Perseverance to Triumph

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Perseverance

Tell ya what I’m gonna tell
 Dynamics to perseverance
 6 things resilient people do
 Share the adventure
 Take action !

©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)


Dynamics to Perseverance

Perseverance is…
a process of
choices and actions,
not a personality trait.




Not just muddling through
 bounce back
 persist & endure
 achieve success
 be better for it



More than inconvenience
 unexpected  unhappy
 unwanted  unprepared
 unpleasant  uncharted
 unsettling  unrelenting
 unlucky  unimagined


1
Take Action:
Considering these
dynamics, write a brief
description of a real-life
challenge, you now wish
to overcome…



Note to self…



In Summary

6 things resilient people do
1 Grow as a choice
2 Stare down hard reality
3 Find higher meaning
4 Help fellow sufferers
5 Visualize the extraordinary
6 Take specific action


# 1: Grow as a choice
We do NOT control external world

 All other people
 Time & events
 Economics
 Weather & seasons
 Harm & illness
 Hitting lottery
 World ignorance



We DO control internal self

 Reaction to others
 Own behavior
 Personal beliefs
 Plans (not outcomes)
 Our preferences
 Chosen priorities
 Own decisions



We CAN influence external world

Influence by…
conviction
knowledge
persuasion
passion
example
never by force*



# 1: Grow as a Choice

Rules of influence
 It is ineffective to focus on
things we do not control
 External focus decreases
our ability to influence
 Internal focus increases it


Change you; change the world



2
T Action:
ake
Write two lists concerning your
current challenge:
I do NOT Control I DO Control
• That I’mdeaf now • How I com unicat e
m
• I amunem oyed
pl • How I do j ob sear ch
• Job m ket
ar • Asking f or hel p
• Bias not t o hir e deaf • M per sonal int egr it y
y
• Technol ogy l im s
it • Lear ning new skil l s


# 2: Stare down hard reality

Face it, you gotta face it!
A. Avoid optimism trap
B. Inventory cold hard facts
C. Grieve with passion
D. Ask for specific help




A.)Avoid optimism trap
 Hard-wired optimism*
is denial in disguise
*People hugely underestimate chances of getting divorced,
losing a job and being diagnosed ill while overestimating
personal achievement, family fortune and life span.
-Time Magazine: The Science of Optimism




B.) Inventory hard facts
I lost all hearing; it’s permanent
Miss my children’s voices
Get exponentially less information
I feel isolated; talk to less people
Interpreting visual cues is exhausting
Lip reading seems impossible
Getting a job is far more difficult
Yearn for sounds of music, nature, etc.
Depleting all my money



C.) Grieve with passion
 Holding back is unhealthy
 Pain shared helps all
 Allow the process*
*Sadness, anger and depression are sane reactions to great
loss. Grieving is a healthy process with stages that should
be experienced, not denied.
- Coping with Grief and Loss: HelpGuide.org



D.) Ask for specific help
 Admit it (acceptance)
 Do not assume they know
 Show exactly what to do
 Never beg or apologize
 Praise their efforts


3
T Action:
ake
List all hard facts; select one item
and describe how others can help:



# 3: Find a higher meaning

Believe pain means more




Well, at least…
 Nature is more vivid
 My eye sight has improved
 I have greater insight into others
 I comprehend more with captions
 I made new friends who get it
 I’m inspired by others’ feedback
 I am better at sharing my heart
 I’m more connected with my kids


4
T Action:
ake
Write your own list of lessons
learned or other positive outcomes
that resulted from your difficulty.
Caution: List only firm convictions, facts or actual
events. This is not a wish list or ambiguous hope
that something good will come. It must be real.



# 4: Help fellow suffers

If in doubt, help others
 Motivates to find solutions
 Gets you out of own head
 Increases network
 Feels better about self
 Gives perspective (happy I’m me!)


# 5: Visualize the extraordinary

Nothing heals as vision!
Visualize triumph
by imagining a
specific scene of
hardship overcome



Nothing heals as vision!



5
T Action:
ake
Imagine your specific scene. Write it
down and replay it over & over.

Caution: Do not dream the physically impossible.
Do not envision a “cure” to your current plight,
(e.g. I will always be deaf).



# 6: Take specific action

Nothing happens if it doesn’t
 Memorized Sarah’s speech
 Wrote daughters a poem
 Started new blog
 Took sign language classes
 Contacted HLAA / ALDA
 Dusted off telescope
 Started networking
 Obtained great job references
 Created this presentation!



# 6: Take specific action
6
T Action:
ake
Write your own list of actions that
you can do right now or presently
to either deal with your problem
or move toward your vision.
Note: Include on your list to complete the exercises
suggested during this training.



In Summary

BPJ quotes to summarize
Change you; change the world
Face it, you gotta face it!
Grieve with passion
Nothing heals as vision


In Summary

BPJ quotes on key points
Visualize the extraordinary!
If in doubt, help others
Nothing happens if it doesn’t



In Summary

BPJ quote that sums it up

Simply believe that
hurt means more.


In Summary

Exercises so you take action
1 briefly describe the challenge
2 list what you control and not
3 write how others can help
4 list lessons learned by suffers
5 describe extraordinary scene
6 list your “To Do” action items

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