1) Serving differs from helping in that helping establishes an inequality between the helper and helpee, whereas serving is a relationship of equals where both parties contribute. 2) When serving, people draw from their own experiences and limitations rather than using their own strength, avoiding making others feel diminished. 3) Serving sees life as holy rather than broken, and serves to collaborate with others rather than fix them. In serving, there is a sense of gratitude, mystery and connection rather than debt or distance.