The document discusses overcoming fear of taking action by becoming congruent within yourself. It suggests that incongruence, where your internal feelings don't match your outward actions, can be damaging to success. To develop congruence, clearly define your goals so you understand what you will gain and lose from pursuing them. Also take time to visualize your goal in a positive light so it becomes something you look forward to with certainty rather than fear. Developing congruence through clear goals and positive visualization can help you overcome inner conflicts and doubts to take scary but important actions.

1. Jump Without Fear

2. When I was younger I had this
girlfriend.

3. Often times we'd go out, but neither
of us really had a plan.

4. So we'd end up driving around, only to
end up at some cafe or restaurant.

5. Of course, just being together was
enough, but sometimes it felt pretty
silly.

6. "What do you want to do?"

7. "I dunno, what do you want to do?"

8. The first time I went bungee jumping I
was pretty terrified.

9. Leaning over the edge was pretty
scary.

10. The second time was a lot of fun, since
I knew what to expect.

11. I actually looked forward to doing
something that almost made me pass
out from fright earlier.

12. Whenever you want to do something
scary or important, it's natural to feel
inner conflict.

13. Even if you're really sure you want to
buy something, part of you wonders if
maybe you should wait until
something better comes along.

14. In economics, they call these
"opportunity costs."

15. If you do X, you CAN'T do Y.

16. One the deadliest things to have, both
from an internal perspective, and an
outward demonstration, is
incongruence.

17. If you are an athlete, and you're trying
to "fake somebody out" but you're not
good at it, it won't work.

18. It's clear to them you're only "faking"
left.

19. They can read you like a book.

20. If you're interacting socially, being
incongruent can be the kiss of death.

21. On the outside, you may appear to be
friendly, but you're sending out a
creepy vibe.

22. Studies have shown that incongruence
is the most devastating trait to have in
sales and social relationships.

23. Clearly, it's also a HUGE impediment to
any kind of success.

24. You'll never get out there and do what
needs to be done if you're conflicted
on the inside. Even when you DO take
action, it will be half-hearted at best.

25. How do you get congruent?

26. One way is to make sure your goals are
VERY clearly defined.

27. Know what you're getting. Know what
you're going to HAVE TO give up. Have
a pretty clear idea of what it will take
to get there.

28. The reason my second bungee
jumping trip was fun was that I KNEW
it was going to be fun.

29. I had experience that I wouldn't end
up as a splat on the pavement.

30. But you can also do this by taking
plenty of time to visualize your WELL
DEFINE GOAL.

31. The bigger and brighter it becomes, in
your mind, the more certainty and
inner congruence you'll develop.

32. Spend plenty of time DEFINING your
goal, and plenty of time CHARGING
your goal with your emotions.

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