This is a short talk delivered to parents of La Salle Academy's (Iligan City) Kindergarten pupils. Thanks to the invitation of Mr. Pendang of the Guidance Office.

1. ENTER TO LEARN TALK ON PARENTING STYLES OF PRESCHOOLERS Kindergarten Level Day La Salle Academy July 18, 2008 Prepared by: Marionito L. Hinacay

4. 4. Preschoolers are unique individuals. We need to appreciate their individual differences. 5. There are different styles of parenting or disciplining our preschoolers. There is an approach that is successful in one situation but may not work in another.

7. 9. Parents should watch their language. Use your words carefully to teach children. Focus what to do (positive) rather than what not to do (negative). Slow down and walk. Come hold my hand. Keep your feet on the floor. Use your quite voice inside. Do not run. Do not touch anything. Do not climb on the sofa. Do not scream and shout. Try saying: Instead of:

10. IMPORTANT PRACTICAL TIPS 1. Make sure your children know they are loved. 2. Show love with hugs, smiles, kisses, talking and looking directly into your child’s eyes. 3. Say your child’s name in a cheerful, caring voice. 4. Really listen when your child talks to you. 5. Encourage and support your child by showing appreciation for his accomplishments. 6. Say “yes” and “I love you” more often than you say “no” or “don’t”. 7. Demonstrate in ways she can understand that she is unique and special to you. 8. Understand that discipline should teach, not punish; it is setting limits with both firmness and kindness. 9. Show respect for your child so that he will learn respect for others. 10. Prepare your child for new situations, so that he will know what you expect and feel confident and secure.

11. CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE By Dorothy Law Nolte If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn. If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight. If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy. If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty. If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient. If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence. If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate. If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice. If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith. If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself. If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.

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