution. Called Jamie Wagner’s home
and emailed so many times that Jamie Wagner, an old family friend and would-be
lawyer, decided it would be better not to take me on as a client. See attached emails.
• Threatened Bill Harwood, my current lawyer, representing me pro bono from Verrill
Dana, with Section 11 unless Mr. Harwood recants his statement in a motion that I need

2. to move to my home in Down east Maine (from S. Portland) just get away from Mr.
Waxman’s systematic threats and harassment of anyone who has anything to do with me
or my daughter.
• Had a private detective call my real estate agent and had a private detective track down
the work place of a woman who is staying at my South Portland home, and twice
aggressively questions her at her work place, in front of her colleagues demanding to
know where I was because “they couldn’t find me” and demanding to know who she was
and what she was doing in my home.
• There is a second private detective trailing me in Sorrento Maine. I have no proof but I
and my neighbors have seen an unknown car often around my residence, taking pictures
of me and my daughter. As of yet I have been unable to get the plates. I have an email
from my former husband to Mr. Waxman, imploring him to get Beth Engle, the PI in
Portland, up to Sorrento or get someone else up there to take pictures of me and monitor
me. Please see attached email.
• Threatened Director of the AG’s SAFE program, Polly Campbell, whom my child
disclosed sexual abuse to, and who made a report to DHHS about this disclosure,
multiple times. Please see attached emails.
• Called Rep. Terry Morrison, who sponsored the legislation I wrote to attempt to change
Maine custody law when domestic violence is a factor, with a clear attempt to intimidate.
• There is a “knock-on” effect where other friends and care-givers having witnessed Mr.
Waxman’s threats of others, asked me not to bring my daughter to their home and told
me they would no longer be coming to my home for play dates. The chilling effect has
been isolation for me and my daughter.
Mr. Waxman is using the law to stalk and threaten me and those who come in contact with me.
He has represented my former husband pro-bono for over a year and half. During this time he
has filed so many motions, my lawyers have lost count. Additionally, he has threatened me with
contempt of court and to have my child removed from my custody countless times.
There is a clear intent of using litigation to cause me and my child’s financial destruction which
has been very successful. I have spent over $200,000 on legal bills and only now, as I am close
to bankruptcy, have a lawyer representing me pro bono. This lawyer has already called Mr.
Waxman’s’ behavior “an abuse of process” and “scorched earth litigation.” It is, in fact, legal
stalking and the damage has been very real.
2. A. "Course of conduct" means 2 or more acts, including but not limited to acts in which the
actor, by any action, method, device or means, directly or indirectly follows, monitors, tracks,
observes, surveils, threatens, harasses or communicates to or about a person or interferes with a
person’s property. "Course of conduct" also includes, but is not limited to, threats implied by
conduct and gaining unauthorized access to personal, medical, financial or other identifying or
confidential information. [2007, c. 685, §1 (AMD).]

3. There have certainly been far more than two threats not only to me (every motion Mr. Waxman
files he threatens to have my child removed from my care my former husband as well threatens
in many emails to have the judge “strip me of my parental rights”) but threats to nearly anyone
publically involved in my life, as documented above. I am also being watched on a regular basis.
D. "Emotional distress" means mental or emotional suffering of the person being stalked as
evidenced by anxiety, fear, torment or apprehension that may or may not result in a physical
manifestation of emotional distress or a mental health diagnosis. [2007, c. 685, §1 (NEW).]
The emotional distress is enormous. To constantly be threatened with taking my child away from
me, to be under surveillance, and to know that anyone who gets involved in my life is subject to
threats of lawsuits has caused tremendous emotional distress. The financial destruction has been
extremely distressing.
I am in constant fear that my daughter will be asked to leave her new Montessori pre-school that
she and I love and where she is thriving, once Mr. Waxman begins to threaten and harass. I don’t
dare to ask anyone to babysit for my daughter for even a few hours, without fear that Mr.
Waxman will harass them, demand to know their “child-care credentials” etc.
I cannot make any normal and routine life choices, like doctors, schools, friends, care-givers, and
lawyers, without fear that Mr. Waxman will begin to harass and threaten them and they will
eventually disengage from my life in an effort to remove themselves as a target.
E. "Serious inconvenience" means that a person significantly modifies that person's actions or
routines in an attempt to avoid the actor or because of the actor’s course of conduct. "Serious
inconvenience" includes, but is not limited to, changing a phone number, changing an electronic
mail address, moving from an established residence, changing daily routines, changing routes to
and from work, changing employment or work schedule or losing time from work or a job.
[2007, c. 685, §1 (NEW).] [ 2007, c. 685, §1 (AMD) .]
In an effort to resume a normal life, I hope to remain in Downeast Maine where I have a home. It
is not my choice to be here but rather a safe harbor from Mr. Waxman’s systematic stalking of
me on behalf of his client. Mr. Waxman’s stalking is a direct cause of my desire to remain in
Downeast Maine. Mr. Waxman’s staking has caused me lost time from work, when I lost child
care, and this in part, losing my job.
The Overseers of the Bar counsel has recommend Mr. Waxman for sanctions in violations of Bar
rules. The Bar, in the end, may stop Mr. Waxman; however a hearing would not occur for
another 5-6 months. In the meantime, the chilling effect that Mr. Waxman’s stalking is having on
my life and my daughter’s life continues.
Sincerely,
Lori Handrahan

4. 207-221-7706