The document discusses problems and solutions. It argues that problems are often a result of outdated paradigms or ways of thinking. It encourages identifying one's paradigms and assessing if they are still accurate. A paradigm shift involves adopting a principle-centered, character-based approach and focusing on internal change before external situations. The new paradigm sees problems as opportunities for growth through developing one's character. The next session will provide an overview of The 7 Habits, which can guide the process of paradigm shifting.

1. The 7 Habits of Highly
Effective People
Powerful Lessons in Personal
Change

2. Session 1:
Problems and Solutions

3. I had a problem, a big one
 I had a well paid job. My boss is
really nice. I saw a bright career path
in front of me.
 I lived out of my own country and far
from my family.
 I failed multiple times in
relationships. I felt lonely after I went
home. I wanted to have my own
family.
 I am not happy!

4. In fact, everybody had one
 I am having tremendous professional
success, but it’s cost me personal and
family life.
 I know I’m overweight. I tried all the ways
without success.
 My employees are always waiting for me to
give them orders. I am tired of that.
 I am too busy. I feel pressured and hassled
all day, every day, seven days a week.
 My kid won’t listen to me anymore
 There is no love in my marriage. We don’t
feel it anymore.

5. What’s the biggest problem
you are facing?
 At work
 In family
 Relationship
 Health
 Time
 Meaning of life
 Death

6. What to do with the problem?
 Put it aside, try not to think
about it
 Worry about it
 Talk about it
Work on it!

7. Deal with the problem
 Acknowledge the problem
 A problem cannot be solved if we
pretend that it doesn’t exist
 A real problem cannot be hidden
 A real problem won’t go away
 Define the problem
 What’s bothering me most? Why?
 Write it down
 Solve the problem
How?

8. New Level of Thinking
“The significant
problems we face
cannot be solved at
the same level of
thinking we were at
when we created
them”
– Albert Einstein

9. The way we see the problem
is the problem
 It’s “out there”. It’s the problem of the
others.
 We look at the symptoms and ignore the
root cause
 We expect some magic techniques and
quick fixes. The real solution may be a long
process and require significant efforts
 Examples:
 Employees lack of loyalty
 Marriage without love
 Always busy, but little accomplished

10. How to see differently?

11. Paradigm - How do we “see”
things?
 The “lens” we all wear
 We all see things through our own “Paradigms”,
which are our own ways of thinking.
 We may not know the paradigm exists, like
contact lens. We think what we see is objective.
But it may not be.
 Two people can see the same thing, disagree
and yet both be right.
 Our unique experience creates the “lens”
 Family
 Education
 Environment
 Culture

12. Power of the Paradigm
 Paradigm is our map
 Reality, the way things are, where are we now.
 Value, the way things should be, where do we
want to be
 Paradigm determines
 Our attitudes
 Our behaviors
 Wrong map
 Try to find ways in
New York using a
map of Chicago.
 Working on
attitudes and
behaviors won’t
help.

13. What to do with our
Paradigms?
 Be aware of them
 Take responsibilities of them,
examine them, test them against
reality
 Listen to others, be open to their
perspectives
 Get the large picture

14. Paradigm shift - “See” things
differently
 Paradigm shift is powerful
 Fundamentally change our attitudes and
behaviors
 The only way for us to make
significant and quantum changes
 Science
 From Earth center to Sun center
 From bloodletting to gem theory
 Society
 From Kings to Democracy
 Life
 Life threaten crisis
 Step into a new role

15. Solve our problems
 What are the “maps” we are using?
 The way we “see” things
 The way we “handle” things
 Are the “maps” correct?
 Can they explain our current situation?
 Can we get to the destination using
them?
 Are we lost using the current map?
 Change the map

16. Thoughts about my own
problem
 My old paradigms
 There is only successful career path for me. I
rely on my boss to promote me in the company
ladder. To be successful in career, I have to live
in United States.
 My perfect partner will fall into my life from
heaven. We will fall in love immediately and be
happy ever after. I just need to wait.
 Love is sweet and all about happiness.
 As long as I have a family, every problem will be
resolved.
 My attitude and behaviors are solely based
on those paradigms.
 Are they correct?

17. What’s the “correct map”?
 Principles
 Real, unchanging,
unarguable and self-
evident as natural laws
 Universally applicable
among different
societies and religions
 Examples
 Only if you are trustworthy, you can earn
long term trust
 Principles determine the results
 “Correct map” are Principle-Centered

18. Principles, Practices and
Values
 Principles vs. Practices
 Guidelines vs. Activities
 Universal application vs.
Situation Specific
 Always true vs. Work in
some circumstances
 Principle empowers
people to create variety of
practices to deal with
different situations
 Principles vs. Value
 Objective territory vs. Map

19. How to change the “map”?
 Inside-out
 Start with yourself
 Paradigms
 Characters
 Motives
 Private victory precedes public victory
 Keep Promise to ourselves before to others
 Improve ourselves before improve the
relationships
 Work on our characters before work on
personalities
 Continuing renewal process

20. Inside-out examples
 To have a good marriage
 Generate positive energy
 Sidestep negative energy
 To have a pleasant, cooperative teenager
 More understanding
 Empathic
 Consistent
 Loving
 To have more freedom, more latitude in
your job
 Be more responsible
 More helpful
 More contributing
 To be trusted
 Be trustworthy

21. Put the “map” inside us,
permanently
 Characters
 Relatively permanent
 Distinguishing features
 Manifest when relates to
others and reacts to various
kinds of challenges
 Examples
 Courage
 Honesty
 Loyalty
 Characters determine our destiny
 Determine our actions and reactions
 Determine how people see us and treat us

22. Characters Ethic vs.
Personalities Ethic
 Characters Ethic
 The foundation of success
come from the Characters
like Integrity, Humility,
Courage…
 Personalities Ethic
 Human and Public
Relationship techniques
 Positive Mental Attitude
 Characters vs.
Personalities
 Inside-out vs. Outside-in
 Permanent vs.
Inconsistent
 Natural vs. Artificial

23. The New Paradigm
 The new level of thinking
 Principle-centered
 Character-based
 Inside-out

24. Principles of Growth
 Growth are sequential
 Multiple Stages
 The later stage is built
upon the previous one
 Each one is important.
None can be skipped
 Each one takes time
 Example: Learning to run
 Turn over, sit up, crawl, walk, run

25. The Paradigm Change
Process
 It’s a continuing
renewal process
 Learn the principles
 Build the characters
 Start with ourselves
 Emotional Development Level
 Listening to others requires Patience,
Openness, Desire to understand
 No quick fixes. No shortcut

26. Conclusion
Solution to your problem
Change the way you see the it

27. What’s next?
 We learned
 Our significant problems are the fruits of
our own paradigms, the “lens” we wear
and the “maps” we use
 Our problems can only be solved by
paradigm shifts.
 A correct paradigm is Principle-
Centered, Character-based, Inside-out
 Paradigm shift takes a continuing
renewal process
 What’s missing
 A actionable process to guide us in
making the paradigm shift

28. Next Session
Session 2
The Overview of The 7 Habits