The document provides advice on living a successful life and achieving goals. It discusses the importance of having a well-balanced life with alignment across one's family, financial, physical, mental, social and spiritual responsibilities. It also emphasizes having a positive attitude, setting goals, avoiding negative influences, taking responsibility for one's actions, and being committed.

1. Life & Success- Missing links Dr.Vijay Sardana MD,DM Head,Deptt. Of Neurology, Member Medical Education Unit Medical College, Kota

3. Responsive, creative & Independent adult

4. Ideal Citizen One’s responsibility to Self Family Work Society Environment

5. Life – wheel with 6 spokes Family Financial - Career & Money Physical - Health Mental - Knowledge & Wisdom Social - social responsibilities Spiritual - Value system represents ethics & character All the spokes have to be in alignment

6. Success Wealth Recognition Good health Good family Happiness Satisfaction Peace of mind “ Progressive realization of a Worthy goal” -Earl Nightingale

7. Those who fail Most people fail not because of lack of ability or intelligence but because of lack of desire, direction, Dedication & discipline. - Shiv Khera

8. Demotivating Factors Unfair criticism Negative Criticism Public Humiliation Rewarding non performer Low self esteem Responsibility without Authority Poor organization Misalignment with job

9. Personality ‘ Brand image of an individual’ Made up of - Character - Behavioral trait - Attitude

10. Character Revealed by Company we keep How we treat others especially subordinate, elderly & disabled. Choice of books, music & movies. Types of jokes we tell & laugh at.

11. Parental bonds Mother – nurtures Father – Protector , provides direction & religion

12. Conditioning Book we read Movies & Music we wanted to listen Company we keep

13. Why People fail Lack of well defined purpose Lack of ambition to achieve above mediocrity Insufficient Education Lack of self discipline Lack of persistence- good start but poor finish control an urge for sex Wrong selection of mate in marriage Wrong selection of associate in business Superstitions & prejudice Lack of enthusiasm Individualism

14. Motivation Motivation – Drive that encourage action or feeling. Process of inducing and improving anyone to perform more productively and efficiently. Catalyst

15. Motivated person Look for the better way to do a job More Quality Oriented More Productive

16. Motivation “ One machine can do the work of 50 0rdinary men. No machine can do the work of one motivated man”

17. Motivational needs of different people Money Emotion Security Recognition

18. Motivational Factors 1 Year - Toy 5 Year - Chocolate 12 Years - New cricket Bat 15 Years - New Cycle 20 Years - Education, Job, Lovely Girl Friend 30 Years - Stability, Career & Personal Growth 50 Years - Respect & Recognition >50Years - Son’s Career

19. MOTIVATION External – Fear motivation Incentive motivation Internal - Comes from within- Pride, sense of achievement & fulfillment, belief & responsibility.

20. Fear Motivation Advantage - Job done quickly - Short term improvement in performance Disadvantage - Temporary – lasts till motivational factor is there. - Performance is limited to compliance. - Destroy creativity. - Causes stress.

21. Theories of Motivation Mosley's theory – Hierarchy of Motivational Need - Physical Need – Food, clothing, sexual urge - Safety - Shelter, security, Health - Social - Friends, family, love - Self Esteem - Recognition, Achievement - Self Actualization

22. Theories of Motivation Herzberg's Theory - Hygiene - Status, job security, salary & future security - Motivators – Challenging work, recognition, responsibility

23. Money can buy…. Amusement, but not happiness A Bed, but not sleep Books, but not wisdom Companions, but not friends House, but not a home Medicines, but not health

24. Set a goal

25. Goal Setting Why many don’t do it Pessimistic attitude Procrastination Fear of Failure Fear of Rejection Lack of ambition Low self esteem Lack of knowledge/ignorance of goal settin g

26. Goal S - Specific M - Measurable A - Achievable R - Realistic T - Time Bound

27. Self Goal Setting Evaluate for Is it the truth? Fair for all concerned Get me goodwill Get me health, wealth & peace of mind Can I commit myself to it ?

28. Have positive attitude

29. Attitude Way a person feels, thinks & behaves towards a particular issue. - half full-hall empty

30. Positive Attitude - Benefits Pleasing personality Energizing Inspiring Problem Solving Increase work output

31. Attitude Job/promotion/success - 85% Attitude - 15 % Intelligence & knowledge of specific facts $ figures Education - Almost 100% teach facts & figure

32. Elements of success Attitude Skill Knowledge

33. Attitude formation Home- positive or negative influences School- peer pressure Cultural background Religious background Media- TV etc. Work environment Social and political environment

34. Attitude : Be Optimistic Be so strong – nothing can disturb your peace of mind Talk health, happiness & prosperity to everybody Look at sunny side of everything Think best, work for best & expect best Spend so much time improving yourself that no time left to criticize others Be equally enthusiastic about other success

35. Positive Mindset Look for Positive in every person. Develop an immunity to negative criticism. Learn to find pleasure in every little things. Set your own standards judiciously. Remember ups & down are part of life. Keep yourself continuously occupied. Help less fortunate forgive yourself & others.

36. Maintain and raise your self esteem Self esteem- way we feel about ourselves

37. Excellence has always been achieved by those who dare to believe that something inside them is superior to circumstances

38. Self Esteem High Self Esteem Low Self esteem . Talk about ideas . Talk about people . Respect authority . Rebels against authority . Concern about character . Concern about reputation . Accepts Responsibility . Blame the whole world . Discuss . Argue

39. World, my son starts school today World, take my child by the hand--he starts school today! It is all going to be strange and new to him for a while, and I wish you would sort of treat him gently. You see, up to now, he has been king of the roost. He has been the boss of the backyard. I have always been around to repair his wounds, and I have always been handy to soothe his feelings. But now things are going to be different. This morning he is going to walk down the front steps, wave his hand, and start on a great adventure that probably will include wars and tragedy and sorrow.To live in this world will require faith and love and courage. So, World, I wish you would sort of take him by his young hand and teach him the things he will have to know. Teach him-but gently, if you can. contnd…

40. World, my son starts school today He will have to learn, I know, that all people are not just that all men and women are not true. Teach him that for every scoundrel, there is a hero; that for every enemy, there is a friend. Let him learn early that the bullies are the easiest people to lick. Teach him the wonder of books. Give him quiet time to ponder the eternal mystery of birds in the sky, bees in the sun, and flowers on a green hill. Teach him that it is far more honorable to fail than to cheat. Teach him to have faith in his own ideas, even if everyone tells him they are wrong. Try to give my son the strength not to follow the crowd when everyone else is getting on the bandwagon. Teach him to listen to others, but to filter all he hears on a screen of truth and to take only the good that comes through. condt…..

41. World, my son starts school today Teach him never to put a price tag on his heart and soul. Teach him to close his ears on the howling mob-and to stand and fight if he thinks he is right. Teach him gently, World, but do not coddle him, because only the test of fire makes fine steel. This is a big order, World, but see what you can do. He is such a nice son. - Signed, Abraham Lincoln * adapted from "Pulpit Helps" February 1991, quoted in Apple Seeds, Volume 10, No.1,1994 .

42. Be Enthusiastic

43. Enthusiasm Inspire Confidence Raises morale Build loyalty Contagious “ Live while you are alive, Don’t die before you are dead.”

44. Except 100% Responsibility

45. Society Know Rights/Privileges more then Responsibility/Obligation?

46. Responsibilities Take 100% responsibility of whatever you do Take additional responsibility

47. Take Responsibility Accepting responsibility-Involve taking risk & being accountable Taking calculative responsible risk depends on knowledge, Training, Careful study, Confidence & compliance.

48. Identify & avoid Negative People

49. Influence of Friends Our friends are not what we want but kind of people what we are Man is recognized by his friends AVOID Negative friends

50. How value system change Intolerable Acceptable Involvement Constant Exposure Constant Exposure Self justification

51. ‘ Frenemies’

52. Avoid negative people You become similar to people associated with you When you Succeed negative people or petty people will try to pull you down- DON’T FIGHT Character - Company you keep - Company you avoid.

53. Positive Part of the answer Has Programme Let me do it for you Difficult but possible I must do something See the gain See possibilities. Hard arguments, Soft words Negative Part of the problem Has excuse Its not my job Possible but to difficult Something must be done See the pain See problem. Soft arguments, Hard words

54. Positive Firm on values, Compromise on petty things Don’t do it to others what you would not want to do to you Make it happen Negative Firm on petty things, Compromise on values Do it to others before they do it to you Let it happen

55. Winner – State of mind If you think you’ll lose , You are lost For out in the World We find Success begin with a Fellow’s Will It’s all in the state of mind Man who wins Is the man who thinks he can

56. Winner V/S Losers Playing to win Playing not to lose We can’t control what happens in life but we can control how we deal with it. Tougher Competition – Greater incentive, Stronger motivation, Better performance, Sweeter victory.

57. Be Committed

58. Commitment Friendship - Maintaining confidentiality Marriage - Maintaining fidelity Job - Integrity Community - Responsibility

59. Commitment brings predictability security personal growth Strong relation between individual & community

60. Relationship & commitment Relationship – based on commitment, not just an closeness & intimacy Relationships don’t last because of passion & love but because of commitment & empathy

61. Commitment implies Dependability Reliability Predictability Consistency Caring Empathy Sincerity Character Integrity Loyalty

62. Be Willing To Pay The price for your dream

63. Story of a Doctor Main 12v me Tha Wo 12v me Thi

64. Main MBBS me Tha Wo BSc me Thi Main MBBS me Tha Wo MSc me Thi

65. Main MBBS me Tha Wo PHD me Thi Main MBBS me Tha Wo Dr ban gai

66. Uski Shadi hui Maine PG entrance diya Wo do bachcho ki ma bani Main MD kar raha Tha

67. Bachche 5 saal ke hoker school jane lage Main post PG karne laga Bachche 10 th pass ho gaye Maine hospital shuru kiya

68. Afsos bas ye hai ki aaj wo Tubectomy karane aayi hai AUR Aaj meri Sagai hai…….

69. Be predictable, dependable & Loyal

70. BE LOYAL “ An ounce of Loyalty is worth more than a pound of cleverness.”

71. Become expert in the field

72. Always indulge in Constructive Criticism

73. Criticize With a spirit of helpfulness then to pull down Offer solution in criticism Criticize the behavior/ act not the person Criticize in private Don’t overdo it End with appreciation

74. Receiving Criticism Evaluate with open mind, Accept if make sense Learn from it becomes better & thank the person Overlook negative criticism Its better to benefit from constructive criticism than to be ruined by false praise

75. Believe in reasoning & have critical thinking

76. Reasoning Cognitive process of looking for reason, Beliefs, conclusion, actions & feeling Why reasoning – What we should believe - What we should do

77. Critical Thinking Involve determining the meaning & significance of what is observed & expressed If adequate justification to accept argument, inference and conclusion as true

85. Astrology-Dangers Adversely affects common sense and reasoning Precludes individual attempt to improve. Prevent them from becoming ‘self dependant’ and ‘free person’

87. Crowd mind Crowd mind is lowest mind in existence, with minimal sensibility As a part of group you may surrender and think the way crowd thinks, may become obedient slave. The challenge is to be yourself in a world that is trying to make you everyone else Rene Locks

88. Stay focused & Focus on your strengths

89. Success- Determination Not determined by how we are doing Compared to others , but by how We are doing compared with what we are capable of. Successful people compete against themselves.

90. Component of a good Job Economic – Salary & facilities Job security Good working condition Status Growth Opportunities Recognition of work done Challenges of work

91. Judge your alignment with your job Am i passionate about what I am doing ? Am i using my talent and strength ? Am i happy in my work ? Does it bring joy & fulfillment ? Am I Earning what I deserve ? Improve & change

92. Don’t Argue

93. Try to maintain your cool in tense situation

94. Discuss, don’t argue Discussion Argument . Throws light . Throws heat . Comes from an open mind . Closed mind . Exchange of knowledge . Exchange of ignorance . Expression of logic . Expression of temper . Prove what is right . Tries to prove what is right

95. Trouble Shooting Relatives & attendants Fight Disperse 10 Min 1 st degree friends More Attendants 30 Min Hospital Administration Police, Media 30 Min Media & Police Strengthening 2 nd degree friends 1 Hour

96. Strike FIRs 1-2 Days Strike Continues 1-2 Days Solution, Often Face saving arrived Forgotten, gone with the wind

97. Medical Students/ Residents/ Doctors Professional Nonprofessional Carrier Conscious No carrier so no fear Socio-cultural trauma Mostly no Trauma Can go to certain extent Can go to any extent Friends

98. CONCLUSION Power Vigilance - Negligence Silence - Violence Tolerance - Intolerance Discipline - Indiscipline Seriousness - Carelessness Good Sense - Nuisance

99. “ Successful Medical Practice is like successfully driving a car where you not only take care of your own mistakes but others mistakes also.”

100. Use common sense with knowledge

101. Knowledge Vs Wisdom Common sense – 6 th sense - Ability to see things as they are and do them as ought to be done. Abundance of Common sense - Wisdom

102. Knowledge Vs Wisdom Knowledge - Piling up facts Wisdom - Simplifying it Knowledge - Potential power Wisdom - Real power To attain knowledge - Add things everyday To attain Wisdom - delete things everyday

103. Who is educated ( Socrates 470 – 399 BC) Those- First who manage well the circumstances which they encounter day by day, judge situation appropriately as they arise & rarely miss the suitable course of action. Next Who are honorable in their dealing with all men, reasonable with their associate as is humanly possible. Furthermore Who hold their pleasure always under control, not unduly overcome by their misfortune

104. Who is educated ( Socrates 470 – 399 BC) Most importantly- who are not spoiled by success, hold their ground steadfastly as wise & sober minded man. who have character which is in accord with all of above- These are educated – possessed of all the virtues.

105. Who is educated ( Socrates 470 – 399 BC) True broad based education proposes student for life without losing their area of specialization & competence.

106. Learn from your mistakes

107. Learn from mistakes Wise – Learn from the mistakes Wiser – Learn from other people’ mistakes Our lives are not long enough to learn from our own mistakes

108. Change with changing time

109. change “ In life we cannot avoid change we cannot avoid loss, Freedom & happiness are found in the flexibility & ease with which we move through change” - Buddha

110. change with changing time Inevitable All progress is change, but all change is not progress Evaluate & accept if good

111. Be a good listener

112. Good Listener Encourage speaker to talk Pay attention, Ask questions, show understanding & respect Concentrate on message not delivery Listen to feelings, not words

113. Give more than you get

114. Give more Than you get More valuable, regardless of nature & place of work Give more confidence Superiors & Colleagues start respecting you Produces pride & Satisfaction.

115. Persistence

116. Persistence Nothing will take the place of persistence. Talent will not- nothing in more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not – Unrewarded genius in a proverb. Education will not – The world in full of educated derelicts Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. Clavin goolidge

117. Hard Work Average person - Put 25% of energy of ability into work. Albert Einstein – “I think I used about 25% of my intelligence capacity during my life” William James – Human being use only 10-12% of their potential.

118. LUCK If you want to fail, believe in luck. If you want to succeed, believe in the principle of cause & effect, and you will create your own luck. “ The harder I work, the luckier I get” - Samuel Goldwyn

119. Exploit & enjoy music

120. Take Home Success based on values, ethics, commitment and character is the lasting true success. We can not change our circumstances but we can change our attitude and action. Recognize weaknesses and focus on possibilities

121. Take Home Failure is a delay, a chance to immerge stronger. not a defeat. Believe in reasoning and scientific cause & effect relationship rather than superstitions.

122. Destiny is not a matter of chance. It’s a matter of choice. Its not a thing to be waited for, it is to be achieved Thanks