This document discusses various views on human sexuality and sexual morality from a Christian perspective. It addresses topics like premarital sex, masturbation, pornography, and cohabitation. Three main views on premarital sex are outlined: the natural impulse view, which sees sex as a pleasurable physical act; the affection view, which believes sex should be guided by intimacy between partners; and the abstinence view, which prohibits sex outside of marriage. The document also discusses sexuality within marriage and debates topics like how far physical intimacy can go before marriage.

1. SEXUAL MORALITY
George

2. THE WORLD WE LIVE IN
 We lived in a sex-charged society
 Numerous suggested sexual acts on media
 Human sexuality has prominent place
 Human sexuality is gift from God
 Strong relationship between husband and wife and
children
 State steps in when church and family fails

3. CHANGE IN SOCIAL NORMS
 Incest
 Adultery
 Divorce
 Life long monogamous marriage
 Cohabitation
 Friends with benefits

4. SEXUAL REVOLUTION
 Penicillin & the pill
 Infection, Detection and Conception
 1930 Anglican church approve birth control
 1980 Aids
 Introduction of TV and Internet
 Feminism

5. FACTORS INFLUENCING US
 Secularism
 Privatisation
 Media Exposure
 Scientific Frankness
 Therapeutic Values

6. STATISTICS
 Link

7. 3 VIEWS ON PREMARITAL SEX
 Natural Impulse View
 Affection View
 Abstinence View

8. NATURAL IMPULSE VIEW
 Playboy View
 Sex is a natural impulse or instinct
 Contraceptives are easily available and reliable
 Sex is purely a pleasurable physical experience
 Just like good food and drink
 People should take pleasure without guilt

9. SUPPORT
 Sex is a natural impulse
 Rousseau argue society tainted man
 Return to natural is good
 Sexual repression is bad
 Mankind ought to maximise pleasure

10. OBJECTIONS
 Maximise pleasure is good?
 Return to nature is good?
 Reduced pleasure
 Possibility of pregnancy
 STD
 Casual or recreation sex lacks full meaning
 Deu 22:28-29, Prov 5, 7:25-27, 1Cor 5:9, 6:12-
20, Eph 5:3-5

11. AFFECTION VIEW
 Ethics of Intimacy
 Moderately positive towards marriage
 Sexual freedom is praised, guided by intimacy
 First be together, then marriage

12. SUPPORT
 Sexual intercourse,
 an expression of love and care
 Each partner retain his or her independence
 Right to intimacy created by compatibility
 Not covenant
 Sex is a private matter
 Sex can be no string attached
 No double standard in sex
 Sex demands maturity

13. OBJECTIONS
 Affection, love and imtimacy not strong
 To deal with impulse (walking lion)
 In passion of moment, anything is love
 Christian ethics place will not emotion
 At heart of human behaviour
 True intimacy is developed through
 persistence self sacrifice

14. MORE OBJECTIONS
 Sex act may over commit the couple
 Great sex not equal great marriage
 Premarital sex destroys something unique of
marriage

15. ABSTINENCE VIEW
 Most conservative view
 Either marriage, with complete faithfulness
 To your partner or else total abstinence
 Prohibition of sex outside marriage
 Will strengthen marriages.

16. SUPPORTS
 Bible
 Sex act involves whole person
 STD
 Pregnancies

17. OBJECTIONS
 Unwanted pregnancies
 Promises of lovers, private or public
 Late marriages – Education, housings, careers
 Failing view – teaching abstinence not successful

18. SEXUAL MORALITY WITHIN MARRIAGE
 Both OT and NT teach
 Procreative, monogamous marriage
 Sexuality is for more than reproduction
 It is for social and personal enrichment
 Song of Songs

19. EXTENDED TREATMENT IN NT
 1 Corinthians 7
 Sexual desire is a legitimate reason to marry
 Husband and wife have sexual duty
 Need mutual consent.
 Adultery is wrong in both OT and NT
 Marriage is commanded by God
 As a lifelong relationship.
 (So choose carefully)

20. LETS TALK ABOUT DATING
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21. HOW FAR CAN WE GO?
 Kissing?
 Hugging?
 Which base?
 Sex after marriage – a good line?
 Playing with fire.
 1 Cor 6:18

22. MASTURBATION
 Social scientists estimate up to 90% males
 Lower for female but majority do
 Survey show within happy marriage as well
 Christianity Today survey
 31% laypersons and 30% pastors OK
 32% laypersons and 35% pastors Wrong
 37% laypersons and 35% pastors Maybe

23. MODERN SCIENCE
 Does not cause insanity, sterility, birth defects ..
 May develop psychological disorder in extreme
case
 Some Christians are tolerant towards it.

24. CHRISTIAN VIEWS ON MASTURBATION
 It is always morally wrong.
 Always accompanied by lust.
 Often lead or followed by pornography
 Past view leads to insanity, sterility and ……
(Wrong)

25. HERBERT MILES
 Masturbation used sparingly
 Within limits, by teenage boys (Highly sexist)
 Until marriage is morally permissible.

26. ARGUMENT
 Practice is widespread, therefore need
 Sexual desire is strong in young boys.
 Girls not included.
 Must be sparing, not an obsession.
 Thank God for gift and fulfilling it later.
 Practice must ceased upon marriage.

27. OUR VIEW
 Bible never directly address this issue
 Application of biblical principles.
 Masturbation includes lust and
 Desire for another person (Not your wife)
 It is usually related to pornography
 It enslaving in nature!
 So should we encourage early marriage?

28. PORNOGRAPHY
 3 kinds
 Pictures – Playboy, Penthouse magazines
 Videos – Cat III, hard core video
 Literature – 50 Shades of Grey
 Only Literature is legal in Singapore
 Due to internet

29. BEFORE WE END IT, EXPLAIN IT
 Why is sex addictive?
 Dopamine, Oxytocin and Vasopressin
 Brain internal reward system
 Internal heroin
 Helps in bonding between husband and wife
 But clouds judgment when separating
 God created our body to bond
 With who we marry.

30. ETHICAL PROBLEM
 Widower with 2 young kids
 One autistic
 Met younger woman
 Woman don’t want to inherit kids
 Widower consider cohabitation
 What would you tell widower?
 Reject, Wait for marriage, Cohabitation