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ROMANCE IN
MARRIAGE
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2. Introduction
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We all want to learn new things. Last week I
spoke to a couples seminar on the topic of
romance and there were many lessons I
learnt from them.
We all agreed that:
1 —We love our companion and family very
much;
2 — We love marriage and we want to make
it even better.
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Why should we then have a marriage
seminar?
There are four basic reasons why:
a. Most of us want to make our marriages
WORK. Nobody enters marriage expecting
it to fail, but they do.
b. All of us have to WORK on our
marriages. Even if you have been married
for a short while.
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c. Many marriages don’t WORK. They
start out never answering the question,
“Will you take this woman to be your
wedded wife with, I don’t know, will I?”
They are excited and say yes.
* The first phase of marriage is the
IDEAL.
* The second phase of the marriage
moves into the ORDEAL.
* The third phase of too many
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d. Many of us don’t know how to WORK on
our
marriages.
Too many of us had poor role models and
consequently we have not learned what
would make our marriages great.
THE KEY WORD IS WORK. We have to
ensure our marriages work. You and I have
great part to play.
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6. LETS DISCUSS ROMANCE
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Scripture text: Matthew 6:21
It's obvious, isn't it? The place where your
treasure is, is the place you will most want
to be, and end up being. (MSG)
1. Can we remember what we first said to
the
person we are now married to?
2. The beginning for most of us took
place at a
very romantic moment.
3. For most of us romance dominated the
first
part of our relationship.
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4. What is Romance? Is it:
a. A person smitten by love for another
person.
b. Love letters/sms/emails.
c. Walks in the parks, night, in the cold
or even rains.
d. Kisses. Remember those? Think.
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e. Phone calls any time without
complains.
f. Ridiculous attempts at poetry.
h. All those activities that lead up to the
wedding such as:
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i) Anticipation
ii) Advices that we received
iii) Problem with the flowers arriving on
time
and in the right condition.
iv) The friend of the bride that sung the
wedding song.
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v) Endless picture taking.
vi) Eternal receptions.
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5. It is those highly charged romantic
feelings that keeps things moving.
a. Remember at Jacob’s commitment to
Laban to work 7 years for Rachel’s hand.
i) But then he ends up with her
sister.
ii) That was one disappointed
patriarch.
b. It is romantic love that gets us to walk
down the aisle, to light the candle and
then to kiss/hug the bride.
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12. I. What is Romance?
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It is difficult to define what it is because it
is not a science or an art form.
A. ROMANCE IS COMPOSED OF
FANTASY, EMOTION, NON-RATIONAL
DELIGHTS ; SOMETHING DIFFERENT
FROM THE ORDINARY. IT IS A SPECIAL
TIME OR EVENT FOR TWO INDIVIDUALS.
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B. Romance often Includes:
1. The element of the unexpected.
Most
wives love this.
a. The routine of life takes up most of
our
time and energy but a romantic
surprise
breaks up the monotony.
b. It says, “I’m thinking about you.
You’re on
my mind. I want your day
to be different."
c. Bring home flowers for no special
occasion.
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d. Find a new restaurant.
e. Put a note in the kitchen cabinet that
says, “I Love You.”
f. Doing the same thing for 20 years
may
not be romantic.
g. Creating a new atmosphere in the
home.
h. Creativity is key- Do something
differently
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2. Keep dating.
a. Just the two of you.
b. Dating means selecting a specific
time
to be together and making
plans for the
event.
c. Don’t talk about work or children.
Rather talk about yourself.
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d. Make it a fun time.
e. Laugh and enjoy each other even if
you
are a little crazy.
h. This is key to successful dating.
Dating
should center on an activity
where you
can interact together.
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3. Since romance is often emotional and
nonrational it sometimes includes the
impractical.
a. Buy a gift that you feel that you may
not
afford.
b. An out of the ordinary event or
restaurant.
c. This element will build great
memories.
d. Go to a new place and be innovative
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the
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4. It has within it the element of creativity.
a. Discover what delights your spouse
and then make those delights
happen in
many different and
creative ways.
b. Do not let your spouse predict what
you
will say when you kiss her
goodbye or
how you will respond.
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5. It includes the element that involves
daily acts of care, concern, love, speaking
your partner’s love language, listening, and
giving each other your personal attention.
a. This will convey a message of
acceptance and thoughtfulness
to your
spouse.
b. You see romance begins in the mind
and
not in your glands.
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6. Romance involves commitment.
a. There are many highs and lows, joys
and
disappointments in our lives.
b. Romance rises and falls.
c. But if there is commitment in marriage
then the romance will thrive.
d. Commitment is based upon the
attitude of
the heart which affects our
daily
activities.
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21. FINALLY
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Learn again to treasure your
wife/husbands!!
Our spouses are the greatest gifts God
has
brought into our lives.
We have to ensure that there is life in
our
marriages .
Don’t hesitate to learn new things that
will
change your marriage .
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