Dr. Barun Kumar provides advice for first-time sex. He notes that the first time is often painful for women due to anxiety causing pelvic muscle contraction. For men, unrealistic expectations from porn can lead to premature ejaculation and inability to penetrate. He advises both partners to relax, enjoy the experience without expectations, communicate about anxieties, and go slow to allow the woman's body to accommodate penetration gradually through gentle thrusting and partial retraction of the penis. The key is not to stress about results as practice improves the experience for both.

1. Dr. BARUN KUMAR
MBBS,
MS (general surgery)
MCh urology
Male sexual health specialist
Contact:
barunkumar_urology@outlook.com
Teleconsult @ LYBRATE app
Code: BK5A76
Can also Book appointment
through practo or curefit
app.

2. Doing sex for the first time ?

3. Too much in mind .
• Sex for the first time (losing the virginity) has
been the most hyped-up thing about sex,
thanks to the pop culture , movies and what
not !
• Most people fail than succeed .
• Lead to anxiety , worry , depression.

4. For women
• First time is almost always painful.
• Pain creates a mental trauma which make the
woman anxious leading to pelvic muscle
contraction, leading to more difficulty in
penetration.
• Women are anxious and often not well
lubricated leading to more pain in dry vagina.

5. For man
• Unrealistic expectations from sex due to
misinformation from porn, internet or friends.
• Often ends quickly due to excitation
• Anxiousness can lead to loss of erection.
• Unable to penetrate.
• Pain complained by partner makes him think that he is
doing something wrong.

6. What to do ? For both partners
• Relax
• Enjoy the experience
• Don’t harness unrealistic
expectations
• Talk with each other
• Discuss anxiety , fear, expectations.
• Support each other.
• GO SLOW. It is not a race.

7. For woman
• Need to relax
• Take deep breaths
• Divert your mind
• Bear through the initial pain.
It’s supposed to get better.
Use lubrication generously

8. For man
• Devote more time to foreplay.
• Start with gentle forward thrusts, allow the
vagina to accommodate small lengths at one
time.
• When pain is reduced, thrust further.
• When fully inside, allow the vagina to
accommodate the full length.

9. For man
• Don’t come out in a hurry. And don’t retract
the penis fully .
• Retract partially and move forward again , till
pain is reduced and your partner is
comfortable.
• Don’t be stressed if you ejaculate too quickly.

10. Take home message.
• Enjoy the experience
• Don’t stress on results
• One / neither may be able to achieve orgasm
in the first few times
• Practice makes both man and woman perfect.