Next step to the rest of our lives

The Next Step
to
the Rest
of
Our Lives
July 25, 2017

Dr. Leahcim Semaj
Intl. Keynote & Motivational Speaker
Above or Beyond
TheTransformation Specialist
Give us a call at: 876-948-5726
Visit our website: www.ltsemaj.com
Send us an email: info@ltsemaj.com
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Noted among the leading Motivational Speakers, CreativeThinkers
and Problem Solvers in the Caribbean.
This Psychologist combines ancient wisdom with contemporary
‘livity’ to bring fresh insight to old human problems.
 Worked in North America, South America, Europe and across the Caribbean.
 The Jamaica Employers’ Federation has recognized Dr. Semaj for “Leadership in Innovative
Workplace Practices”.
 He is included in Peter Ferguson’s publication CHANGE MAKERS as one of the 101 men who
have helped to define modern day Jamaica.
 Chairman of the Passport, Immigration & CitizenshipAgency (PICA) Advisory Board.
 A graduate of KingstonCollege (Jamaica) and has a B.A. cum laude (1974) from City College of
NewYork, M.Sc (1976) & PhD (1978) from Rutgers –The State University of New Jersey and
Pre & Post Doctoral Fellowships from EducationalTesting Service, Princeton, New Jersey.

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Help you do work
with the changes
In your own best
interest

 Muhammad Ali
 Asked to identify the
greatest lesson he learned
in life
 The Sonny Liston title fight
in January 1964

 “Every time I hit him, it hurt me
worse than it did him
 When the 6th round ended
 I was completely spent
 I couldn’t even raise my arms”

 “I’m going home! I told
Angelo Dundee
 I’m not going back in
there!”

Ali refused
The bell rang
Ali still didn't rise

“Get in there and
don’t come out
until you are
heavyweight
champion of the
world”

Liston didn’t
Ali won the title

 “The greatest lesson I’ve
learned is to have
someone pushing you
and making you do
things you didn’t think
you can do”
The Greatest Athlete of the 20th Century

All Artistes Are Teachers:
We Should Evaluate Their Lesson Plans.
Not all learning occur in classrooms.
Learning is most effective when associated with fun.
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 Fletchers Land/ AllmanTown
 Central Branch Primary
 Kingston College
 City University of NewYork
 Rutgers University
 Trenton State Maximum Security Prison
 Cornel University
 Jamaica

WHAT DO YOU STAND FOR?
Fads come in like the tide and go out like the
river to the sea; those not rooted and
grounded will be washed away.
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Mother
Father
Teacher
Peers &
Community
Police
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 Two Basic Needs
1. WORK
2. INTIMACY

 If any refused to work for their
food, they should be refused
support by others
 He who is able to work, and
unwilling,
 should not be fed
▪ 2 Thessalonians 3:10
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Operates the world’s
largest employment
agency

 Stage 1 - Boy/Girl:
At this first stage your quest is to figure out
“how does the world work?”, “Where do I fit”?
We are the product of the socialization process
but not necessarily in a linear model

 Stage 2 - Male/Female:
 This is the adolescence years.
 Now you are largely defined by your external genitalia and
internal hormone secretions.
 The process of finding a partner begins.
 Many don’t get past this stage psychologically - resulting
in a fixation on sex and sexuality,
 at the expense of the rest of their life.

 Stage 3 - Man/Woman:
You are now defined by your expression of
independence and interdependence.
You can sustain self and contribute to collective
survival of family, tribe, nation, world.

WHAT IS YOUR FOCUS?
The Mind concludes that what you
focus on is what you actually want.
It then works to either bring it to you
or you to it.
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CHILD
ADOLESCENT
ADULT
Boys and Girls
Males and Females
Men and Women
WORK
INTIMACY
PARENTING
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DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES:
Teenagers have 'girlfriend'.
Contraception failure result in 'babymother'.
Big man make commitment and have 'wife'.
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DENY YOUTH ACCESS TO PRODUCTIVE MEANS
USE
REPRODUCTIVE
MEANS
USE
DESTRUCTIVE
MEANS
PREGNANCY
BABY MOTHER
PARASITES
PREDATORS

Male
Young
Uneducated
Unmarried
Unemployed
Unemployable
The Economist, Sept 28, 1996
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 A Parent
Until you are
able to
Pay Rent

 God made man and placed him in the
garden of Eden
 “to dress it and keep it”
▪ (Gen 2:15)
 Adam given work to name all the
animals (Gen 2:19)
 Then God provided him with a
woman (Gen 2: 21-24)

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 That are suspended from school - there are 250 boys
 Who are expelled from school, - there are 335 boys
 In special education, - there are 217 boys
 With a learning disability, - there are 276 boys.
 With an emotional disturbance diagnosed,
 There are 324 boys.
 Diagnosed with ADHD – (attention deficit hyperactivity
disorder.) - There are 400 boys

 This begins when the 1 egg is released for the month
by a woman
 and unites with one of the millions of sperms produced by a
man in the same month.
 Only the fittest of the fittest survives.
 Between conception and birth, reproductive waste is
largely male.
 This struggle continues until death.

 With one exception (death at childbirth)
 anything that kills people, kills more men than women:
 Men have higher death rates for all 15 leading causes of
death; from accidents to AIDS.
 Men have to be conscious of not aiding this process
and override it.
 Only the fittest of the fittest will survive.

 Prime candidates for violent or otherwise deviant
behaviour
 A major concern for the Jamaican society
 These delinquent males will be
 Unqualified
 Uneducated
 Unskilled
 unemployable adults

This will create a heightened level of
stress in the male population
Due to their inability to provide resources
for themselves and dependents (where
applicable)

To create an effective welfare system
that provides appropriate avenues to
retool/ equip these males will force them
to be drawn to alternatives outside of
the mainstream

‘Hustling’
Steeling
Gang members
Petty crimes
Ultimately hardened criminals

Every Thought Has A Consequence.
If You Don't Have What You Want, EXAMINE YOUR THOUGHTS.
Ask Yourself, "HOW DID I MANIFEST THIS?"
Some Manifest Abundance. Others Manifest Lack.
First You Think It (or feel it). Then You Manifest It.
IF YOU WANT A BETTER HARVEST, YOU MUST
PLANT BETTER THOUGHTS! (Kippax Williams)
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MURDERS SHOOTING ROBBERY BREAKING RAPE CARNAL
ABUSE
72% 77% 75% 60% 67% 66%

MURDERS SHOOTING ROBBERY BREAKING RAPE
47% 54% 40% 25% 50%

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The Best &The
Brightest
• The best way to get a job today
TheTried &The
Proven
• No more retirement
The Fittest &The
Fastest
• Our natural resource
The Dangerous &
Desperate
• Productive or Destructive
Health & Wellness
• Leading force globally
The Resurrection
of Ganganomics
• Our green gold

 More investment
in Education
in OccupationalTraining
In Entrepreneurship
 More investment
in welfare
in police
in prisons

 The total cost of
crime in Jamaica
amounted to
$12.4 billion,
or 3.7% of the
country's GDP.
 The economy could
boost its growth rate
potential
 by 5.4% if the homicide
rates were reduced to the
levels of Costa Rica.
 (8.9 per 100,000)
▪ (EVERTON PRYCE - Sunday, Nov 17, 2013

Fighting Crime In A Breeding
Ground For Criminals
400,000 UnattachedYouth
 Gleaner, Wednesday September 21, 2016

 showed that the number of the 15-29 age group who
are not enrolled in any training institution and are
neither working nor looking for work has expanded
to 388,800.
 In 2014 it was this cohort that bred the criminals who
were, in the main, responsible for
 237 murders, 344 shootings, 898 robberies,
 364 break-ins and 190 cases of aggravated assault.

What is the man that you are trying to become?

1. A man is self-sustaining and resourceful
 He can do everything required for his survival and
sustenance
 2. A man understands that greater happiness lies in
helping others, not helping himself.
 3. A man doesn’t stand still while the world passes him by,
 he continually pushes himself.

4. A man is a leader
 in at least one aspect of his life, whether this means his family, with
his friends or just in general.
 But he can also follow.
 Great Leaders know when to just shut-up!
 "One of the most important leadership lessons is realizing you're not
the most important or intelligent person in the room at all times". -
Alfred Campbell

5. He Processes life
through the lens of HEAD (Sound Judgment)
 and HEART
 (Good Feelings - without PathologicalAttachments)
 There is a reason why the head is located above the heart,
 sound reasoning should always take priority over good feelings.
 When you bring your head down to the level of your heart,
 we call that rationalization.
 When you elevate your heart to the level of your head,
 that is maturity and wisdom

6. Has integrity:
 This means he will stay true to his word and true to
himself.
 If he tells you that he is going to do something,
▪ he will do it.
 This is also the kind of man you can rely on, knowing
that he will always be there for you.

7. Is A Protector:
A man should be able to protect himself
and his family physically.
He should be willing to do whatever it
takes to keep his family safe and happy.

8. A man lives for something;
a purpose beyond his own personal gains.
This can come with time, and with family.
It doesn’t always happen right away.

9. He Knows when to hold,
when to fold,
when to walk away,
when to run

 10. Is Honest:
 An honest man will tell you the truth and not just what you
want to hear.
 he will tell you what he will do and how he feels about
something.
 It’s true that brutal honesty can be offensive sometimes
▪ but it’s better to have a man that tells you the truth than one that
fills you with lies.

 11. Is FaithfulTo His Word:
 Faithfulness may be one of the most important
characteristics when it comes to great men.
 Men don’t cheat because they don’t feel loved anymore,
they cheat because they need sex.
 Some men need to sleep with other women ‘while others
cheat because the sex is gone in the relationship.

12. A man takes pride
 in how he looks and lives his life.
 He’s not ashamed by who he is, what he does
or how he looks,
even if he’s trying to change one of the
aforementioned.

 13. Is Mature:
 Being mature means a man is able to care of himself and approaches
problems with a calm and collected manner.
 He understands the importance of being a man, being independent
and values what he has.
 A mature man doesn’t have to be rich,
▪ but needs to know how to handle his money.
 Also, a mature man will be able to carry himself in a public setting in
a respectable manner and understands his adult role.

 14. Has a Positive Attitude:
 A good man should have a positive attitude which may be difficult to
find since we live in such a negative society.
 With a positive attitude, people will want to be around him and to
have fun around him.
 A good man will be happy with his life and the world around him and
he will want to look out for others and to help them.
 A negative person will always be complaining and seeing the bad
side to everything and after a while they can be very hard to be
around and they tend to turn you into a negative person also.

 15. Is Self-Confident:
 A good man will be confident in himself and who he is.
 This is an important characteristic in a good man because when they
are self-confident, they are less likely to change who they are and to
stay true to themselves.
 A man with self-confidence will not be deterred from what he
believes to be true and will not be easily pressured into doing things
that he does not believe in.
 Self-confidence makes a man happy and fun to be around because
he will not be constantly questioning himself or others around him.

 16. A man learns from his mistakes.
 Although he might take a few cracks at it.
 17. A man does what is necessary.
 Even if it’s the hardest decision,
 or the most unpopular one.

 18. A Man Should be Financially Sound
 A characteristic of a good man isn’t that he makes a
lot of money,
 but that he handles his money well.
He does well with what he has.

 19. A man thrives on competition.
 But remember,

20. Is A Gentleman:
 A great man needs to be polite, respectful, considerate and attentive
to a woman’s needs.
 This also includes the classic gentleman behavior such as pulling a
woman’s chair, walking on the car side of the street, taking her coat
etc.
 if all men had were gentlemen we would live in a better world.
 Today, things are not like that making the mans that have this quality
stand out.

The E.A.S.Y.
Programme
Educating, Assessing And
Socializing The Youth

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The Development
of the E.A.S.Y. Programme
The E.A.S.Y. Programme targeted
adolescent males who were causing
concern to school officials
The objective was to make these
adolescents more functional and less
disruptive in the school environment

The E.A.S.Y. Programme
Presented in 8 sessions
3 hours each
This cognitive behavioural group training
programme is designed to
Reduces anger, violence, and emotional loss
of control in adolescents

The E.A.S.Y. Programme
 Session 1:
 Testing & Assessment
 Session 2:
 Contract & Ground rules:
 For parents and students
 Anger is what you feel
 Aggression is what you do
 The costs and benefits of anger and aggression

The E.A.S.Y. Programme:
 Session 3:
 Thought controlling techniques
 Taking time out
 Behaviour controlling techniques
 How thoughts help create anger

Session 4:
How to solve problems without anger
Learn to relax and save your life
Understanding external and internal emotional
triggers
How to take charge and chart your life

 Session 5:
 Rethinking perceptions
 Setting the stage for effective
communication
 Respecting communication rights

 Session 6:
 Negative Inquiry Skills
 Labelling Emotions
 How to cope with depression and
jealousy
 How to cope with anxiety
 Constructive Disengagement

 Session 7:
 What are your high risk situations?
 What can cause you to relapse
 Creating your individual relapse
prevention plan

 Session 8:
 Assessment and Evaluation
 Breaking the mould of the old life

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LT S E M A J .C O M

Dr. Leahcim Semaj
Intl. Keynote & Motivational Speaker
Above or Beyond
TheTransformation Specialist
Give us a call at: 876-948-5726
Visit our website: www.ltsemaj.com
Send us an email: info@ltsemaj.com

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